My husbands family forced him to divorce me, PLEASE I NEED ADVISE

[sandybabe_onuh 0]

Hi Everyone,

My husbands family forced him to file for a divorce from me, and it was granted yesterday in court in Kubwa Abuja Nigeria. My husband told me even before our marriage that, according to custom and cultural beliefs and that the elders of the family can and do have a say in younger ones lives, can do this.

Yes , my husband did file the divorce papers, but with very much pressure from his elders to do so. He says he can appeal to a higher court and have the divorce reversed.

My question here is, if the higher court does reverse the divorce, will this be a great issue when he goes for his interview for the I-130? Will explination to the consulate of why and what happened be acceptable to them?

Please, i need help and advice here, please.

Also, anyone else that has a spouse or fiance in nigeria, please contact me if you or your spouse or fiance knows anything about the reversal process of a divorce in Nigeria.

My God!!! I can't believe this is happening to us. Please pray all will be ok with us. We have waited over 3 1/2 yrs to finally be together and now after only 5 months of marriage, all this takes place.

Thanks in advance for any help or advise you can offer me.

god bless you all

sandybabe_onuh

[Ta Ta 1]

Your husband is a grown man and if he so choses can make his own decisions no matter who disagrees with him.

He had no problem marrying you in the first place so why are the elders having

a problem with it now ?

Is he a fullah ? Muslim ? What is his religious background ?

If he is a Christian it would seem very unusual to be pushed towards a divorce.

There is enough difficulty with the Lagos embassy as it is and to explain this scenario to them will in my opinon cause a big problem. I have never read about

anything like this on VJ.

Sounds to me you are divorced now and no longer qualify for the petition and may have to start all over.

It also sounds like he no longer wishes to be married and has made his choice for whatever reason.

Best wishes and I am sorry you have to go through this after all this time !

[pushbrk 12,093]

Hi Everyone,

My husbands family forced him to file for a divorce from me, and it was granted yesterday in court in Kubwa Abuja Nigeria. My husband told me even before our marriage that, according to custom and cultural beliefs and that the elders of the family can and do have a say in younger ones lives, can do this.

Yes , my husband did file the divorce papers, but with very much pressure from his elders to do so. He says he can appeal to a higher court and have the divorce reversed.

My question here is, if the higher court does reverse the divorce, will this be a great issue when he goes for his interview for the I-130? Will explination to the consulate of why and what happened be acceptable to them?

Please, i need help and advice here, please.

Also, anyone else that has a spouse or fiance in nigeria, please contact me if you or your spouse or fiance knows anything about the reversal process of a divorce in Nigeria.

My God!!! I can't believe this is happening to us. Please pray all will be ok with us. We have waited over 3 1/2 yrs to finally be together and now after only 5 months of marriage, all this takes place.

Thanks in advance for any help or advise you can offer me.

god bless you all

sandybabe_onuh

It is not clear to me whether your former husband wishes to be married to you and pursue a spouse visa. What is clear is that at the moment you are not married. If he choses to go to a higher court and reverse the divorce, and is successful before any visa interview is scheduled then you have a husband again and were technically never divorced.

What are his plans?

[Ta Ta 1]

Hi Everyone,

My husbands family forced him to file for a divorce from me, and it was granted yesterday in court in Kubwa Abuja Nigeria. My husband told me even before our marriage that, according to custom and cultural beliefs and that the elders of the family can and do have a say in younger ones lives, can do this.

Yes , my husband did file the divorce papers, but with very much pressure from his elders to do so. He says he can appeal to a higher court and have the divorce reversed.

My question here is, if the higher court does reverse the divorce, will this be a great issue when he goes for his interview for the I-130? Will explination to the consulate of why and what happened be acceptable to them?

Please, i need help and advice here, please.

Also, anyone else that has a spouse or fiance in nigeria, please contact me if you or your spouse or fiance knows anything about the reversal process of a divorce in Nigeria.

My God!!! I can't believe this is happening to us. Please pray all will be ok with us. We have waited over 3 1/2 yrs to finally be together and now after only 5 months of marriage, all this takes place.

Thanks in advance for any help or advise you can offer me.

god bless you all

sandybabe_onuh

It is not clear to me whether your former husband wishes to be married to you and pursue a spouse visa. What is clear is that at the moment you are not married. If he choses to go to a higher court and reverse the divorce, and is successful before any visa interview is scheduled then you have a husband again and were technically never divorced.

What are his plans?

If you will be put under AP/AR and they do document checks to verify

everything, this could still come up in the interview with so much bona fide trouble at Lagos

it will be a big hurdle to face the paper trail.

[doodlebug 3]

I'm sorry but if my husband EVER filed for divorce I don't care what pressure he was under he'd be h-i-s-t-o-r-y!!!!!

[^KK^ 3]

Gotta keep you head up on this one.. This is a tough situation.

[simple_male 1]

Hi Everyone,

My husbands family forced him to file for a divorce from me, and it was granted yesterday in court in Kubwa Abuja Nigeria. My husband told me even before our marriage that, according to custom and cultural beliefs and that the elders of the family can and do have a say in younger ones lives, can do this.

