Treble...I can feel what you are saying

. I send the warmest wishes to you and I really hope things do get better for you

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I moved to Canada in 2005, and it has been a very long and at times painful two years. My family and I are very close, and everyday seemed like an eternity(even though it was only 24hours hehehe). I finally had my cup overflow around easter. I have missed 2 family deaths, 2 weddings, and the first two years of my nephews life. For some things like this may not matter, but for me it was heart wrenching. On top of the fact that many people could tell I was from the states (darn accent!

and sometimes hubby wouldnt know when to NOT mention my citizenship hehe) and would treat me quite rudely and down right nasty to me. The only good thing is that I had my loving husband with me everyday, and that is what has kept me going. (and yes I know not ALL Canadians are like that

I have met alot of very sincere and friendly Canadians, and same goes for Americans, you can have some very rude and down right nasty individuals, and then there are the very sincere and friendly Americans

)
It does take time to adjust, which is never the fun or easy part of life (my dream solution would be that we have magical golden wands!

). I do agree with what several other folks have mentioned...maybe you could move to a bigger town and stay long enough to get naturalized. I know personally after going through both the Candian and American immigration, I would not want to ever go through either again

That way if down the road, you decide that you would want to move back to the USA, you wouldnt have to deal with all the pressures again. Before moving to Canada I lived in a fairly large city with an extremely large variety of things to do and see ( the area I was from had lots of music,art and theatre, and sports)so it was not hard to find something to do. The town I live in now is probably 1/4 the size of back home, and certainly does not have the selection of things to do here. I went through the same withdrawls
I can say that if you do decide that you would be happier moving sooner than later, I would suggest filing out of the country. From the time my husband submitted his packet to the day I became I landed immigrant was 2 months. Now granted....that was 2 years ago, but ... I still watch the boards, and some of the folks that applied within Canada at the same time I did just finished up 2-3 months ago. Not every situation is the same, but would rather give you a realistic possibilities. At least if you do out of country, when your husband lands, he can start looking for work right away (after applying for SIN card at least). There will always be positive and negatives when it comes to immigration packets, just depends on which approach suites you the best.
Again, I really hope things get better for you! I hope that whatever path you decide to take, that you and your husband find peace and happiness in that journey.