Here's my concern..

[Babe's Baby 0]

Hello everyone!

At first, I wanna let you guys know Im not an English speaker so I apologize for my dramatic erros, at 2nd I have something that is really bugging me and Id like to have some opinions to see if I can calm down about it.

Im from Brazil, and I was an aupair for one year last year. Jan/2008 to Feb/2009

I went to a determinate state, but after 3 months with the family the match wasnt going good and I we needed a rematch. I wanted so bad to find a family in the same state cuz I already had a bf. Tks God I found a family, met them, and we figured out we could do it together. I got aware about the family's needs and so they did about mine. So everything seemed perfect, I moved from the small community to town! I didnt leave that state wich I really liked, and also the boyfriend, and I was living in the capital. Perfeeect.

The problem in this family, for me wasnt a problem actually.. I was sort of blind with my needs, and the fact of it be a family with no mom didnt affect my decision. I took care of 1 girl age 5 at the time, and a boy age 3, both really busy during the whole week. The new family had 3 boys, ages 7, 5, 2, not that busy, so Id be busy. Aahahaha. And I was.

I love kids no matter what, and I liked the boys when I met the family. So, for me it would be a fun challenge, and for sure an awesome experience when its my turn to be a mom (my greatest dream btw). So, the single dad wasnt an issue for me. He seemed respectfull guy, a really good dad, and it seemed we could be good friends. Since the 1st email we extended I felt like I knew him forever. I was not really worried about it. Anyways, the mom moved out after moving back in and out guess 2x. The mother of the kids moved out for good in March, and I moved in in May. And at the time they were sharing the kids custody.. 50/50.

A few days after moving in, my bf and I broke up. Such crazy days worried about finding a new family in that State and breaking up a few days later. |o| Well, that was sad just for 2 days basically, cause I was having so much fun in my new life. I used to work hard, but I was able to have fun as much as I could, so it was really Ok!! So, everything was fine, and the father of the kids and I were becoming friends.. and with time we turned into good friends.

Well.. time passed by, and my host and I were getting even closer. We started having some dates. First kiss.. and more dates and more and more , and in September 18th, 2008 we started our relationship.

And here we are.... engaged!!! Its been 8 months since I got back from the States, and 3 since I saw him for the last time. He came to spend sometime with me in Brazil in July. He met my whole family and a bunch of friends, told my parents his intention to marry me.. and finally got on his knees and asked if Id marry him! Sooooo.. here's my concern! Would the fact that Ive been his aupair a reason to have our petition denied? They [my fiance and the x-wife] were going through the divorce process when I moved in, and they got officially divorced on sept 23rd. We did joke around about it saying it was my bday present. My bday was on the 24th. Well.. We sent the package on Aug 19th and on the 24th we had received our NOA 1. So its been a little bit more than 1 month since we had our 1st NOA, I know we are in time to get it, but I wonder so much about it.

Oh, here is another point, that I dont think it would be an issue but I want to share. Im 23 and he is 33. We cant tell the difference, we cant feel, we feel just the same. Just a man and a woman that love each other. Also, today he has 100% of the kids custody. So Im a step-mom to be. Hahahaha

We really fell in love and our relationship is not a sham. Since I came back to Brazil we have gone through really hard moments, but love has kept us. So I really get worried about it..

What do u guys think about our situation?

Tks in advance for any reponse.

And sorry for writing so much.

[lyekka 5]

Hello everyone!

At first, I wanna let you guys know Im not an English speaker so I apologize for my dramatic erros, at 2nd I have something that is really bugging me and Id like to have some opinions to see if I can calm down about it.

Im from Brazil, and I was an aupair for one year last year. Jan/2008 to Feb/2009

I went to a determinate state, but after 3 months with the family the match wasnt going good and I we needed a rematch. I wanted so bad to find a family in the same state cuz I already had a bf. Tks God I found a family, met them, and we figured out we could do it together. I got aware about the family's needs and so they did about mine. So everything seemed perfect, I moved from the small community to town! I didnt leave that state wich I really liked, and also the boyfriend, and I was living in the capital. Perfeeect.

The problem in this family, for me wasnt a problem actually.. I was sort of blind with my needs, and the fact of it be a family with no mom didnt affect my decision. I took care of 1 girl age 5 at the time, and a boy age 3, both really busy during the whole week. The new family had 3 boys, ages 7, 5, 2, not that busy, so Id be busy. Aahahaha. And I was.

I love kids no matter what, and I liked the boys when I met the family. So, for me it would be a fun challenge, and for sure an awesome experience when its my turn to be a mom (my greatest dream btw). So, the single dad wasnt an issue for me. He seemed respectfull guy, a really good dad, and it seemed we could be good friends. Since the 1st email we extended I felt like I knew him forever. I was not really worried about it. Anyways, the mom moved out after moving back in and out guess 2x. The mother of the kids moved out for good in March, and I moved in in May. And at the time they were sharing the kids custody.. 50/50.

A few days after moving in, my bf and I broke up. Such crazy days worried about finding a new family in that State and breaking up a few days later. |o| Well, that was sad just for 2 days basically, cause I was having so much fun in my new life. I used to work hard, but I was able to have fun as much as I could, so it was really Ok!! So, everything was fine, and the father of the kids and I were becoming friends.. and with time we turned into good friends.

Well.. time passed by, and my host and I were getting even closer. We started having some dates. First kiss.. and more dates and more and more , and in September 18th, 2008 we started our relationship.

And here we are.... engaged!!! Its been 8 months since I got back from the States, and 3 since I saw him for the last time. He came to spend sometime with me in Brazil in July. He met my whole family and a bunch of friends, told my parents his intention to marry me.. and finally got on his knees and asked if Id marry him! Sooooo.. here's my concern! Would the fact that Ive been his aupair a reason to have our petition denied? They [my fiance and the x-wife] were going through the divorce process when I moved in, and they got officially divorced on sept 23rd. We did joke around about it saying it was my bday present. My bday was on the 24th. Well.. We sent the package on Aug 19th and on the 24th we had received our NOA 1. So its been a little bit more than 1 month since we had our 1st NOA, I know we are in time to get it, but I wonder so much about it.

Oh, here is another point, that I dont think it would be an issue but I want to share. Im 23 and he is 33. We cant tell the difference, we cant feel, we feel just the same. Just a man and a woman that love each other. Also, today he has 100% of the kids custody. So Im a step-mom to be. Hahahaha

We really fell in love and our relationship is not a sham. Since I came back to Brazil we have gone through really hard moments, but love has kept us. So I really get worried about it..

What do u guys think about our situation?

Tks in advance for any reponse.

And sorry for writing so much.

I wouldnt worry about that. From what I have learned going through all of this is if you can substantiate your relationship as being valid and real, then everything should be ok. I met my fiance on an online video game lol. Its not how you met them, but that you have met them, and you guys have been together in the last 2 years that they will need you to prove. Dont stress about how your relationship started. Just be honest. Good luck!

Edited October 6, 2009 by lyekka

[Gary and Alla 3,696]

I am going to consider this my required Romance Novel reading for the month. PLEASE tell youir fiance NOT to include all this in his answer to question 18

None of this will affect your petition or visa filing. Make sure your J1 visa does not have a "residncy requirement" that you return to your home country for 2 years before being eligible for another visa. If it has this, it will say so on the visa.

Good luck.