Yes , my husband did file the divorce papers, but with very much pressure from his elders to do so. He says he can appeal to a higher court and have the divorce reversed.

My question here is, if the higher court does reverse the divorce, will this be a great issue when he goes for his interview for the I-130? Will explination to the consulate of why and what happened be acceptable to them?

Please, i need help and advice here, please.

Also, anyone else that has a spouse or fiance in nigeria, please contact me if you or your spouse or fiance knows anything about the reversal process of a divorce in Nigeria.

My God!!! I can't believe this is happening to us. Please pray all will be ok with us. We have waited over 3 1/2 yrs to finally be together and now after only 5 months of marriage, all this takes place.

Thanks in advance for any help or advise you can offer me.

god bless you all

sandybabe_onuh

Life is not a joke. Talk to your husband what he wants. If he loves you, he won't bow down to his family pressure.

[Lance27 19]

I would agree on this one

Life is not a joke. Talk to your husband what he wants. If he loves you, he won't bow down to his family pressure.

If your husband's parents forced him... it was him and only him that went ahead with filing a divorce.

I love my parents dearly and respect them a lot but I would never ever bow down to pressure from anyone when it came to my family.

Hi Everyone,

My husbands family forced him to file for a divorce from me, and it was granted yesterday in court in Kubwa Abuja Nigeria. My husband told me even before our marriage that, according to custom and cultural beliefs and that the elders of the family can and do have a say in younger ones lives, can do this.

Yes , my husband did file the divorce papers, but with very much pressure from his elders to do so. He says he can appeal to a higher court and have the divorce reversed.

My question here is, if the higher court does reverse the divorce, will this be a great issue when he goes for his interview for the I-130? Will explination to the consulate of why and what happened be acceptable to them?

Please, i need help and advice here, please.

Also, anyone else that has a spouse or fiance in nigeria, please contact me if you or your spouse or fiance knows anything about the reversal process of a divorce in Nigeria.

My God!!! I can't believe this is happening to us. Please pray all will be ok with us. We have waited over 3 1/2 yrs to finally be together and now after only 5 months of marriage, all this takes place.

Thanks in advance for any help or advise you can offer me.

god bless you all

sandybabe_onuh

[I'm Mrs. Akindel 0]

WOW......WOW......The only thing I say is pray, if he Loved you as much as you Love him this would have never come up. After 3 1/2 years he was getting tired of being there without you. I certainly agree with the person that said he would be H-I-S-T-O-R-Y, OUTTA HERE, WITHOUT A CHANCE IN HE** TO GET ME BACK. He can't leave you and take you back at leisure, that's not what a marriage is about. When the visa was finally approved he would have been so far away from this people so why do their opinions matter. They dont There is no way that you can't bet this will not happen again. Now I think he married you for different reason other than Love. None-the-less you still have to pray and seek God for healing that he will make this a thing of the past and a learning experience. I am so sorry that happened to you. I hope that this will not happen to no one else

[Aymerlu 3]

I really don't know the whole situation, but your husband is an adult and needs to act like one. I don't care what my friends/family say, said or may say about my husband, he is MY HUSBAND and I love him. Nothing they can say, do, or tell me to do can change my mind on this. Your husband needed (needs) to stand up to his family. Best of luck to you

[Erica 0]

I am really, really sorry this has happened to you. The damage is done though: he filed, didn't do anything to reverse it, waited it out, and now the divorce is granted.

I'd be very wary of wanting this man in my life.

I'd think this is likely to come out through a background check by the embassy and I could see it being a problem too. I hope I'm wrong though. I also hope this man gets his act together and decides what he wants: to be an adult and in charge of his own life, or to be a slave to his family forever.

Best of luck, I do hope things work out

[doc_cute 0]

i feel u should talk to your husband what he wants

i am really sorry to hear all this

i really personally hate such physchotic men who care so much about thr families and doesnt care for their wife ,

prayers for you .

[BelwinMills 0]

I'm sorry but if my husband EVER filed for divorce I don't care what pressure he was under he'd be h-i-s-t-o-r-y!!!!!

Ditto and Amen to that!!!

[Divine Mercy 0]

Your husband is a grown man and if he so choses can make his own decisions no matter who disagrees with him.

He had no problem marrying you in the first place so why are the elders having

a problem with it now ?

Is he a fullah ? Muslim ? What is his religious background ?

If he is a Christian it would seem very unusual to be pushed towards a divorce.

There is enough difficulty with the Lagos embassy as it is and to explain this scenario to them will in my opinon cause a big problem. I have never read about

anything like this on VJ.

Sounds to me you are divorced now and no longer qualify for the petition and may have to start all over.

It also sounds like he no longer wishes to be married and has made his choice for whatever reason.

Best wishes and I am sorry you have to go through this after all this time !

That is one of the more important questions in getting to the bottom of this. What is his religious affiliation?

If he's a Christian he is supposed to leave his father and mother and cleave to his wife.

[Chica Yeyé 41]

Not for me to judge your husband or you. Sending good vibes and hoping you manage to encounter a solution is what I will do.

Hope it all works out, L.