[mercuryroad]

Hello everyone,

I'm back from Peru where we had our interview on the 15th. My worst case scenario was in fact played out.

We arrived at the building and turned in our documents and answered a few basic questions from a very nice lady. As we were sitting waiting for the interview from the CO, I noticed that indeed the old guy with glasses was there. I mentioned in my other post that this is the guy I did not want to see and have heard some bad things about. He was conducting interviews and there was another room where a lady was doing interviews. I knew in that moment that we would be interviewed by the guy.

Sure enough, Lu's name was called and we approached the window. He said "you're the fiancee?" I said yes, and then he told me to go back to the waiting area and take a seat. He said it in this indignant kind of way. I was sitting ear shot from Lu and could make out some of the conversation (it was in Spanish). He flipped through a couple of pictures in about 2 seconds and gave Lu back all of the evidence I had given. Then he began his questioning and interestingly enough, none of the questions had to do with our relationship. He proceeded to grill Lu about her parent's "situation" in the U.S. (they are living here, but under what conditions I am not totally sure.....it is possible they are overstaying a visa). This continued for about 15-20 minutes. She was then asked to supply fingerprints using the machine.

When the interrogation was done, he handed her a yellow piece of paper that mentions 221G and said that he needed a certificate of migratory movement for Lu and myself. He said that when this was complete to send it back into the office with her passport. If there were errors he would call her for a secondary interview. Lu and I then frantically searched around for where we could get these documents since neither of us have ever heard of it before. We finally got everything from the Peru immigration office on Saturday and she is going to send it off tomorow. We were given no timeframe for any kind of decision. In my opinion, this guy was just requesting this document to buy himself some more time to do some investigation and review our submission in more detail. Fortunately for us we were totally honest on all the forms and everything is in order. We left that room with a big question mark and a feeling of WTF just happened? We are neither approved nor declined.

After all of that preparation and hard work for the forms and getting ready for the interview, I was astonished that there weren't ANY questions regarding our relationship at all........almost as if it were secondary to whatever her parents situation is.

We're both very worried about this upcoming review and what will happen......that and we were given no expectation regarding timing. Our plan was to have her come over in mid-May and now it seems everything is in jeopardy.......where we will live, how long it will take, will she ever be able to meet my parents or see where I grew up, etc, etc

When I was leaving the airport in Lima, I just held Lu very close. The sadness was too much to escape. She started crying uncontrollably and when I was finally able to choke some words out and as what was wrong she said with tears running down her face that she did not know when she would see me again. My heart broke into a million pieces because for all my optimism, I knew I did not have an answer. I spent the next 12 hours of travel contemplating that question with the image of mi amor crying stuck in my mind. I've used up nearly all of my vacation time (until October) and these flights, ring, etc have done some damage to the old savings account.......in the end, after all of the contemplation, the answer to her question is I don't know.....and that has destroyed my heart. In all of my other trips, I always had an answer.....we always had the next milestone.....now all we have are questions, heartache and a hope that whatever this migratory document is....that it is enough.

La lucha sigue......I know that my optimism will return but right now everything just hurts. Walking into my empty home today was almost too much to take.

[Melo]

(((((HUGS)))) Just hang in there - this process is painful to say the least and am sorry you are going through such difficulties

[Artegal]

Look I know you are disappointed--but really this is pretty positive in fact. Because you were not denied--he just wants an extra certificate. He took your Novia's finger prints and has requested her passport with the extra certificate--which means he intends to stamp her passport with the K-1 visa once he receives the certificate and passport. (My wife and I had a very similiar situation with this very same guy. We recieved a yellow paper and had to get another extra certificate and we sent it in with her passport and What do you know we had the Visa--but a short delay. Yeah he comes across as a bit of a dick--his brand of sarcastic humor mostly--but its not that bad really--he is a typical American).

But just be positive! She will have the visa very soon and be able to come and be with you soon! Take care!

