How are the "older" vj members doing?

[Shoot Em Straight 385]

We ladies went through so much together on here....what is happening with everyone? Some of whom I stayed in touch with are divorced...not naming names. And myself we have had our ups and downs like every married couple. Still..... worth working on to stay together . My husband has grown so much living here in the US. I too have seen many things through his eyes....that I would not have noticed if it weren't for his perspective.

One thing that has been a sore spot for him is that where we live there are not many Moroccans Ok one but he is 2 cities away. I noticed B I G communities in Virginia, Orlando and Boston but here in So Cal we are still searching. We even spoke of possibly relocating in the U.S. to be closer to other Moroccan brothers in these communities. But now I say if that is what will make him happy lets just go back to Maroc and enjoy the family and friends there. The life there is simpler and I miss hearing the Adhan 5 x a day.

Would enjoy to hear anyone's story of how things are going after the visa and life in the U.S. with your Moroccan husband. Or Jordanian, Or Egyptian.Or MENA.

[EmmNM 179]

I'm still on my journey but I would also like to hear from past filers on how their MENA men are adjusting. 

[Jeanne Adil 1,651]

we  are in tennesee with several morrocans near enough to celebrate ramandan and EID

jobs in chattanooga are plentiful

welcome to visit and see the area

weather is mild to hot

some of the bigger muslim communities like the michican area are in such cold weather it would be a culture shock for a calfiornian

[Shoot Em Straight 385]

Well I am glad you asked...hahaha My husband did not want to come here. He wanted me to live with him there. He has been here for years now and I feel guilty keeping him away from his family and home. He really has no one here. Just me. Getting here was hard. Long and unknown process....but made us appreciate the visa that allowed him to come here, more. Adjusting to life here had its stumbling blocks. There is getting a drivers lic. finding a job. growing and finding a better job. And finding an even better job. Adjusting to the different attitudes people have here. He was always crushed by  clients/customers mean ways...and I had to always tell him not to take it so personal. People around here are rougher and it is just work. Being here without his friends  or common company is the hardest part for him. And Nothing I can do to replace this. We bought Tajines.. Fresh mint for his teas. He learnt to bake his own bread. He makes the best cous cous by now. Where he never cooked back home. Staying in touch with his friends via internet is just not the same as going out on the boat and fishing with them for the day, or playing bochi ball into the night. Or sitting and grabbing a coffee. But he still stays.  and we work our way through it...But I am telling ya, soon I will be posting from Morocco and posting pics too. We lived by the sea.

I had not anticipated the "empty" I cannot fulfill for him.  He has been back a few times. But by the 2 week mark like with vacations he is ready to return home

....so maybe more visits is the answer? I D K.

[Shoot Em Straight 385]

Watch out I might take you up on that offer. I love to travel and see new places. Just got rid of our second car and home is owned outright so we can be mobile. Also have a spare unit we rent that is vacant if you are interested in San Diego. hahaha

[EmmNM 179]

2 minutes ago, Inluv said:

Well I am glad you asked...hahaha My husband did not want to come here. He wanted me to live with him there. He has been here for years now and I feel guilty keeping him away from his family and home. He really has no one here. Just me. Getting here was hard. Long and unknown process....but made us appreciate the visa that allowed him to come here, more. Adjusting to life here had its stumbling blocks. There is getting a drivers lic. finding a job. growing and finding a better job. And finding an even better job. Adjusting to the different attitudes people have here. He was always crushed by  clients/customers mean ways...and I had to always tell him not to take it so personal. People around here are rougher and it is just work. Being here without his friends  or common company is the hardest part for him. And Nothing I can do to replace this. We bought Tajines.. Fresh mint for his teas. He learnt to bake his own bread. He makes the best cous cous by now. Where he never cooked back home. Staying in touch with his friends via internet is just not the same as going out on the boat and fishing with them for the day, or playing bochi ball into the night. Or sitting and grabbing a coffee. But he still stays.  and we work our way through it...But I am telling ya, soon I will be posting from Morocco and posting pics too. We lived by the sea.

I had not anticipated the "empty" I cannot fulfill for him.  He has been back a few times. But by the 2 week mark like with vacations he is ready to return home

....so maybe more visits is the answer? I D K.

Thank you for sharing.

[ayesha4akram 0]

Hi. I haven't been on this forum in a lonnnnnng time. Everything is going good on my side.  Ups and downs, like any marriage, but still in love hahahaha.

 

I will check out the forum, since it's been years, to see if I recognize anybody from 2007-2008. 

 

Anyway, hoping everyone has a great day/night. 

[mymarriagejourney 112]

I don't think I'm as much as an old-timer as some here.  We just celebrated our 6th anniversary.  Life is good and neither of us have any complaints.  My husband actually prefers interacting with Americans rather than Jordanians, so I can't address that issue.  He recently accepted a management job after working his way up through the ranks, so I can't address discrimination, either.