Removing conditions

[mrsking 0]

Hi, I am just new on this site, My husband and I is been having a difficulty on marriage so we both decided to end this relationship since it really wont work out anymore when I was with him I am the one ask a divorce from him because I cannot take it anymore with him having no freedom and verbal abuse. And about 5 years ago I meet an American and we have a relationship on that time but our communication was cut off because of the people around us and thought he is not coming back into my life forever and I decided to move with my life and just look for someone else and which is my husband now who are verbally abusing me counting every nickle he spent for me and all kind of things about my family. And anyway until I come here to america and my first american boyfriend find it out that I am here and he is still single and after 5 years he still love me and the same also with me I did not realize that I still have love for him after all those years, We start talking last December 2007 and I am still on temporary greencard and it will be expire next year June 14, 2009, My husband find out that I talk to this man, he find it out and about for a couple of weeks the divorce will be final and he filed to the immigration to withdraw his petition for me as a person who are responsible for me while I am in America and he included their all the documents about me and this guy's conversation, I talk to him so that I have somebody to listen all the pain while I have no freedom with him everything is in control I cannot almost breath and verbally hurting me, Am I going to be deported back to Philippines for this? If I get deported can I still come back to the United States? Is their still a chance for me to stay in America eventhough we are divorce and he withdraw his petition for me? Can I go to the other guy since we are divorce? Am I going to be in prison for talking other the other guy while I am still married with him? Hope anybody can help me here. Thank you.

[Donna A 4]

i can answer one of your questions....no u wont go to prison for talking to the other guy. ill leave the other questions for someone else.

[NickD 203]

i can answer one of your questions....no u wont go to prison for talking to the other guy. ill leave the other questions for someone else.

Interesting in that one out of every two marriages break up between two US citizens, wonder what the statistics are between a US citizen and an alien are since a whole ton of seemingly BS has to go through before you can get married, not to mention the expense.

Sounds like you settled for second best, is that a sound basis for entering into a marriage? What were you thinking? And I do not feel it is humanly possible to be madly in love with a person that doesn't return some of that love back Morally you should give back everything you have taken from him, but the courts do not seem to share that opinion. With immigration, you have the burden of proof on your shoulders to convince them that you did not marry this guy just to gain entry into this country. That you will have to work out for yourself.

Revenge is a very common human reaction that can get to be a very dangerous situation that takes a very serious attempt of tact to get out of, best to say you are sorry and make attempts for compensation.

[RichelRichel 1]

Hi, I am just new on this site, My husband and I is been having a difficulty on marriage so we both decided to end this relationship since it really wont work out anymore when I was with him I am the one ask a divorce from him because I cannot take it anymore with him having no freedom and verbal abuse. And about 5 years ago I meet an American and we have a relationship on that time but our communication was cut off because of the people around us and thought he is not coming back into my life forever and I decided to move with my life and just look for someone else and which is my husband now who are verbally abusing me counting every nickle he spent for me and all kind of things about my family. And anyway until I come here to america and my first american boyfriend find it out that I am here and he is still single and after 5 years he still love me and the same also with me I did not realize that I still have love for him after all those years, We start talking last December 2007 and I am still on temporary greencard and it will be expire next year June 14, 2009, My husband find out that I talk to this man, he find it out and about for a couple of weeks the divorce will be final and he filed to the immigration to withdraw his petition for me as a person who are responsible for me while I am in America and he included their all the documents about me and this guy's conversation, I talk to him so that I have somebody to listen all the pain while I have no freedom with him everything is in control I cannot almost breath and verbally hurting me, Am I going to be deported back to Philippines for this? If I get deported can I still come back to the United States? Is their still a chance for me to stay in America eventhough we are divorce and he withdraw his petition for me? Can I go to the other guy since we are divorce? Am I going to be in prison for talking other the other guy while I am still married with him? Hope anybody can help me here. Thank you.

Hello po. kakatapos ko lng po magbasa ng post nyo.Npakahirap po situation nyo. Try nyo po kaya mag-consult sa lawyer. Para madefend nyo po sarili nyo if ever anuman. You're married po, so may papanagutan din sya sa inyo. Kahit divorce na kayo.

