forcing me to divorce my wife

[nepali29292 2]

22 minutes ago, rcripps said:

So you think you wife is going to swear under oath that you beat her up many times? She says you "made" her hit herself. Telling a counselor these things does not mean a swearing under oath you did them.  I will give one piece of advice. At this point, stay away from her, don't talk to the parents. Only see her with a fair witness present. Don't sign anything they ask you to sign.

she probably will. but what is oath and how does it work here?  thanks for replying i really really appreciate it. youre the only person besides her parents i have talked to from last 1 week

[Rc123rc 528]

47 minutes ago, nepali29292 said:

she probably will. but what is oath and how does it work here?  thanks for replying i really really appreciate it. youre the only person besides her parents i have talked to from last 1 week

Oath means that she is legally telling to an official of the court or a notary that her statements are true. If she lies under oath, then the courts could throw her into jail. Thats the simple answer. A lawyer would give better answers. You might want to look into free legal advice. There should be some available to you.

[nepali29292 2]

1 minute ago, rcripps said:

Oath means that she is legally telling to an official of the court or a notary that her statements are true. If she lies under oath, then the courts could throw her into jail. Thats the simple answer. A lawyer would give better answers. You might want to look into free legal advice. There should be some available to you.

thank you so much i just have one last question. how will they know that she is lying under oath? im trying to look for some legal advice now . thanks a lot

[Rc123rc 528]

If there was any lawsuit or arrest, she would be questioned thoroughly and her story would probably fall apart quickly. They won't question her with her parents there.

[soulstriker 274]

wheres is your wife from?

[nepali29292 2]

1 minute ago, soulstriker said:

wheres is your wife from?

massachusetts

 

[Ebunoluwa 6,136]

I find it bizarre that a grown woman allows herself to be manipulated by her parents to this extend unless someone is with an abusvie
spouse, parent don't usually decide if a couple divorces unless they want to protect her from true harm based on abuse.
So this story just sounds very strange to me. Consult a lawyer if there are false charges of abuse against you.
If she is this wishy washy about the marriage and you truly never abused her then for why not let her go?
If you have not abused her you can ROC with a divorce waiver if you have proof of a good faith marriage and the evidence to back it and

up you don't need to be married for 2 years like you assumed.
If you did abuse her then that is another story.

[NikLR 13,220]

2 hours ago, Ebunoluwa said:

I find it bizarre that a grown woman allows herself to be manipulated by her parents to this extend unless someone is with an abusvie
spouse, parent don't usually decide if a couple divorces unless they want to protect her from true harm based on abuse.
So this story just sounds very strange to me. Consult a lawyer if there are false charges of abuse against you.
If she is this wishy washy about the marriage and you truly never abused her then for why not let her go?
If you have not abused her you can ROC with a divorce waiver if you have proof of a good faith marriage and the evidence to back it and

up you don't need to be married for 2 years like you assumed.
If you did abuse her then that is another story.

It sounds like she's used to being manipulated by her family.  It's more common than you may think and she likely has been emotionally abused her whole life by helicopter parents.   It may lead to her being abused easily in any relationship she has too.  I hope for her sake, she can get out on her own one day. 

As for the OP, you need a divorce lawyer.  If your wife can't leave her parents, I suggest you cut all contact with all of them unless you have multiple witnesses with you. Check the laws in your state to see if you can record with or without their consent.  Every phone call should be recorded.  Every email should be saved.  Every text message saved as well.  They can't threaten you in the manner they are, regardless of what you may or may not have done.  

Edited January 18, 2017 by NikLR

[Daisy.Chain 317]

NO ONE can force you to divorce your wife. You promised to be together in the good and in the bad. She may legally divorce you, but not by threatening. Good luck - perhaps you can also her? There has to be someway to establish contact at least online. Don't give up on your marriage! Also, be aware that her parents' threats sound awful but have no legal background unless there is a lot you're not telling (is you HAVE been abusive). Even then, I believe there is a process. Good luck!

[milaroy 3]

Going on what you have told us there is nothing you really have to worry about. going by what you have said it sounds like you wife is an emotionally disturb person (EDP) and she does need help. Now in Massachusetts she can divorce you without you signing anything. It will be a contested divorce it will take some time but if she really wanted she can do this. My suggesting to you is not worry about the what if's. There are many pro bono. There are many law students who take on these cases and do well. As for the possibility of anything with the domestic violence... well in Massachusetts if she makes a police report that you physically assualted her the police will arrest you but this will not effect you immigration status. 

Working in law enforcement in Massachusetts suggest that you have as little contact with them anymore and build and live your life here. Educate yourself seek some free legal advise there are many resources in Massachusetts  

[USC1961 251]

14 hours ago, NikLR said:

It sounds like she's used to being manipulated by her family.  It's more common than you may think and she likely has been emotionally abused her whole life by helicopter parents.   It may lead to her being abused easily in any relationship she has too.  I hope for her sake, she can get out on her own one day. 

As for the OP, you need a divorce lawyer.  If your wife can't leave her parents, I suggest you cut all contact with all of them unless you have multiple witnesses with you. Check the laws in your state to see if you can record with or without their consent.  Every phone call should be recorded.  Every email should be saved.  Every text message saved as well.  They can't threaten you in the manner they are, regardless of what you may or may not have done.  

Indeed, sadly this is a lot more common than what the common perception is.  The fact that she kept this a secret from her parents from the very beginning is a sure fire indication that something very wrong with the family dynamics.  OP's story makes perfect sense.

Edited January 18, 2017 by Cruise77

[Chardon Ne' 71]

You should go to the police and file against the parents for extortion. They can't do that to you. Talk to them by text only, this way you have documented proof of the conversations. 

[Randyandyuni 2,682]

Talk to a lawyer is the best advice you have gotten, if there is no police trail of evidence, it comes down to who is moist believable. Protect yourself if you are not guilty of anything

[Marco&Bettina 502]

Still feel something is missing. I just read all the posts by the OP a 2nd time and I'm not being accusatory here but the only denial that any of these accusations actually happened was something to the effect of "I didn't do anything to deserve any of this". But fights were specifically mentioned. What kind of fights are we talking about? Verbal arguments? How heated? Physical? How so?

 

I'm just asking these questions because I struggle to believe someone can completely flip like that if it was a very loving, nurturing marriage. Something is amiss. Guess I'm the only one that thinks so.

Edited January 18, 2017 by Marco&Bettina

[Rc123rc 528]

17 minutes ago, Marco&Bettina said:

Still feel something is missing. I just read all the posts by the OP a 2nd time and I'm not being accusatory here but the only denial that any of these accusations actually happened was something to the effect of "I didn't do anything to deserve any of this". But fights were specifically mentioned. What kind of fights are we talking about? Verbal arguments? How heated? Physical? How so?

 

I'm just asking these questions because I struggle to believe someone can completely flip like that if it was a very loving, nurturing marriage. Something is amiss. Guess I'm the only one that thinks so.

There are always two sides to every story. Please reread the posts again. The OP has denied a specific list of possible abuse categories. As stated previously, doubts are in play from a number of posters and the OP has received advice from many people on how to handle this situation.