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I've noticed a lot of VJ'ers have a civil wedding first and then a formal ceremony later.

My question is . . . which date do you celebrate as your wedding anniversary?


02.09.2007- Met online (EverQuest 2)

07.11.2008- Met in person (Orlando)

02.14.2009- Got engaged (Toronto)

K-1

03.13.2009- NOA 1

08.24.2009- NOA 2

11.20.2009- Montreal Interview Approved!!

02.01.2010- POE @ Lewiston Bridge

02.25.2010- Applied for SS#

04.29.2010- Beach Wedding!!

AOS

05.27.2010- NOA 1 for I-131, I-485 & I-765

06.18.2010- I-485 transferred to CSC

06.21.2010- Biometrics

07.22.2010- EAD & AP approved

10.28.2010- RFE for I-485- They lost our medical!

12.09.2010- Green Card in hand!

ROC

09.14.2012- Mailed I-751 to VSC

10.26.2012- Biometrics

04.11.2013- 10 Year Green Card approved! No interview :)

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We will celebrate both!

So Sapphire since yours are over a year apart, 5 years from now will you say you have been married for 5 or 4 years?


02.09.2007- Met online (EverQuest 2)

07.11.2008- Met in person (Orlando)

02.14.2009- Got engaged (Toronto)

K-1

03.13.2009- NOA 1

08.24.2009- NOA 2

11.20.2009- Montreal Interview Approved!!

02.01.2010- POE @ Lewiston Bridge

02.25.2010- Applied for SS#

04.29.2010- Beach Wedding!!

AOS

05.27.2010- NOA 1 for I-131, I-485 & I-765

06.18.2010- I-485 transferred to CSC

06.21.2010- Biometrics

07.22.2010- EAD & AP approved

10.28.2010- RFE for I-485- They lost our medical!

12.09.2010- Green Card in hand!

ROC

09.14.2012- Mailed I-751 to VSC

10.26.2012- Biometrics

04.11.2013- 10 Year Green Card approved! No interview :)

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Definitely celebrate BOTH !!! Not married, yet, but one will be in Vegas (later next month), the other in Campos dos Goytacazes Brazil next Spring.

Why not? Celebrate the love and commitment for one another!!! GRIN.


04/2008: First Met in Person - Macae Brazil

04/2008-07/2008: Corresponded

08/15/2008: Second Trip to Brazil

10/16/2008: Third Trip to Brazil

10/16/2008: Engaged

11/18/2008: K-1 129F Filed w/USCIS

11/20/2008: NOA1 Received

12/19/2008: Fourth Trip to Brazil

02/17/2009: Fifth Trip to Brazil

03/06/2009: Sixth Trip to Brazil

04/14/2009: NOA2 Email – APPROVED (HURRAY <"OBA" as they say in Brazil> !!!!)

04/17/2009: NVC Recv'd Approved K-1 Petition From USCIS; “AP” Advised By Phone (ARGH! All that VSC wait & here we go again !!!!)

04/23/2009: Seventh Trip to Brazil

05/18/2009: RELEASED FROM NVC !!! On the way to the Rio Consulate (FINALLY !!!)

05/28/2009: Eight Trip to Brazil

06/30/2009: Consulate Interview Rio and APPROVAL!!!!

07/16/2009: Final Trip to Brazil before entry to the USA

07/30/2009: Mike on work trip to Singapore for 9 days, return 08/08/2009

08/09/2009: Miche scheduled entry to the USA!! POE Houston

08/10/2009: Closed on new home

08/20/2009: Married in Las Vegas

10/27/2009: Filed I-485/I-131/I-765 with Chicago CIS Office

11/03/2009: NOA1's Received for I-485/I-131/I-765

11/09/2009: Biometrics Appointment Notice Received for 11/18/2009

11/21/2009: I-485 RFE Received; responded 12/07/09 (Birth Certificate Translation)

12/15/2009: Touched

12/18/2009: Touched

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Definitely celebrate BOTH !!! Not married, yet, but one will be in Vegas (later next month), the other in Campos dos Goytacazes Brazil next Spring.

