Who would "choose" to be GAY?

[Danno 1,228]

LESBIAN ‘SEX AND THE CITY’ STAR ON HER SEXUALITY: ‘FOR ME IT’S A CHOICE’

It’s a widely-known fact that “Sex and the City” star Cynthia Nixon is a lesbian. The popular 45-year-old actress came out in 2004 and has since been in a long-term relationship with education activist Christine Marinoni. While the actress is content with the way her romantic life has progressed, a New York Times interview that came out last week seems to be catching some members of the gay and lesbian community by surprise, as she said that her sexuality is a choice.

In Nixon’s interview with the Times, she addressed her mid-life switch from a heterosexual to a homosexual — something that is apparently a point of contention among some who don‘t believe she’s being genuine. She said:

“I gave a speech recently, an empowerment speech to a gay audience, and it included the line ‘I’ve been straight and I’ve been gay, and gay is better.’ And they tried to get me to change it, because they said it implies that homosexuality can be a choice. And for me, it is a choice. I understand that for many people it’s not, but for me it’s a choice, and you don’t get to define my gayness for me. A certain section of our community is very concerned that it not be seen as a choice, because if it’s a choice, then we could opt out. I say it doesn’t matter if we flew here or we swam here, it matters that we are here and we are one group and let us stop trying to make a litmus test for who is considered gay and who is not.”

These comments, in themselves, are controversial for a variety of reasons. Nixon is clearly claiming that she has made a conscious decision to be gay. While she has experimented with heterosexuality, it is homosexuality that best suits her, she says. While critics who maintain that being gay is overwhelmingly something that one cannot help may find offense in these statements, Nixon did proclaim that “for many people it’s not” a choice.

Understanding her past may provide a lens into why she feels this way. Before meeting Marinoni, the actress was with Danny Mozes, an English professor. She has two children from Mozes, with whom she split in 2003 – Samantha, 15, and Charlie, 9. The two remain on good terms. In addition to these children, Marinoni conceived a child in Feb. 2011 named Max Ellington Nixon-Marinoni (Nixon and Marinoni are now engaged).

Nixon’s comments about her sexuality continued in her Times interview, as she went on to explain that some peoples’ perceptions of her past relationships are “offensive”:

“Why can’t it be a choice? Why is that any less legitimate? It seems we’re just ceding this point to bigots who are demanding it, and I don’t think that they should define the terms of the debate. I also feel like people think I was walking around in a cloud and didn’t realize I was gay, which I find really offensive. I find it offensive to me, but I also find it offensive to all the men I’ve been out with.”

Not everyone agrees with this logic, though. Blogger John Aravosis wrote, “every religious right hatemonger is now going to quote this woman every single time they want to deny us our civil rights.” Gay gossip blogger Perez Hilton mirrored this sentiment, writing, ”We totally hear her out and true, we cannot define her ‘gayness,’ but it wasn’t a choice for us. We were BORN gay. And millions of gay people around the world feel the same way.”

Judging from the ferocity of her comments, it‘s not likely she’s going to appease critics by apologizing or retracting. Let us know what you think in the comments section.

(H/T: Huffington Post)

[Sofiyya 1,687]

Two words: Ann Heche

[Mr. Big Dog 10,747]

So she's bi-sexual leaning towards same sex relationships. What's the issue, Danno?

[one...two...tree 2,762]

Are you saying that you chose to be sexually attracted to women, Danno? It's not a natural inclination for you?

[Sofiyya 1,687]

If you read the article carefully, you'll see that Cynthia Nixon is saying that she was not born gay, she has chosen to be gay. That stance is very controversial among gays.

[one...two...tree 2,762]

If you read the article carefully, you'll see that Cynthia Nixon is saying that she was not born gay, she has chosen to be gay. That stance is very controversial among gays.

She might think she made a conscious decision to be sexually attracted to women, but that's not how we work biologically. Humans do exhibit certain instincts. Watch a newborn baby when you touch it's cheek - it's head will turn towards you making suckling movements with its lips. When we sneeze, we close our eyes. There's a myriad of instinctive behavior that precedes any sort of thought process.

[Sofiyya 1,687]

She might think she made a conscious decision to be sexually attracted to women, but that's not how we work biologically. Humans do exhibit certain instincts. Watch a newborn baby when you touch it's cheek - it's head will turn towards you making suckling movements with its lips. When we sneeze, we close our eyes. There's a myriad of instinctive behavior that precedes any sort of thought process.

