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Hi VJ's i am new here, just wanna ask something...my fiancee he been sick this month of November and his Doctors and specialist they telling my fiancee that he got cancer and they say's also he wont be around longer :( ! i want to know if this case cause any problem of my petition.my petition been approved last Nov.22 and now i am waiting letter from US embassy manila..need help please!!! thanks

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Hi VJ's i am new here, just wanna ask something...my fiancee he been sick this month of November and his Doctors and specialist they telling my fiancee that he got cancer and they say's also he wont be around longer :( ! i want to know if this case cause any problem of my petition.my petition been approved last Nov.22 and now i am waiting letter from US embassy manila..need help please!!! thanks

If he passes before your visa is approved it will be cancelled. If they have approved your visa but you are unable to get there and marry before he does then you're out of luck and will need to return back to the Philippines.

If you are able to get there and marry you will be able to apply to AOS as a widow.

From a non-immigration standpoint you have more trouble. It's important to note though that he will need to make sure he has a Will (if they will deem him mentally able to make changes after you're married) or at least make sure his affairs are in order because depending on the state it's not guaranteed that you will get everything (or anything). If someone dies intestate (without a Will) it is usually split between spouse and surviving siblings/cousins/parents etc, and dying after marriage and before changing your Will is sometimes deemed intestate because marriage often cancels out any Will made before the marriage. I also don't know how good your relationship is with your in-laws but they could contest any Will stating that you weren't married long enough, or that you took advantage of a sick man, or whatever and even if they don't win, it can eat up a lot of funds fighting it. You will be fighting an uphill battle if you want to try and claim and life insurance, or superannuation or anything like that and he needs to add you ASAP. Same with adding your name to any bank accounts. If he has a mortgage on the house (bank loan) you will have to pay out the mortgage (or switch it to your name) before they will let you remain there (after he passes). Your name wouldn't be on the Deed (most likely) so there's things to figure out there as well. It might be totally fine but you should make sure to have money for a return flight "just in case".

Sorry for your trouble :(

Edited by Vanessa&Tony

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Hi VJ's i am new here, just wanna ask something...my fiancee he been sick this month of November and his Doctors and specialist they telling my fiancee that he got cancer and they say's also he wont be around longer :( ! i want to know if this case cause any problem of my petition.my petition been approved last Nov.22 and now i am waiting letter from US embassy manila..need help please!!! thanks

Danmars

if you're asking whether the embassy might deny you a visa based on his being sick, answer is no. however, if the inevitable happens even after your mnl# arrives (the go signal to apply for a visa), then everything will definitely change because all of the processes are based on his approved petition for you.

still, from what i remember, you and/or he can write the nvc for a visa waiver based on humanitarian reasons which allows you to go to the US for a fixed short stay if you can present proof of his medical condition. go to travel.gov and you will find more info on that.

hopefully, more JVs will advise you on your situation =)


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02-11-2008 Sent out I -129F in mail

02-13-2008 NOA 1

03-14-2008 NOA 2

04-07-2008 Medical exam passed

04-25-2008 Interview, visa aproved, no RFEs!

04-25-2008 Waiting for DELBROS/NSO

05-07-2008 Visa on hand ! Wow, less than 3 months! Thank you Lord!

05-26-2008 POE Detroit, no problems, thank God!

07-01-2008 Married 07-01-08, civil, just us w/ his parents

07-16-2008 Mailed out AOS package

07-19-2008 wedding ceremony

08-19-2008 biometrics appointment

08-25-2008 i-485 touched

09-23-2008 i-485 touched

09-30-2008 i-131 approval notice THANK YOU LORD!!!!

10-04-2008 Received my EAD

10-06-2008 Received my AP...yehey, i can go back to Phil for xmas!

11-14-2008 DMV driving test-passed! thank you Lord!

11-18-2008 Received RI driver's license

11-30-2008 Went home to PHILs for the holidays

12-21-2008 Church wedding!

01-08-2009 AOS Approved! thank you Lord! no interview required!

01-16-2009 Received GC in mail

09-02-2010 Sent out application for ROC

09-08-2010 Received NOA1

09-10-2010 Received Biometrics Notice

10-06-2010 Biometrics

12-06-2010 Approved! Thank you Lord God!

12-11-2010 Received NOA2 and 10-yr GC in the mail =)

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10-07-2011 NOA1 date

10-25-2011 Biometrics

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This is very sad I am so sorry to hear this.


USCIS

04/19/2011 - NOA1

05/09/2011 - NOA2 text message and email received

05/17/2011 - Case received at NVC

05/20/2011 - Received NOA2 approval letter in USPS mail.

