illness

[LeanneT 1]

Hey

 

i have about 3 1/2 years to go until we immigrate ..but my dad who will remain in the uk has copd (lung condition) I am worried he will be ill when I leave...he will probably be needing me by then to do shopping ect...does anyone know what I can do if this happens...do I have any options or do I need to go when it's time?? 

 

Thanks 

 

[Kastrs 723]

You could stay in the UK and take care of him?

Hire a home health aid?

[Roel 7,191]

You can either stay and take care of your dad or move to the US. So you need to decide what's more important to you, I suppose.

There is no other choice here.

 

[LeanneT 1]

Can I go and validate my green card then come back ?? My husband has his mum and dad in the USA so it's not as easy as not going...then we would have to wait again and my kids wouldn't be able to go

[Kastrs 723]

4 minutes ago, LeanneT said:

Can I go and validate my green card then come back ?? My husband has his mum and dad in the USA so it's not as easy as not going...then we would have to wait again and my kids wouldn't be able to go

A greencard is for living in the US, if you do not intend to live in the US you would not be eligible for the GC

What you can do is fly to the US stay for a short while, return to the UK, but you need to be spending more time in the US than outside of the US in order to maintain your GC

 

Why can't your kids go if you do not go?

If you are estimating you will have your GC in 3.5 years, that is far away, a lot can change in 3.5 years

Why not wait another 3 years and then evaluate your situaion

 

[yuna628 9,528]

I think if you are planning on immigrating to America, then it's best you take the years you have left with your dad to plan for when you won't be there. Are there services that can be set up via the NHS for his care? Green cards are for living in America, not living abroad.

[LeanneT 1]

6 minutes ago, Kastrs said:

A greencard is for living in the US, if you do not intend to live in the US you would not be eligible for the GC

What you can do is fly to the US stay for a short while, return to the UK, but you need to be spending more time in the US than outside of the US in order to maintain your GC

 

Why can't your kids go if you do not go?

If you are estimating you will have your GC in 3.5 years, that is far away, a lot can change in 3.5 years

Why not wait another 3 years and then evaluate your situaion

 

I knew I would have to be in the USA more than not...I thought you might have to be in the USA for a period of time before they let you return?? 

If I didn't go and my family did I would then be apart from them and how would I then enter?? 

A lot can defo happen it was just something that was in my head...and wondered what I would do

[LeanneT 1]

5 minutes ago, yuna628 said:

I think if you are planning on immigrating to America, then it's best you take the years you have left with your dad to plan for when you won't be there. Are there services that can be set up via the NHS for his care? Green cards are for living in America, not living abroad.

Yeah NHS would be able to help I guess...I just wondered what I would do if I was told he was dying (which technically is what's happening )and I was immigrating at the same time 😩

[LeanneT 1]

29 minutes ago, Dee elle said:

Leanne, it is a good thing to be thinking through all the consequences of immigrating...

I left behind my 88 year  old parents in order to be here in the same country as my 2 children and 6 grandchildren.  Reality is that I cannot have both.. I cant be here with this family and at the same time care for my aging parents.. I had to come to terms with that and what it meant, and possibly look like, before we applied, otherwise I would always be deeply unsettled..

We made the decision to come, a decision I wish we hadn't had to make but glad we did..

Not all the consequences of such a big life move are pleasant, enjoyable or good.. its a package deal..

You can start talking with your dad and extended family now about what those years might look like and how he can be supported by family friends and government assistance. Better to have the conversation out in the open and develop a plan before he becomes unwell and before you move. 

Thanks...it is hard decision...if it never took so long it wouldn't be as hard...my dad has only been diagnosed with copd few months ago but doctor said it's at sever and he won't give up smoking...I have spoke with someone so I could get advice about the condition...he's ok the now but they did say if he keeps smoking he would go downhill fast..I only have him here that I see x

[TBoneTX 43,048]

COPD is a broad term.  Is it chronic bronchitis, asthma, emphysema, or what?

[LeanneT 1]

7 minutes ago, TBoneTX said:

COPD is a broad term.  Is it chronic bronchitis, asthma, emphysema, or what?

Bronchitis/emphysema 

[Wuozopo 4,285]

You can delay the issuance of your visa up to a year once you get to the embassy and interview part. Or so I've read in a email from the embassy when somebody asked. You also can turn around the day after you enter the US and go back to the UK. There are travel restrictions on K1 fiancé visas, but you will be a permanent resident the day you enter the US. You return on your greencard (or the I-551 stamp in your passport if you leave before the actual card is mailed to you).  Keep in mind that if you intend to be away a long time you may need to get a reentry permit. Lots of information here on the page about maintaining your permanent resident status https://www.uscis.gov/green-card/after-green-card-granted/international-travel-permanent-resident

 

 

 

[Jawaree 717]

Go thru the process get your GC (everyone knows a GC is to live here) if your dad becomes ill 

you can ftle to leave for the 2 yr period.We all want to support spouses & parents & should

look for the best legal way to do so. OP hoping your dad feels better sooner than later

[LeanneT 1]

2 hours ago, Jawaree said:

Go thru the process get your GC (everyone knows a GC is to live here) if your dad becomes ill 

you can ftle to leave for the 2 yr period.We all want to support spouses & parents & should

look for the best legal way to do so. OP hoping your dad feels better sooner than later

Thanks...I will just need to go and travel back and forth so I can check on him...I can't be separated from my children 

[TBoneTX 43,048]

On April 3, 2017 at 11:40 AM, LeanneT said:

Bronchitis/emphysema 

Much sympathy, with hopes for the best.