The Wedding

[UKGirl123 24]

Hi guys, i just wondered if you could help me gain an idea of what you all are doing in regards to the wedding.

Currently my fiance and I are planning on going the Justice of the Peace route and then having our big wedding when we can afford it further on down the line.

I was wondering if anyone else is doing this. If so who are you having at the Justice of the Peace with you?

[Dodi 69]

My fiance and I are going to a judge to get married, and then having an actual wedding with family and friends later. His parents will be away in Chile when he gets here, and we want to be able to file for his AOS as soon as possible, so that he can work quickly. Besides, without him working, it's hard to justify spending $$$ on a wedding when I've got to support a family of 4 on my own for a few months.

[PurpleSky 19]

We're doing a ceremony infused with Bini tradition (FH is Nigerian) then having a celebration party directly after. A few months down the line we'll do an actual wedding. This was the easiest way for us to go in regards to planning and inviting, etc.

[Kimchimex 8]

I have a big yard in the countryside & have offered it to Bride & groom for a lovely outdoor garden style wedding. No need to reserve & they can invite as many as they like! They will have a second ceremony back in Mexico with bride whole family after the AOS or AP is granted.

[Damian&Kelly 16]

We were married in front of a judge, then had a reception party the day after. Both moms came to the ceremony.

[Gingerpants 8]

We're planning to have an intimate ceremony at the courthouse and then once we've saved enough money to have a big wedding (probably in Ireland)we'll celebrate with family and friends. We think this is the best option because the visa process is stressful enough without having to plan a wedding as well, and our current finances would only allow for a small backyard party so I think I'd be sad if I never got my dream wedding.

[Tater&Bugger 3]

My fiance and I are planning everything in advance, letting the vendors know what the deal is, and having back up vendors. Once the Visa is approved we call everyone up and book it. I for some reason just couldn't have a court room wedding then a party later. Call me crazy but it made me feel depressed. Totally works for some people, I am not knocking it. Just not our style... and plus I live 2hrs from where I am getting married so travel back and forth frequently. A lot of people aren't so lucky.

Edited August 3, 2010 by Tater&Bugger

[Hendea3 4]

We too are basically doing the same thing as Tater...but we also only live 2hrs away and cross frequently....

[Kukolka 8]

Doing the same as Tater because personally I also didn't want a separate party later. We're having a small-medium (ok, maybe crowded!) JoP ceremony in my parents' great room, and the reception at a restaurant's private room. For me, planning the wedding is helping to make the wait a little easier.

[Y&E 12]

Registry office (or equivalent) next month and then hoping to plan for a blessing ceremony in April next year. Nothing too big as money will still be tight and we thing big weddings are a waste of money / trying to get friends and relatives from all over the globe is too much hassle. Just a nice outdoor blessing and then dinner at a nice restaurant. We're looking forward to it but have not planned anything!

[Justine+David 218]

I have many close relatives who all live in the same area and I really wanted to celebrate with them, so we decided to book the vendors a year in advance of sending off our I-129F, with the option of pushing the date forward. It ended up well, got the visa in March, came in June. Then decided to get married anyway just to start the process and the fact that he can't apply for federal student loans without a green card and the FAFSA is due in early February...

So, the religious wedding is still in September...and my uncle who is doing the ceremony has told us that we're not married anyway so it's our "real" wedding, apparently.

Edited August 4, 2010 by Justine+David

[Hendea3 4]

Unfortunately for those of us going through Montreal.....1 year from mailing date may not be enough :s

[Prawninator 138]

We had a customary Chinese tea ceremony in my home country before coming over on the K-1 that almost all my extended family and my best friends attended, and since it wasn't a real wedding, we called it our engagement party (which in a sense is the truth). On flying over to the USA and like the Visa stated, my husband and I were married at the courthouse within 90 days of entry. His parents and our closest friends were in attendance, as you would need witnesses.

Six months later, we had an outdoor re-enactment and reception in his parents' backyard where my husband's extended family flew in from back East (upstate New York... Pennsylvania etc) to attend, and his co-workers and a few of my in-law's neighbours dropped in too. My immediate family also flew in from Singapore to attend.

So we have three anniversaries. MY family knows the tea ceremony date, HIS family knows the re-enactment date, and the two of us remember the legal date. Haha. All the more reason to celebrate, right?

[pookaphilus 12]

good day..as for us, as soon as we have my visa approved(really praying for this one,,interview date coming already..God help us!!),...no choice at all..although his from CA, but we will have our wedding at Missouri(his family lives there..)..no problem if we have it on court(it's ok for me, just being practical now)..but somehow his mom is very excited for the event(he's the youngest),helping us with preparations(really thankful my mother-in-law to be is very nice )..his uncle is a pastor and we will not rent a chapel for the ceremony(big help already)..either so, we will just have his family and my sister coming on our wedding..It would be a simple and memorable ceremony for us(..just no roses..don't like it!!..I love lilies more!!.. )..in any way, it's not the ceremony..it's about the promise you will have for each other that will make it memorable and the most special day in your life together!!..have a good day everyone..

[payxibka 10,044]

Not a K-1 visa process question

moving thread

Edited August 5, 2010 by payxibka