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Filed: IR-1/CR-1 Visa Country: Colombia
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This is the second case I've read about on VJ in the last 3 weeks that involves a foreign-born male spouse walking out on his USC wife abruptly. Both shared one common parameter...that the USC (wife) was the one to propose marriage in the first place. Call me old-fashioned, but I'd recommend next time to wait for the guy to do the proposing. Not that it changes anything, necessarily, but it just might alter his perception (erroneously, perhaps) of just what a commitment to marriage should be.

Sorry to hear about this but sometimes things do not work out.. I will pray and keep you both in my thoughts..

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As I have too, but the point I was making is that in typical traditional roles, it is the male that proposes. Note that I am suggesting tradition, and not passing judgment. I just have to wonder if when a woman makes the proposal, or rather, has to make the proposal because conceivably, he has not, whether that in itself is an indication of the lack of willingness on the male to make the proper commitment. That's all.

This is the second case I've read about on VJ in the last 3 weeks that involves a foreign-born male spouse walking out on his USC wife abruptly. Both shared one common parameter...that the USC (wife) was the one to propose marriage in the first place. Call me old-fashioned, but I'd recommend next time to wait for the guy to do the proposing. Not that it changes anything, necessarily, but it just might alter his perception (erroneously, perhaps) of just what a commitment to marriage should be.

I've seen just as many situations where the USC was a male and she walked out...

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Filed: Citizen (apr) Country: Colombia
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I also think this can depend on the country and traditions of said country. As stated by Diaddie it is usually the Man asking the woman, even though we are in the 21st century many old traditions still stand......

However I do not get why go to immigration? He is a citizen period.....Why think now after all this time it was for papers? That will kill you inside.

Try your best to move on and not make the same mistakes again if and when you find someone else.

As I have too, but the point I was making is that in typical traditional roles, it is the male that proposes. Note that I am suggesting tradition, and not passing judgment. I just have to wonder if when a woman makes the proposal, or rather, has to make the proposal because conceivably, he has not, whether that in itself is an indication of the lack of willingness on the male to make the proper commitment. That's all.
This is the second case I've read about on VJ in the last 3 weeks that involves a foreign-born male spouse walking out on his USC wife abruptly. Both shared one common parameter...that the USC (wife) was the one to propose marriage in the first place. Call me old-fashioned, but I'd recommend next time to wait for the guy to do the proposing. Not that it changes anything, necessarily, but it just might alter his perception (erroneously, perhaps) of just what a commitment to marriage should be.

I've seen just as many situations where the USC was a male and she walked out...

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Take this from someone who has been dragged through the court system for violating a no-contact order. (my reason was over $19,000 in child support my ex was trying to screw me over, and the sale of our house....long story, but it was just to ask her something and I sent to jail for 7 days) DON"T DO IT by any means...txt message,friend,phone,email,IM,letter, 3rd party, ####### it doesn't matter YOU can not have any contact with him at all.The cops might let it pass one time but after that YOU will go to jail, even if you have kids. This is not something to $%^& around with.

As for your stuff you have all the legal right to it with or without a lawyer. Contact your local police (sheriff works better sometimes) and they must allow you 15 minutes to get your stuff. This is the LAW. What will happen here is they will escort you onto the property and you have 15 minutes to get your stuff. It must be your stuff...clothing,papers with your name, stuff that is obviously a yours and not his. Things you cant take...tv's,guns,computers,food that sort of stuff. The rest you have to fight it out in court. You had better start making a list of community property that you either want or want sold.

Good luck.

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Best thing to do now is to get better and feel better, that is step one.

You can not resolve anything or think straight if you are not feeling good in your spirit, with yourself.

I can understand the frustration and believe me, I know it is hard to get over it, but when these confused feelings hit you, do something that makes you feel good. Put some loud happy music on, dance on the living room, call a friend that you dont see for a long time, pray if you are religious, feed the birds, do something to dont think about these things while they insist in being in your mind.

I believe when you are feeling better and in peace with yourself, you will see through this and see the solution for this more clear.

Have faith in yourself and that maybe if that happened now, it is to bring you better things and better days.

Stay good, and God bless you!!!

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I am so sorry to hear all that has happend to you, I agree, you need to seek leagal advice ASAP!!!! I pray that all works out for you & your family..Blessings

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I say forgetaboutem and go on a road trip! Let your hair down, grab a cheeky girlfriend, and see Thunder Down Under in Vegas at the Excalibur! :devil: Unless of course that reminds you of him. :innocent: Vegas is having killer deals right now. If you choose to stay home and mope around at least buy some cheery flowers for the window or table. I also say forget about the old stuff he took. It will only remind you of him. Take the opportunity to reinvent yourself and your life because the message is clear he doesn't want you anywhere near him so go out and buy all new thing! Paint the walls the color you always wanted and get a new bed and sheets. Take this time to process it but still be true to yourself and love yourself and rediscover the beautiful person you are and the sweet precious heart that you have to treasure forever. (F)

