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Filed: K-1 Visa Country: Poland
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Well, I changed my Avatar to better reflect my personality as of late. I sure hope one of those blood vessels doesn't burst ;)

You know, I've been acting out in a lot of FEAR lately. F-false E-evidence A-appearing R-real. I don't know what's going on with my petition at VSC and I keep dreaming up worst case scenarios for myself that drive me crazy. I do think it's good that I made an inquiry, but I also think it's good that I back off a little and let the process run it's course for a couple weeks.

I've seen some approvals as of late (Spiritee, Scott & Marleen) that have similar timelines so I hope something comes in the way of an approval soon. I have hope again.

One of the hardest parts of this process for sure is the waiting, but it's also the uncertainty. Nothing is a given until the visa is in hand. There's more to this process than what's displayed in our posts. There's the relationship that drives us to go through this madness. I think I'm learning to put the relationship before the process. It's a delicate balance for sure. Especially when the beneficiary doesn't fully understand the process and what it intails on the USC side.

I thought I prepared my fiancee for the long haul, but I really didn't. I compared my process to others in my similar situation. I said we should hear something within 60 days, nothing. I said we're with an adjudicating officer and we should hear something within 2 weeks, nothing. I just wanted to tell her some good news and give her hope, but it was false news and false hope. All this disappointment has weighed heavy on the relationship. Because of that, it's weighed heavy on the way I'm handling the petition now. Very intensely.

Don't ask me the reasoning behind this post. I think I just feel like writing. I just want express to newer people to really prepare for the long haul and not to build expectations for this process. You want your approval to come as a pleasant surprise, not as an "it's about f*#king time, you son of a b*#ch as* moth*r fu#k**. The USCIS gives themselves 6 months for the process, and so should you. It's not even a given that it's within 6 months.

I guess the advice I would be giving is to put the health of the relationship first. To get involved knowing it's going to be a long wait. Don't focus your efforts talking about every little detail of the process. It's better that your relationship be the forefront of your thoughts and not this process. Let the process take a back seat and things will come to pass. You see it everyday in this forum. People getting approved.

Good Luck to Everyone!!!! and God bless!!!!!


06/30/06- sent I-129F petition to VSC.

07/11/06- NOA1 (received in mail)

07/19/06- RFE received in mail, IMBRA

07/28/06- e-mail, IMBRA RFE received at VSC

09/11/06- called VSC, told I'm with an adjudicating officer

09/25/06- called VSC, told to file expedited service, outside 60 days of RFE received date

09/26/06- sent expedited service request to VSC via fax and snail mail

09/26/06- Senators and Congressman making inquiries into my petition

09/29/06- expedited service request approved by VSC director

10/04/06- e-mail NOA2 approved!!!!!!

10/05/06- NVC received

10/06/06- NVC forwarded to Poland Embassy

10/16/06- Packet #3 received

10/17/06- Packet #3 sent to US Embassy Warsaw

10/30/06- Packet #4 received

10/30/06- Interview scheduled for November 22nd!!!

11/30/06- Visa in hand, via DHL!!!!

12/05/06- Ania and I arrive together in the USA

02/11/07- Ania applied for Social Security Card

02/17/07- Ania and I were MARRIED!!!!!!

07/24/07- Social Security Card in hand- after some minor issues and a little procrastination :)

10/14/07- I-485, I-765, and permission to travel mailed to USCIS

10/17/07- Received NOA1

12/17/07- I-485 shipped to California Service Center for faster service

12/17/07- I-765 approved new card should be mailed within 30 days, Advanced parole approved

02/28/08- AOS APPROVED!!!! PERMANENT RESIDENT CARD RECEIVED!!!!! (card received couple weeks after approval)

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Well, I changed my Avatar to better reflect my personality as of late. I sure hope one of those blood vessels doesn't burst ;)

You know, I've been acting out in a lot of FEAR lately. F-false E-evidence A-appearing R-real. I don't know what's going on with my petition at VSC and I keep dreaming up worst case scenarios for myself that drive me crazy. I do think it's good that I made an inquiry, but I also think it's good that I back off a little and let the process run it's course for a couple weeks.

