Married for 2 months wanted a divorce to remarry

[billy0227 0]

It amazes me that after all the comments and rebuttals that you have received here, mostly because your approach to your 'story' as you call it, it appears that this forum was used only as a platform to tell us all how hard you had it and to give yourself an excuse why you acted the way you did.

Some comments have been harsh, but please understand that none of here are able to look at your story completely from the sidelines and simply see the facts. It's because we are all effected by the process, some more then others, but none of us had it easy through this leinghtly process.

And since you have asked for an advice, I will repeat some from the comments before mine :

- Man up

- make it good with people that are in your life

- look closely at the mistakes that you have made, learn from them

- own the mistakes you have made, as no one forced you to make them. It was your choice and your choice only.

- Learn to live with your decisions

- And got the sake of all human kind - be honest.

Good luck!

Am i not being any of those?

I'm here trying to man up to fix my mistakes and being as honest as possible.

Some people can be a jerk i know, but how can one be proven to be honest if only conclusion people here has is this is a fraud?

Out of 6 pages i honestly saw like 2 or 3 people that seems to actually care reading the whole story and give their best thoughts on it.

[billy0227 0]

See my last post then please tell me again about frauds and liars.

See here's the problem, you assume everyone does this and that because of legality or because one's current status.

I understand that as it is part of reality.

But is it really that hard to just read and listen what's someone is saying before you accuse?

I'm just like you. Just someone who only wants one thing in life, to find that someone who you can be with the rest of your life, someone who you'd fight for whatever hurdles comes within your paths. But maybe, just maybe it crosses your mind that it's people like you that's making it hard to believe an obvious. True, government or USCIS or whatever may only have one point of view, it's normal for security reasons and totally understandable. But what about those people really in love like me? or maybe like you too?

"But what about those people really in love like me? or maybe like you too?"

They do things the right way the best they can. They dont circumvent and they seek to repair their mistakes with their wife, father, lady, the government, and fellow citizens of the country they how to legally live in. They do not do what you've been doing.

Really?

Please tell me exactly what i have been doing?

Me and father got nothing to do even with this. Its a family matter, sure it affected my status along the way, but still a family matter. And as a family, stuffs happen normally that you dont think ahead first before taking any action. Its normal. Its the same stuffs you surprisingly didn't mean to say everytime you may have argued with your mom or dad. But later on think you had it wrong.

About my wife. I already have said, i never asked for that and i even tried to break up with her and everything, seriously go think of yourself.

Seriously though, if you can only think of one answer right now me going back to my country without or instead of offering any other methods, what other choices do you think i have when i was told to either marry her or get reported? ha?

Please be reasonable enough

[billy0227 0]

I don't know what you want from this board. You have been instructed in how to adjust status and that it will be very difficult for you. You have nothing to prove to anyone on this board. Just do it.

I already answered your questions a page or two back. Please go read the answers.

I am. But some answers were not clear enough so still waiting for any decent one, while waiting on the other hand, im just replying on what other's have posted and giving my own thoughts about it.

Nothing wrong right? And thank you.

Though honestly, i was expecting more of like is someone will came up suggesting options on informations regarding AB60, VAWA, or like any waivers available. But maybe i was more of

misunderstood coz most i have gotten was either what USCIS may decide or they perfectly made it clear i made a mistake. Which i obviously know already.

[1stLoveRedo 111]

About my wife. I already have said, i never asked for that and i even tried to break up with her and everything, seriously go think of yourself.

I am sorry but there isn't such thing as 'tried to break up'

[Stepy67 3]

I've read and reread your story as well as all every comment.

All you can really do is divorce your wife (the one you married simply to stay in the country....THIS is why people are calling you a fraud, btw. even if you were forced.)

After you divorce her, there's nothing you can really do to stop her from reporting you. I would definitely take the advice of some to beg for mercy from your father. Maybe he can help in some way.

You can try and marry the girl you actually love, but it will be difficult to turn that into a greencard considering your history.

