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My husband and I got married a month ago and he has a B/1 B/2 visa that expires the 15 of September of this year. I am living at home with a relative and I'm looking for an apartment which has been difficult since we are in NY where it's expensive and hard to find a place but we are planning to move out of state. My husband stays with a family that has been supporting him. I worry since we don't live together that it will look bad when we go to the interview. The only proof I have is wedding pictures, pictures of us together, phone records, tons of messages from our facebook, joint bank account and I go to his place every week but don't know how to show proof of that. Now I heard that is won't be much of an issue if we don't live together and I heard that it is. I want to know from people who know what they are talking about. Thanks.

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So he entered in March and married in April and you have not lived together.

May well raise issues.


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But also may be just fine. Assuming you have a really good reason. We weren't living together when we applied, but we HAD known each other for many years. Case-by-case and all that. Oh and we'd just moved in together when our interview date came around.

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Create wills, medical powers of attorney, and similar documents. These are excellent evidence of a bona fide marriage when other evidence is thin.


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06-11-2007 = NOA1 date (unknown to me).

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01-09-2008 = File from USCIS to NVC, 1-4-08; NVC creates file, 1/15/08; to consulate 1/16/08.

01-23-2008 = Consulate gets file; outdated Packet 4 mailed to fiancee 1/27/08; rec'd 3/3/08.

04-29-2008 = Fiancee's 4-min. consular interview, 8:30 a.m.; much evidence brought but not allowed to be presented (consul: "More proof! Second interview! Bring your fiance!").

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Try to find a place asap.

Edited by Ebunoluwa

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I-129F Sent : 3-31-2014, NOA2: 4-6-2014

NVC Received : some dinkelsberry yehoo in the house of clingons send our petition to the wrong consulate.

Consulate Received : July 30,2014 Transfer to right embassy complete.

Interview Date : Oct 22, 2014

Interview Result : AP , requesting another PC (not expired) and certified divorce decree (was submitted)Stokes interview via phone for petitioner 4 hrs after interview.

Oct 23 email notification visa approved.
Visa Received : Nov. 3 , 2014 VISA IN HAND.

US Entry : Nov. 21, 2014

Marriage : Dec 27, 2014

AOS send : May 12, 2015, received May 14, 2015 USPS priority

Email &text : May 18, 2015, check cashed May 19,2015, return receipt May 21, 2015 stamped USCIS Lockbox, NOA1 (3x) May 22,2015

Biometrics : June 1, 2015 letter received for appointment June 8, 2015, successful walk-in June 1, 2015

RFE : June 12, 2015 for income not meeting guideline. Income does ( ! ) exceed guideline.

RFE response : June 26, 2015 returned with a boat load full of financial evidence.

UPDATE: July 5, 2015 updated on all 3 cases, RFE received June 30, 2015.

Service request : Aug 12, 2015, letter received that it will be processed within 90 days from receipt of RFE.

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Emails : Aug 24, 2015, EAD approved, EAD card ordered.

I-797 EAD/AP approval notice received : Aug 27, 2015

EAD/AP combo card mailed : Aug 27, 2015, EAD/AP combo card received: Aug 31, 2015

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Service request for pending AOS April 21, 2016, case not assigned yet.
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*Service request for I-485 Aug 3, 2016, Aug11 notification> request was assigned. Service request Dec 2, 2016.
AOS Interview letter received Aug 12, 2016

AOS Interview September 21, 2016.

Second Biometrics appointment letters received for EAD and AOS on Aug 15, 2016 for Aug 17 ( 2 day notice).

Second Biometrics completed Aug 17, 2016

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Sept. 21 Interview, 2 hour interview, we were separated and asked about 50 questions each for an hour each. IO was firm but professional, some smiles.
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Not living together doesn't help, but being honest at the interview about the reasons goes a long way to show a bonafide marriage. Collect as much evidence of your life together.. and try your best-est to find a place.

*Things happen sometimes that are not ideal, but that's life.