I've seen some approvals as of late (Spiritee, Scott & Marleen) that have similar timelines so I hope something comes in the way of an approval soon. I have hope again.

One of the hardest parts of this process for sure is the waiting, but it's also the uncertainty. Nothing is a given until the visa is in hand. There's more to this process than what's displayed in our posts. There's the relationship that drives us to go through this madness. I think I'm learning to put the relationship before the process. It's a delicate balance for sure. Especially when the beneficiary doesn't fully understand the process and what it intails on the USC side.

I thought I prepared my fiancee for the long haul, but I really didn't. I compared my process to others in my similar situation. I said we should hear something within 60 days, nothing. I said we're with an adjudicating officer and we should hear something within 2 weeks, nothing. I just wanted to tell her some good news and give her hope, but it was false news and false hope. All this disappointment has weighed heavy on the relationship. Because of that, it's weighed heavy on the way I'm handling the petition now. Very intensely.

Don't ask me the reasoning behind this post. I think I just feel like writing. I just want express to newer people to really prepare for the long haul and not to build expectations for this process. You want your approval to come as a pleasant surprise, not as an "it's about f*#king time, you son of a b*#ch as* moth*r fu#k**. The USCIS gives themselves 6 months for the process, and so should you. It's not even a given that it's within 6 months.

I guess the advice I would be giving is to put the health of the relationship first. To get involved knowing it's going to be a long wait. Don't focus your efforts talking about every little detail of the process. It's better that your relationship be the forefront of your thoughts and not this process. Let the process take a back seat and things will come to pass. You see it everyday in this forum. People getting approved.

Good Luck to Everyone!!!! and God bless!!!!!

This might be the reason why your petition is still pending. May be somebody at USCIS is reading your post and enjoying your Maniac display. Keep on ranting and your NOA2 might be in the mail by June,2007.


I-129f sent-- 05-26-2006

NOA1 - 06-08-2006

Rfe recieved - 06-30-2006

rfe sent - 06-30-2006

NOA2 - 07-31-2006

NVC received - 08-03-2006

NOA2 recieved in the mail: 08-04-2006

NVC sent : 08-04-2006

NVC letter recieved: 08-10-2006

Embassy confirmed: 08-11-2006

interview date: 11-09-2006

Visa approved : 11-09-2006

Visa recieved : 11-15-200

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Don't ask me the reasoning behind this post. I think I just feel like writing.

That's what's so great about this board. We can just be hear when we need to be.

I needed to read your post tonight before going to bed. I'm only 40 days in to the process (at CSC no less) and have always prepared myself for the wait- the long, unknown wait. In the last few days I have been focusing on the process when i shuld let it go, let it be what it is. Your post remined me to do this. Thank you for writing tonight. Thank you for reminding me I am not alone nor crazy for my thoughts.

Over the last few weeks I've followed your case. I am really hoping for your NOA2 to come soon. (as well as all those others stuck waiting without rhyme or reason). Can't wait to do the NOA2 happy dance for you and your fiance! (F)


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24 March 2009 I-751 received by USCIS

27 March 2009 Check Cashed

30 March 2009 NOA received

8 April 2009 Biometric notice arrived by mail

24 April 2009 Biometrics scheduled

26 April 2009 Touched

...once again waiting

1 September 2009 (just over 5 months) Approved and card production ordered.

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Filed: K-1 Visa Country: Poland
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Don't ask me the reasoning behind this post. I think I just feel like writing.

That's what's so great about this board. We can just be hear when we need to be.

I needed to read your post tonight before going to bed. I'm only 40 days in to the process (at CSC no less) and have always prepared myself for the wait- the long, unknown wait. In the last few days I have been focusing on the process when i shuld let it go, let it be what it is. Your post remined me to do this. Thank you for writing tonight. Thank you for reminding me I am not alone nor crazy for my thoughts.

Over the last few weeks I've followed your case. I am really hoping for your NOA2 to come soon. (as well as all those others stuck waiting without rhyme or reason). Can't wait to do the NOA2 happy dance for you and your fiance! (F)

Thanks!! I'm glad I could help, that was the reason for the post. I hope you, me, and everyone else can do the happy dance soon too!!!! and guess what???? we will.


