USC's criminal record affects the case???

[rhein 451]

My husband feels sorry for that accident, he asked me to give him another chance coz we have a kid together.

i didnt know that it will turn that bad when i called the police, i was scared, couldn't breath he covered my nose and mouth for a while. When police came my lips were bleeding and swolled, so he put all these at the report. The second court is in July 24, probably judge will fine him for 5000$

You should leave this scumbag before he kills you or your child. 'Accident'? People don't try to asphyxiate each other by 'accident.'

Edited July 18, 2015 by Jon and Sol

[marina1294 28]

Run away from an abusive husband and protect your children from him!!

[Jasmin@ 0]

Actually on that day when he abused me I completely decided to divorce.

the issue is he is paying for rent, im here in US like a year, during this time he didn't let me work, i passed the written test for drivers license but he doesn't want to take me to the driving test. The problem is i want to work but without car its impossible cuz we live in suburbs. Plus i have a 3 years old kid, he does not want to put her in daycare either, so confused i dont have anybody here.

Maybe it will be easy to survive as a single mom with government help???

[Jawaree 717]

OP no judgment but why would you take your kid into situation that theres abuse causing

cops to come out. The criminal history usually is not a biggie for USC, however with a child

involved it may be an issue, studies shows abusers eventually abuse the kids too especially

when the kid is not theirs & sticks up for mommy...Think before you do that to your child.

Are you seeking counseling or to leave this marriage? I say put the petition on pause until

things is sorted out or you have left the relationship then you petition your kid, after all you

did leave him and is here, waiting another 15 mths are so should not be hard You can visit

and Skype for now

You need to call 911 & get put in a shelter just go, make sure you do it when he;s not home

and take your documents with you, he will continue to beat & oppress you, the shelter will help

you find work, and how to obtain a divorce, with a job you can start on your own, get into

a church, join the library, make friends but get out B4 you are dead. DONT have him petition

your child, wait to do that when you are out

Edited July 19, 2015 by Jawaree

[Cathi 5,609]

you are married to an abusive, controlling man. Get out, divorce him and file for your son on your own. Why on Earth would you want to stay with a man who doesn't let you drive or work, let alone a man who tried to kill you?

[deleted this acco 44]

it sounds like he excluded your son on the application on purpose. he may not have wanted him here. I would think twice before bringing your child into a violent household.

[Jasmin@ 0]

Yes exactly he didn't put my son's name purposely

Why i want my son here - my parents can't take care of him they became too old, he needs me too much, and when he will come here it would be much easier to handle the life, he can take care of his sister, and having two of my kids by my side i can handle everything.

But friends you are right my husband doesn't want my son at all...

[Jasmin@ 0]

My another question - should i find a work first and then file i130

or i can file it now and start looking for a job

i mean should i have to send a letter from job or pay stubs with I 130?

[Jasmin@ 0]

My another question - should i find a job first and then file i130

or i can file it now and start looking for a job

i mean should i have to send a letter from job or pay stubs with I 130?

Edited July 19, 2015 by Jasmin@

[General Buhari 46]

I hate when this happens. This is supposed to be happy fun times of new beginnings.

Good luck to all concerned.

Edited July 19, 2015 by General Buhari

[Hairball 11]

Wooo, back this train up a minute..

Jasmin you are in a abusive relationship with children ...... Things will NEVER get better, they will only continue to get worse....I hate to say this but you are married to a scum bag of the lowest level, a true gentleman will never harm a woman in anyway, but instead protect and love her.

Now you first must protect your child and yourself......Forget about I-130, forget about job......Focus to get out and into a safe environment, then look for a job, and then unite your family

[mallafri76 1,012]

Your husband is an abuser, but you already know that. He's put you in a position where you are totally dependent on him for money, food, roof of your head and something as simple as getting from A to B.... Sadly, your story is not that uncommon.

Did you come to the US on a CR-1 or an IR-1. As I understand it, you can become a USC after three years as a permanent resident in the US. I would wait till then to petition for your child. Once you're a USC, it's gonna be about a year before your kid can move over. If you petition now, it's a much longer process since you're an LPR and then your kid has to wait for a visa to become available in his category. Plus, if you don't meet the federal poverty guidelines, you need a joint financial sponsor. So either you need to find a job with a salary that meets the poverty guidelines (125%) or find a friend or family member who is willing to be a joint sponsor for your kid.

And I do think that your husband's domestic violence will make it difficult with the petition because in the petition, you will write your husband's name and date of birth. On the G-325 you will again write your husband's information as well as your address. I'm sure that during the background checks, it's gonna come up that there's been a domestic violence call to your address and that the person you live with has a criminal record. Non-violent criminal record doesn't matter during the visa process but when it's of a violent and/or sexual nature, US immigrations take it very seriously. Look up the Adam Walsh Act.

I hope you find the strength to break free from this controlling and abusive man. I take it you don't have your own savings or ownership of something that you can sell to get some money?! See if you can find a lawyer that will give you a free consult or contact a women's shelter or group for help.

Edited July 19, 2015 by mallafri76

[spectec 12]

Intentionally restricting someones ability to breath is felony battery in most states and is not taken lightly. He might very well face more than a 5k fine. Prepare for alternatives as others have mentioned and above all protect yourself and your son. Good luck.

[Fan_Dancer 171]

I concur with what people said. Think about it this way: your son is a teenager. Will he stand by and look while his step-father chocks his mother? Things could get very ugly fast.

[Jasmin@ 0]

Oh Guys thanks a lot for posts, now i am not feeling such alone, things are getting clear in my mind, cuz everything came on me in one time, i got confused and im still new in this country. I trusted my husband and came here to start a new life, but day by day things get worst, honestly thats not the first time of his abusing, since year like 2 - 3 times a week it happens, he starts fight from nothing, and also he has a drinking problem, when he starts drinking he cant stop until he passed out.

Oh Guys thanks a lot for posts, now i am not feeling such alone, things are getting clear in my mind, cuz everything came on me in one time, i got confused and im still new in this country. I trusted my husband and came here to start a new life, but day by day things get worst, honestly thats not the first time of his abusing, since year like 2 - 3 times a week it happens, he starts fight from nothing, and also he has a drinking problem, when he starts drinking he cant stop until he passed out.