Is anybody else's spouse like this?

[IR5FORMUMSIE 850]

Well my mother-in-law always tells the hubs to be nice to me, 'specially cause I'm pregnant. After running around like a lunatic all week, working, cleaning, cooking, taking care of the kids, bribing them to do their homework, scrubbing marker off the floor with magic eraser (thanks to the baby), the least hubs could do is make me an egg sammich & coffee on Saturday. Besides, he's kinda proud of himself that he makes something I'll actually eat.

You still haven't gotten rid of the rag-on-a-stick?

Holy Guacamole, CONGRATS!!!!!! There is only one appropriate response under the circumstances.

And, of course,

Edited January 31, 2012 by IR5FORMUMSIE

[Susita 175]

Holy Guacamole, CONGRATS!!!!!! There is only one appropriate response under the circumstances.

Thanks 5!

Edited January 31, 2012 by Susita

[elmcitymaven 9,711]

I have to disagree with you on that one. The man is the man. Whether he be working or sitting on the couch watching ESPN and playing on the net while collecting unemployment he is still the man of the house. There is one king of the house and one king only.

It's this new wave thinking that has the roles of marriage all messed up these days and that's what causes problems. One man, one woman and both have roles in the marriage.

In our household the man sits at the head of the table and there's no hyphenated last names.

I really needed a chortle today, beyond my usual girlish giggle.

*giggle*

I better get back to waiting upon my boy now -- he hardly ever lets me near the internet machine because, he says, that is for the KING.

[Nina~ 431]

I bet all his collegues wish they had married a foreign woman also. Mine do. Do you ever make him poutine to take? Alla makes Vareniki and Pel'mini for me to bring to work and also sends cakes she makes for me to take and give to the others at work.

Alla had to stand in line to buy food when she was a child (her mother would often stand in one line for one type of food and Alla would stand in another for something else.) She would meet her mom at home for breakfast and they would share half a cucumber and a small cup of sour cream for breakfast. But still she makes a pile of food for us to eat!

It is a huge embarrassment for a RUB (Russian, Ukrainian, Belarussian) woman to not have food and drink to offer to guests. It also reflects badly on her with other women if her husband is not well fed and doesn't brag to his friends how well his wife cooks and how well he is fed. One does not make jokes about his wife's cooking, it would be very insulting to them. It is considered an honor to feed someone in your home, they do you an honor to eat your cooking. They would dare not be caught without food they have prepared themselves.

We have some good friends in Donetsk, both school teachers, they make about $400 per month between them and live with their son and his mother in a tiny two room flat, but if you go to their home it is like a feast there!

Definitely the woman needs to feed her family!

One thing about RUB women, they will never WASTE food. They are not stingy or greedy. But when we go to Ukraine and stay in our flat, we always end up with some leftovers and she will give it to neighbors or even put it on paper plates and take it to people on the street that "have none" A Ukrainian woman would never waste food, after a recent history of millions of people starving to death, it is a terrible sin to waste food....but they make plenty of food.

Her phrase is..."Take all you want, eat all you take"

Meh, those are all cultural traits common in any developing country and not just RUB. Throwing a "feast" for guests is a status symbol there to show that they have plenty. They dont do it because they think you are some kind of American king, but because they don't want you to leave their place and tell other that they poor. Food is cheap & affordable in developed (Western) countries, so it is not really a big deal when it comes to entertaining. Again, it is the same about wasting food.. People who grew up poor have a harder time throwing away food. Not really typical of Ukraine.

[Darnell 8,478]

Abdul, what news from the kitchen?

[Bad_Daddy 2,209]

Sounds like my husband. He uses those for cereal too. He can eat like half a box of Cheerios easy, and he's like 150 lbs. soaking wet.

I do the vast majority of the cooking but I have to say, my husband has mastered the art of making egg sandwiches. What can I say, I get spoiled on Saturday mornings.

That's not good. Like others have said, maybe seek counseling.

He's got good taste. Cheerios rock! A box is like three servings and then it's empty.

[I AM NOT THAT GUY 5,715]

When my wife and friends get together, they cook more than enough food to feed a small army. Then at the end of the evening, they divide it all up and take it home. That way they get to sample that comfort food for days. Her culture usually doesn't get to eat like that except on special occasions, so they make lots of things special occasions.

[SMOKE 1,426]

When my wife and friends get together, they cook more than enough food to feed a small army. Then at the end of the evening, they divide it all up and take it home. That way they get to sample that comfort food for days. Her culture usually doesn't get to eat like that except on special occasions, so they make lots of things special occasions.

you forgot...take 100+ pictures & post them on FB after each gathering too.

[I AM NOT THAT GUY 5,715]

you forgot...take 100+ pictures & post them on FB after each gathering too.

Yep. I have no privacy anymore.

[Nina~ 431]

When my wife and friends get together, they cook more than enough food to feed a small army. Then at the end of the evening, they divide it all up and take it home. That way they get to sample that comfort food for days. Her culture usually doesn't get to eat like that except on special occasions, so they make lots of things special occasions.

Yeah, that's how my mom & her sisters are. They can't stand the sight of each other on a normal day, but when they all get together it becomes a "special occasion" which calls for a feast.

[Bad_Daddy 2,209]

you forgot...take 100+ pictures & post them on FB after each gathering too.

LOL... Belarusians do the same thing. Not post them on FB, but they always take the pics before they start eating and while everyone is sitting at the table and the food is heaped up.

[I AM NOT THAT GUY 5,715]

LOL... Belarusians do the same thing. Not post them on FB, but they always take the pics before they start eating and while everyone is sitting at the table and the food is heaped up.

Every time we go out, the wife has to take a picture of the food when it is served, to share later on FB.

[SMOKE 1,426]

Every time we go out, the wife has to take a picture of the food when it is served, to share later on FB.

i know a guy that gives his wife a pat-down before entering resturants to avoid this. i threatened to do the same...then i got 'the look'. so, i just smile for the pics now.

[Gary and Alla 3,694]

Meh, those are all cultural traits common in any developing country and not just RUB. Throwing a "feast" for guests is a status symbol there to show that they have plenty. They dont do it because they think you are some kind of American king, but because they don't want you to leave their place and tell other that they poor. Food is cheap & affordable in developed (Western) countries, so it is not really a big deal when it comes to entertaining. Again, it is the same about wasting food.. People who grew up poor have a harder time throwing away food. Not really typical of Ukraine.

Oh thank you for the explanation on Ukrainian customs. So why do you think his American wife is so stingy and unwilling to do her job?

[TBoneTX 43,057]

You still haven't gotten rid of the rag-on-a-stick?

No, man (sigh, man). I found rice in the cat's water bowl tonight, obviously flung by the rag-on-a-stick, see man.

Congratulations on your continuing adventures with reproductivity, and on Hubby for being able to cook anything, si man!