age difference?

[wynterstail 0]

I keep finding new and horrifying things to worry about...someone mentioned that the embassy can be very picky when they see a big age difference in a couple applying for a K1....could they deny the visa just because they don't like the age difference?

[YuAndDan 153]

What is age difference?

[lovable_louie 0]

I keep finding new and horrifying things to worry about...someone mentioned that the embassy can be very picky when they see a big age difference in a couple applying for a K1....could they deny the visa just because they don't like the age difference?

I would not worry about it.

[Tim&Poonam 0]

Just have plenty of proof of your relationship. As many photos as possible for her to take with her on her interview. Letters, emails, phone bills, etc. Just prove you case that you have a strong relationship and you should be fine. All the best to you!

[kirk and Jenny 0]

The rules are the rules. The male must be at least 35 years older than the woman and visa versa if woman from USA and is looking for the male. That is why I suggest plastic surgery. Just kidding. I don't think you have anything to worry about.

[Yodrak 7]

wynterstail,

No they can't, and no they don't. There's always more to it than that.

Care to add a few more pieces to the jigsaw puzzle? One is not enough to know what the picture looks like.

Yodrak

I keep finding new and horrifying things to worry about...someone mentioned that the embassy can be very picky when they see a big age difference in a couple applying for a K1....could they deny the visa just because they don't like the age difference?

Edited September 21, 2006 by Yodrak

[Tim&Poonam 0]

You wont be the 1st with an age difference and you wont be the last.

[desert_fox 32]

it could...depends on who is older....how many years...and other factors if they dont seem to add up to the CO. He is required to make a subjective judgement on the total picture. If its a real relationship or a visa scam.

[wynterstail 0]

We've known each other for 3 years. We met in 2003 while I was in Jamaica and the relationship grew over time, in a normal sort of way. Neither one of us was of us was trying to rush into anything. I dont have any photos of us together in 2003 (because of course, we didn't know we'd be needing any), but I did submit photos of us together during my August 06 visit. And phone records, cards we exchanged, letters of support from people who know us and know about the relationship. But I am significantly older than him--though I don't think it looks like some grotesque age differnce...you can see the photos I posted. You have no idea how tired I am of How Stella Got Her Groove Back jokes...It can be a little frustraing when people make assumptions...my late husband was West Indian also, so it's not like this is something new. But I know people (spelled "embassy") can jump to the conclusion that one is a naieve idiot being taken advantage of...

Ann

wynterstail,

No they can't, and no they don't. There's always more to it than that.

Care to add a few more pieces to the jigsaw puzzle? One is not enough to know what the picture looks like.

Yodrak

I keep finding new and horrifying things to worry about...someone mentioned that the embassy can be very picky when they see a big age difference in a couple applying for a K1....could they deny the visa just because they don't like the age difference?

Thanks for giving me one of the few laugs I've had since entering the land of K-1

The rules are the rules. The male must be at least 35 years older than the woman and visa versa if woman from USA and is looking for the male. That is why I suggest plastic surgery. Just kidding. I don't think you have anything to worry about.

[Yodrak 7]

Ann,

OK, 2nd piece of the puzzle.

Next - what is the cultural norm in Jamaica? Do men there commonly marry women who are significantly older than themselvs? Do men there commonly marry divorced women, or are previously married women (or women with children) looked on as 'used' and therefore undesireable? Do men in Jamaica commonly marry women who are both significantly older than themselves and 'used'?

Do you know if Jamaica is considered to be a high-fraud post? Are there a lot of people there who would like to get to the USA, including a fair number who would do most anything to accomplish their goal?

May not sound pretty or PC, but in many places it's the way it is, and in such places your situation can be a problem. If Jamaica is such a place get prepared.

Yodrak

... I am significantly older than him....

Ann

wynterstail,

No they can't, and no they don't. There's always more to it than that.

Care to add a few more pieces to the jigsaw puzzle? One is not enough to know what the picture looks like.

Yodrak

Edited September 21, 2006 by Yodrak

[wynterstail 0]

I think it's quite common for Jamaican (men and women) to marry Americans, both with and without age differences. But of course, one can't deny that for some people, it's mainly for the purpose of coming to the US. But I want to make sure I'm understanding--age difference is not a grounds for denial, right? It's a matter of them seeing sufficient proof of a relationship--correct?

Ann,

OK, 2nd piece of the puzzle.

Next - what is the cultural norm in Jamaica? Do men there commonly marry women who are significantly older than themselvs? Do men there commonly marry divorced women, or are previously married women (or women with children) looked on as 'used' and therefore undesireable? Do men in Jamaica commonly marry women who are both significantly older than themselves and 'used'?

Do you know if Jamaica is considered to be a high-fraud post? Are there a lot of people there who would like to get to the USA, including a fair number who would do most anything to accomplish their goal?

May not sound pretty or PC, but in many places it's the way it is, and in such places your situation can be a problem. If Jamaica is such a place get prepared.

Yodrak

... I am significantly older than him....

Ann

wynterstail,

No they can't, and no they don't. There's always more to it than that.

Care to add a few more pieces to the jigsaw puzzle? One is not enough to know what the picture looks like.

Yodrak

[Mew 0]

Interesting reading: http://www.visajourney.com/forums/index.php?showtopic=3164 - even if the OP asked especifically about Casablanca, you'll find good info there.

Edited September 21, 2006 by Mew

[rebeccajo 14]

You look to be about my age.

And still looking good as well I see.

[Yodrak 7]

wynterstail,

Correct, but perhaps better stated as it's a matter of them believing that the relationship is not solely for the purpose of getting the visa applicant into the USA.

Beyond that, while your intentions may be 'pure' it's the visa applicant's intentions that will be carefully scrutinized. No matter what your protestations or your proofs, it's what the visa applicant presents that will be important.

Yodrak

I think it's quite common for Jamaican (men and women) to marry Americans, both with and without age differences. But of course, one can't deny that for some people, it's mainly for the purpose of coming to the US. But I want to make sure I'm understanding--age difference is not a grounds for denial, right? It's a matter of them seeing sufficient proof of a relationship--correct?

[heathius 0]

Yodrak has hit the nail on the head. Large age difference could be a red flag depending on the cultural norms and immigration problems related to a particular country.

That said, age difference cannot be the sole reason for denial. As long as you have sufficient evidence and can prove your relationship, you should have no trouble.

I think that Jamaica does have some US immigration related issues, but Jamaica doesn't have a track record of abuse that some other countries have. Things like age difference won't raise many eyebrows there.

BTW...Jamaica is an amazing place with amazing people. I would love to go back and spend more time there. Cheers, and good luck to you!

Edited September 21, 2006 by heathius