Why not? Celebrate the love and commitment for one another!!! GRIN.

Ok, let me ask this another way. When you go to get something engraved with your wedding date on it, which will you chose? I am not being picky, it's just that we will most likely do a civil ceremony followed by a formal ceremony and I was wondering which date to use for personalized things.


02.09.2007- Met online (EverQuest 2)

07.11.2008- Met in person (Orlando)

02.14.2009- Got engaged (Toronto)

K-1

03.13.2009- NOA 1

08.24.2009- NOA 2

11.20.2009- Montreal Interview Approved!!

02.01.2010- POE @ Lewiston Bridge

02.25.2010- Applied for SS#

04.29.2010- Beach Wedding!!

AOS

05.27.2010- NOA 1 for I-131, I-485 & I-765

06.18.2010- I-485 transferred to CSC

06.21.2010- Biometrics

07.22.2010- EAD & AP approved

10.28.2010- RFE for I-485- They lost our medical!

12.09.2010- Green Card in hand!

ROC

09.14.2012- Mailed I-751 to VSC

10.26.2012- Biometrics

04.11.2013- 10 Year Green Card approved! No interview :)

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Definitely celebrate BOTH !!! Not married, yet, but one will be in Vegas (later next month), the other in Campos dos Goytacazes Brazil next Spring.

Why not? Celebrate the love and commitment for one another!!! GRIN.

Ok, let me ask this another way. When you go to get something engraved with your wedding date on it, which will you chose? I am not being picky, it's just that we will most likely do a civil ceremony followed by a formal ceremony and I was wondering which date to use for personalized things.

We're getting our rings engraved with Sept. 4, 2010. We don't wear wedding rings now either, only will after our celebration with friends and family. To me, that is our "wedding" day. Nov. 22, 2008 was simply a legal recognition - but we still toast to it! On our 6-month anniversary we noted it :D

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K-1

I-129F sent to Vermont: 2/19/08

NOA1: 2/21/08

NOA2: 3/10/08

Packet 3 recd: 3/25/08

Packet 3 sent: 4/18/08

Appt letter recd: 6/16/08

Interview at Montreal Consulate: 7/10/08 **APPROVED!!**

K1 recd: 7/15/08

US Entry at Buffalo, New York: 11/15/08

Wedding in Philadelphia: 11/22/08

AOS

AOS/EAD/AP filed at Chicago Lockbox: 12/17/08

NOA: 12/29/08

Case transferred to CSC: 1/7/09

AOS Approval: 4/2/09

Biometrics appt: 1/16/09

EAD received: 3/12/09

AP received: 3/13/09

AOS approval notice sent: 4/2/09

GC received: 4/9/09

ROC

Sent package to VSC: 1/5/11

NOA1: 1/7/11

Biometrics: 2/14/11

Approval letter received: 8/1/11

GC received: 8/11/11

Citizenship:

N-400 sent to Dallas lockbox: 3/1/12

NOA1: 3/6/12

Biometrics: 4/9/12

Interview: 5/25/12

Oath Ceremony: 6/4/2012

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Definitely celebrate BOTH !!! Not married, yet, but one will be in Vegas (later next month), the other in Campos dos Goytacazes Brazil next Spring.

Why not? Celebrate the love and commitment for one another!!! GRIN.

Ok, let me ask this another way. When you go to get something engraved with your wedding date on it, which will you chose? I am not being picky, it's just that we will most likely do a civil ceremony followed by a formal ceremony and I was wondering which date to use for personalized things.

I'm not included in this question, as we just had one ceremony/wedding, however while it's lovely to celebrate both, if you're looking at engraving, or even telling people how long you've been married, shouldn't you be using the date that it became "legal"? I'm just thinking of it in terms of people who say live together for two years, then get married. They don't say they've been married for four, they say two. The ceremony that made it legal, the one that you have to put down on government forms and such, should be the one that you should perhaps have engraved as the wedding date. Just my opinion!


