forcing me to divorce my wife

[Chardon Ne' 71]

Just now, nepali29292 said:

i really regret it now that i think of but i was really not in my right mind to think anything reasonably. im trying to look for a job now and my friend offered me to stay at his place until i get a place to stay. my GC expires in november 2018 but i heard that if i apply i751 this early then they will send my application back. thank you so much for your support though. everyone here has been very helpful but i acted the other way

Well that is a good friend. I know it is hurtful especially with a child and all, but do not worry issues with visitation and custody can still be worked out. If not there are definitely agencies that will help you with that. So refocus your energy and you will be ok. Look what you already did you left your entire fmily to move to another country to start a family with someone you thought you love. That takes bravery. Forgive yourself. Things happen. Do not traumatize your child trying to fight a losing battle. If they did what they did maliciously, Karma never misses an address. Yes you have to wait for final divorce decree but you have plenty of time So you should file for renewal June 2018. Focus on how you are going to pay for that and push on. 

[Marco&Bettina 502]

6 minutes ago, Chardon Ne' said:

Well that is a good friend. I know it is hurtful especially with a child and all, but do not worry issues with visitation and custody can still be worked out. If not there are definitely agencies that will help you with that. So refocus your energy and you will be ok. Look what you already did you left your entire fmily to move to another country to start a family with someone you thought you love. That takes bravery. Forgive yourself. Things happen. Do not traumatize your child trying to fight a losing battle. If they did what they did maliciously, Karma never misses an address. Yes you have to wait for final divorce decree but you have plenty of time So you should file for renewal June 2018. Focus on how you are going to pay for that and push on. 

For some reason, this is the 1st I've heard of a child. Maybe I zoned out for too long.

[Chardon Ne' 71]

Just now, Marco&Bettina said:

For some reason, this is the 1st I've heard of a child. Maybe I zoned out for too long.

Yes he did mention that early on. 

[KierenHby 897]

The first I'm hearing of a child here.. OP's child? 

[Marco&Bettina 502]

4 minutes ago, Chardon Ne' said:

Yes he did mention that early on. 

I still can't find any mention of a child. What page # did you see it in?

Edited January 27, 2017 by Marco&Bettina

[nepali29292 2]

1 hour ago, Chardon Ne' said:

Well that is a good friend. I know it is hurtful especially with a child and all, but do not worry issues with visitation and custody can still be worked out. If not there are definitely agencies that will help you with that. So refocus your energy and you will be ok. Look what you already did you left your entire fmily to move to another country to start a family with someone you thought you love. That takes bravery. Forgive yourself. Things happen. Do not traumatize your child trying to fight a losing battle. If they did what they did maliciously, Karma never misses an address. Yes you have to wait for final divorce decree but you have plenty of time So you should file for renewal June 2018. Focus on how you are going to pay for that and push on. 

oh no i dont have a child 

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There was a similar case a few weeks back with a child involved.

[Villanelle 4,121]

He can sue the sponsor for his 864. Here is the (older) thread on the topic I referred to earlier:  

 

 

I suggest he read it over- its a bit long but contains a lot of info;

 

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Also- IF YOU HAVE A FINAL DIVORCE DECREE (that means a signed stamped copy from the clerk) You can file for ROC at any time. You do not have to wait until the 90 day window before the card expires- again you can file at any time if you have a final decree. 

 

 

 

[nepali29292 2]

On 1/27/2017 at 0:07 PM, rcripps said:

OP.... I warned you several times about what not to do or take the family's threats seriously. Apparently you chose to ignore everyone's good advice on this thread. I'm sorry but you have put yourself into this mess. I would strongly strongly suggest you start following the good advice on here. 

hi so the divorce paper filed earlier got rejected because it was not done by a real attorney so they had to make a new one with same terms and this time i got in touch with a lawyer and he said its fine to sign. my problem is that I got a temporary restraining order a while ago which was for 10 days and i couldn't go to the hearing because it was a 3 hour drive. i had no car or money to go so they extended the restraining order for a year now until jan 2018. Is the restraining order going to affect my removal of condition when i apply for i-751 with a waiver? I read some posts but some say it might and some say it doesn't matter so its really confusing but I've gotten the best advice and suggestions here. also my ex wife and her parents have all my info like my USCIS # for my green card, social security number and all those stuffs. can they do anything against me with those things or should i get my SSN changed after the divorce is final and i get the divorce decree? I've started working now and have some money for myself but am worried as to what to expect when it comes down to removing the condition. Thanks 

