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Going through   5,668

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7 minutes ago, extremerecluse said:

Why so quick to conclude it is over? Why immediately after citizenship? Why insist that I file for divorce? After 6 years of a happy marriage? No infidelity, no abuse.....NOTHING!!!

You're not answering anyone's questions, and not really explaining anything other than a few sporadic posts here and there that don't really mention your wife's immigration circumstances so it's hard to give you proper advice without more coherent details.

 

Perhaps if you explain the situation you are in more, we can help you.

 

Right now it sounds like you need a marriage advice board, not an immigration advice board...

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This above quote says it best...     Don't know your spouse but your actions here will encourage sympathy for her. At least that's the case with me. I can see things turning sour if y

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Im not confused at all.   Op's wife recently naturalized and now wants a divorce   OP's wife wants him to file so that if she remarries another Filipino one day, it is a legally re

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But that doesnt answer any of the confusion in your post about how/to whom/when she claims she is a widow?  

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6 minutes ago, extremerecluse said:

Why so quick to conclude it is over? Why immediately after citizenship? Why insist that I file for divorce? After 6 years of a happy marriage? No infidelity, no abuse.....NOTHING!!!

Sounds like you need someone to talk to.  I suggest a counselor, pastor, etc... They would probably be better for you than an immigration forum.  I"m sorry this is happening to you. 

You have brains in your head. You have feet in your shoes. You can steer yourself any direction you choose.  - Dr. Seuss

 

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FWIW she wants YOU to initiate the divorce because then the divorce is legal in the PI.  If SHE initiates then she also has do an annulment in the PI to get married again.

You have brains in your head. You have feet in your shoes. You can steer yourself any direction you choose.  - Dr. Seuss

 

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13 minutes ago, extremerecluse said:

Why so quick to conclude it is over? Why immediately after citizenship? Why insist that I file for divorce? After 6 years of a happy marriage? No infidelity, no abuse.....NOTHING!!!

If she is insisting you file for divorce then this may very well be one hell of an elaborate plan.

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Sometimes when one person is happy in a marriage and thinks it's going along great...doesn't always mean the second person in that relationship feels the same way.

 

Sorry you are going through this.

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July 14, 2017 (Day 00) -  Submitted N400 Application, filed online

July 21, 2017 (Day 07) -  NOA Receipt received in the mail

July 22, 2017 (Day 08) - Biometrics appointment scheduled online, letter mailed out

July 25, 2017 (Day 11) - Biometrics PDF posted online

July 28, 2017 (Day 14) - Biometrics letter received in the mail, appointment for 08/08/17

Aug 08, 2017 (Day 24) - Biometrics (fingerprinting) completed

Aug 14, 2017 (Day 30) - Online EGOV status shows "Interview Scheduled, will mail appointment letter"

Aug 16, 2017 (Day 32) - Online MYUSCIS status shows "Interview Scheduled, read the letter we mailed you..."

Aug 17, 2017 (Day 33) - Interview Appointment Letter PDF posted online---GOT AN INTERVIEW DATE!!!

Aug 21, 2017 (Day 37) - Interview Appointment Letter received in the mail, appointment for 09/27/17

Sep. 27, 2017 (Day 74) - Naturalization Interview--- read my experience here

Sep. 27, 2017 (Day 74) - Online MYUSCIS status shows "Oath Ceremony Notice mailed"

Sep. 28, 2017 (Day 75) - Oath Ceremony Letter PDF posted online--Ceremony for 10/19/17

Oct. 02, 2017 (Day 79) -  Oath Ceremony Letter received in the mail

Oct. 19, 2017 (Day 96) -  Oath Ceremony-- read my experience here

 

 

 

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30 minutes ago, extremerecluse said:

Why so quick to conclude it is over? Why immediately after citizenship? Why insist that I file for divorce?

She is now a US Citizen. Making you file will give her freedom and allow her to remarry a Filipino.

 

32 minutes ago, extremerecluse said:

No infidelity, no abuse.....NOTHING!!!