Nah, pedophiles are made, for example. Apparently, some gays are, too.

[Danno 1,228]

She might think she made a conscious decision to be sexually attracted to women, but that's not how we work biologically. Humans do exhibit certain instincts. Watch a newborn baby when you touch it's cheek - it's head will turn towards you making suckling movements with its lips. When we sneeze, we close our eyes. There's a myriad of instinctive behavior that precedes any sort of thought process.

But you know better?

:rofl:

[Danno 1,228]

So she's bi-sexual leaning towards same sex relationships. What's the issue, Danno?

YOu know what the issue is, this whole BS of all these Homosexuals being Born that way is absolutely not true.

Sexuality is a very complex thing, to believe that people have a switch left-right... gay-straight, is silly.

I have no interest in men but others might have an even greater aversion to it. Social conditioning overrides even natural impulses. The fact that so many people are monogamous is but one example.

There is no on-off switch for same sex attraction, we all have varying degrees of straight and Homosexual inclination.

This lady went off the reservation for saying what every homosexual knows but..... in order to keep the whole -civil rights..... Orientation thing going.... they keep up this simplistic idea that people are "born gay" as if there is no wide gray area.

[TiklingGuy 211]

Nobody is born gay. Situations and decisions in someone's life leans them towards the gay side. ect. being molested as a child. Failed parenting. social associations. To say someone is born gay is the same as saying Tiger Woods was born with the talent to play golf. Tiger Woods got it in his head one day that he was going to play golf and he became the best at it through years of training and playing. Gay people can be delivered and set straight. I have seen it first hand.

[웃 910]

This lady went off the reservation for saying what every homosexual knows but..... in order to keep the whole -civil rights..... Orientation thing going.... they keep up this simplistic idea that people are "born gay" as if there is no wide gray area.

[ready4ONE 5,400]

Paramedic and Danno seem to be in competition for Most Illogical Comment in a thread. Gotta warn you Para, Danno has mad skills in this type of competition!

Seriously though, if a gal is happy with another gal, or guy for a guy who cares? How has the OP 'proven' being gay is a choice? As she herself stated, for her it is a choice. So freaking what?

[Danno 1,228]

Paramedic and Danno seem to be in competition for Most Illogical Comment in a thread. Gotta warn you Para, Danno has mad skills in this type of competition!

Seriously though, if a gal is happy with another gal, or guy for a guy who cares? How has the OP 'proven' being gay is a choice? As she herself stated, for her it is a choice. So freaking what?

It seems we have agreement here.

The whole Concept that homosexuality is something Gays are born with is not true, though it could very well be the case with SOME gay folk.

[Kathryn41 3,205]

Suggesting homosexuality is caused by child abuse is offensive. Please remember that there are members on Visa Journey who have gay family members and such comments are both insulting and insensitive.

Scientific evidence indicates that homosexuality is not a 'choice', that it has a genetic link probably predicated by certain hormonal influences during pregnancy. This excerpt, while not from a scientific source, provides a good explanation for the author of the above articles experience:

As recently as the last century, teachers would tie a child’s left hand in a vain attempt to make them right-handed. While a left-handed person can force himself to write right-handed, just as a gay person can force himself to live a heterosexual lifestyle, that doesn’t make the leftie a rightie or the gay man straight. Some people (the ambidextrous or the bisexual) would find it relatively easy to move from one behavior to the other, but for most of us, changing our sexuality would be as impossible as learning to write as precisely or throw a ball as accurately with our non-dominant hand as with our dominant hand.

Science doesn’t have “proof” as to what causes left-handedness, either. Like sexuality, it is probably a combination of genetics and in utero environmental factors, reinforced in early childhood by societal norms. But it’s clear that both are most likely fixed at birth.

http://www.redding.com/news/2008/jun/17/are-we-born-gay-science-suggests-yes/

Homosexuality is not unique to humankind either. People are just one species among many, many, many that practice homosexuality: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_animals_displaying_homosexual_behavior

I seriously doubt that every single case of these homosexual animals was caused by molestation, failed parenting or associating with other homosexuals.

[Gary and Alla 3,694]

I like girls too, who can blame her?

It seems we have agreement here.

The whole Concept that homosexuality is something Gays are born with is not true, though it could very well be the case with SOME gay folk.

why do you care so much what my wife and I are doing in our bedroom?