So Hurt. ...

[RICARDO4EVA2 194]

Thanks everyone for your kind words. I told my sister and she was very supportive and cried with me. I plan on telling mom and other family members over the weekend.

I am definitely not filing any paperwork. He called a few times today and I didn't answer the phone. I know I will be ok but right now I am still hurting.

thanks again for listening

Very unfortunate - It gets better with time. Focus on yourself to help you get past this. Without making references... your situation is not uncommon.

Blessings!

[divemaster19 17]

Consider it a blessing that you found out sooner than later. Big hug.

[onye uwaoma 131]

I can't stand an unfaithful spouse. Time will heal your hurt...

[BraveAmnay 56]

So sorry about happened to you ,I Know one thing Who cheated once will cheat twice .cheating on someone means you have no respect for him/her neither for your self .How i hate cheaters in both side men or women ,it make want throw out ,its disgusting .You are lucky find out that now than later .In The End you know better what is good for you .and you what you can do.

[CowBoE 429]

Sorry to hear that...

But...to be frank, it is SO MUCH BETTER to find this out now than later.

We all deserve a good companion in our life,

so DON'T fall for that fake tears on the other side of the phone line.

Such jerk doesn't even deserve your tears,

dust it off your memory like a piece of dirt,

and move on to the next great man.

All the best...

[Karmalious 50]

DIVORCE!!!

It is only my personal opinion. But how could someone honestly do this to a person while also persuing other relationships. I am so so very sorry for this. Nasty, Pathetic, and abusive people exist all over the world unfortunately.

You should not even be considering talking with him further. As much as it hurts, you cannot compromise your happiness. If you think it hurts now; wait until after you finish the VISA and bring him to the USA to do even worse things to you..... Actually, in fact, DONT! Think about what this says about his character!!! How can someone do this and at the same time stare at you in the face and tell you " I love you, you are the only one for me".

think about that,,, when you start to think about him.

[lovindansejj 3]

Oh gosh, that is really heartbreaking and I'm so sorry to hear your story. He spent the week before you married with someone else? Run as fast as you can away from this man. Nothing he can say can excuse that, don't believe him ... he is a con and using you. Of course he's sorry because now he is afraid you won't bring him to the U.S.! Let someone else be his toy to play his games with. Sorry that sounds so harsh because of course you are heartbroken and loved this man but please don't set yourself up with even more pain from him. And remember, about being embarrassed, of course you will feel that but is not you that should be embarrassed. Hold your head high and move on to someone else that deserves you.

[NikLR 13,220]

I'm so sorry. It's okay to let it hurt. You loved someone and trusted them so when that is broken, it hurts and there is nothing you can do about it except eventually move on. But that doesn't happen overnight obviously. Be kind to yourself. *hugs*

[NigeriaorBust 4,087]

If a man has reached adulthood and is unable to stop gravity from pulling his member into the dark hole of another female he will never gain control of that member and it will always be excusable in his mind. You don't need to waste another thought on this creature that has no power over the limpest part of the human body because he definitely has no control of his spinal column either.

[TBoneTX 42,989]

When it's feeling especially tough, look at yourself in the mirror and say, aloud, "I got hornswoggled by an owl-hoot. I got hornswoggled by an owl-hoot." Say it often and convincingly enough, and you should feel a difference afterwards.

[jacan 27]

You guys have no idea how much posting this has helped me. I have been wrestling with it on my own for almost 2 months. Acting like all is well because I did not discuss it with anyone.

I have not had a good night sleep since I found out. I get angry at myself sometimes because I feel like I should have seen some signs. I gave all I had to him. I never once even thought about being unfaithful. I was so looking forward to spending my life with him. I loved him.

I just looked through our wedding album again, God only knows how many times I have done that.

Thank you all so much.. I know I am a good person and deserve better. I also know he is not worth my tears but i cannot just turn these feelings off. I am truly heart broken but I will take some time and focus on me right now.

Goodnight .. hopefully I get some sleep tonight.

[raven52 233]

So sorry this happened to you. It hurts, been there done that. You think there will never be another.,.,.,.,.BUT there will.

Run, do not walk, get a lawyer, and get rid of him, he has disrespected you so badly. I personally, could never forget something like this.,.,.,.you might think you can.,.,but you cannot.,.,

never!

It is embarrassing, and hurts.,.,.but the only thing worse than this is being married to him for one more day, than you need to be!

People can change.,.but not from this level.,.,,because, YOU will never be able to forgive the deception.,.,when he would touch you, you would ask yourself, "how did he touch her?"

Time to move on. So sorry to write such a thing.,.,.,but been there done that, there is no getting over it.

[toribae1031 3]

It is really sad. but you should think of it... you don't need to file his green card. don't do it

also. you should be glad that yu dont even havv a kids with him....

there is not mistake.

especially. you guys never lived together over 10 years. you just married

I understand how you feel. I know it is very hurts. and why it is happened to you. and you believed and you truly loved him. but you learned something well. yes it is sucks. but don't blame yourself. you didnt deserve it. he just lost beautiful, faithful and mature girl in the world. he will regret it for so long time.

cheer up sister!!!!!!

[NHKx2 43]

He's the one who should be embarrassed, not you. You entered the marriage in good faith, trusting someone you loved. Why be embarrassed about having honor and trust? He's the douchenozzle who should be ashamed. No one is judging YOU in this situation. At least you found out now. Probably his other lady isn't in status in the US and cannot get him entry, but he would have left you for her, or someone else, or someone else after that. You saved yourself a lot of time (and health risks! who knows if he is being safe!) by getting out now. Hold your head up high. You deserve better.

[Amhara 460]

oh that is so sad and. you know what sister heart is like a mirror once it breaks the scare will still be on there. so what i think put the dot to the relationship

and ignore and think you didn't have anyone in your life. and if he is in a relationship with some one in US so that is for sure when he gets there he is gonna run away to her. and you be happy that you got to know early otherwise it would be so bad for you.

wish you have a great new life.