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My husband likes to celebrate both. But that's only because he has a backup date in case he forgets the legal wedding. :hehe: I've got to say that having two wedding dates is a pita when it comes to filling out paperwork, because you have to remember which date is which. Plus it's very confusing for everyone. You're being constantly asked which date was your wedding. Or they don't remember that you were actually married long before the ceremony. My MIL sent two anniversary cards this last "anniversaries"..... one for each "wedding". Enough time had passed where she had forgotten she'd already sent us one on our real wedding date. It honestly irritates me that we have two.


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My husband and I were just takling about this last night.

Our legal wedding was May 29th, 2007. Our actual wedding ceremony was Sept. 14th, 2007. We celebrated the Sept. 14th one last year. But, technically, I've been married for over two years now. It's hard to keep the dates straight.


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My eyes filled with grit

My skin's white then brown

My lips chapped and split

I've lain on the prairie and heard grasses sigh

I've stared at the vast open bowl of the sky

I've seen all the castles and faces in clouds

My home is the prairie and for that I am proud…

If You're not from the Prairie, you can't know my soul

You don't know our blizzards; you've not fought our cold

You can't know my mind, nor ever my heart

Unless deep within you there's somehow a part…

A part of these things that I've said that I know,

The wind, sky and earth, the storms and the snow.

Best say that you have - and then we'll be one,

For we will have shared that same blazing sun." - David Bouchard

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I know what you're asking - but somehow it offends me a little. The civil ceremony is a 'real' wedding date. For some it's the one and only.

Anyhoo, I only had 1 day - I wouldn't have been bothered doing it twice, but it was a cross between civil and religious since a friend of ours is a Navy minister - very non-demonational. Made the parents happy


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We will celebrate both!

So Sapphire since yours are over a year apart, 5 years from now will you say you have been married for 5 or 4 years?

We will use the first date to calculate if anyone ever asks us.

Definitely celebrate BOTH !!! Not married, yet, but one will be in Vegas (later next month), the other in Campos dos Goytacazes Brazil next Spring.

Why not? Celebrate the love and commitment for one another!!! GRIN.

Ok, let me ask this another way. When you go to get something engraved with your wedding date on it, which will you chose? I am not being picky, it's just that we will most likely do a civil ceremony followed by a formal ceremony and I was wondering which date to use for personalized things.

We are actually getting our wedding bands engraved with both dates. One date on one side, and the other date on the other side...

We are going on two honeymoons too. Why not, right?!


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We will have two, but we're going to have them fall on the same date, Sept 13, one year apart.

We had our Buddhist ceremony with Thanti's family and friends in Thailand on Sept 13 2008. As far as her mom is concerned, that's the date that counts, when the monks were present and we went through the full ritual.

She's now finally here in the US on K-1 and we will have a legal wedding to comply with the K1 visa and begin her AOS process. Initially we were just going to do a quick wedding at the county clerk offices. But we've decided that we will make a bit of a to-do out of it after all. So we'll get married in Niagara Falls NY which will allow my parents in Ottawa and friends in family in Toronto and the NY/NJ and Pittsburgh areas to come. It will be just a civil ceremony, I had a big Jewish wedding for my first marriage many years ago, and have no desire to repeat that. It just turns out nicely that Sept 13 2009 is a Sunday this year (one week after Labor Day weekend, one week before Rosh Hashana) which makes it an ideal weekend to have a wedding by the Falls. Thanti won't be able to cross into Canada of course till she has her AP, but we can always go back to the Falls in the future, and see it from both sides of the border.

We had our matching rings inscribed with 09.13.2008 last year for the Buddhist ceremony, and have been wearing them since last year. I think we'll just "re-give" the rings to each other on 09.13.2009. In years to come we can celebrate Sept 13 as the double anniversary of both events.

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