SO and I are currently in the process of applying for the K1 visa and received the NOA1, one month ago. We are now waiting.
6 weeks ago I visited him in the USA for 10 days. This was my first trip to the States, and North America in general. Then spent 6 weeks with my SO travelling around South East Asia.
I booked a second trip to the USA, this time lasting 9 weeks total. I arrived last week.
The immigration officer at LAX told me that a pattern was developing and that it looked like I was trying to come and live in the USA. I told him yes that I was trying to come and live in the USA, but not right now. I am doing it the right way with K1 visa. Right now I am just visiting my fiance on the ESTA visa, we have plans for a roadtrip and all that fun stuff. I had all paperwork (return flight, NOA1, proof of ties back home, proof of an extremely healthy bank account) with me but he wasn't interested in seeing any of it. He was very rude and abrupt. I wasn't selected for secondary questioning or anything.
he basically told me I shouldn't stay for the full 9 weeks otherwise it might affect getting my K1 visa. I asked how long I should stay for and he said "around a month-ish".
Is this true? Would he have input anything onto the computer to raise a flag if I don't depart within a month? Can this really affect my k1 visa? The guy was super rude, didnt want to see any of my paperwork, and to be honest it seemed like he was throwing his weight around a bit.
I checked my travel history status online and it says I'm good to stay until the end of the ESTA period in Jan 2018. There is no departure date set in the system.
I really really want to stay for the full 9 weeks. We have itineraries and domestic flights planned. I have an expensive flight out of the USA in mid-december.
I was thinking of consulting with an immigration lawyer but would like to hear your guys opinions on this.
Thanks in advance.