NVC

05/17/2011 - NVC Receive (No case number assigned yet)

05/18/2011 - NVC Case Number Assigned, received IIN number / Gave Emails

05/18/2011 - DS-3032 Sent to NVC (via email)

05/19/2011 - DS-3032 Accepted by NVC, AOS Fee Bill Generated

05/26/2011 - AOS Fee Paid Online - Status - In Progress

06/01/2011 - AOS Fee - PAID

05/19/2011 - DS-230 IV Fee Bill Generated

05/26/2011 - DS-230 IV Fee Paid Online - Status - In Progress

06/01/2011 - DS-230 IV Fee - Paid

06/02/2011 - DS-230 Packet Sent

06/02/2011 - AOS I-864 Sent

05/03/2011 - All the Paperwork Received at NVC

07/19/2011 - Sign in Failed (SIF)

07/19/2011 - NVC Case Complete!!!!

(16 weeks from NVC case closed to Interview date assigned 11/02/2011)

12/13/2011 - Interview date!!!!

11/21/2011 - Medical DONE

12/13/2011 - Interview done APPROVED!!!!

12/21/2011 - Entry to US JFK!!!!

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If he passes before your visa is approved it will be cancelled. If they have approved your visa but you are unable to get there and marry before he does then you're out of luck and will need to return back to the Philippines.

If you are able to get there and marry you will be able to apply to AOS as a widow.

From a non-immigration standpoint you have more trouble. It's important to note though that he will need to make sure he has a Will (if they will deem him mentally able to make changes after you're married) or at least make sure his affairs are in order because depending on the state it's not guaranteed that you will get everything (or anything). If someone dies intestate (without a Will) it is usually split between spouse and surviving siblings/cousins/parents etc, and dying after marriage and before changing your Will is sometimes deemed intestate because marriage often cancels out any Will made before the marriage. I also don't know how good your relationship is with your in-laws but they could contest any Will stating that you weren't married long enough, or that you took advantage of a sick man, or whatever and even if they don't win, it can eat up a lot of funds fighting it. You will be fighting an uphill battle if you want to try and claim and life insurance, or superannuation or anything like that and he needs to add you ASAP. Same with adding your name to any bank accounts. If he has a mortgage on the house (bank loan) you will have to pay out the mortgage (or switch it to your name) before they will let you remain there (after he passes). Your name wouldn't be on the Deed (most likely) so there's things to figure out there as well. It might be totally fine but you should make sure to have money for a return flight "just in case".

Sorry for your trouble :(

Thanks for advice... i have good relationship with his family and they wanted to comeover soon and they promise me nothing to worry if ever happen my fiancee die they taking care of me.

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if you're asking whether the embassy might deny you a visa based on his being sick, answer is no. however, if the inevitable happens even after your mnl# arrives (the go signal to apply for a visa), then everything will definitely change because all of the processes are based on his approved petition for you.

still, from what i remember, you and/or he can write the nvc for a visa waiver based on humanitarian reasons which allows you to go to the US for a fixed short stay if you can present proof of his medical condition. go to travel.gov and you will find more info on that.

hopefully, more JVs will advise you on your situation =)

We are figure out now til i got my manila case# hope i get my letter soon...he getting worse everyday its really hard for me knowing my fiancee suffering pain without me his side :huh: ...

Thanks for your time spending reply my post (F)

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I waited to see other replies, sorry for this. But, now I will suggest.

You have a NOA2 and are awaiting your MNL #. Leave it at the. Let the Interview happen and there is NO NEED to bring a Medical Condition as Cancer of the Petitioner into the subject whatsoever. (Manila is going to send the MNL# to the Petitioner or Attorney and not the beneficiary. )

The MNL# should be given by NVC and the Petitioner has access to that number for your Medical, Visa Fees, ETC. (About 3 weeks after NOA2 Approval)

I don't think an Expidite would be in your favor due to I see No Savings in time to speed your Arrival. (Your far into the process)

Also, you don't get diagnosed with Cancer and just die immediately, its a slow death and can take years but not in all cases but some recover with treatment. I don't think A Diagnosis of Cancer is a reason to worry about your Petition. Medical Records of the Petitioner are Confidential and not Public even to USCIS.

So go foward with your petition as it is. Get your MNL# , get your Medical, Fees, ETC and don't this this Cancer thing affect you.

There is No Need to Disclose the Personal Medical Reasons/Documents of the USC in anyway. It does not affect your Petition.

Good Luck !

Edited by Tim/Mav

TIM/MAV K1-JOURNEY
3/27/2007....We first met on myspace
1/30/10 ......My Honey proposed
8/15/10 ......He visit Philippines(2wks) & met my family
12/17/10 ....USCIS received the Filed I-129F for K1-visa
12/21/10 ....Received hard copy,NOA1
5/25/11.......Received RFE
6/09/11.......NOA2 approved
12/07/11.....Visa fee paid at BPI

6/11/13.......2nd visa fee payment
7/10-11/13.. Medical Exam completed@St.Lukes Clinic
1/15-16/14.. 2nd Medical exam updated
1/21/14...... k1 interview-Visa Approved
.....................................................................
8/29/14...... Submitted AOS application
10/03/14.....Biometrics
01/07/15.....Received my EAD card

01/31/15..... I got my SSN from the mail

04/20/15......AOS Interview - Approved :star:

4/24/15 .......Got the Driving Permit Card

4/30/15 .......Green Card Received :) (Exp.4/20/17)

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I waited to see other replies, sorry for this. But, now I will suggest.

