Full Version: can't believe it's over
I started this journey in july of 2005.And went threw the amman embassy in jordan.We heard bad stories of this one woman there that no matter what proof you had she made your life a living hell.Well i can confirm this to be true.When my husband went for his interview she had him in there for 2 hours pounding the questions to him.He was denied for sponcer reasons but was sworn in before he left.And she smiled a devel smile as she did so as if to make his pain of being so close hit harder.We did sponcer after sponcer.Even once she denied us again because the sponcer was two dollars under what he was to make in a year.We didn't give up.I even sent an e-mail to this woman telling her she will not do to us what she had done to so many.IN the end he got the visa and she made him spend even more money and time getting new things we already did.She even waitied 2 weeks 2 tell him the visa was there for him.He will be here on tuesday and it doesn't see real to me.We won we think but in the end did we really win?Along the way we lost in real.We lost ourselves each of us went into deep depression and in the end it turned out to be a fight due to pride almost a war in a way.Now when he comes it won't be as it was when we first started this hard journey we are now differant people that need to get to know eachother all over again.We did realize that one thing didn't change and that was the fact the love was still there deep inside lost in blood and tears and way to many sleepless nights.I haven't been on this site in almost a year but was shocked to see that the support for one another isn't the same as when i was on. I can in a way understand this since i have passed such a hard road.But when i was on threw all my tears there was always others there for me to listen to all i cryed over and thats what this site is really about not who knows more about the visa thing than another.It's about pulling together with people who are going threw the same things as you to feel your not alone in this.For those who have been waiting what feels like a lifetime i understand and can feel for you but if your love is real you will finish your journey.And for those who are having there case sent back the the usa were there is love there is always a way.And if you really believe in that love you will be together in the end as ashraf and i will be in a few more days.Stand together everyone be kind to eachother you all are passing the same feeling in one way or another and may each of you always walk in the light.
Congratulations to you! Wishing you the best for your new lives together 
You know the next two days are going to FLY!!!
You know the next two days are going to FLY!!!
Thank you for your encouraging words, and CONGRATULATIONS!!!! to you both i am so sorry you had such a hard time getting the visa i am so happy that he had it now. I wish you both a long, and happy life together YOU MADE IT!! 
AJ1
AJ1
Congrats and enjoy your new life together.
Jackie
Jackie
Way to go!! Enjoy your reunion start putting this whole thing behind you.
Congratulations to you both!
Congratulations to you both!
Congratulations
Congratulations to the both of you !
Congratulations on finally getting the visa! You are both battle-scarred, and for good reason. The adjustment period isn't easy, whether you've had a fast journey or not, and you've both been exhausted and beaten up by the process. You may even feel a sort of let-down because you've been in fighting mode with DOS for so long, and suddenly you don't have to fight them anymore. So it's back to real, normal life that's been sitting on the back burner for too long, and that may feel strange at first. But please take heart because you can find your way back to the people you were in the beginning. Those people aren't really gone. Take it as easy as possible when he arrives. There are bound to be some ups and downs, culture shock for him and adjustment for you as well. I'll tell you, I've seen some value in relationship counseling, not just for when things are really in trouble either. We did six weeks of premarital counseling when my then-fiance first arrived, mostly to please my parents because we felt things were going along pretty well ourselves. But we relaxed with the counselor and articulated some things to each other that hadn't come out before, she taught us some communication skills we didn't already have, and I think it has helped us with the adjustment in the long run. Just something to consider. I'm happy for you, and I believe your new life together can be everything you have hoped for for so long. Be patient with yourselves and with each other. Enjoy each other. Best wishes to you both.
Congratulations, and thanks for the encouraging words
Our warmest congratulations to you and your husband!!! Victory and triumph finally!!
*phew*!!!
I thought this was another break up thread!!!!
congrats!
I thought this was another break up thread!!!!
congrats!
QUOTE(doodlebug @ Nov 4 2007, 12:15 PM) 
*phew*!!!
I thought this was another break up thread!!!!
congrats!
I thought this was another break up thread!!!!
congrats!
You took the words right out of my mouth!
Congrats!
congratulations!! I hope the years of joy ahead of you erase the pain and anger you have had to suffer. Enjoy your reunion.
I hope the years of joy ahead of you erase the pain and anger you have had to suffer. Enjoy your reunion.
QUOTE(doodlebug @ Nov 4 2007, 10:15 AM)
*phew*!!!
I thought this was another break up thread!!!!
congrats!
I thought this was another break up thread!!!!
congrats!
I did too! Holy Tomato Bisque!
Congrats on the visa. Hard work brings great rewards
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For those who have been waiting what feels like a lifetime i understand and can feel for you but if your love is real you will finish your journey.And for those who are having there case sent back the the usa were there is love there is always a way.And if you really believe in that love you will be together in the end as ashraf and i will be in a few more days.Stand together everyone be kind to eachother you all are passing the same feeling in one way or another and may each of you always walk in the light.
