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Please excuse my poor writing; I’m not thinking all that clearly right now.

My Fiance was due to arrive in the U.S. tomorrow. Today when I tried to call him his phone went straight to VM all day. I contacted his sister and she informed me that he had left the country yesterday and was in Switzerland.

Apparently he has been involved with another woman for most of our relationship. He was having both of us file visa paperwork for him concurrently. He called me this evening and sent photos of the two of them, her engagement ring, his Swiss visa, etc. Based on what he told me he became involved with her approx two weeks after we were engaged. That means he was with her even before I filed our I-129f.

I also found out she was in JA visiting him two weeks after I was there to see him. He swears she knows all about me and is completely OK with everything. That she knows I was there visiting right before she arrived and that I had also petitioned for him.

I’m reeling and trying to shift gears from thinking he would be here in fewer than 24 hours. I know this is not a unique story but it’s not making any of this hurt less. My heart is broken and I’m at a complete loss.

I guess I’ve become just another Jamaican statistic.

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What?! So basically he was involved with two people just seeing which visa arrived fastest?! I'm so, so sorry for you and all the heartache you must be feeling. Sounds like you had a lucky escape overall - although I know that will be of little comfort right now!

What does he mean 'she's ok about you'? Like you're supposed to be fine with being used???


I-130 petition mailed (DCF) - Feb 6, 2015

NOA1 received - Feb 10, 2015

RFE received - Mar 13, 2015

RFE reply sent - Mar 14, 2015

NOA2 received - Mar 20, 2015

LND Number received - April 8, 2015

Booked medical - April 9, 2015

Packet 3 returned - April 11, 2015

Medical - April 20, 2015

Packet 4 received - April 29, 2015

Interview - May 29, 2015: APPROVED!

POE Dallas Fort Worth - June 10, 2015

Moved from Lake Texoma to Austin, TX - June 29, 2015

Got TX Drivers License - July 9, 2015

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What?! So basically he was involved with two people just seeing which visa arrived fastest?! I'm so, so sorry for you and all the heartache you must be feeling. Sounds like you had a lucky escape overall - although I know that will be of little comfort right now!

What does he mean 'she's ok about you'? Like you're supposed to be fine with being used???

Yes, "she is the better woman" because she is OK with every little thing. Apparently she doesn't mind that he was with me at the same time, doesn't question his lies, sent him money on demand, etc.

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You have definitely had a lucky escape here. And believe me, she is not 'the better woman', she's a pushover at best. He might decide he doesn't like the weather in Switzerland and try to take up with a Spanish or Italian woman (heck, why not both?!) and do the same to her in a little while.

DEFINITELY inform DoS and the Jamaican embassy of the situation though.


I-130 petition mailed (DCF) - Feb 6, 2015

NOA1 received - Feb 10, 2015

RFE received - Mar 13, 2015

RFE reply sent - Mar 14, 2015

NOA2 received - Mar 20, 2015

LND Number received - April 8, 2015

Booked medical - April 9, 2015

Packet 3 returned - April 11, 2015

Medical - April 20, 2015

Packet 4 received - April 29, 2015

Interview - May 29, 2015: APPROVED!

POE Dallas Fort Worth - June 10, 2015

Moved from Lake Texoma to Austin, TX - June 29, 2015

Got TX Drivers License - July 9, 2015

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WOW!! My dear call this a blessing because you dodge a bullet. This is the foolishness that make it hard for us and other people that are trying to do the right thing. You have saved yourself a lifetime of problems and stress and should be thanking God. Mek him gwan, long run short ketch!!!

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Really too bad...I have a hunch that their relationship won't last too long either.

Seriously...you should be very thankful that you didn't get married and

having to go through a divorce soon afterwards.

Let this be a good learning lesson and move on to the next better man.


10-04-2013 We met online
11-21-2013 We met in person in Shanghai for 2 weeks

12-13-2013 I-129F packet sent via express

12-19-2013 USCIS NOA #1 (text and email) received

12-24-2013 USCIS assigns Alien Registration Number
12-31-2013 USCIS NOA #1 hard copy received
06-02-2014 USCIS web site shows NOA #2 approval
06-06-2014 USCIS web site shows case sent to NVC

06-xx-2014 Fiancee acquired birth, marriage, and police certificates from local police station (wrong)

06-16-2014 NVC creates case with GUZ### number

06-19-2014 NVC sends case sent to Guangzhou, China
06-24-2014 Received packet 3 express mail from embassy
06-25-2014 Completed DS-160 and paid K1 visa fee

