Hello everyone,

Our marriage isn't working at all. We started off as a perfect match, but eventually everything went apart and now we really can't deal with each other anymore. Twice this year she had filed for divorce. The first time she called it off, and this second time I believe we'll be showing up in court for real. This whole marriage thing is getting me really depressed, and every time she brings up an argument, the only thing I can think about is my status.

Now we filed for removal of conditions on my conditional residency together last month, and I just got NOA1. We have since been living apart, and for the fact that I didn't have to face any arguments everyday, i feel really relieved. With our divorce case still pending, I am presently seeing someone else as that is one way I could deal with the strength of getting out of a bad relationship.

All of a sudden, I got a call from her today talking about how she wants me back. i have been dealing with that for about three years, she leaves whenever she feels like it and returns whenever she feels like it. She's the one that threatens me with divorce over and over, and now she needs me back. I'm so tired of being flipped off and on like a switch and thought i need some peace like the one i already have in my present relationship. i told her we needed to actually try life apart because its pointless working a marriage that never worked a single day. Its almost like we just have two different personalities, and that is what we can't keep deceiving each other about. She got enraged and talked about how she's going to make me regret not wanting her back. I know her so well, and believe the only thing she would do is call the immigrations and fabricate some lies. Its been like that since the first time we had an argument. I got here on K1 visa with her as the petitioner, before our marriage her threats we all about calling the immigrations to tell them she didn't want me no more. Our wedding day was one day I always cry whenever I remember it because she flipped right there at the altar and started an argument. The next day after the wedding was another argument and the next thing she thought of was to destroy our marriage license. She'll come over to my work and start a fight with me right there, I still think that is strange. I just feel like a victim every single day, and the only reason i pulled through this far is not to hurt my immigration status.

Now I don't really know where I stand. I don't want to be in the marriage anymore, and that is why I decided to let her go on with the divorce proceedings. like i stated, we already did a joint filing on the removal of conditions, and some of the documents we submitted were:

1. Joint Bank statements ( Randomly selected to cover our three years of marriage)
2. Jointly filed tax returns (2005 and 2006)
3. Both of our pay-stubs showing the same address.
4. Burden passes for a trip we went on.
4. Auto insurance on both of our cars in both of our names.
5. Both of our driver's licenses showing the same address.
6. Accidental insurance covering both of us.
7. Water, cable and electricity bills (Some in both of our names, and some in just one person's name)
8. Many pictures at different events we attended.

We probably sent a few other stuffs I can't remember. What i don't understand is

1. If our divorce gets finalized before the removal of conditions is completed, what happens to my status?
2. If she happens to call the immigrations to make any false accusations, how again will that affect me.

I tried talking to a few friends that went through being in a bad relationship like mine, and I don't quite agree with their suggesting that I just have to keep taking all the pain and keep feeling depressed about a non-working marriage.

I probably should be talking to a lawyer now, but i don't know if my case is that serious. Please comment if you've had a similar experience.

I do not have similar experience, but your case is VERY serious
You do need a lawyer asap if you want to stay in the US. Your wife does not even have to fabricate any lies - all she has to do is to let USCIS know that you are in the divorce proceedings.
If you had finalized your divorce before submitting all the paperwork to the USCIS, you would most likely be all right.
If your divorce is not finalized until your conditions are removed (ie USCIS never finds out about your divorce) - you may be all right, although that would be borderline fraud, I suppose...
If USCIS finds out about the divorce pending, they will deny your application.
Dude, I don't want to scare you, but you are in serious trouble and better do something about it.

a couple of years ago you was the USC and petitioned for your filipina girls... now your the one who came here on the K1 and your wife the USC

Where is all these posts about the filipina girls coming from. Someone said that before the last time I posted something, and now again. I don't understand what is going on.





Thank you for the info. I've been thinking that is the best way out.

Just because we currently don't have access to the posts of 05 doesn't mean we forget.... there is more than just me that remember you and your postings of 2005.... it would be hard to forget a troll like you.... thanks for the laughs....

Well then, you have the wrong person, I'm in no way affiliated with filipino. My only post about anything filipino was when a filipino lady on this forum asked for some advice. I NEVER EVER POSTED ANYTHING ABOUT BEING A USC, if I was why would I be here reading about immigrants' problems? Its amazing how some people just love showing everyone they're dumb. I need an advice from A SANE PERSON pls.

correction, you wasn't the one with the filipina ladies (that was bholiday if memory doesn't fail me again), you was the one with the unbelievable tales of your friends.... again thanks for the laughs.... it's hard to get real replies to questions when you've been trolling around before... good luck...
and you might want to try this forum with your question about I751+divorce:
"Effects of Major Family Changes on Immigration Benefits"
http://www.visajourney.com/forums/index.php?showforum=127

Thanks for the info, it was helpful. Thanks again.

None of this is correct. Please don't post if you are going to lead an alien astray.

Sounds like what you can read on the Russian-language immigration-related forums. The general attitude on these forums seems to be that one can't lift conditions without a spouse, and immigrants are convinced they should stay even in abusive relationships just because everyone is saying that it's not possible to lift conditions if divorced and "there was never a single successful case like that". Which is, of course, incorrect.

OP - if your divorce is finalized before the I-751 is approved, you will need to withdraw it and file another one (a waiver), with the box "d" checked. Yes, you will need to pay the fee again With three years of marriage, if you have a lot of evidence of co-mingling your lives, I don't think you will face any problems. But of course, it is always recommended to consult a qualified immigration lawyer.

What happened to the season passes @ disney land. Why didnt that work. Im sure thats why she coming bak. have mom hide them in the attic.
good luck benji

Cute, what do you know about Benji? if you have nothing to post that is informative then do not post at all.

lol...this op has a long history here..posting traumatic stories either about himself or people he knows..

sister cindi..sister tweety and others, have dealt with him prior...