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I got here using k1 visa and we already got married but we havent applied AoS yet till now. The problem if i really wanna back to my country because im not happy! I always pay my own stuff and my hubby seems not care abt it. And he seems doesnt care about AoS etc. He has no plans at all. Im very sad and mad. I really wanna just runaway after i bought ticket. Is it a problem if i just go home to my home country without divorce first? Thanks

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Not a problem at all. You are free to leave.


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I got here using k1 visa and we already got married but we havent applied AoS yet till now. The problem if i really wanna back to my country because im not happy! I always pay my own stuff and my hubby seems not care abt it. And he seems doesnt care about AoS etc. He has no plans at all. Im very sad and mad. I really wanna just runaway after i bought ticket. Is it a problem if i just go home to my home country without divorce first? Thanks

Hi,

If your husband does not want to apply AOS for you (joint petition as married), eventually you will be out of status.

How long have you been married if I may ask?

You can leave yes, there is no issue in leaving. Entering is.

Best wishes.

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Hi,

If your husband does not want to apply AOS for you (joint petition as married), eventually you will be out of status.

How long have you been married if I may ask?

You can leave yes, there is no issue in leaving. Entering is.

Best wishes.

Blooms

OP isn't returning.

OP is leaving and then divorcing.

OP- you can leave with no issue and either start divorce proceedings from your home country or get the petitioner to file from America.

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OP isn't returning.

OP is leaving and then divorcing.

OP- you can leave with no issue and either start divorce proceedings from your home country or get the petitioner to file from America.

Yes I am aware of her situation. I was trying to explain the consequence if she fails to adjust her status in which she will anyway. Thus, again, leaving is not an issue, entering is.

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Yes I am aware of her situation. I was trying to explain the consequence if she fails to adjust her status in which she will anyway. Thus, again, leaving is not an issue, entering is.

Right, but OP isn't saying that she wants to return right now, simply to go home.

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Yes I am aware of her situation. I was trying to explain the consequence if she fails to adjust her status in which she will anyway. Thus, again, leaving is not an issue, entering is.

op obviously does not want to adjust.

Op just wants to leave and then divorce.

Op will not be re entering.

Just leaving.


My Name is Daisy, I am British, I say things bluntly and to the point.
London K1, A complete guide -- >http://www.visajourney.com/forums/topic/474161-london-k1-a-complete-guide/
I am Daisy the Beneficiary, These are my views!
U.K. k1 visa, approved 2014.

NOA1: 20/03/2014

NOA2: 11/04/2014 (22 days)

Interview: 09/07/2014 (111 days)

D.O.E 29/07/2014

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AOS/EAD/AP Sent: 12/11/2014

Delivered at Chicago LB:15/11/2014

NOA1 (all 3): 17/11/2014

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hello all,,, thanks for the reply and sorry for the delay. i got married on April 2015. I just got shocking news yesterday and it makes me more frustrated. I really wanna go but the condition is every time i said that i want divorce he always said im a quitter. and his mom is very nice to me (we still live in his mom's house). He always said if i left him it would make him do something stupid (killing himself etc). i feel trapped! In the other side, i dont know what to say to my family. I really dont have problem leaving cuz i never count on him financially, as i have my own business in my country. But he said he will do something stupid if i left. Now i really dont know what to do! To survive here, I must do AoS to get job and also to get Advance Parole to get out from USA and back again right? I dont know guys i feel trapped right now....

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You cannot put that on yourself. He needs help. You need to get yourself out of there as he is obviously mentally ill and needs help.

Idk if hes mentally ill, he just doesnt want to lose me cuz we were in relationship 4years and then we got married April this year. Idk im so confused right now. I just need he can change and start to focus on the future. Thanks guys for your advice. I think i got the answer that i can just go back to my country without getting divorce, but the condition is different right now :( maybe ill just survive here....

Thanks sooo much and pray for me. GBU all.

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Idk if hes mentally ill, he just doesnt want to lose me cuz we were in relationship 4years and then we got married April this year. Idk im so confused right now. I just need he can change and start to focus on the future. Thanks guys for your advice. I think i got the answer that i can just go back to my country without getting divorce, but the condition is different right now :( maybe ill just survive here....

Thanks sooo much and pray for me. GBU all.

If he is threatening suicide he is most likely mentally ill and needs an assessment as to how he can be helped. You staying wouldn't save him on its own. Choose what's best for you. Your best bet is to return home. Staying you'd be out of status without a path to citizenship or residency. Best of luck with your choice.

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If he is threatening suicide he is most likely mentally ill and needs an assessment as to how he can be helped. You staying wouldn't save him on its own. Choose what's best for you. Your best bet is to return home. Staying you'd be out of status without a path to citizenship or residency. Best of luck with your choice.

Or just manipulative, wouldn't be the first person to ever pull out the "I'll do something bad to myself" card to try and guilt trip the other person in to staying when they have no intention of carrying out their threat.

OP, do whatever is right for you. As harsh as it might sound, anything he does after that ISN'T your fault or responsibility.


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I got here using k1 visa and we already got married but we havent applied AoS yet till now. The problem if i really wanna back to my country because im not happy! I always pay my own stuff and my hubby seems not care abt it. And he seems doesnt care about AoS etc. He has no plans at all. Im very sad and mad. I really wanna just runaway after i bought ticket. Is it a problem if i just go home to my home country without divorce first? Thanks

He is obviously neglecting you. Your red flags are:

1. You are paying for your own stuff. Now while I am all for a woman's independence, I certainly would not let my wife, who gave up everything back home, pay for her own clothes, food, etc. Unless of course she had found a great paying job and insisted upon it.

2. He is not concerned about your AoS. Part of being married and living in the USA is to hopefully become a US Citizen so it would be easier to go anywhere with him. It also entitles you to US Citizenship benefits and rights not given to you being a LPR. As of now, you are probably out of status and risk being deported (rare but it happens). He should be doing everything in his power to at least get you a green card.

hello all,,, thanks for the reply and sorry for the delay. i got married on April 2015. I just got shocking news yesterday and it makes me more frustrated. I really wanna go but the condition is every time i said that i want divorce he always said im a quitter. and his mom is very nice to me (we still live in his mom's house). He always said if i left him it would make him do something stupid (killing himself etc). i feel trapped! In the other side, i dont know what to say to my family. I really dont have problem leaving cuz i never count on him financially, as i have my own business in my country. But he said he will do something stupid if i left. Now i really dont know what to do! To survive here, I must do AoS to get job and also to get Advance Parole to get out from USA and back again right? I dont know guys i feel trapped right now....

He tells you that you are a quitter? He's already quit on you for not applying for your AoS.

If you have the resources, buy a ticket home. Your situation will not improve, especially if he is threatening harm to himself. If he can threaten to harm himself, one day it may be you he threatens to harm. Do not be guilted into staying. If your marriage is not working, it will only get worse as it seems apparent he is manipulating your life.

Get out now. He needs help, and you need to keep yourself safe.

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