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I WANT TO GO BACK TO THE PHILIPPINES!!!

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I am already here w/ my "husband" in the US. But i feel like i am in HELL whenever we are fighting or arguing something about. I really want to go back to the Philippines to get rid of this. Honestly, i still thought why i married him. Actually, the first time i met his family was Horrible for me. I don't know. His brother was obviously doesn't like me for him for whatever the reason he has. I don't know if i am just being pathetic or over reacting on something i do not like. I don't know if this is because i am bored or the homesick. I was out of my mind when i agreed to marry him for i thought i will be happy with him. Btw, we've just married last month JULY 21 but we are already fighting almost every other day. mad.gif

Can please someone tell me what will be the effect if I will go back to the Philippines on my AOS?

It would be okay for me if my husband and i will not continue this fuc*ing AOS and instead just file for the divorce or will it be automatically if i go back to my country?

I never been happy after i marry him and If i can only turn back time I shouldn't marry him and thought million times to do such shi* like this. crying.gif

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well, i dont know why u said u think his brother doesnt like you..
but ur gonna be with ur husband and not his brother..
i mean it is just a plus if his family likes you..
but then if ur sayin that u and husband is fighting everyday..
maybe you should work on things, like maybe have a nice conversation..
like abt why ur fight almost everyday.. the reasons behind it..
the differences that you both should work out..
there's always a better way to solve things..
maybe ur just homesick that's why u wanna go back to the philippines..
it's standard action that when u feel bad abt something here in the US u wanna go back to the philippines..
that's because u feel hopeless for ur far from home or for some reason..
ur married now, and marriage is not a joke, and i know u know that..
u may feel like ur regretting it for now cos ur mad abt something..
also try not to look on the ugly side of the relationship cos it will only make things worse..
pray and ask for guidance.. and talk to ur husband abt what ur feelin right now..
he must know how u feel for he cant help you if he doesnt know ur prob..
goodluck.. i hope you and ur husband resolves everything soon.. blush.gif Edited by envy_me

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QUOTE (charramal @ Aug 2 2008, 08:28 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I am already here w/ my "husband" in the US. But i feel like i am in HELL whenever we are fighting or arguing something about. I really want to go back to the Philippines to get rid of this. Honestly, i still thought why i married him. Actually, the first time i met his family was Horrible for me. I don't know. His brother was obviously doesn't like me for him for whatever the reason he has. I don't know if i am just being pathetic or over reacting on something i do not like. I don't know if this is because i am bored or the homesick. I was out of my mind when i agreed to marry him for i thought i will be happy with him. Btw, we've just married last month JULY 21 but we are already fighting almost every other day. mad.gif

Can please someone tell me what will be the effect if I will go back to the Philippines on my AOS?

It would be okay for me if my husband and i will not continue this fuc*ing AOS and instead just file for the divorce or will it be automatically if i go back to my country?

I never been happy after i marry him and If i can only turn back time I shouldn't marry him and thought million times to do such shi* like this. crying.gif


Just take your time to adjust...there are culture differences between the 2 countries.
Plus right now you are missing your old lifestyle and friends like everyone else who moved here...
just give it a chance...if you can

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Why not have a heart to heart talk with your husband?I dont see any reason why you're so much affected with your brother in law,it's your husband that you have to be concerned about and not his family nor his friends who dislike you.It's all about you and your relationship with your husband,you just got there for a short time,you're both still adjusting to each other and to your new environment.you've waited to be with him and now that you're together you already want to give up?being married for less than a month,you should dwell much on how to have a smooth relationship and not on negative things.Marriage is a serious commitment that you cant just turn your back and forget all about it.

Open communication is still a must.May God enlighten your heart and may you come out with a positive solution that'll bring you closer to one another and love each other even more.

Good luck!!! Edited by ManilaIdaho

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QUOTE (charramal @ Aug 2 2008, 03:28 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I am already here w/ my "husband" in the US. But i feel like i am in HELL whenever we are fighting or arguing something about. I really want to go back to the Philippines to get rid of this. Honestly, i still thought why i married him. Actually, the first time i met his family was Horrible for me. I don't know. His brother was obviously doesn't like me for him for whatever the reason he has. I don't know if i am just being pathetic or over reacting on something i do not like. I don't know if this is because i am bored or the homesick. I was out of my mind when i agreed to marry him for i thought i will be happy with him. Btw, we've just married last month JULY 21 but we are already fighting almost every other day. mad.gif

Can please someone tell me what will be the effect if I will go back to the Philippines on my AOS?

It would be okay for me if my husband and i will not continue this fuc*ing AOS and instead just file for the divorce or will it be automatically if i go back to my country?

I never been happy after i marry him and If i can only turn back time I shouldn't marry him and thought million times to do such shi* like this. crying.gif

If you talk as "dirty" [bastos] as you type I sure wouldn't want you for a relative. Let alone a husband. Edited by Haole

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I hope that you can talk together with the pastor of your church, and also spend time sharing with new Pinay friends.....You both look so happy together in your photos!!! I hope you both can resolve this...Wishing you the best!!!

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QUOTE (Haole @ Aug 2 2008, 09:11 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
If you talk as "dirty" [bastos] as you type I sure wouldn't want you for a relative. Let alone a husband.


come on, we dont know what the whole story is..
im sure she has a reason why she's acting like that..
and besides she sad and mad..
i believe we sometimes say bad or stupid things when were mad..
that's human nature.. wink.gif

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QUOTE (envy_me @ Aug 2 2008, 09:41 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (Haole @ Aug 2 2008, 09:11 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
If you talk as "dirty" [bastos] as you type I sure wouldn't want you for a relative. Let alone a husband.


come on, we dont know what the whole story is..
im sure she has a reason why she's acting like that..
and besides she sad and mad..
i believe we sometimes say bad or stupid things when were mad..
that's human nature.. wink.gif

agreed good.gif

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If you really love each other you need to talk and talk and talk and be honest to each other feeling. You might be home sick or something, but girl do not give up yet because in Filipino saying “ang pag aasawa di kaning isusubo na kapag napaso ka eh iluluwa mo rin” I hope I am right well something like that. I do have two-step kids living with us but I never expected them to like me right away it takes time for them to know me personally but now things are okay here.

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don't worry what other people think. if ur not happy, just go. but remember. u r pinoy, and there is no divorce for a true pinoy. the shame is other couples are still waiting for their chance to be together. and if u just quit. ur time through the system was wasted time.

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QUOTE (deadwood @ Aug 2 2008, 10:25 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
don't worry what other people think. if ur not happy, just go. but remember. u r pinoy, and there is no divorce for a true pinoy. the shame is other couples are still waiting for their chance to be together. and if u just quit. ur time through the system was wasted time.

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QUOTE (deadwood @ Aug 2 2008, 10:25 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
don't worry what other people think. if ur not happy, just go. but remember. u r pinoy, and there is no divorce for a true pinoy. the shame is other couples are still waiting for their chance to be together. and if u just quit. ur time through the system was wasted time.


true.. we all have worked and tried to patiently wait to be united with our loved ones..
giving up just like that is a no-no.. no0pb.gif


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