I got denied for my green card, and my wife now wants to get divorce.

[madtownguy 164]

That sucks, people saying you need to live together to be in love are not being fair. In many cultures it is normal for family members to go to other countries and work for years with out seeing their wives or children. You are probably just doing what is natural to you. With your wife not fighting for you though it seems the relationship is over. I wish you the best in whatever you decide to do.

[Mike-eeh and Odie 192]

...In many cultures it is normal for family members to go to other countries and work for years with out seeing their wives or children. You are probably just doing what is natural to you...

Duuude... They [many cultures] do that because they have no other choice in terms of raising money to provide for their families, not because it's "natural" to want to be away from their spouses and children.

[JohnR! 5,495]

From an immigration standpoint it may appear that you have married your wife solely for the purpose of staying in the country. If your appeal has been denied despite legal representation, it may indicate you have not presented enough evidence that you married her in good faith, and unless you can change the circumstances for the denial you're going to end up having to return home.

Presuming your marriage was real, I'd say that you should consider reconciling with your wife and moving in together as it's presumed of couples. Your lawyer should be able to advise you if that would help him/her with a new appeal.

Good luck!

We have been married since 2012 and got GC interview in 2014, we got denied because my wife lives in MA, and I live in NYC. My lawyer fiele the reappeal to BiA, and we got denied again. The reason why I live in Nyc because I have been working in the restaurant here for 10yrs and Can provide better finance than in MA. But now she wants to get divorce . I need some good piece of advises, what should I do? Will I get deport right away?

[Unidentified 2,930]

That sucks, people saying you need to live together to be in love are not being fair. In many cultures it is normal for family members to go to other countries and work for years with out seeing their wives or children. You are probably just doing what is natural to you. With your wife not fighting for you though it seems the relationship is over. I wish you the best in whatever you decide to do.

That's not natural, that's something you have to do. The OP doesn't have to be several states away from his wife. And I don't think it's a case of his wife not "fighting" for him, I think she has had enough of the non existent relationship.

[Shenzhen 34]

Of course he wanted a green card. 10 years apart hello. Umm do you both have bf's gf's?

[GurkenSalat 48]

That is what I thought?

OPT maybe for 1 year.

And OPT would most likely not allow him to work in a restaurant. Unless he was majoring in the culinary arts OPT is strictly related to your field of study.

I'm sorry OP, but you are in a pickle!

Even if it was a real marriage, the wife probably decided that it's not worth staying married if you can't actually be together.

But lay off the "living apart = married only for greencard", people. NY and MA are "close enough", and would have been close enough for us for a while. We've done the LDR thing while both of us were in the US. It sucked, so we decided not to do that anymore. But, errr 10 years?! Out of sight...

[Ouray777 4]

Of course they denied it!

I have a friend whose husband from another country did the same thing. She finally woke up and divorced him last May 2014. As of yet, he's still in NJ working as an illegal alien in a pizza place, and hasn't been rounded up and sent back to his country yet.

[amkhan 108]

sorry but OP looks like worry about his GC only.....this marriage looks like a GC marriage only

[usmsbow 795]

And OPT would most likely not allow him to work in a restaurant. Unless he was majoring in the culinary arts OPT is strictly related to your field of study.

I'm sorry OP, but you are in a pickle!

Even if it was a real marriage, the wife probably decided that it's not worth staying married if you can't actually be together.

But lay off the "living apart = married only for greencard", people. NY and MA are "close enough", and would have been close enough for us for a while. We've done the LDR thing while both of us were in the US. It sucked, so we decided not to do that anymore. But, errr 10 years?! Out of sight...

Of course he wanted a green card. 10 years apart hello. Umm do you both have bf's gf's?

Just to clarify: the OP has not been with his wife for 10 years, and has only been married for 2-3 years. He's been working at his current job for 10 years. He didn't say how long he and his wife have been living apart.

Edited to add: I do agree that it looks bad, even if the time apart is only a year or two, and am not surprised whatsoever he was denied a GC given the circumstances.

Edited April 29, 2015 by usmsbow

[Ouray777 4]

His question is, will he be deported right away? So in answer to that....based on all the MANY people I see here where I live who are working out in the open without a green card, work permit or even a USA visa of any kind....he will possibly never be deported. I know one in particular who's been working at Safeway as an illegal alien for about 10 years. Also, like I said before, I have a friend who's been divorced from her former hubby since last May and she actually TRIED to put a fire under immigrations tail to get him deported. They ignore all her emails, calls and letters. They know where he's working, but do nothing. He'd probably have to commit a major crime before they'd even think about deporting him. Sad, but true.

[Tt_needs_help 1]

Thk u for al the answers, I met her in summer 2010, and I have been travel back and forced from Nyc to Ma. Life after marry was difficult than I thought too. I felt that she really love me, and after I got marry, she made me felt like its all about money, she would just buy a new car from our tax return without telling me, trust me our marriage is real, but in about the pass 6mths I can't really provide a lot of money for family, because of legal cost after we got deniled. She wasn't happy that I couldn't pay the rent. I work in Ny hasn't been an issue between us. I know seem like to many people out marry isn't real, but we got married for 3 years, things has changed. I really don't know what to do here. Thk u for all the comment.

[Marco&Bettina 502]

Thk u for al the answers, I met her in summer 2010, and I have been travel back and forced from Nyc to Ma. Life after marry was difficult than I thought too. I felt that she really love me, and after I got marry, she made me felt like its all about money, she would just buy a new car from our tax return without telling me, trust me our marriage is real, but in about the pass 6mths I can't really provide a lot of money for family, because of legal cost after we got deniled. She wasn't happy that I couldn't pay the rent. I work in Ny hasn't been an issue between us. I know seem like to many people out marry isn't real, but we got married for 3 years, things has changed. I really don't know what to do here. Thk u for all the comment.

You think it hasn't been an issue. However, women can sometimes tolerate stuff for a very long time & hate everything about it & either not say a word or say that it's OK, when in reality it's not. Please keep that in mind if you decide to try to make this work with your wife.

[Boiler 43,432]

Divorce and move on.

[Jawaree 717]

Seem to CO like its a biz marriage & now I guess the lady wants

to get on with her life tied up like this. BIA denied the appeal u

can go to your circuit ct...an expensive and lonnngg wait & it

does not prevent ICE stepping in. Save yor money in case U

go you have something to take home

[Ryan H 3,790]

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