This story makes me doubt the infidelity part. Through her actions I wonder if she has someone waiting in the Philippines that you don't know about.

Did you marry in the US or Philippines?

If you married in the US did you do an ROM (Report of Marriage)?

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29 minutes ago, extremerecluse said:

Why so quick to conclude it is over? Why immediately after citizenship? Why insist that I file for divorce? After 6 years of a happy marriage? No infidelity, no abuse.....NOTHING!!!

It still doesn't mean that her ex didn't die. If this is assumed by you based on the questions in the quote then you have really nothing to go on.
She wants you to file because of PI divorce/annulment law and in the future she may want to get married again, doesn't mean the ex is alive at all
or that it was an elaborate scam. 6 years of marriage pretty much points to a good faith marriage. I think you are over analyzing this.
You don't have to divorce her but can separate and let her deal with the divorce or you divorce and move on.
Sitting down with her and asking her why she wants a divorce may help you understand it all better.

 

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I-129F Sent : 3-31-2014, NOA2: 4-6-2014

NVC Received : some dinkelsberry yehoo in the house of clingons send our petition to the wrong consulate.

Consulate Received : July 30,2014 Transfer to right embassy complete.

Interview Date : Oct 22, 2014

Interview Result : AP , requesting another PC (not expired) and certified divorce decree (was submitted)Stokes interview via phone for petitioner 4 hrs after interview.

Oct 23 email notification visa approved.
Visa Received : Nov. 3 , 2014 VISA IN HAND.

US Entry : Nov. 21, 2014

Marriage : Dec 27, 2014

AOS send : May 12, 2015, received May 14, 2015 USPS priority

Email &text : May 18, 2015, check cashed May 19,2015, return receipt May 21, 2015 stamped USCIS Lockbox, NOA1 (3x) May 22,2015

Biometrics : June 1, 2015 letter received for appointment June 8, 2015, successful walk-in June 1, 2015

RFE : June 12, 2015 for income not meeting guideline. Income does ( ! ) exceed guideline.

RFE response : June 26, 2015 returned with a boat load full of financial evidence.

UPDATE: July 5, 2015 updated on all 3 cases, RFE received June 30, 2015.

Service request : Aug 12, 2015, letter received that it will be processed within 90 days from receipt of RFE.

UPDATE: Aug 24, 2015, EAD card being produced/ordered. ( 102 days from AOS receipt day and 55 days from RFE response received.) Thank you Jesus !

Emails : Aug 24, 2015, EAD approved, EAD card ordered.

I-797 EAD/AP approval notice received : Aug 27, 2015

EAD/AP combo card mailed : Aug 27, 2015, EAD/AP combo card received: Aug 31, 2015

Renewal application send for EAD/AP : May 31,2016 (AOS pending over 1 year). Received June 2, 2016,Notice date June7, 2016, emails,texts, NOA1 hard copy

Service request for pending AOS April 21, 2016, case not assigned yet.
Service request for pending AOS June 14, 2016, tier 2 said performing background checks.
Expedite request for EAD/AP Aug 3, 2016, Aug10 notification >request was received, assigned, completed. RFE letter requesting evidence for expedite, docs faxed Aug18

*Service request for I-485 Aug 3, 2016, Aug11 notification> request was assigned. Service request Dec 2, 2016.
AOS Interview letter received Aug 12, 2016

AOS Interview September 21, 2016.

Second Biometrics appointment letters received for EAD and AOS on Aug 15, 2016 for Aug 17 ( 2 day notice).

Second Biometrics completed Aug 17, 2016

Third Biometrics appointment letter received Aug 19, 2016 for Sept. 1, 2016. WTH ?!

EAD/AP (renewal) approval Aug 22, 2016, NOA2 received Aug 25, 2016

Renewal EAD in production notification text and online, expedite successful 4 days after RFE request response was faxed, Aug25mailed,Aug29received.

