Our IR1 was refused on Wed,20 /2017

[Coly 1]

Hello I'm coly 

I'm writing  here to ask for help because  I don't know what to do .my husband  went for his interview  on 13 September  at  consulate  of casablanca Morocco  then they put him in admin review without stating the reasons . Second day the US Consulate  called and requested us to be interviewed  we did and they got his passport   we thought  everything was good . Until Wednesday 20 September  . We got email saying (our case was refused  and was sent  to uscis )  

We have strong Relationship we know each other  for 5 years and we been married for 3 years and 3 month and we met 5 times ..

We have much evidence  recipts  of what my husband  send me for all those years and letters from my family  to him and pics and everything  

But we have only one weak point  is our age difference  he is 22 and I'm 48 

Please help me ? I need to know what to do since our file got back to uscis ?😢😭😢😢

[sparkles_ 456]

I think this should be moved to the MENA section, you are neither needing a waiver or in admin. processing

[Coly 1]

How can I put waiver? 

[-Trinity- 513]

Probably the age difference. Assuming he doesn't have children, Morocco is a country where most people want to become parents. It might have been different if he was older and you were younger. That's more accepted in Morocco.

 

I'm sorry, no advice but hopefully someone else in similar situation does.

[Coly 1]

Yes I know that but we been planing to adopt a girl when he gets here because  we both want girl . And we told them that at our interview 

[Yousrariad 0]

12 minutes ago, Coly said:

Hello I'm coly 

I'm writing  here to ask for help because  I don't know what to do .my husband  went for his interview  on 13 September  at  consulate  of casablanca Morocco  then they put him in admin review without stating the reasons . Second day the US Consulate  called and requested us to be interviewed  we did and they got his passport   we thought  everything was good . Until Wednesday 20 September  . We got email saying (our case was refused  and was sent  to uscis )  

We have strong Relationship we know each other  for 5 years and we been married for 3 years and 3 month and we met 5 times ..

We have much evidence  recipts  of what my husband  send me for all those years and letters from my family  to him and pics and everything  

But we have only one weak point  is our age difference  he is 22 and I'm 48 

Please help me ? I need to know what to do since our file got back to uscis ?😢😭😢😢

Sorry to hear this! Actually it's heartbreak 

and hopefully soon you hear something new... for me it's been 4months struggling with administrative processing 

what abt his passport? Did they send it back to uscis as well??

[Coly 1]

Thank you . No his passport  they have it. But probably  they will call him to go get it 

[Gorkhali 213]

Hi There 

 

We had similar situation but we overcame it. Wann discuss further PM me

[RJandHamid 1,128]

I am guessing that the age difference was a major issue. If he's 22 now that would mean he was 17 or 18 when you first met 5 years ago...not saying your relationship isn't legitimate, but the Casablanca consulate considers age differences with a lot of scrutiny. How much time have you spent together in person as a married couple? 

 

If your case was sent back to the US, you can expect a letter in a few months to a year stating that the intend to deny or revoke (not sure which word is actually used). You then have the opportunity to basically make an appeal to have a 2nd look at the petition and at that point you can provide additional evidence.

[Coly 1]

Thank you RJand.  I spend long time with him and his family  in each visit(i visited him 5 times in person )

[mcdull 474]

20 hours ago, Coly said:

Hello I'm coly 

I'm writing  here to ask for help because  I don't know what to do .my husband  went for his interview  on 13 September  at  consulate  of casablanca Morocco  then they put him in admin review without stating the reasons . Second day the US Consulate  called and requested us to be interviewed  we did and they got his passport   we thought  everything was good . Until Wednesday 20 September  . We got email saying (our case was refused  and was sent  to uscis )  

We have strong Relationship we know each other  for 5 years and we been married for 3 years and 3 month and we met 5 times ..

We have much evidence  recipts  of what my husband  send me for all those years and letters from my family  to him and pics and everything  

But we have only one weak point  is our age difference  he is 22 and I'm 48 

Please help me ? I need to know what to do since our file got back to uscis ?😢😭😢😢

hang on! You've had relationship for 5 years, he is 22 this year. 22-5=17.

 

You were with a 17 years old at age 43? I am not sure if that is even legal!

[sparkles_ 456]

22 hours ago, Coly said:

Yes I know that but we been planing to adopt a girl when he gets here because  we both want girl . And we told them that at our interview 

Do you know the Islamic stance on adoption? I'm pretty sure the interviewing officer took that into account as well. Muslims don't adopt like non Muslims. 

[-Trinity- 513]

@ sparkles, don't agree with that at all. I personally know Moroccans who have adopted orphans or abandoned children. Its not allowed to lie to them and let them believe that they are biological and let them change their last name etc. So basically you can raise a child  ( it's even encouraged to do so) and be like a parent to them. But you can't do that without doing it the legal way, and that's adoption.

 

I think the problem might be that petitioner was an adult at the time of dating and the beneficiary was a minor.

[Auds 223]

We are not in a position to question legitimacy and the chances of this relationship being for purposes of migration.  The embassy very much  can make a call on that and I am sure they have seen that the relationship started at an age where the petitioner could have been booked for statutory rape even had this been in the US.  We do not know when the relationship was consummated but it's too close to being illegal.

 

Culturally a family would never be okay with their child marrying a woman so much older.  Actually most families would not be okay.  Culturally it's just something that does not happen.  I know the culture very well - unless of course the family see it as a marriage for immigration.

 

 

[Dianalorena 1,153]

I am sorry you're going through this, if the age difference was reversed you might not be in this trouble, who knows. 

Unfortunately, that is one big age gap. I don't mean to pry, nor I'm doubting the veracity of your relationship, but you're almost in your fifties which means it would be nearly impossible for you to have kids (at least conventionally) and his life is just starting,  which is very frowned upon in many cultures. Maybe like they've said the fact that he was still a minor might have what caused the denial, but we can't really know for sure. What was the reason for denial or they didn't address it? 

 

You could start the process again but it seems that it might be extremely difficult to overcome the age difference, both legally and socially.  

Have you guys considered moving to Morocco? I know it might not be ideal, but if the point is to be together and prove this wasn't done for a  green card, living a few years in Morocco or a third country and then trying again might be a good way to show USCIS that you're the real deal. The cost of starting a second time and the time you will spend apart will be incredibly challenging, you might consider evaluating if what I suggested makes more sense to you, as I'm sure you just want to be in the same place. 

Good luck!