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My fiancé has a son with cerebral palsy and I have also petitioned for the son to come with him. His mother, abandoned her son over a year ago and when my fiancé took him he was malnourished and abused. The mother has not called or seen or even asked to see the boy the whole time she left him. Now we need a letter to take to the interview signed by her and she is refusing to sign it saying she doesn't give my fiancé full custody which is how I wrote the letter. I rewrote it today and sent it saying that she gives him permission to bring him to the US. I hope she signs it. How hateful is that woman to not want a better life for her son. She didn't want him and Is doing whatever she can to stop him. I am devastated and was certain since she abandoned the boy she would sign the letter. she said she has a problem with the words 'Full Custody" yea right. he has been in full custody of my fiancé since she left him starving and sores all over. What the heck is wrong with people?

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Oh, wow! How vicious! Sounds like she only wants to be a good mother in front of people, but behind closed doors, she is her true self. Think about a way you can write the letter that doesn't attack her pride if you need to rewrite it. Word it in a way that sounds like she is being selfless and doing the right thing. Try using a little emotion (just enough - not too much) that displays her 'remorse' over the necessary separation. Do you think that will help? It just sounds like she has some ego issues that is causing her to act this way. Either she wants to hold your fiance back or she wants to save face regarding her son.

Was there any legal action your fiance could have done to gain full custody through the Jamaican courts? Maybe revoke her parental rights because of her actions?


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Oh, wow! How vicious! Sounds like she only wants to be a good mother in front of people, but behind closed doors, she is her true self. Think about a way you can write the letter that doesn't attack her pride if you need to rewrite it. Word it in a way that sounds like she is being selfless and doing the right thing. Try using a little emotion (just enough - not too much) that displays her 'remorse' over the necessary separation. Do you think that will help? It just sounds like she has some ego issues that is causing her to act this way. Either she wants to hold your fiance back or she wants to save face regarding her son.

Was there any legal action your fiance could have done to gain full custody through the Jamaican courts? Maybe revoke her parental rights because of her actions?

I am unsure of Jamaican court system for custody or the cost. the pictures I have seen of the child when he was with her, she would surely be in jail if she lived here. now his father has had him a year, he is healthy and happy. your words of wisdom might be right. however I have rewritten the letter and removed full custody from the wording since initially that is what she had the problem with. he sent her a copy and she is not answering now because she said she is at a party. SMH. What the hell is going on here. Not once did she ask to see the son. had I known maybe I would have suggested he go to the courts not knowing she would behave this way. she does not want the boy never did. not in his condition but refuse him the right to come where he can get help. I am at a loss for words at this evil B****

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Very vindictive, maybe uneducated too and god bless this father, however

I think she will sign the 2nd letter with "full custody" removed, also why not

have hubby present her the letter? many times these mothers are not receptive

in anything a new wife or g/friend is involved with..I hope it gets done as you seem to

have a good heart.

On the flip side many here speak of a better life for the kid & sure this kid will be

better off than the position he was in, but many Jamaican kids sent abroad thinking

life will be better get killed, molested & oppressed, so not all that glitters is gold

Don't know if anyone remembers that 9 yr old in Toronto beaten by dads wife to

death & a tooth she knocked out found in his stomach, so I applaud you for your

concerns & others but we at times have to think..Best wishes going forward

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Very vindictive, maybe uneducated too and god bless this father, however

I think she will sign the 2nd letter with "full custody" removed, also why not

have hubby present her the letter? many times these mothers are not receptive

in anything a new wife or g/friend is involved with..I hope it gets done as you seem to

have a good heart.

On the flip side many here speak of a better life for the kid & sure this kid will be

better off than the position he was in, but many Jamaican kids sent abroad thinking

life will be better get killed, molested & oppressed, so not all that glitters is gold

Don't know if anyone remembers that 9 yr old in Toronto beaten by dads wife to

death & a tooth she knocked out found in his stomach, so I applaud you for your

concerns & others but we at times have to think..Best wishes going forward

Oh no I have no dealings with her. He has presented the letter to her. I just wrote and rewrote it and emailed him to print it. So that is not the reason. she is just trying to be in control and it is unfortunate as I would not dare ask him or have him leave the boy there at any cost. He is all he has. I am certain that it will be a better life for him. when I visited them last march it was hard to see my fiancé struggle and have to carry him everywhere. I have already a pediatric wheelchair for when he comes and am planning to place him in a special needs class. I hear you about the horrors for any child that is abused in any way and I can assure you that this is not the case at all. I love him as though he were my own son or grandchild. My wish is that the mother comes to what ever sense she has whether uneducated or plain stupid and sign the paper giving him the right to bring the boy to the US. She claims that she may want him back one day if she gets a job and house but there is no way my fiancé would allow that being that for 7 of his 8 years she basically left him on the floor unclean unfed and if you ask the boy if he wants to see his mother he shakes his head NO. sad but true that even in his condition recognizes the difference in care he is receiving now from his dad. thanks.

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I'm a pedatric nurse and your story is so sad I don't know if he will come here legally but I have taken care of a Patient Haitian 9 yrs old with cerebral palsy. She has 24 hr home health care even when her mom's home and her mom's a outstanding mother. I hope you ask for assistance in his care.

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I'm a pedatric nurse and your story is so sad I don't know if he will come here legally but I have taken care of a Patient Haitian 9 yrs old with cerebral palsy. She has 24 hr home health care even when her mom's home and her mom's a outstanding mother. I hope you ask for assistance in his care.

yes he is coming with my fiancé under the K1 Visa so yes legal. I don't think I can get any social or government assistance for him at this point and I certainly cant afford 24 hours of home health. but we will do our best by the grace of God. Oh and for and update the mother signed the new letter tonight. thank GOD!!

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In the state of Florida medicaid pays the home health costs for the care. Children have to be referred to a hospital to evaluate them and after discharge and pediatric physician specialists recommendation a home health agency gets a referral they know the guidelines for the state of residence of the children. Ask at a hospital specializing in children in your state. God bless.

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Navigating the Systems http://www.azdhs.gov/phs/owch/ocshcn Navigating the Systems is an online resource for families, professionals, agencies and organizations to assist them in navigating Arizona's systems of care. This resource provides overviews of eligibility and application information as well as links to program websites

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The Case for Inclusion Arizona Ranked #1

July 27, 2015

Every year since 2006, United Cerebral Palsy (UCP) produces The Case for Inclusion, an annual ranking of how well State Medicaid programs serve Americans with intellectual and developmental disabilities (ID/DD) and their families.

States were ranked based on four key aspects, for which Arizona was ranked #1 overall: promoting independence, promoting productivity, keeping families together and reaching those in need, and tracking health, safety, and quality of life.

The Case for Inclusion: United Cerebral Palsys 2015 Report

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Contact the United Cerebral Palsy for the state of Arizona. There are state and federal the programs in America to assist children with CP.

Thank you what a great help this will be. I will check it out. I do know that he will not be eligible for a state or federal program because of the affidavit of support I sign saying that he will not be a public charge so I am looking at non profit orgs. thanks again

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