Sept. 21 Interview, 2 hour interview, we were separated and asked about 50 questions each for an hour each. IO was firm but professional, some smiles.
Several service requests made, contacted Senator and Ombudsman. Background checks still pending.
July 21, 2017 HOME VISIT.  Went well. Topic thread in AOS forum.
Waiting to skip ROC and get 10 yr GC due to over 2 year while pending AOS
AOS APPROVED Oct. 4, 2017 * Green card in hand Oct 13, 2017 !!!!!

First K1 denied after 16 month of AP. Refiled. We are a couple since 2009. Not a sprint but a matter of endurance.

 

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OP, if she is wants to divorce from you NOW that she is naturalized, it means you were scammed. I can not think of anything else. You were happy, but she had other plans it seems. Who knows? Maybe she wants to bring the other one from her country. Especially if YOU initiate the divorce. Hope the best for you.

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OP, you're talking to the wrong people. You need to talk with your wife (especially if you want to save your marriage). And then find a friend to talk with who knows both you and your wife. And I know you want a reason to blame, but it may have absolutely nothing to do with immigration and everything to do with dissatisfaction building, feeling like her kids are at a place that she can move on, or maybe she now feels confident that she can make it in the US alone. Best of luck to you.

K-1 from Haiti - NOA1: 5/27/2014; NOA2: 7/8 USCIS never updated to say that it was sent to the NVC (just in case you're as concerned about your status not updating as I was about mine)
NVC Case Number Received: 7/31; Left NVC: 8/1 - tracked via DHL website; CEAC Status - Ready: 8/7; Packet 3 Received: 9/5 - Beneficiary received packet / Medical Completed: 9/19;
DS-160 Submitted: 9/22 - (CEAC date updated); Packet 3 Submitted: 9/26; Packet 4 Received: 10/24; Interview Date: 11/6 @ 7 am Interview Result: Approved!
CEAC Status Issued: 11/10; USTraveldocs.com finally acknowledged Fiance's passport actually in their system: 11/20; Passport Received: 11/21;

POE: 11/23/2014; Wedding: 2/14/2015

AOS/EAD/AP Filed: 2/21/2015;

USCIS EAD & AP received: 2/25; USCIS AOS received: 2/27; Received NOA1s in mail: 3/5; Biometrics: 3/26; EAD/AP Card in Production: 5/11; EAD/AP Card Mailed: 5/1; EAD/AP Card Received 5/19; NPIW Letter dated: 6/11/15; Green card Approved: 10/1/15;

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51 minutes ago, NikLR said:

FWIW she wants YOU to initiate the divorce because then the divorce is legal in the PI.  If SHE initiates then she also has do an annulment in the PI to get married again.

That is if she remarries in the Philippines. Sounds like she is now a US citizen so probably won’t be marrying in the Philippines. 

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56 minutes ago, Sunnyland said:

OP, if she is wants to divorce from you NOW that she is naturalized, it means you were scammed. I can not think of anything else. You were happy, but she had other plans it seems. Who knows? Maybe she wants to bring the other one from her country. Especially if YOU initiate the divorce. Hope the best for you.

If it were a scam she could have divorced a long time ago before naturalization and still been ok with  immigration.
She could have ROC'ed on her own with a divorce.
 

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I-129F Sent : 3-31-2014, NOA2: 4-6-2014

NVC Received : some dinkelsberry yehoo in the house of clingons send our petition to the wrong consulate.

Consulate Received : July 30,2014 Transfer to right embassy complete.

Interview Date : Oct 22, 2014

Interview Result : AP , requesting another PC (not expired) and certified divorce decree (was submitted)Stokes interview via phone for petitioner 4 hrs after interview.

Oct 23 email notification visa approved.
Visa Received : Nov. 3 , 2014 VISA IN HAND.

US Entry : Nov. 21, 2014

Marriage : Dec 27, 2014

AOS send : May 12, 2015, received May 14, 2015 USPS priority

Email &text : May 18, 2015, check cashed May 19,2015, return receipt May 21, 2015 stamped USCIS Lockbox, NOA1 (3x) May 22,2015

Biometrics : June 1, 2015 letter received for appointment June 8, 2015, successful walk-in June 1, 2015

RFE : June 12, 2015 for income not meeting guideline. Income does ( ! ) exceed guideline.

