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Last weekend, my husband let me get behind the wheel to park our car. I have never seen him so scared for his life. I honestly don't think I did bad haha. I wasn't even scared. A little problem was that I'm short so its hard to reach the pedals lol. How long did it take for you guys to learn to drive?


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If your husband is a nervous teacher, I would advise going to driving lessons with a professional. My mother was a nervous teacher and taught me all kinds of bad habits because of it and then I went to driving lessons and I am a MUCH safer driver for it.


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I took my husband out everyday for 2 weeks and he was able to get his license. I rode with him another 2 weeks while he drove to and from work then the started driving by himself. He has been in the USA 1 year now and he just became a truck driver.

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Last weekend, my husband let me get behind the wheel to park our car. I have never seen him so scared for his life. I honestly don't think I did bad haha. I wasn't even scared. A little problem was that I'm short so its hard to reach the pedals lol. How long did it take for you guys to learn to drive?

My wife has been in the US for more than 2 years and she is still learning.

Yes, her biggest problem is because she is soooo short also....... only 4 feet 7 inches.

She has a lot of trouble reaching the pedals and also seeing clearly out the windows, especially the back window.

We have been searching for pedal extenders for her car, but nothing yet.

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I hate driving, and it took me about a month.

In Arkansas, you need to go do a theory test and then wait at least 30 days before you take the practical, so during that time, my husband would take me to an abandoned parking lot and I would drive there; it helped me feel ok about accelerating and practising to park etc. I passed with flying colours!

Of course, it probably also helped that when I went for the practical test, the teenager before me crashed his mom's car during the test with the state trooper in the passenger seat (not totalled, but a visible dent, he took a bend too quickly and drive into a mailbox). So when the trooper and I went out to my car, he said: "I make you a deal- you don;t kill us both, and I pass you!"


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If your husband is a nervous teacher, I would advise going to driving lessons with a professional. My mother was a nervous teacher and taught me all kinds of bad habits because of it and then I went to driving lessons and I am a MUCH safer driver for it.

Not really a nervous teacher. He was just really worried that I would drive the car through our house haha

I took my husband out everyday for 2 weeks and he was able to get his license. I rode with him another 2 weeks while he drove to and from work then the started driving by himself. He has been in the USA 1 year now and he just became a truck driver.

Unfortunately my hubby is too busy with work to teach me everyday. Hopefully I can learn as fast as your husband :D Here's hoping!

My wife has been in the US for more than 2 years and she is still learning.

Yes, her biggest problem is because she is soooo short also....... only 4 feet 7 inches.

She has a lot of trouble reaching the pedals and also seeing clearly out the windows, especially the back window.

We have been searching for pedal extenders for her car, but nothing yet.

I think I'm gonna need that too. When you find them, let me know. My husband laughed his ### off when I had to adjust the seat multiple times just to barely reach the pedals. Mean tall people :S

If you managed to park the car (without hitting anything) in less than 5 attempts, then you are better than 90% of them I see here daily on Negros Oriental. :)

Yay thank you! I did it on my first try. I feel badass now haha

I hate driving, and it took me about a month.

In Arkansas, you need to go do a theory test and then wait at least 30 days before you take the practical, so during that time, my husband would take me to an abandoned parking lot and I would drive there; it helped me feel ok about accelerating and practising to park etc. I passed with flying colours!

Of course, it probably also helped that when I went for the practical test, the teenager before me crashed his mom's car during the test with the state trooper in the passenger seat (not totalled, but a visible dent, he took a bend too quickly and drive into a mailbox). So when the trooper and I went out to my car, he said: "I make you a deal- you don;t kill us both, and I pass you!"

My husband said he would take me to an abandoned area inside their base where he practiced driving with his buddies. Hopefully I learn as quick as you did. I'm studying for the sign test too and I try to be more observant when we are on the road and test myself if I got the signs right. So many to learn x.x


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Last weekend, my husband let me get behind the wheel to park our car. I have never seen him so scared for his life. I honestly don't think I did bad haha. I wasn't even scared. A little problem was that I'm short so its hard to reach the pedals lol. How long did it take for you guys to learn to drive?