06/30/06- sent I-129F petition to VSC.

07/11/06- NOA1 (received in mail)

07/19/06- RFE received in mail, IMBRA

07/28/06- e-mail, IMBRA RFE received at VSC

09/11/06- called VSC, told I'm with an adjudicating officer

09/25/06- called VSC, told to file expedited service, outside 60 days of RFE received date

09/26/06- sent expedited service request to VSC via fax and snail mail

09/26/06- Senators and Congressman making inquiries into my petition

09/29/06- expedited service request approved by VSC director

10/04/06- e-mail NOA2 approved!!!!!!

10/05/06- NVC received

10/06/06- NVC forwarded to Poland Embassy

10/16/06- Packet #3 received

10/17/06- Packet #3 sent to US Embassy Warsaw

10/30/06- Packet #4 received

10/30/06- Interview scheduled for November 22nd!!!

11/30/06- Visa in hand, via DHL!!!!

12/05/06- Ania and I arrive together in the USA

02/11/07- Ania applied for Social Security Card

02/17/07- Ania and I were MARRIED!!!!!!

07/24/07- Social Security Card in hand- after some minor issues and a little procrastination :)

10/14/07- I-485, I-765, and permission to travel mailed to USCIS

10/17/07- Received NOA1

12/17/07- I-485 shipped to California Service Center for faster service

12/17/07- I-765 approved new card should be mailed within 30 days, Advanced parole approved

02/28/08- AOS APPROVED!!!! PERMANENT RESIDENT CARD RECEIVED!!!!! (card received couple weeks after approval)

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Filed: K-1 Visa Country: Australia
Timeline

This process has certainly taught me to chilll out a little. I have always been a control freak and having such a significant event in my life being completely beyond my control is difficult. But learning to calm down, be patient and go with the flow will make me a more managable personality for my fiance!!!

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Whasamatter Andy? You had too much coffee this evening? LOL

But learning to calm down, be patient and go with the flow will make me a more managable personality for my fiance!!!

Hadn't you heard? This is actually a new pre-marital counseling program implemented by the government under the guise of immigration. It's meant to teach you how to cower.....

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Filed: K-1 Visa Country: Ukraine
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I thought I prepared my fiancee for the long haul, but I really didn't. I compared my process to others in my similar situation. I said we should hear something within 60 days, nothing. I said we're with an adjudicating officer and we should hear something within 2 weeks, nothing. I just wanted to tell her some good news and give her hope, but it was false news and false hope. All this disappointment has weighed heavy on the relationship. Because of that, it's weighed heavy on the way I'm handling the petition now. Very intensely.

Good Luck to Everyone!!!! and God bless!!!!!

Yeah, I am totally with you on this Andy. You can tell her all of the news you actually have, which in essence is NO news at all. Which just drives the both of you crazy. And you want so desperately to tell her something positive when you call, or when you write the emails...but then there is just nothing to say. Its very difficult, and I completley understand how stressful it can be on the relationship.

Stay strong, and the two of you will be reunited soon. I see your sig. says with an adjudicator....cant be much longer now. Good luck my man. :)


2-14-2006- Engaged on a snowy night in Kiev

2-19-2006- Filed I129F

2-23-2006- NOA1 generated-REJECTED- (they said no fee attached, but I sent THE SAME CHECK back)

3-13-2006- NOA1 generated, reciept date of application

6-2-2006- (Sasha's bday) Transferred to CSC

6-14-2006- Recieved at CSC

6-23-2006- RFE generated IMBRA

6-30-2006-RFE recieved and returned by me.

7-8-2006-RFE recieved by CSC

7-11-2006-"touched" I just figured this out!!! ;)

8-3-2006 - Touched!

8-4-2006 - Touched again!

8-6-2006 - Touched again again!

8-25-2006 - Touched! Its been almost three weeks since the last one...forgot how that felt!

9-7-2006- Touched...but only because I called. :( So dissapointed right now....

9-8-2006- Touched...a real one...not because I called. Hope it actually means something like it did for Gary!

9-11-2006-APPROVED!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

9-12-2006-Touched again today...to NVC?

