I Believe Someone May Attempt to Block the Visa

[fozzie 41]

I am sorry but I do have to say this. If I was in your situation where I felt that someone was out to get me and doing all the things you have talked about. the last thing I would be doing is to be on-line in any way shape or form. I would stop using a computer or at least I would never connect it to the internet. I would stop discussing any of my personal business with anyone, including family, I would be keeping a very low profile. I would have my land line disconnected and use a cell phone, changing the number every 6 months.

I feel you are giving more credit to this person than they deserve. They have got to you and you are empowering them by taking the perceived threats to heart.

If you do not put out information about yourself then other can not find out about it.

People say this stuff like its no big deal. Stopping communication with everyyone, not living their life and hiding away is not an easy thing to do. I feel for the OP because they are in a very difficult position. Hopefully everything will be fine and you can start your new life in a new country. It may be easier at that point to cut this person out completely.

I would reccomend that you keep records of every instance of interference as it occurs. Print/save emails, record dates and times of phone calls and ask thos who you trust to do the same. Get affadavits from friends and co-workers attesting to the harrassment and to your charachter and current. relationship. That way if any thing should happen you are prepared to counter it. If this continues once you reach the US then go to the police. You have not mentioned which country you are from and as such we cannot advise you of how to stop this person now. There will no doubt be people from your country on VJ you may have a better insight.

Good luck.

[malapascua 0]

If you are going to frequent friends "myspace" and "facebook" profiles, or keep things like this online for the public to see - you may at least try posting false/decoy information to throw them off. Start posting that you are moving to another town, or are working at another location. If they already know you are doing a k1, then post tidbits of info to mislead when and where you may be going. It may send them on a wild goose chase trying to re-locate you and gather new info where there is really none to be found. Might at least tie up their time and distract them long enough for you to get through the process and leave. Don't post or communicate any real information anymore about the visa or your true destination once it is finished. This could be your chance to permanently escape this. Use it to your advantage. Stand up and take control of the wheel and turn this all around. You have a great opportunity by doing this process to use it to your advantage in more than one way.

“Let your plans be dark and as impenetratable as night, and when you move, fall like a thunderbolt.” - Sun Tzu

“Be extremely subtle, even to the point of formlessness. Be extremely mysterious, even to the point of soundlessness. Thereby you can be the director of the opponent's fate.” - Sun Tzu B)

"All warfare is based on deception." - Sun Tzu

"If you are far from the enemy, make him believe you are near." - Sun Tzu

"When overwhelmed, you don't fight; you surrender, compromise, or flee. Surrender is complete defeat, compromise is half defeat, flight is not defeat. As long as you are not defeated, you have another chance to win." - Sun Tzu

[rebeccajo 14]

So,

this person is outside the US, but they have ties to the US gov?

they stalk you online by using your friends profiles?

As someone else asked, how do they know where you work? even if they saw your profile through friends'..why would you list such info online? you probably havent, which means IF this is happening....you have a leak in your friend network. fix it.

who exactly did they contact to sabatoge you in the past...employers, ect?

I would say that you set your online profiles to private. Dont worry about the visa process, even if by some slim chance the person contacted some agency that listened to whatever wild claim...they would have to investigate it.

I don't think the OP's story is any more far out than some of the claims of your friend, Narina.

[ThaitoUSA 15]

This is a troll. Anyone else can believe whatever they like, but that is the fact.

[Kathryn41 3,207]

I agree with fozzie - document every episode, every instance where you have a problem with this person. Then, you will have a running commentary that will go back years. Record everytime you have had to change an account or get a new password, every unexplained phonecall, every email. Keep copies. Set up a file where you have everything listed. At the very least if there is ever a question about this person's word vs yours you can document that this individual is obsessed with you and doing whatever they can to interfere with you. It will negate any credibility that individual has.

For the next little while you really would be well advised to keep a very low profile - no facebook, no myspace, no twitter, no nothing. It is only a temporary time while the visa is being processed. While it is difficult when you are used to that level of connection, think of it as flying below the radar. Don't discuss your plans in any details with your friends or your family until it it is over and done with. You could even float some 'false information' if you feel someone is leaking your personal business to this individual - nothing too serious, but along the lines of getting a different job, or not being involved with anyone right now, information that isn't true but that wouldn't matter if found out. You might even be able to track which individual is passing along your personal business.

Good luck with your situation.