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hello friends once agian.... well things just keep getting worse and worse

got a call yesterday from my lawyer that he had signed some type of paper (querella) cant remmeber it in english sorry but now i have a hearing this thuesday at 2 pm if , shes finds probable cause im getting sent to jail that same afternoon if i dont come with any bail money ( assuming she would put bail) i dont get any chances as comunity service, one of them gadgets like house arrest nothing i go in to the pen thats it !!!

why???.... because before it was brett VS yaleidy now its the state (territory) of PuertoRico VS yaleidy :blink: this is absolutly ba-ba bull #######!!!!!!

couldnt get much worse than that i havent contacted him i have actually have some people come up to me to tell em they have seen him and that hes not doing well

also friday night july 10th he called my baby sister i was with her in the car he asked for me asked if i was alright and then told her to tell me he was ok ( HES THE ONE DOING THE VIOLATION!!!) ok so.... i know i can use that against him but he called from an unknown number

thank you all for the support and advice i know i cant do anythgin with immigration since hes a citizen now i can think clearly better now so thank you , it was with the initial shock i didnt know what to do as for material posessions i dont care my personal documents its what i want more than anything, as for getting htem back i cant even with a cop because since i have a restraning order i cant know when he is and the wont let me get it untill everything is over and done with.

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Oct 29 2004 Met on LDSPLANET

Oct 30 2004 First phone call....EVERY DAY till this day

Dec 25 2004 I asked him to MARRY me and he said Yes

March 19 2005 took out my passport now i need to wait

April 19 2005 I GOT MY PASSPORT !!!!

April 21 2005 NENNE booked his flight he get here on June 29th YES!!!!

May 9 2005 I-130 Packet and Packet 3 are being sent off to us !!!

May 15 2005 Recived packet 1-3

June 29 2005 Nenne arrived in Puerto Rico

July 2 2005 GOT MARRIEDbadassbuddy_com-inlove2.gif

July 11 2005 Got our Marriage Certificate

Leaving August 17th to Australia and file for DCF !!!

July 19 2005 Got interview date on Sept. 6

August 17th Got to AUSTRALIA !!!

SEPTEMBER 6 DCF (CR1)WE GOT APPROVED !!!!

September 9 2005 Recived VISA in mail

November 24 2005 Nennes POE GUAM

November 26 2005 Arrived in Puerto Rico

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September 10 2007 sending off the I-571

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ok like i said i do admit we had a fight and did hit each other ok thats clear ....

what i dont know is if in the time that he whent to hte cop station and the judge if he hit himself asked some one to do it for to hit him harder to show brusing i dont know and i dont know what he could have said all i know is that it must be extremly bad for the juege to have said that if she finds probable cause im going to jail

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Oct 29 2004 Met on LDSPLANET

Oct 30 2004 First phone call....EVERY DAY till this day

Dec 25 2004 I asked him to MARRY me and he said Yes

March 19 2005 took out my passport now i need to wait

April 19 2005 I GOT MY PASSPORT !!!!

April 21 2005 NENNE booked his flight he get here on June 29th YES!!!!

May 9 2005 I-130 Packet and Packet 3 are being sent off to us !!!

May 15 2005 Recived packet 1-3

June 29 2005 Nenne arrived in Puerto Rico

July 2 2005 GOT MARRIEDbadassbuddy_com-inlove2.gif

July 11 2005 Got our Marriage Certificate

Leaving August 17th to Australia and file for DCF !!!

July 19 2005 Got interview date on Sept. 6

August 17th Got to AUSTRALIA !!!

SEPTEMBER 6 DCF (CR1)WE GOT APPROVED !!!!

September 9 2005 Recived VISA in mail

November 24 2005 Nennes POE GUAM

November 26 2005 Arrived in Puerto Rico

Married for 3 years and counting

September 10 2007 sending off the I-571

Sept 2007 sent forms Aug 2008 got 10 yr Green Card

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Good luck this Tuesday, I hope you find support with your family and friends and that everythink works the best for both of you.

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WHAT??????? Why would you be going to jail? is there something we are missing here?

He has convinced the court that she has violated the restraining order ...

Remember she posted her sister went to see him ... and he claimed the sister was really her ...

My guess is that is what this hearing is about and if the judge finds that she did indeed violate the restraining order she will go to jail ...

She should be sure to take her sister with her as a witness ...

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you have the right to appeal a restraining order decision i believe

i take it that is why you goto court?

remove yourself from contact with him however painfull it is, he obviously had a plan and knew how to quickly get a restraining order.

in a marriage ALL property is considered CUMMUNAL assets...meaning it belongs to both of you. If he doesn't outright wish to give you items you will have to take that up in divorce court.

get an atty

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stop admitting guilt by talking about hitting him...that will screw you in the end as he will probably now claim a fault divorce based off of abuse by you.

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