[Marco&Bettina 502]

8 hours ago, nepali29292 said:

hi so the divorce paper filed earlier got rejected because it was not done by a real attorney so they had to make a new one with same terms and this time i got in touch with a lawyer and he said its fine to sign. my problem is that I got a temporary restraining order a while ago which was for 10 days and i couldn't go to the hearing because it was a 3 hour drive. i had no car or money to go so they extended the restraining order for a year now until jan 2018. Is the restraining order going to affect my removal of condition when i apply for i-751 with a waiver? I read some posts but some say it might and some say it doesn't matter so its really confusing but I've gotten the best advice and suggestions here. also my ex wife and her parents have all my info like my USCIS # for my green card, social security number and all those stuffs. can they do anything against me with those things or should i get my SSN changed after the divorce is final and i get the divorce decree? I've started working now and have some money for myself but am worried as to what to expect when it comes down to removing the condition. Thanks 

How did this happen!? I'll repeat an earlier sentiment. There must be some evidence of something that she has to have gotten even a 10-day order. Interesting you just now mention this order. And now it's a year. Wow, just wow. Best of luck to you my friend.

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This thread is getting weirder, make of that what you want.

[nepali29292 2]

16 minutes ago, Marco&Bettina said:

How did this happen!? I'll repeat an earlier sentiment. There must be some evidence of something that she has to have gotten even a 10-day order. Interesting you just now mention this order. And now it's a year. Wow, just wow. Best of luck to you my friend.

her parents told me that they are just taking precaution since i was trying to text and call her so many times ( that time i did not know that she is going to file divorce) and that they will drop it after 10 days but that didn't happen. I've heard that they don't need any proof for restraining order as long as my wife just showed that she is scared of me and that i've been harassing her by calling and texting her. This all happened way too fast. i know i was dumb to not able to react to all this but i really wasn't. I was and have been broke in every way. again if i want this restraining order to drop, i have to go to the same court which is 3 hrs drive or get a bus and file against it, after this i'll get a hearing date in next 10 days but i still don't have enough money or time to do all that.I'm trying to earn enough money to first start a living first then maybe i can do it 

[Marco&Bettina 502]

3 minutes ago, nepali29292 said:

her parents told me that they are just taking precaution since i was trying to text and call her so many times ( that time i did not know that she is going to file divorce) and that they will drop it after 10 days but that didn't happen. I've heard that they don't need any proof for restraining order as long as my wife just showed that she is scared of me and that i've been harassing her by calling and texting her. This all happened way too fast. i know i was dumb to not able to react to all this but i really wasn't. I was and have been broke in every way. again if i want this restraining order to drop, i have to go to the same court which is 3 hrs drive or get a bus and file against it, after this i'll get a hearing date in next 10 days but i still don't have enough money or time to do all that.I'm trying to earn enough money to first start a living first then maybe i can do it 

You're digging yourself a nice hole. How long have you been in America? Have you not met 1 friend or anyone that can help you so this restraining order stuff doesn't get out of control?

[nepali29292 2]

Just now, Marco&Bettina said:

You're digging yourself a nice hole. How long have you been in America? Have you not met 1 friend or anyone that can help you so this restraining order stuff doesn't get out of control?

10 month now. I have friends but they don't want to drive so far I've tried asking them indirectly but they tell me i should earn money first then deal with the restraining order. I'll try to do as soon as possible though. Also I don't want them to do anything more after i get a hearing date 

[Marco&Bettina 502]

2 minutes ago, nepali29292 said:

10 month now. I have friends but they don't want to drive so far I've tried asking them indirectly but they tell me i should earn money first then deal with the restraining order. I'll try to do as soon as possible though. Also I don't want them to do anything more after i get a hearing date 

I don't personally find it good advice to earn money first and then deal with the restraining order if all it is is a simple matter of you showing up to court to contest. Nevertheless, I guess you're at an impasse if your only resource to travel 3 hours are friends who don't wanna drive and you have no money to make it there.