CONGRATULATIONS!!!
AND
THANK YOU!!!
AND
THANK YOU!!!
Your words of truth and encouragement are a blessing to my soul... and I'm sure to many others. You both will be in my prayers as you finally get reunited and readjust to this new life together here. The love you speak about.. this is what we, Ahmad and I, truly believe in & feel too.
God bless and keep both of you..ruling your hearts and minds with His peace and perfect Love.
Congratulations!!
Congratulations to you both! May your new journey in life togeather be wonderfull.
Thank you for this inspiring thread Windancer! Many blessings and happy times for you and yours.
Olivia
Olivia
Congratulations and best wishes for his safe journey home to you. Just give yourself time to find one another again and it will happen. I'm sure you've built a strong foundation upon which to build your marriage. Use all those communication skills you must have to be open and supportive of one another.
Doreen
Doreen
At last -- I am so happy for you both !
Congratulations !!!
-MK
I am saddend to hear that you had to endure so much but I am very happy to hear that it is all over and soon you will be with your husband. I am also greatful that I had the help of the ladies here on this site that guided me the right way through the process and that I didn't have to struggle with any hang ups along the way.
Thanks be to God that you and your husband will be reunited and start your journey as man and wife in the USA. I know that it helps to have the love and support that you may need through all of this and that includes the adjustment period. If you ever need to pm me and talk or if your husband needs to talk to another Jordanian that has recently came I can give you my husbands email for your husband.
Thanks be to God that you and your husband will be reunited and start your journey as man and wife in the USA. I know that it helps to have the love and support that you may need through all of this and that includes the adjustment period. If you ever need to pm me and talk or if your husband needs to talk to another Jordanian that has recently came I can give you my husbands email for your husband.
I am so happy to hear that your journey is over finally. I know that when we were denied I tried so hard to be happy with everyone else that got approved left and right after us, and still we waited for an additional 15 months. It does some pretty bad damage to your health and your state of mind doesn't it?
Now you enter a new phase. Be prepared though, it has it ups and downs too. It takes time for the SO to adjust to a new country, and he might go through some tough times. My best advise would be to accept it for what it is. He will eventually adjust, he will just need tons of understanding from you. BTW, some have an easier time adjusting than others. I hope yours handles it well.
All in all though, its much easier to handle it if you can do it together. Big hug and congratulations to you.
Now you enter a new phase. Be prepared though, it has it ups and downs too. It takes time for the SO to adjust to a new country, and he might go through some tough times. My best advise would be to accept it for what it is. He will eventually adjust, he will just need tons of understanding from you. BTW, some have an easier time adjusting than others. I hope yours handles it well.
All in all though, its much easier to handle it if you can do it together. Big hug and congratulations to you.
QUOTE(windancer @ Nov 4 2007, 08:07 AM)
I started this journey in july of 2005.And went threw the amman embassy in jordan.We heard bad stories of this one woman there that no matter what proof you had she made your life a living hell.Well i can confirm this to be true.When my husband went for his interview she had him in there for 2 hours pounding the questions to him.He was denied for sponcer reasons but was sworn in before he left.And she smiled a devel smile as she did so as if to make his pain of being so close hit harder.We did sponcer after sponcer.Even once she denied us again because the sponcer was two dollars under what he was to make in a year.We didn't give up.I even sent an e-mail to this woman telling her she will not do to us what she had done to so many.IN the end he got the visa and she made him spend even more money and time getting new things we already did.She even waitied 2 weeks 2 tell him the visa was there for him.He will be here on tuesday and it doesn't see real to me.We won we think but in the end did we really win?Along the way we lost in real.We lost ourselves each of us went into deep depression and in the end it turned out to be a fight due to pride almost a war in a way.Now when he comes it won't be as it was when we first started this hard journey we are now differant people that need to get to know eachother all over again.We did realize that one thing didn't change and that was the fact the love was still there deep inside lost in blood and tears and way to many sleepless nights.I haven't been on this site in almost a year but was shocked to see that the support for one another isn't the same as when i was on. I can in a way understand this since i have passed such a hard road.But when i was on threw all my tears there was always others there for me to listen to all i cryed over and thats what this site is really about not who knows more about the visa thing than another.It's about pulling together with people who are going threw the same things as you to feel your not alone in this.For those who have been waiting what feels like a lifetime i understand and can feel for you but if your love is real you will finish your journey.And for those who are having there case sent back the the usa were there is love there is always a way.And if you really believe in that love you will be together in the end as ashraf and i will be in a few more days.Stand together everyone be kind to eachother you all are passing the same feeling in one way or another and may each of you always walk in the light.
Your message to all of us is very touching and good advice.
I think about what you said about the visa journey becoming so depressing and it becoming a battle to win. Ruining some of the joy of reunion because of the hardship of seperation you both had to endure.
