Adjustment of status and Divorce

[Tahoma 2,291]

We have not applied for the Adjustment of Status, and she is pressuring me to file it.

She always talks about getting a job, and says she will not return to the Philippines no matter what.

Her family has even offered to pay for the filing fee.

I met her when I went on a vacation to the Philippines in 2008, and I had no intention to get engaged to anybody. I was traveling with my American friend and neighbor who is married to my wife's first cousin. She introduced us.

Today she came home and announced she is moving in with her cousin... I told her the AOS is definitely a no-go then. She got upset of course.

Wow...she said she won't return to the Philippines no matter what? That statement alone should have set off your scammer alarm.

I feel for you because you went to all the time, trouble and expense to get her a visa, bring her over here, and marry her, only to find out that she is interested only in a green card (or going TNT).

I hope you don't jeopardize your future by adjusting her status. It's time for you to divorce her and move on.

Just like women of any nationality, there are Filipinas out there who make wonderful wives. A good one will bring joy to your life. Unfortunately, you got a bad one. I wish you better luck next time around.

[Bobby+Umit 161]

Wow...she said she won't return to the Philippines no matter what? That statement alone should have set off your scammer alarm.

I feel for you because you went to all the time, trouble and expense to get her a visa, bring her over here, and marry her, only to find out that she is interested only in a green card (or going TNT).

I hope you don't jeopardize your future by adjusting her status. It's time for you to divorce her and move on.

Just like women of any nationality, there are Filipinas out there who make wonderful wives. A good one will bring joy to your life. Unfortunately, you got a bad one. I wish you better luck next time around.

Concur with this.

The way you met (via a neighbor who is married to her cousin), the money issue for the AOS, the moving in with cousins (not working on the marriage) -

Time to move on and divorce this one. I would not AOS.

Take precautions to protect yourself from VAWA (from what you posted - there is no case - however...)

Sorry to be hard hitting - but to many things are wrong in your scenario imo.

[Rob and Jill 82]

Well, moving in with her cousins give you the answer to that one.

I'm so sorry to see this happen, and I wish a much better future for you.

[rheanick 42]

I married my wife in the end of December 2009, and the marriage is not turning out to be what either of us expected. We have talked about splitting up many times because it doesn't look like we will resolve our problems, but we do care about each other.

We have not applied for the Adjustment of Status, and she is pressuring me to file it. I have delayed filing because of our personal problems, but more so, because I haven't had enough money handy to pay the fee. Now that divorce looks like a likely reality, I'm not sure it is even practical to file it. She seems to think she will stay here and work and live with cousins and friends. She is from the Philippines but has three first cousins that live right here in the same town as us, who are married to Americans, and have lived here for years. She has a decent sized social network here that rivals my own. She always talks about getting a job, and says she will not return to the Philippines no matter what. I told her there are rules the government has about all that stuff.

She gets upset if I mention divorce, but she also admits that the marriage is not very stable. She is as unsatisfied with things as I am. She wants me to file for the AOS, but I'm hesitant because I told here if we divorce it would be worthless. Her family has even offered to pay for the filing fee.

I'm wondering if I should go ahead and file for her AOS, or just be realistic and move forward with a divorce. Furthermore, because we have waited, her K1 visa expired on March 1. But we were married on Dec. 22, 2009. She is worried she is in violation. I think she's OK, as long as she's married to me.

Thanks for your help in advance; my world has bee turned upside down lately and I need some advice if you have any experience in these matters.

It would be hard to imagine that she is having a hard time adjusting with the US life. As you have mentioned, the network of her friends can rival your own. Nothing against the filipina, just dont be forced into the AOS. You should file the AOS coz you want to. If you want to divorce her, go ahead.