06-26-2014 Mailed packet 3 response back to Embassy

06-26-2014 Requested police certificate from Russian embassy

07-08-2014 Received packet 4 email from Embassy

07-17-2014 Picked up Russian police certificate

07-25-2014 Fiancee medical exam (received MMR & Varicella, but they missed required TD shot)

07-31-2014 Picked up medical exam reports

08-01-2014 Request (correct) birth, marriage, and police certificates from Notarial Service (GongZhengChu)

08-06-2014 Picked up birth, marriage, and police certificates from Notarial Service

08-14-2014 Passed Interview Guangzhou embassy

09-01-2014 Received passport, visa, & sealed envelope

09-13-2014 POE

09-17-2014 Went to CBP office to get (US entry) I-94 updated correctly

09-18-2014 Applied for Social Security Card
09-19-2014 Applied for Marriage License (via online)
09-25-2014 Received Social Security Card
09-30-2014 Picked up Marriage License
10-09-2014 Marriage by Justice of Peace
10-09-2014 Got Certified Marriage Certificate Copies
10-17-2014 Received a letter from SS office that they need the marriage license
10-09-2014 Applied to change the social security card name
10-24-2014 Went back to SS office to provide the marriage certificate documents again!!!
12-09-2014 Submitted AOS, EAD, and AP
12-16-2014 Received 16 emails and 16 text NOA messages
01-05-2015 Received Biometrics appointment letter for (01-12-2015)
01-12-2015 Had Biometrics (fingerprint & picture) - Required Marriage Certificate!!!
02-17-2015 EAD and AP is approved
02-23-2015 Received AP is approval letter
02-25-2015 Received EAD/AP combo card (expires 02/16/2016)
02-27-2015 Applied for SS card name change (they took her SS card)
02-27-2015 Driver's learner permit test was denied since the SS card was given to SS office for name change
03-17-2015 Received SS card with married name
03-17-2015 Started to change all her accounts to married name
03-23-2015 Received potential interview waiver letter
03-27-2015 DMV rejects learner's permit due to "legal status=pending" and vision test failure
04-05-2015 Vision test for learner's permit
04-06-2015 DPS sent us letter that DHS cleared my wife's status to acquire driver's license.
04-10-2015 Passed Driver Learner's Permit
04-22-2015 Received Driver Learner's Permit ID card (expires 02/16/2016)
08-27-2015 Green Card approved
08-31-2015 Received Green Card "Welcome Notice Was Mailed" letter
09-05-2015 Received Green card
10-26-2015 Passed Driver's License Road Test (on 3rd attempt)
11-03-2015 Received Driver's License (expires 02/16/2022)
11-06-2015 Applied to remove conditional work remark on SS card
11-23-2015 Received updated Social Security Card.
- - - - - - - - - - Pending Future Processing - - - - - - - - - -
05-27-2017 File 10 Year Green Card
08-27-2017 2 Year Green Card Expires
05-27-2018 File USC

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He is already in Switzerland.


“If you know the enemy and know yourself, you need not fear the result of a hundred battles. If you know yourself but not the enemy, for every victory gained you will also suffer a defeat. If you know neither the enemy nor yourself, you will succumb in every battle.”

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Please excuse my poor writing; I’m not thinking all that clearly right now.

My Fiance was due to arrive in the U.S. tomorrow. Today when I tried to call him his phone went straight to VM all day. I contacted his sister and she informed me that he had left the country yesterday and was in Switzerland.

Apparently he has been involved with another woman for most of our relationship. He was having both of us file visa paperwork for him concurrently. He called me this evening and sent photos of the two of them, her engagement ring, his Swiss visa, etc. Based on what he told me he became involved with her approx two weeks after we were engaged. That means he was with her even before I filed our I-129f.

I also found out she was in JA visiting him two weeks after I was there to see him. He swears she knows all about me and is completely OK with everything. That she knows I was there visiting right before she arrived and that I had also petitioned for him.

I’m reeling and trying to shift gears from thinking he would be here in fewer than 24 hours. I know this is not a unique story but it’s not making any of this hurt less. My heart is broken and I’m at a complete loss.

I guess I’ve become just another Jamaican statistic.

Sorry for your loss, I say that because hopefully now your fiance is dead to you. I'd contact USCIS and let them know, I wouldn't do anything else because the quicker you can move on the better. Contacting the Swiss sounds like a waste of time to me. There's a ton of fish in the sea, much better you found out now rather than later. He's a jerk you shouldn't feel bad, sending photos of them makes no sense. He must cheat due to low self esteem, you can do better. Best thing you can do is take a vacation! I always feel better after a break up if I go to another country and party like a rock star.

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