Green card

[Gloria asamoah 8]

Hi there every one i need to an answer to my question soo bad I got married to my husband with the k1 visa and got my two year conditional green card but soon after that he treats me terrible and hits me and threw me out I was going through soo much and decided to visit my home country for three weeks just to be with family and be string again , can my husband in my absence say something to the immigration and I won't be allowed in the country when I'm back please I need to know because I'm very worried now

[Hypnos 6,576]

No.

[KayDeeCee 4,891]

~ Moved from K-1 Process to Effects of Major Family Changes on Immigration Benefits ~

[Penguin_ie 5,984]

No,you have a valid greencard and are allowed to travel.

As soon as you are back in the USA, file for divorce and once done, Removal of Condition on your greencard with a divorce waiver.

[Gloria asamoah 8]

Thank you soo much I will file divorce when back I was just worried that he could tell the ucis something bad like he's no longer with me and wants me out and I could not enter the states but feel abit better now

[Gloria asamoah 8]

And one more thing what if he cancels his affidative of support will I get. Problems at the us boder?

[Merrytooth 5,748]

And one more thing what if he cancels his affidative of support will I get. Problems at the us boder?

He can't cancel the I-864 since you already gotten the conditional Green Card.

[Aya_P 17]

your question has been answered, what i will add is that, in general, adjusting to the system in the usa from another country is difficult, things work differently and its stressful. i would say u can try to work it out when u return, that's if u want to, if it doesn't work out, that's ok. but i think divorce shouldnt be the first option when difficulties arise. if he doesn't want u and it wont work out, then it's better to be safe.

[Sandra G. 5,016]

PA2013 your choice of word was very poor to describe ABUSE! She said he beat her up,and you called this "difficulties"? are you serious? Please let's get a bit more educated about domestic violence, and not to call abuse "difficulties".

[Aya_P 17]

PA2013 your choice of word was very poor to describe ABUSE! She said he beat her up,and you called this "difficulties"? are you serious? Please let's get a bit more educated about domestic violence, and not to call abuse "difficulties".

if its indeed abuse, she's been beaten etc. u've made an indisputable point.

but what i ask myself is, this didn't happen till green card was received?

[mtempelaar 190]

We don't know enough details to know if it's one time or many and what might have set hubby off to start the abuse later in marriage but I could think of a wide variety of triggers. It doesn't matter from our perspective why, all that matters is that it's abuse...period....and no one should be hit even once.

OP: agree with the above poster: come back, divorce and then removal of conditions with divorce waiver.

I do recommend that if he hits you again, you need to call the police and get a restraining order against him.

[Sandra G. 5,016]

As an advocate for victims of domestic violence over 25 years, I am in shock reading some posts here. Mtpeelar you said ..."We don't know enough details to know if it's one time or many and what might have set hubby off that might have set hubby off to start the abuse later in marriage but I could think of a wide variety of triggers", abusers abuse their victims,because they have their moral compass broken, because of lack of empathy toward others,because of a selfish personality,nothing else! Marital conflicts is no reason to abuse someone,stress is no excuse to batter someone, drug addiction is not reason to justify abuse,cheating is no reason to abuse someone etc....People have the option to solve problems in a civilized manner. Abuse it is a conscious choice made by the abuser . The only person who should be held at fault is the ABUSER!

Edited August 29, 2014 by sandranj

[Gloria asamoah 8]

Thanks guys soo much the abuse didn't even start after green card it started long before we even got married he even spat in my face and tried to light a lighter in my hair but sometimes he changes and becomes the sweetest person and suddenly he becomes a demon it's awful!

[Gloria asamoah 8]

He finds an excuse that I didn't clean the house well or didn't cook dinner (sometimes he's not home till very late so he eats out and comes back and still attacks me for not cooking when I asked him if I should cook and he said no) his mom also gets involved and all they say i don't clean the house well and his mom even said something about me being black at one Pinot and she didn't really want her son marrying a black it's terrible I almost lost it at one piont plus he cheats all the time I've seen him post adds on craiglist for a prostitute to come so he can sleep with her and pay her whiles I was at his moms visiting I saw the message and post on his phone and he leaves the house for 1 week never calls or text will never answer my calls and comes home drugged up and get moods swings and start attacking me for the littlest thing ever and threaten to throw me out and make me homeless

Edited August 29, 2014 by Gloriazilla

[Aya_P 17]

thanks for shedding light on your situation ...

no one deserves to be treated this way.

if u have evidence of these things happening, it makes it easier for u to remove conditions yourself.

u should divorce for your own safety.