RFE response : June 26, 2015 returned with a boat load full of financial evidence.

UPDATE: July 5, 2015 updated on all 3 cases, RFE received June 30, 2015.

Service request : Aug 12, 2015, letter received that it will be processed within 90 days from receipt of RFE.

UPDATE: Aug 24, 2015, EAD card being produced/ordered. ( 102 days from AOS receipt day and 55 days from RFE response received.) Thank you Jesus !

Emails : Aug 24, 2015, EAD approved, EAD card ordered.

I-797 EAD/AP approval notice received : Aug 27, 2015

EAD/AP combo card mailed : Aug 27, 2015, EAD/AP combo card received: Aug 31, 2015

Renewal application send for EAD/AP : May 31,2016 (AOS pending over 1 year). Received June 2, 2016,Notice date June7, 2016, emails,texts, NOA1 hard copy

Service request for pending AOS April 21, 2016, case not assigned yet.
Service request for pending AOS June 14, 2016, tier 2 said performing background checks.
Expedite request for EAD/AP Aug 3, 2016, Aug10 notification >request was received, assigned, completed. RFE letter requesting evidence for expedite, docs faxed Aug18

*Service request for I-485 Aug 3, 2016, Aug11 notification> request was assigned. Service request Dec 2, 2016.
AOS Interview letter received Aug 12, 2016

AOS Interview September 21, 2016.

Second Biometrics appointment letters received for EAD and AOS on Aug 15, 2016 for Aug 17 ( 2 day notice).

Second Biometrics completed Aug 17, 2016

Third Biometrics appointment letter received Aug 19, 2016 for Sept. 1, 2016. WTH ?!

EAD/AP (renewal) approval Aug 22, 2016, NOA2 received Aug 25, 2016

Renewal EAD in production notification text and online, expedite successful 4 days after RFE request response was faxed, Aug25mailed,Aug29received.

Sept. 21 Interview, 2 hour interview, we were separated and asked about 50 questions each for an hour each. IO was firm but professional, some smiles.
Several service requests made, contacted Senator and Ombudsman. Background checks still pending.
July 21, 2017 HOME VISIT.  Went well. Topic thread in AOS forum.
Waiting to skip ROC and get 10 yr GC due to over 2 year while pending AOS
AOS APPROVED Oct. 4, 2017 * Green card in hand Oct 13, 2017 !!!!!

First K1 denied after 16 month of AP. Refiled. We are a couple since 2009. Not a sprint but a matter of endurance.

 

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3 hours ago, Ebunoluwa said:

If it were a scam she could have divorced a long time ago before naturalization and still been ok with  immigration.
She could have ROC'ed on her own with a divorce.
 

She wouldn't be the first to wait until after naturalization.  

 

However, I think it is presumptuous on OP's part to doubt the Saudi Arabian death certificate.   If it exists, it is very likely real.

3/2/18  E-filed N-400 under 5 year rule

3/26/18 Biometrics

7/2019-12/2019 (Yes, 16- 21 months) Estimated time to interview MSP office.

 

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11 hours ago, Going through said:

You're not answering anyone's questions, and not really explaining anything other than a few sporadic posts here and there that don't really mention your wife's immigration circumstances so it's hard to give you proper advice without more coherent details.

 

Perhaps if you explain the situation you are in more, we can help you.

 

Right now it sounds like you need a marriage advice board, not an immigration advice board...

i am not able to understand OP's main issue, important questions are not answered (circumstances). connecting the dots is not easy from his posts.

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8 minutes ago, abumiqdad said:

i am not able to understand OP's main issue, important questions are not answered (circumstances). connecting the dots is not easy from his posts.

Married here after K-1 visa. Her previous marriage ended when her husband passed away.

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3 minutes ago, extremerecluse said:

Married here after K-1 visa. Her previous marriage ended when her husband passed away.

So she is a widow when you married her 6 years ago?

And now she naturalized and somehow she is asking you for a divorce?  And you think she wants to marry someone else? 

 

What's the issue with fake documents?

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