9-16-2006-NOA2 recieved in mail

10-4-2006-Petition sent to NVC

10-21-2006-Touched??? #######?!?

10-25-2006-Touched again??

10-27-2006-NVC case received!

10-30-2006-NVC sent case to Consulate in Kiev!!! Come come on hurry up!!!

11-30-2006-Interview...PASSED!

12-8-2006-arriving together at Portland International Airport!!!

1-25-2007-MARRIED!

3-6-2007-Filed EAD, AP, and I485

3-13-2007-NOA1's for all of the above. ONE year exactly from NOA1 of 129f. ;)

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Filed: K-1 Visa Country: Thailand
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Andy, ask her to joint Visajourney, then she will understand and love you more ;)


Robert (U.S.A.)------^--^------Waenphetch (Thailand)

September 27' 2005 -------------------------(Met online)

May 16' 2006---------- (Mailed application from Chiangmai, Thailand) to NSC

June 9' 2006--------- (NOA 1 Receipt date) ---CSC----

September 7' 2006------------(NOA 2 Receipt date)

December 20' 2006 (7 a.m.) -----------INTERVIEW Approved IMBRA discussed[/color]

December 24' 2006 ---------- POE - LA

December 26' 2006 ------------ Civil Marriage

December 28' 2006 ------------ Applied for SSN

January' 19' 2007 ------------- SSN Received

AOS Chicago

December 29' 2006 ----------- Mailed I-485

January' 5' 2007 -------------- NOA Receipt date (MSC)

January' 23' 2007 ------------ I-485 Transferred to CSC

January 26' 2007 ------------ Biometric done

February 7' 2007 ------------ Case pending at CSC

October 19, 2007 ------------ Approved email from CRIS (welcome notice sent on Oct 18)

March 14, 2007 ------------ Mailed I - 765

May 4, 2007 ----------- I-765 approved

May 30, 2007 ----------- got a great job at www.swipeclock.com as an Accountant

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Filed: K-1 Visa Country: Poland
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Andy, ask her to joint Visajourney, then she will understand and love you more ;)

She's not a dork like me :blush: I couldn't see her spending more than 10 minutes on this site. It's just too overwhelming for her.

But thanks for the idea.


06/30/06- sent I-129F petition to VSC.

07/11/06- NOA1 (received in mail)

07/19/06- RFE received in mail, IMBRA

07/28/06- e-mail, IMBRA RFE received at VSC

09/11/06- called VSC, told I'm with an adjudicating officer

09/25/06- called VSC, told to file expedited service, outside 60 days of RFE received date

09/26/06- sent expedited service request to VSC via fax and snail mail

09/26/06- Senators and Congressman making inquiries into my petition

09/29/06- expedited service request approved by VSC director

10/04/06- e-mail NOA2 approved!!!!!!

10/05/06- NVC received

10/06/06- NVC forwarded to Poland Embassy

10/16/06- Packet #3 received

10/17/06- Packet #3 sent to US Embassy Warsaw

10/30/06- Packet #4 received

10/30/06- Interview scheduled for November 22nd!!!

11/30/06- Visa in hand, via DHL!!!!

12/05/06- Ania and I arrive together in the USA

02/11/07- Ania applied for Social Security Card

02/17/07- Ania and I were MARRIED!!!!!!

07/24/07- Social Security Card in hand- after some minor issues and a little procrastination :)

10/14/07- I-485, I-765, and permission to travel mailed to USCIS

10/17/07- Received NOA1

12/17/07- I-485 shipped to California Service Center for faster service

12/17/07- I-765 approved new card should be mailed within 30 days, Advanced parole approved

02/28/08- AOS APPROVED!!!! PERMANENT RESIDENT CARD RECEIVED!!!!! (card received couple weeks after approval)

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Filed: Citizen (apr) Country: Brazil
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So I am not alone! I'm only 15 days into this process and I've tried to prepare myself, and my fiance, for a long run but it's hard.

I've tried to explain to my man how we will probably be waiting for months. He told me to move to Brasil now. It's hard to be patient and at the same time I heard of someone who got their NOA2 in 2 weeks!