USCIS

January 16, 2015 I-130 Mailed, Chi lockbox January 20, 2015 Priority Date, January 21, 2015 NOA1 notice date, Assigned VSC, January 23, 2015 Check Cashed, electronically March 5, 2015 NOA2

NVC

March 27, 2015 NVC received April 6, 2015 Case#, IIN# assigned April 8, 2015 Paid AOS + IV fee Invoices May 5, 2015 AOS + IV package submitted May 11, 2015 Scan Date

June 11, 2015 DS-260 submitted June 25, 2015 False checklist (for ds260).. hello? June 30, 2015 Answered checklist Aug 5, 2015 Escalated to Supervisor review Aug 13, 2015 Case Complete

Consular

Sept 10, 2015 Interview Scheduled Sept 11, 2015 P4 Letter received Sept 21, 2015 file In transit from NVC Sept 23, 2015 file at Embassy

Sept 28, 2015 Medical Oct 14, 2015 Biometrics Oct 15, 2015 Interview (Approved) Oct 19, 2015 IV visa Issued Oct 23, 2015 Passport Pickup

POE

Nov 2, 2015 Entered the US Nov 16, 2015 Applied for SSN, walk-in Nov 20, 2015 Social Security Card recd Jan 15, 2016 GC received

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Not living together will raise some red flags at the interview marriage. But, as someone said above they judge case by case. So although you guys don't live together you can most still definitely prove you are "bona-fide".

Explaining you situation honestly, but stressing that all you want is to be together will be best. Gather everything and anything to show your "bona-fide" marriage to the interview.

Good luck with everything!


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Hi Boiler. He came in the US in 2012.

Just a query but how did he enter in 2012 and still be in status until Sept of this year?


August 2000: We start e-mailing. I'm in Bosnia, she's in Florida

October 29th 2000: She sends me e-mail asking if I would marry her

October 29th 2000(5 seconds later): I say yes

November 2000: She sends me tickets to Orlando for when I get back

December 6th 2000: Return from Bos

December 11th 2000: Fly to Orlando, she meets me at airport

December 22nd 2000: I fly back to UK

January 3rd 2001: She flies to UK (Good times)

Mid February 2001: Pregnancy test Positive

Mid February 2001: She flies back to US

March 2001: Miscarriage, I fly to US on first flight I can get

May 2001: I leave US before my 90 days are up

June 2001: I fly back to US, stopped at airport for questioning as I had only just left

September 2001: Pregnancy test Positive again

September 2001: She falls sick, I make decision to stay to look after her as I am afraid I may have problems getting back in.

April 16th 2002: Our son is born, we start getting stuff together for his passport

March 6th 2003: We leave US for UK as family

Early April 2003: Family troubles make her return to US, I ask Embassy in London about possibilities of returning to US

April 16th 2003: London Embassy informs me that I will be banned from the Visa Waiver Program for 10 years, my little boys first birthday

June 13th 2006: I-129f sent

August 11th 2006: NOA1 Recieved

After our relationship breaks down she admits to me that she had never bothered to start the application process

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My husband and I got married a month ago and he has a B/1 B/2 visa that expires the 15 of September of this year. I am living at home with a relative and I'm looking for an apartment which has been difficult since we are in NY where it's expensive and hard to find a place but we are planning to move out of state. My husband stays with a family that has been supporting him. I worry since we don't live together that it will look bad when we go to the interview. The only proof I have is wedding pictures, pictures of us together, phone records, tons of messages from our facebook, joint bank account and I go to his place every week but don't know how to show proof of that. Now I heard that is won't be much of an issue if we don't live together and I heard that it is. I want to know from people who know what they are talking about. Thanks.

It is an issue that you don't live with your husband.

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It is based on the officer. Some officers like to ask question about your daily life. some of them like to see documents. Anyway, not living together some officers hate it. Your job is to convince your officer that your marriage is real even if you don't live together. How??? this is your job :)

You don't know what you will be asked but 99.99% you will be asked about your living situation. Don't make up stories. Say the truth. Why? because they may separate you.

My wife and I had no weeding ceremony at all (only two of us). no pictures when we got married. no joint bank account. married 2 months after we met. no rings. At our interview, the officer didn't ask about these things

Finally relax. Your marriage is real, don't worry about anything. If you can live together, it will be better. If you can't, you should have a good reason for that

Good Luck

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