You have a NOA2 and are awaiting your MNL #. Leave it at the. Let the Interview happen and there is NO NEED to bring a Medical Condition as Cancer of the Petitioner into the subject whatsoever. (Manila is going to send the MNL# to the Petitioner or Attorney and not the beneficiary. )

The MNL# should be given by NVC and the Petitioner has access to that number for your Medical, Visa Fees, ETC. (About 3 weeks after NOA2 Approval)

I don't think an Expidite would be in your favor due to I see No Savings in time to speed your Arrival. (Your far into the process)

Also, you don't get diagnosed with Cancer and just die immediately, its a slow death and can take years but not in all cases but some recover with treatment. I don't think A Diagnosis of Cancer is a reason to worry about your Petition. Medical Records of the Petitioner are Confidential and not Public even to USCIS.

So go foward with your petition as it is. Get your MNL# , get your Medical, Fees, ETC and don't this this Cancer thing affect you.

There is No Need to Disclose the Personal Medical Reasons/Documents of the USC in anyway. It does not affect your Petition.

Good Luck !

Thank you so much for your opinion TIM/MAV yeah your right...my fiancee family they asure me that everything its ok! and i keep on praying that he can survive and we live longer...i'll been rebuke what his Doctors say's! i wont let devil or cancer to steal our happines...

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Thank you so much for your opinion TIM/MAV yeah your right...my fiancee family they asure me that everything its ok! and i keep on praying that he can survive and we live longer...i'll been rebuke what his Doctors say's! i wont let devil or cancer to steal our happines...

Go Foward with your Petition AS IS. And ignore some of the posts. Cancer is Life or Death but some survive and what he needs is YOU. Not his Mother


TIM/MAV K1-JOURNEY
3/27/2007....We first met on myspace
1/30/10 ......My Honey proposed
8/15/10 ......He visit Philippines(2wks) & met my family
12/17/10 ....USCIS received the Filed I-129F for K1-visa
12/21/10 ....Received hard copy,NOA1
5/25/11.......Received RFE
6/09/11.......NOA2 approved
12/07/11.....Visa fee paid at BPI

6/11/13.......2nd visa fee payment
7/10-11/13.. Medical Exam completed@St.Lukes Clinic
1/15-16/14.. 2nd Medical exam updated
1/21/14...... k1 interview-Visa Approved
.....................................................................
8/29/14...... Submitted AOS application
10/03/14.....Biometrics
01/07/15.....Received my EAD card

01/31/15..... I got my SSN from the mail

04/20/15......AOS Interview - Approved :star:

4/24/15 .......Got the Driving Permit Card

4/30/15 .......Green Card Received :) (Exp.4/20/17)

http://youtu.be/BVf45EcdFwQ

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Go Foward with your Petition AS IS. And ignore some of the posts. Cancer is Life or Death but some survive and what he needs is YOU. Not his Mother

Yeah your right he promise me for fight the cancer because he wanted to full filled his promises..I believe when two people love each other enough, anything can happen as long as they believe in each other. he get strength from me and God.

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I know as much as the previous writers (which is basically nothing) so I would like to suggest don't think that they can't deny you if they think he is petitioning you to come take care of him in his dying days. I actually read this somewhere on a legal web site I think. It is possible that if your case of bonified relationship is not strong enough that him having cancer might result in a denial. It all depends on the how the CO views your file. My point is, don't disclose this. Nobody will ask about it because nobody knows but you and his family.

You might think that shedding tears of your greif would result in compassion but you don't know. The best thing to do is keep your mouth shut about it because the fact that he has cancer likely would not benefit you in any way in getting your visa and could hurt you so keep it private and good luck.

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I know as much as the previous writers (which is basically nothing) so I would like to suggest don't think that they can't deny you if they think he is petitioning you to come take care of him in his dying days. I actually read this somewhere on a legal web site I think. It is possible that if your case of bonified relationship is not strong enough that him having cancer might result in a denial. It all depends on the how the CO views your file. My point is, don't disclose this. Nobody will ask about it because nobody knows but you and his family.

You might think that shedding tears of your greif would result in compassion but you don't know. The best thing to do is keep your mouth shut about it because the fact that he has cancer likely would not benefit you in any way in getting your visa and could hurt you so keep it private and good luck.

Thanks for your words NoneYa!

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