Fast forward to my new life. I met my husband, fell in love, remarried, a child... Now for the big step! Awaiting approval to start my life with him.
Only, what about my two great kids who will remain in Canada? Two little princesses I love more than anything!
The guilt and frustration with some of my choices is unbearable at times. Sometimes it feels as though any choice is a bad one. Somehow this must be workable however. I love my husband too much to consider not spending my life with him, and I love my daughters too much to "abandon" them. I will mention in this mess that thankfully my husband lives fairly close to home. Its only about 3-4 hours of travel back and forth, otherwise there is no way I could have ever considered moving. He knew this (so he moved closer to me) . When I visit my husband I call my kids everyday to tell them how much they mean to me. They are still relatively young so they don't hold attention long. Skype helps.
I guess I am writing this today because I am curious who is out there that has/is going through something similar? If I am approved to move to the US I plan to visit my children as often as possible (though I already know it wont be as easy as I'd like it to be, especially once I start work). Perhaps after time my ex-husband will gain some trust and allow my daughters to come to the US for visits. Hard to say on that one. I put myself in his shoes and I think I would be terrified to let my little ones leave Canada, even if it was only for a weekend! Eventually though, I don't think asking him to consider such a thing is unreasonable, right? Until then, I will return home as much as possible...
How do YOU cope? What arrangements have been made, what works and what doesn't?
Sometimes I do worry that I will come to America and feel sad and regretful about my daughters. I want to make sure I have some solid plans on the table to prevent marital strain and for my own mental well-being. When it comes down to it I just want everything to work to the best it can.
Edited by Kammo, 10 February 2011 - 05:54 PM.