I don't necessarily know if this board is "less supportive" than when you were here. But if so, maybe it can be chalked up to frustration by all of us still waiting.
I feel terribly for those who have waited so long and jealous by others who's processing went fast and smooth (other countries compared to MENA countries). Irked by those who complain about 6 or 8 months processing, when I see some people waiting 1 year and 2 years.
Sometimes depression can numb a person to the point that they lose their empathy for others.
I'm happy to hear your journey is finally over and your husband will be home with you very soon! Congratulations!!
QUOTE(Nutty @ Nov 6 2007, 12:55 PM)
QUOTE(windancer @ Nov 4 2007, 08:07 AM)
I started this journey in july of 2005.And went threw the amman embassy in jordan.We heard bad stories of this one woman there that no matter what proof you had she made your life a living hell.Well i can confirm this to be true.When my husband went for his interview she had him in there for 2 hours pounding the questions to him.He was denied for sponcer reasons but was sworn in before he left.And she smiled a devel smile as she did so as if to make his pain of being so close hit harder.We did sponcer after sponcer.Even once she denied us again because the sponcer was two dollars under what he was to make in a year.We didn't give up.I even sent an e-mail to this woman telling her she will not do to us what she had done to so many.IN the end he got the visa and she made him spend even more money and time getting new things we already did.She even waitied 2 weeks 2 tell him the visa was there for him.He will be here on tuesday and it doesn't see real to me.We won we think but in the end did we really win?Along the way we lost in real.We lost ourselves each of us went into deep depression and in the end it turned out to be a fight due to pride almost a war in a way.Now when he comes it won't be as it was when we first started this hard journey we are now differant people that need to get to know eachother all over again.We did realize that one thing didn't change and that was the fact the love was still there deep inside lost in blood and tears and way to many sleepless nights.I haven't been on this site in almost a year but was shocked to see that the support for one another isn't the same as when i was on. I can in a way understand this since i have passed such a hard road.But when i was on threw all my tears there was always others there for me to listen to all i cryed over and thats what this site is really about not who knows more about the visa thing than another.It's about pulling together with people who are going threw the same things as you to feel your not alone in this.For those who have been waiting what feels like a lifetime i understand and can feel for you but if your love is real you will finish your journey.And for those who are having there case sent back the the usa were there is love there is always a way.And if you really believe in that love you will be together in the end as ashraf and i will be in a few more days.Stand together everyone be kind to eachother you all are passing the same feeling in one way or another and may each of you always walk in the light.
Your message to all of us is very touching and good advice.
I think about what you said about the visa journey becoming so depressing and it becoming a battle to win. Ruining some of the joy of reunion because of the hardship of seperation you both had to endure.
I don't necessarily know if this board is "less supportive" than when you were here. But if so, maybe it can be chalked up to frustration by all of us still waiting.
I feel terribly for those who have waited so long and jealous by others who's processing went fast and smooth (other countries compared to MENA countries). Irked by those who complain about 6 or 8 months processing, when I see some people waiting 1 year and 2 years.
Sometimes depression can numb a person to the point that they lose their empathy for others.
This is one of the reasons I never complained about my wait.
Congratulations Vernonica and Ashraf!!!!!!!
You waited a long time habibti. Enjoy your reunion
Angel
You waited a long time habibti. Enjoy your reunion
Angel
Congrads!
QUOTE(mona_jamie @ Nov 4 2007, 09:01 AM)
Congratulations on finally getting the visa! You are both battle-scarred, and for good reason. The adjustment period isn't easy, whether you've had a fast journey or not, and you've both been exhausted and beaten up by the process. You may even feel a sort of let-down because you've been in fighting mode with DOS for so long, and suddenly you don't have to fight them anymore. So it's back to real, normal life that's been sitting on the back burner for too long, and that may feel strange at first. But please take heart because you can find your way back to the people you were in the beginning. Those people aren't really gone. Take it as easy as possible when he arrives. There are bound to be some ups and downs, culture shock for him and adjustment for you as well. I'll tell you, I've seen some value in relationship counseling, not just for when things are really in trouble either. We did six weeks of premarital counseling when my then-fiance first arrived, mostly to please my parents because we felt things were going along pretty well ourselves. But we relaxed with the counselor and articulated some things to each other that hadn't come out before, she taught us some communication skills we didn't already have, and I think it has helped us with the adjustment in the long run. Just something to consider. I'm happy for you, and I believe your new life together can be everything you have hoped for for so long. Be patient with yourselves and with each other. Enjoy each other. Best wishes to you both.
Mona,
I think that your parents did you both a huge favor - counceling is always helpful and I can totally see the benefits of it in bicultural relationships. I wish we had done it - now it's too late - all is lost.
As for the original poster - hope that your real life will begin soon and that you will find each other once again and discover your love for each other even stronger than before.
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