frustrated. need ur help

[Dutchster 1,106]

Divorce & go home. Go live your life. 

[-Trinity- 513]

OP, I'm sorry to hear you got through this. It sounds like you were committed to make it work, but it takes two to tango. It sounds like you gave up a lot to be with her and she let you down. This might have a huge mental impact on you ( immigration is a very stressful event by itself) so I would suggest to surround yourself by the people that love you. Apparently you did the best you could, that's all you can do. Go home and consider this as a learning experience.

 

Good luck!

[Marcelina 246]

For me it sounds like your wife is under someone's influence.. mybe the ex or maybe family? If she is willing marriage consueling might help. If she is not then I'm really sorry about your situation but if that's the case you guys won't be a happy married couple and if you still have some finance left maybe it's better to start anew in your country ? Good look and take care!

[David & Diana R 1,005]

1 hour ago, chi4 said:

Thanks all. @geowrian, am sad because she said i came here for gc and job when she knew i was living okay when i was in my country. I entered the marriage with good faith and for love. Not for selfish reasons. If she doesnt want the marriage fine but not treating me like i did something wrong and telling me all i want is gc.. I never depended on her. What ever i do or did , i do and did with love and affection not for selfish interest. It hurts but it sucks.

Lucky for you your home country provided you with enough money to survive and own two cars. Looks like your only option, assuming the marriage is over, is to move back to your home country and start your life over again there.  From what you say you made/had a lot of money there.  Good luck.

[MeAlone 158]

11 hours ago, chi4 said:

Hi everyone,

I met my wife 7 yrs ago in another country thats not hers' nor mine. We spent one month and i enganged her. Shes older than me but didnt matter at all. I had to leave d country for my country home after she lefr so that she could file for me k1 . we started d process in 2011 and i had my inteeview 2012 and was denied. We were inlove but after 2012 she started having fiancial problems. So i got a job in ma country and did send her money many times to US to pay bills. I invited her to ma country without her paying a cent from getting a visa frm my embassy and flight ticket bcos am getting money and living a standard life. She came and i kept her in d moat expensive hotel in ma country. She met ma family everything was fine. She left and filed and i was aproved. Sold my 2 cars and my house qhen leaving thinking all was gona be well in d US. Got here and ahw refused to get married. At d end point of my visa expiration ww got married. I hv been suffering from d man she said its her ex. He keeps showing up.and shw treats me like a ####### saying i came is to get green card and work.i pay bills with her cos i camw with moni. We filed with my money. My biometrics is on thursday and shes teling me she cant continue that i used her so i can come to US to get gc and better life. What do i do pls

You are a good man and you tried to be a responsible husband paying bills and all your immigration expenses, I wish my ex husband was like that. Not all African men are so supportive to the American wife. My ex asked for a lot of support and money from me pretending to be a responsible single father and a poor man but living with 2 women in Africa each one with his child at the time of K1 visa, came here with the baby and he paid with my support money the tourist visa for his traditional wife, the mother of the baby, his plan was to bring her here behind my back and I paid all his immigration, all K1 paperwork and hotel for his K1 visa, he didn't pay for anything and I was supporting him  and the baby for 4 months here in the states without knowing what's going on until his traditional wife didn't get her tourist visa and yelled the baby is not his and he brought the baby forging her dna, he was fast running back to Africa when his traditional wife told him to and threatened him with the police. I am sorry but it happens both ways, you spent a lot, I did and the marriage is a lottery, we both lost and we didn't get the real marriage.

Try councelling as it was advised here, maybe your marriage still works

[Comic 66]

Bro I feel your pain, after giving up everything and helping her the best you can to now being treated like nothing, I say you kick her to the curb

[MeAlone 158]

15 hours ago, Comic said:

Bro I feel your pain, after giving up everything and helping her the best you can to now being treated like nothing, I say you kick her to the curb

Yes, when the African man spends on the marriage living, he wants this marriage work, it's his way to invest in the marriage. If he wanted the green card only, maybe he pays his immigration fees but he won't pay bills with his money and he won't sell his property in his country, usually African men try to buy property back home, not to sell coming to live in America. Sorry, chi4, she has other plans