This post has been edited by Artegal: 20 March 2006 - 02:49 AM

[aussiewench]

awwwwwwww merc....the *BIGGEST HUGS*

It will come, just as Arte said.....you both hang in there

Lorelle

[MrMrsKnight]

Wow.... I'm in tears right now just for reading what you wrote.
When Dave left Brazil I held him very close and very tight right before he had to get on the plane. I cried and told him the very same thing she told you..... he looked at me, gave me two kisses just like the two first kisses he gave me at the airport when we first met, and told me that it was not the end, just the beginning, and then cried with me.
Your story just made it all come back.....
Hang in there, okay? Take care of yourself...... I know how much it hurts right now.
I hope everything goes well..... I'll be praying for you!

[babybunny]

mercuryroad, on Mar 20 2006, 11:59 AM, said:

Hello everyone,

I'm back from Peru where we had our interview on the 15th. My worst case scenario was in fact played out.

We arrived at the building and turned in our documents and answered a few basic questions from a very nice lady. As we were sitting waiting for the interview from the CO, I noticed that indeed the old guy with glasses was there. I mentioned in my other post that this is the guy I did not want to see and have heard some bad things about. He was conducting interviews and there was another room where a lady was doing interviews. I knew in that moment that we would be interviewed by the guy.

Sure enough, Lu's name was called and we approached the window. He said "you're the fiancee?" I said yes, and then he told me to go back to the waiting area and take a seat. He said it in this indignant kind of way. I was sitting ear shot from Lu and could make out some of the conversation (it was in Spanish). He flipped through a couple of pictures in about 2 seconds and gave Lu back all of the evidence I had given. Then he began his questioning and interestingly enough, none of the questions had to do with our relationship. He proceeded to grill Lu about her parent's "situation" in the U.S. (they are living here, but under what conditions I am not totally sure.....it is possible they are overstaying a visa). This continued for about 15-20 minutes. She was then asked to supply fingerprints using the machine.

When the interrogation was done, he handed her a yellow piece of paper that mentions 221G and said that he needed a certificate of migratory movement for Lu and myself. He said that when this was complete to send it back into the office with her passport. If there were errors he would call her for a secondary interview. Lu and I then frantically searched around for where we could get these documents since neither of us have ever heard of it before. We finally got everything from the Peru immigration office on Saturday and she is going to send it off tomorow. We were given no timeframe for any kind of decision. In my opinion, this guy was just requesting this document to buy himself some more time to do some investigation and review our submission in more detail. Fortunately for us we were totally honest on all the forms and everything is in order. We left that room with a big question mark and a feeling of WTF just happened? We are neither approved nor declined.

After all of that preparation and hard work for the forms and getting ready for the interview, I was astonished that there weren't ANY questions regarding our relationship at all........almost as if it were secondary to whatever her parents situation is.

We're both very worried about this upcoming review and what will happen......that and we were given no expectation regarding timing. Our plan was to have her come over in mid-May and now it seems everything is in jeopardy.......where we will live, how long it will take, will she ever be able to meet my parents or see where I grew up, etc, etc

When I was leaving the airport in Lima, I just held Lu very close. The sadness was too much to escape. She started crying uncontrollably and when I was finally able to choke some words out and as what was wrong she said with tears running down her face that she did not know when she would see me again. My heart broke into a million pieces because for all my optimism, I knew I did not have an answer. I spent the next 12 hours of travel contemplating that question with the image of mi amor crying stuck in my mind. I've used up nearly all of my vacation time (until October) and these flights, ring, etc have done some damage to the old savings account.......in the end, after all of the contemplation, the answer to her question is I don't know.....and that has destroyed my heart. In all of my other trips, I always had an answer.....we always had the next milestone.....now all we have are questions, heartache and a hope that whatever this migratory document is....that it is enough.

La lucha sigue......I know that my optimism will return but right now everything just hurts. Walking into my empty home today was almost too much to take.

I know its hard being from your better half.
now you taste how it feels for us stuck in AR/AP 221G hell.
that "WTF? " feeling never leaves you. 9 months later and I still have "WTF ?"feeling.
see you will over come your issue. you are lucky they told you what paper to bring. I wish it was only a simple paper we needed. where as in most AR cases the reason is :
ADMIN REVIEW. no one knows WTF ADMIN review is.