[johndecka 0]

I think you need to Calm urself down and talked to ur petitioner abt this.

He may give u good advice. He may think u r just too paranoid.

And also u should go see a psychiatrist for ur own good.

Change ur email and change ur phone #.

ANd dont ever Open ur old emails.

[AnnexoxShay 1]

This is a troll. Anyone else can believe whatever they like, but that is the fact.

I am not sure if this person is a troll or not but theyre story definately has me curious ... My mother has had a stalker for several years and the irrational take on the situation is very similar ... I think the OP has become very paranoid about the situation and is seeing boogy men in dark corners were they may not really be lurking... I know mums like that when she thinks her fool stalker has found her again .... She has reported him to police etc and they also dont take her seriously because he has never done anything except send her flowers and leave her little notes, nothing that could be interpreted as threatening but a threat doesnt need to be physical to emotionally hurt you... Ive read some of the notes and honestly he seems more like a misguided admirer and he doesnt seem to understand the stress he is causing my mother ....

I also went thru something similar with my fiance when we first met ... he had a bad break up with his ex-fiance (she cheated and ran off with a relative) and she took to signing him up on gay sites .... I lost track of how many gay site we had to go thru to find profiles that she had set up for him and contact admin to have the profiles removed ... This woman also lives in his small town and enjoys sabitotaging his life if she gets an opportunity, she is now married to a relative and my fiance has to be careful there mail doesnt get mixed up in their POBox's or she will destroy it ... she has caused endless rifts within the family etc ... At the moment things are settled but its only a matter of time before the timebomb goes off as it has several times over the years and usually its over something trivial and then we start on the gay sites, slandering etc allllll over again...

[ellmvl 1]

There is nothing to worry if you believe you are in the "good side" Stalkers are just playing head games and if you let them affect you, then they win...you lose. I suggest you cut all the possible leak of information that could feed them. People from long time ago manage to live and happy with their friends without these social networking that we have now. Your friends will still be your friend even if you don't have profiles on their facebook or myspace. If possible change your email add too. If you cut all the possible way for him to contact you, then you have a "worry free life". I understand how hard it is to deal with this problem...just stay strong and don't let this person ruin your life. You have let go of that fear and guilt that you may have done in your past. Everyone deserves to be happy...so dont let other people deprive you that.

With regards to your petition, you better hire a lawyer who can give you the right advice and the right action to make just in case you'll get a problem along the process. I am just wondering if your fiance know all about this stalker thing. It is a good idea that both of you are prepared for every possible problem that you'll be facing along the way...and it is VERY important that he trust you.

There is no one in this world that we can truly depend on at times like this...only God. Pray and everything will be ok. Keep smiling

[Sailor Moon 2]

is there PHYSIATRIEST in house ,someone here need to see one

[Old Dominion 26]

My take is that this is a very real situation, and character assassination CAN happen. Nothing for the OP to do, except hold her head high and mush along, keeping her personal life to herself and not sharing details of the immigration matter with ANYONE. No doubt that other jealous folk have tried to get USCIS to derail, but I am sure the government is quick to spot these kinds of falsehoods. Just give ammunition to no one, no one at all.

Such jealousy on the part of an individual in my life once cost me a job I had hoped to get, due to doubts planted among the interview committee. I kept my integrity and moved on.

[Paul & Evelyn 0]

I don't know if you're paranoid or not. Only your doctor knows for sure. But for now, let's just say I believe you.

Your recipe for success was written in some of the Zen-like comments made by ‘malapascua', which are right on target. My daddy would remind me of something a little less Zen-like: Pick your battles carefully. This is not a time when you take this person on head-on with restraining orders and the like. This is a time to keep your head down, stay off that person’s radar scope and not let this person have the slightest clue about what you are doing. If this person already knows you are contemplating a K-1, then it’s time for mis-direction and counter-intelligence. Forgive me for adapting an old expression to this situation, but what he don’t know won’t hurt you. If you need advice out here, write directly to some of the members and you will be ok.

[sj5 4]

Why would you think someone blocking your visa? Nobody can do it

[Corinthians 7]

You can't escape the cigarette smoking man.

[R and F 34]

Man I thought that my life was wild, I wish you the best in your visa situation with your partner and I know that things will turn out great for you. Stand firm and always ask for guidance from the top.

[r0yalflush 0]

here is the answer you are looking for " There's no way in hell they can do anything to hurt your k-1, now you can stop stressing and sleep good