I'll try to keep my story short and to the point...
I came here this summer to visit my girlfriend to help her and her family move home. We had previously looked into getting the K-1 (fiancé) visa, but that came to a halt since her dad, who was going to sign an "affidavit of support" (or something to that effect), ended up between jobs.
He got a job just fine and after 2 months of him making a paycheck, he would have been able to sign it, allowing us to progress with the K-1 application.
Here's my problem: Due to the new job, the family is moving from one coast to another. Just before we reached the 2-month (of him working long enough to sign) point, they invited me to visit so I could help them prepare the house they want to sell.
So here I am, 2 months later, 2/3 into the visa waiver program, not finished helping them yet, and madly in love with my girlfriend of 3 years who I am ready to marry immediately. We're looking for a way to LEGALLY find ways for me to stay and not have to go back to Ireland.
We did NOT send in the affidavit of support back when we were able to since I was visiting here on ESTA, therefore the K-1 application was all but dead.
I've read that they frown upon marriage while using the waiver program, and I've also read that they tend to "let you away with it" if you can prove that the marriage was "spur of the moment", rather than planned.
While I can be 100% sure that my only intention this trip was to help them move on this visit and to spend time with my girlfriend and her family, I totally understand that I will struggle to prove this, since they'll (I assume) just look at the K-1 application and assume I'm trying to hasten the process or lie my way in. The original K-1 application was sent about 6-7 months ago by my girlfriend, and no response has come our way.
I have a flight booked home for Sept 2nd, a day or two before the 90days run out. I'm hoping this goes some way to being "proof" that my original intent was simply to visit.
In short: What would be the likely result if she and I got married tomorrow, and I then informed immigration that I had married a US citizen and wanted to stay?
I don't want to ruin my chances of being able to live and work here permanently, so I don't want to do anything rash. But I honestly will do anything above-board that will enable us to be married, allow me to stay here, and just as importantly, allow me to work and make a living ASAP.
Thanks in advance for all advice.
PS: It should be noted that we have all sorts of proof of our relationship, from photos, to emailed receipts from airline and holiday companies, documenting us being together. This is my 3rd visit in 3 years. She visited me twice.
My wife-to-be and her entire family are US Citizens, born and bred.
Edited by Irish87, 31 July 2012 - 03:33 PM.