[MaryandMian]

Merc,

Hang in there I know how your both feeling. We had the same type of thing happen and got Administrative Processing. On our 221g it states 45 business days barring, holidays and weekends; but no guarantees I am alot further out than the original timeframe. Hopefully, once you get the paperwork turned in you can count 45 business days. I can only say to stay strong, keep her spirits up, pray for patience and understanding and you should be fine in short time. I am married and it is not easy to keep doing what I said and keep the happy face up but you must or Lu will get depressed. Make plans for later on. Just look at it one day at a time for the processing and don't say ok we will do this and this on May 12th. Just say I have been thinking of things we can do after your arrival. How about going here or doing this? Keep things positive and Lu will not worry of not seeing you for so long. This has helped us since my husband was devastated after his interview. Good luck and know you have a lot of friends on VJ that were awaiting your news and can help you during this time.

Mary

[pax]

I'm sorry to hear that you had to leave your novia in Peru with no resolution to your case. I hope everything is cleared up quickly for you and that you can be together soon!

(I can relate to not having any vacation time, btw...two trips to Scotland will have the same effect. Sigh.)

[♥BertieMae♥]

Sigh....(((((((((((((merc)))))))))))))))....I'm so sorry....I'm hoping for a quick resolution of this situation for you and your novia. Hang in there...we're right here for ya.

[Bootylicious!!]

Merc: Sorry you had such a tough time. I know how you feel about not having an answer as to when you will see your novia again. Even though Javier is home now it was this way with us. I did not know when I left him the first time when I would get to see him again. I finally bit the bullet and put the tickets and motel on my credit card. I worked extra hours at work just to get some comp time so I could go again. I know it is hard but hopefully all will turn out well. Good luck!

[tsunamihart]

Don't despair, that is why it's called un viaje largo. It will all work out and soon you will both be laughing and crying (from happiness) in each other's arms. This is the time that you must steel yourself to help your S.O. through this rough period. We have all had "hitches" and had plans go awry, but it won't change the fact of your love for one another. Invest in a couple of internet video camera's and use them, it will help the two of you feel a little closer, try the things that you can afford like these to keep her hopeful, to keep you both knowing that you are moving closer towards being together. I know that the time away from each other suks, I know that it puts pressure on the 2 of you. When we were facing a particularly rough road or things weren't going exactly as the 2 of us had planned, and there was a lot of tension in our lives, I would brace the 2 of us for it. I would tell her, that we're now going to have a rough spot over the next few days,weeks( you fill in the blanks) and that no matter how tough a time we were going through, we both had to be aware of it and even when we'd be short tempered or mad at one part of the process, govt agency or whatever that we mustn't lose the why we are doing what were doing and I'd reaffirm my love for her. It's often toughest for our partners away from us, they only know that they want to be together with us and can't understand the land of G.W. and immigration, anywhooo.... be strong, be strong and positive and supportive for and of her, it will all work out, and soon you too will be someone writing on this site, in long run-on sentences, bolstering up another person and their S.O. on this viaje largo that we all must travel and that always (positive waves Moriarty) works out.

[Sister Fracas]

((((((((((Mercury))))))))))

I can only say I hope this is resolved quickly and you have the same result as Artegal.

[Mand]

Aww...hugs, hugs, hugs for you both .

I really hope you two are together as a family soon and that it all works out as smooth as Artegal's situation

[meddykomp]

I know that nothing any of us says will change the situation but hopefully our support can lift your spirits, even if just a little. I have said the same thing to my husband as he has gone to catch his flights away from me .. both of us wondering when we will next see eachother and that feeling of uncertainty as the government holds the puppet strings to our lives. It doesnt help that we have so little vacation time here. Just know that your love for eachother will overcome this. I sincerely hope this delay is short and that soon you are together.

[TracyTN]

Aw merc. This breaks my heart just to read, so I can only imagine how you must feel. 'Certificate of migratory movement'?? WTF is that?

Sometimes I think COs have already made up their minds before you even sit in the chair. Charming. (NOT!)