My friends tell me to stay away from this site and not stress myself out...maybe I should. I'll do the 'dance' for you all though, and hope I'm next.

Take care! :star:


11/2004 - Met in Brazil

09/2006 - Apply for K1

03/2007 - K1 approved

04/2007 - Apply for AOS & EAD

07/2007 - EAD approved

01/2008 - Conditional Residency approved

11/2009 - Apply to remove conditions

02/2010 - Permanent Residency approved

11/2010 - Apply for Citizenship

03/2011 - Citizenship approved

07/2011 - Moved back to Brazil

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Filed: K-1 Visa Country: Australia
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Andy, ask her to joint Visajourney, then she will understand and love you more ;)

She's not a dork like me :blush: I couldn't see her spending more than 10 minutes on this site. It's just too overwhelming for her.

But thanks for the idea.

What are you saying? Are you calling us dorks?!!! :o

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Andy, think that when it does arrive, the NOA2 you'll practically forget the wait was so long. Trust me, I felt that. I went through VSC and my approval came after over 3 months so hang in there! Yours will come as well!


(Puerto Rico) Luis & Laura (Brazil) K1 JOURNEY
04/11/2006 - Filed I-129F.
09/29/2006 - Visa in hand!

10/15/2006 - POE San Juan
11/15/2006 - MARRIAGE

AOS JOURNEY
01/05/2007 - AOS sent to Chicago.
03/26/2007 - Green Card in hand!

REMOVAL OF CONDITIONS JOURNEY
01/26/2009 - Filed I-751.
06/22/2009 - Green Card in hand!

NATURALIZATION JOURNEY
06/26/2014 - N-400 sent to Nebraska
07/02/2014 - NOA
07/24/2014 - Biometrics
10/24/2014 - Interview (approved)

01/16/2015 - Oath Ceremony


*View Complete Timeline

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Filed: K-1 Visa Country: Poland
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Andy, ask her to joint Visajourney, then she will understand and love you more ;)

She's not a dork like me :blush: I couldn't see her spending more than 10 minutes on this site. It's just too overwhelming for her.

But thanks for the idea.

What are you saying? Are you calling us dorks?!!! :o

Never!! ;)


06/30/06- sent I-129F petition to VSC.

07/11/06- NOA1 (received in mail)

07/19/06- RFE received in mail, IMBRA

07/28/06- e-mail, IMBRA RFE received at VSC

09/11/06- called VSC, told I'm with an adjudicating officer

09/25/06- called VSC, told to file expedited service, outside 60 days of RFE received date

09/26/06- sent expedited service request to VSC via fax and snail mail

09/26/06- Senators and Congressman making inquiries into my petition

09/29/06- expedited service request approved by VSC director

10/04/06- e-mail NOA2 approved!!!!!!

10/05/06- NVC received

10/06/06- NVC forwarded to Poland Embassy

10/16/06- Packet #3 received

10/17/06- Packet #3 sent to US Embassy Warsaw

10/30/06- Packet #4 received

10/30/06- Interview scheduled for November 22nd!!!

11/30/06- Visa in hand, via DHL!!!!

12/05/06- Ania and I arrive together in the USA

02/11/07- Ania applied for Social Security Card

02/17/07- Ania and I were MARRIED!!!!!!

07/24/07- Social Security Card in hand- after some minor issues and a little procrastination :)

10/14/07- I-485, I-765, and permission to travel mailed to USCIS

10/17/07- Received NOA1

12/17/07- I-485 shipped to California Service Center for faster service

12/17/07- I-765 approved new card should be mailed within 30 days, Advanced parole approved

02/28/08- AOS APPROVED!!!! PERMANENT RESIDENT CARD RECEIVED!!!!! (card received couple weeks after approval)

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Woke up this morning in a much better frame of mind..thanks Andy!!!!! (F)


erfoud44.jpg

24 March 2009 I-751 received by USCIS

27 March 2009 Check Cashed

30 March 2009 NOA received

8 April 2009 Biometric notice arrived by mail

24 April 2009 Biometrics scheduled

26 April 2009 Touched

...once again waiting

1 September 2009 (just over 5 months) Approved and card production ordered.

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