Me telling you all this is not judgement. It's just the truth of the situation. Actions have consequences, and although it's not what you want to hear, you might have to go back to the Philippines. Sometimes we cannot escape our mistakes and our bad decisions. And that sucks, I know.

Other than to tell you to hire a good immigration lawyer, there's not much else we can all tell you to do. It seems you are waiting for someone to give you a miracle answer, and unfortunately, there isn't one.

I wish you luck and hopefully you can turn the mistakes you made in the past into something better for the future.

[SherryandDaniel 4]

I agree with Stepy. Get a divorce. Remarry your girlfriend when you are ready and hope for the best. You may get deported back to PI. That is a reality. If you do, maybe your girlfriend can move to PI to be with you.

[Jawaree 717]

Wonder if this is a troll....Some ppl comments were very hateful

however if OP is real , he takes no responsibility for actions, is in

denial & blames everyone but himself....he is not listening & will

likely get in ICE dragnet somehow. Such an over-bearing spiteful

lonely, want a man badly female will never leave it alone.

[Darnell 8,478]

Anyone can file a divorce petition.

[Cathi 5,607]

I agree and that is true. But then again, if you read my story, me and my wife never really had anything to begin with except our phone calls etc. And she works with two jobs and our time difference is way off for us to even have enough time to talk about ourselves, the getting to know part. Then, along the way, i met this lady and we began being friends for months, getting to know part, you know?

And when my wife arrives here after months of me waiting for her, it just a sudden thought of my lady possibly be out of the picture, and all of the things we already have started will just vanish and i feared for that as well, and that is why i include in my story that the moment my wife arrives here (and i mean her first day of arrival here) i told her about the lady and tried to break up with her, but then again, she was so clingy on me that she probably felt being lost in a battle that was never there. And so, she began a war on her own, dig out my lady's name and number, snooping on my facebook's friends, etc....and texting her with "go away with my guy, i will marry him and sue you with adultery, blah blah blah" and then that's when she goes looking for my work's number and reported me.

Does anyone really read fully here that i have to repeat each line of my story? LOL.

Anyway, that's where i started feeling threatened and feared.

Probably not a good response on my side, but i don't know, it overwhelmed me that moment of time.

Seriously, even after our marriage, i felt like living with her soon will make me feel like caged up just like my dad was before.

Give me a little moment and i will dig up some of my wife's extreme threats messages just at least to give you an idea of why i feel like this thinking you were on my shoes with a current status like this prone to deportation.

Stop making excuses and stop blaming your wife, you cheated on her. She is not at fault YOU are. I have zero sympathy for you, you made this mess now you have to deal with it. And honestly if I knew where you lived, I'd report you. I have no patience or sympathy for liars scammers and cheats.

[elmcitymaven 9,711]

Staggered that someone who is out of status and may or may not have committed immigration fraud by getting married to a woman who somehow "forced" him into matrimony would post YouTube videos from his own account, given that ICE does read these boards.

[shippingforecast 126]

If so, who are those guys standing daily in front of Home Depot who most came uninspected?

Is it enough for me to just go straight to USCIS and say "hey, there's dozen's of illegals in there committing fraud labors?" That's all it takes? Reasonable?

What crime have i done really in this story?

Just because others have already broken the law by living here illegally and continue to do so does not make it any more acceptable.

You have overstayed for years and worked illegally. That is the "crime you have really done in this story". You need to leave, now, whilst the ramifications are what they are. Because when you are caught - when, and not if - those ramifications are likely to be much worse.

I want to impart one piece of advice to you, regarding marriage. I live 5,000 miles away from my wife and we both work full time. We have a time difference of six hours between us. We have lived like this for two years and I would give anything for her to be one state away. But we make it work, because we loved each other enough to commit ourselves to one another - for better or for worse.

Marriage takes effort and determination - not running away. Please think long and hard about that before someone commits themselves to you again.

Edited March 28, 2015 by shippingforecast

[Ryan H 3,790]

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