About the conversations? You're just seeking for someone to listen to you, i guess so it's not bad.You haven't done any criminal case, so wala pong dahilan na makulong kayo. Kung magdivorce diba po haharap kayo sa judge niyan, tapos tatanungin kayo kung bakit kayo magdidivorce. Defend nyo po sarili nyo, sabihin nyo po kung ano niloloob nyo.

Ang hirap po talaga ng situation. It would really nice if you get the chance to talk and consult a lawyer for that.

At saka po, last but not the least, PRAY TO GOD. In times like this, SI GOD PO NANDYAN PLAGI. Everything happens for a reason. So hold tight po and pray.

Yon lang po masasabi ko po. Hope everything will fall into place. I'm praying for you po. Take care always and God bless.

[Lea_in_Brasil 0]

Hi, I am just new on this site, My husband and I is been having a difficulty on marriage so we both decided to end this relationship since it really wont work out anymore when I was with him I am the one ask a divorce from him because I cannot take it anymore with him having no freedom and verbal abuse. And about 5 years ago I meet an American and we have a relationship on that time but our communication was cut off because of the people around us and thought he is not coming back into my life forever and I decided to move with my life and just look for someone else and which is my husband now who are verbally abusing me counting every nickle he spent for me and all kind of things about my family. And anyway until I come here to america and my first american boyfriend find it out that I am here and he is still single and after 5 years he still love me and the same also with me I did not realize that I still have love for him after all those years, We start talking last December 2007 and I am still on temporary greencard and it will be expire next year June 14, 2009, My husband find out that I talk to this man, he find it out and about for a couple of weeks the divorce will be final and he filed to the immigration to withdraw his petition for me as a person who are responsible for me while I am in America and he included their all the documents about me and this guy's conversation, I talk to him so that I have somebody to listen all the pain while I have no freedom with him everything is in control I cannot almost breath and verbally hurting me, Am I going to be deported back to Philippines for this? If I get deported can I still come back to the United States? Is their still a chance for me to stay in America eventhough we are divorce and he withdraw his petition for me? Can I go to the other guy since we are divorce? Am I going to be in prison for talking other the other guy while I am still married with him? Hope anybody can help me here. Thank you.

I would definately talk to an immigration lawyer. These processes are very particular and when things get messy its better not to just guess and make assumptions on what to do. Get someone who knows what to do.

And I would stop talking to the guy until your divorce is finalized. For two reasons. One, it may cool your husband down and make things easier. And two, if you keep on and end up having to go home it will be difficult saying goodbye to a new boyfriend.

Good luck.

[cherr1980 1]

Actually long ago, when I was starting to do my AOS, was a case of a woman who married then divorce before the AOS was final, then remarried and got granted the second AOS based in her new marriage.

Saying that, every case is different.

In your case, first of all, to move on, you need to be divorced. Your husband withdraw which application? If you are talking about the I-130, that application was already approved and you are (conditional or not) a LPR. With divorce or not, he STILL will be responsible for you through the Affidavit of Support signed by him.

Back to your case, then if you have decided to divorce of him, then do so but because you think is the best thing for your life. Once you divorce and if you have enough evidence of your marriage life (before and after), financial evidence, etc then you can apply for the removal of your conditions on your own, since you will still be a conditional resident based in your first marriage.

Now, would be interesting to whom in immigration he sent those notes.

If you and the other guy are that serious, then you should contact an immigration lawyer. If you re-marry then you must go through a new AOS process, or probably, depending in your case, you can do the removal of conditions on your own first, or have both at the same times...I dont know. An immigration lawyer should tell you the best course of action.

My personal advice is that do not jump from one relationship to another. You think you are "ready" and you are not, and there are a lot of emotions and stuff going. Right now you come from a bad relationship and the other might seems wonderful which can be deceiving.

In general speaking right now nobody can throw you in jail just because your husband withdraw something that I doubt he is able to do or because he sent that...I mean how long since you was granted conditional residence you started having conversations or hanging out with this ex boyfriend? When you speak with a lawyer you should be open and clear about that part.

Good luck.