Yup...we all forget we were a tadpole when we become a frog. :lol:

My mom is 4' 8" and got her license in her late 40's...and she did fine...after some hiccups.

You'll do fine.


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lol! were the same boat. but my husband don't want me to drive his car so he didn't teach me how to drive so far. I only drive in driving lesson all the time and it works really great, they are a really good teachers!! sometime my mother-in-law teach me but I like going to driving school you will learn faster!!

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Last weekend, my husband let me get behind the wheel to park our car. I have never seen him so scared for his life. I honestly don't think I did bad haha. I wasn't even scared.

It is often difficult for couples to set aside their roles as a couple and step into a completely different role as teacher and student.

Laughing at a student is a gross violation of teacher conduct. The typical problem with a Filipina student and Americano husband teacher though is that the Filipina takes instructions as optional, and gets offended from pride when mistakes are corrected. They won't get angry at an instructor, but they will get angry at a husband. They take orders from an instructor without questioning, but not from a husband.

A lack of fear almost killed us when my wife very happily ignored me progressively saying stop... STOP!... STOP!! as she stormed through a stop sign and almost into a cement truck doing 65. I pulled the steering wheel and put us into the ditch in order to avoid what would have been certain death. I started using another car that had an emergency brake between the seats, and I had to pull the emergency brake to stop her from slamming head-on into our neighbor.

Same with "slow down". She simply refused to do it. Then there was the Filipina habit of saying "yes" as a pretense of being agreeable when she had no idea what I was saying or just not listening.

Some couples avoid this stress by hiring a driving instructor. What we adopted before each lesson was a demonstration that she was committed to being a student instead of a prideful wife. After her agreeing to set the attitude aside, I would give her an instruction going down our driveway like "stop" or "slow down", with no apparent reason for it. If she didn't, the lesson was over for the day.

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It took me several months to learn. My husband was my instructor too. It was the most stressful event in our lives. I have been driving for over two years now and I am still scared to drive in big cities.

Good luck and be safe! :)

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Mostly, for the two of you to feel more comfortable in this spouse-assisted-training,

you got to do it more.

Suggest each day after work, 20 to 30 minutes, before cooking the supper.

Do it, daily, for 6 weeks, then report back, when able.


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(clearing my throat)...ahem..this is an interesting topic from so many different angles..the documentation in NYS for one. They gave my husband a temporary ID only for the validity of the K1 stamp in the passport. Then when he got the EAD, they updated the learners permit for one year...it allowed him to start driving.

You are right about different styles...he tends to get some bad habits then keeps on doing them...I have to sign him up for driving lessons or we will have a problem!! In NYS yo have to get a classroom instruction for 5 hours with a certificate + learners permit written test. The actual driving test has to have a valid learners permit...

.....nothing in the US is simple.....

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First of all, I would tell her to forget everything she ever aw filipino drivers do, they are crazy.,.,hahahahahaha, ., IF I needed a Nascar Driver, I would go to the PHILS., and recruit a taxi driver!

The husband must really set his mind that this "is his wife" he is teaching to drive, and use the same love and tenderness, he endows upon her.

Be firm, do not raise your voice, always talk in a calm manner, no matter how bad the mistake.

Teach her to drive, obey all traffic laws, and 2 lane roads only at first. Then take her to town, and teach her how to drive in what lane, and for what reason. Then stop, and talk about what you have shown her. Just do this about 3 days, or evenings a week, and in a few weeks she will be good.

Last thing, is parallel parking, set up a parking place in your drive way, or close by, and practice, practice, practice, until she has it right!

Hey guys, you can do this! It is all about "your" frame of mind. If you have little patience, do not try this.

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