lol

anddd omg.

Well, in that case, you must be a super strong swimmer!! Missed USA all together,lol

GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR

That's all I can say right now. I am just plain angry.

Man, how frustrating...

I've gotten this before... many many times over my entire life. And yes, I actually did buy that bag too: www.algstore.com

misa, you are my hero. My sentiments exactly.

I *knew* you could related to that one! (and you should get that bag too)

If I'm ever in Philly we could be like VJ twins with the same bag.

I'm feeling better already
I just know I am fed up with people's prejudices and assumptions --- It takes all my freaking patience not to lash out.- Breathe in, breathe out.

I am not latin, I am nowhere near spanish in any form... but even I am sick of americans calling every immigrant or dark person "mexican" like it is an insult.

ugh I really have always wanted to get along with my mother in law and break that whole monster in law stereotype.

but the woman is testing every bit of me.

For the first few months she was great, but lately her true colours have started to show.

1. She came to our wedding yesterday and looked like she was walking into a funeral, she gave us dirty looks about our head gear, and then at our "celebratory" dinner later told us it was awkward and she wished she had never shown up. Gee thanks lady!

2. She is constantly trying to diagnose my son as ADD. Even though his teacher doesnt think he is. I think ADD is one of the most misdiagnosed disorders. And even if he was ADD, I refuse to medicate him. But he seems like a normal child to me. Just a busy boy. He is able to sit and focus when he wants to. The other night she told Mike that he was a terrible parental figure because we're not helping my son with his ADD.

I have come to the conclusion that this woman is a probable hypochondriac and is probably projecting her illness onto other people. Meaning every single child who doesn't adhere to her view of what a child should be, is obviously suffering from ADD.

Both of her kids were tapped onto Ritalin by the age of 8. She disagrees with my method of natural parenting, I disagree with her way of medicating each abnormality in the developing brain of a child.

I don't think we will ever meet in the middle, but it would be nice if she just kept her little thoughts to herself.

She is a special education teacher but doesn't have the qualifications to diagnose anyone. I think what she is doing is unethical and kind of rude.

Stand your ground sister --- she can be God, but your kids are still your kids and you raise them as you see fit (whether I or anyone else agrees is really not an issue here). She can do/say/think whatever she likes, as long as you set boundaries and present a common front with your husband!

As per the wedding comment: WHAT A FKIN BIIIITCH. No more, no less than that.

Cheer up, we luvyah.

Len is so right.

Just my own experience, I too have a child that was quiteeee busy in his younger years. ADD wasn't a hot topic at that point, plus his early school years were all in New Zealand, which probably helped! and there was never a consideration or suggestion to drug him (I'm with you on this one by the way!).

Funny thing is, as he was my first and only child and as ADD wasn't a hot topic, it never crossed my mind to 'treat' him for - whatever. It is just the way he was and that was that (which I'm sure was the experience of millions of moms and dads prior to the ADD discussion).

Anyway, he got through school and he's a happy person and he is still very energetic - I think it would be wonderful to have that amount of energy.

Good luck with your MIL - keep on keeping on

Like Len and trailmix, I agree - your son is your son, and no one else should tell you how to raise them. I agree that ADD is one of the most misdiagnosed disorders out there. Personally I'm against the "medicate people until they're stuffed with drugs" route and clash with my own quasi-hypochondriac MiL a lot. I totally know where you're coming from! She is the sweetest woman, but she is the biggest worrywart I've ever met.

Last week Bee's niece, who is almost three, was limping around and they thought she might have minorly sprained her ankle. My sister-in-law and Bee's brother were pretty worried, but they didn't want to put her through the trauma of the ER. Since the niece has seen a lot of the hospital already (she was a micro-preemie), they wanted to wait until after the weekend to see the pediatrician.

When we went to visit the in-laws and take the load off the worrying parents, MiL went wacko. She demanded that they take their daughter to the ER, despite everyone telling her that it would seriously freak the baby out. Then she asked whether the pediatrician had x-rays. She called them every day demanding to know what the status was. I can only imagine how my in-laws felt between worrying over their daughter and being chided by their mother for poor parenting.

Turns out it wasn't the ankle, it's Lyme disease. You can imagine what kind of hullaboo I've been living with since then.

Yea we're just having issues, and they've only started recently.

We have to deal, because we are all under one roof but like you guys said, he is my child, and I don't plan on medicating him and I dont think he's ADD. His own teacher disagreed with her. I think his teacher would know these things. She had both of her children diagnosed as ADD. I took her to a parent/teacher conference because Mike had to work and he would say: "Well Ethan doesn't like to read" and she'd say: "Thats a sign of ADD" and then he'd say: "Well Ethan loves to talk" and she would say: "Thats a sign of ADD"

Hmm I would think that its a sign of a child. But thats just me. I am no expert...just merely the childs parent.

My mother is back in Canada having a conniption because she hates what is going on down here and that this woman is trying to diagnose him. Its a little difficult.

We'll deal.

I know you have to deal babeee; but boundaries make happy relationships --- you're a strong woman, so I don't worry... maybe I should worry about MIL suffering an accident... (kidding).

As per diagnosing ANYONE with ANYTHING (with all due respect to teachers), only a physician is able. And when it comes to any kind of behavioural issues, only a psychiatrist (or a psychologist, if you like them) can/should diagnose. Then again, that's just my not-humble opinion. And it caused me a lot of freaking grief amongst colleagues in my Faculty (Education= we know/diagnose it all); but I stand my ground.

Love y'all.

oh I know, thats why I think its unethical she is doing this.

Mike said today that she isn't happy until everyone in the world has some sort of neurological disorder and is on meds. She stands by her meds. But what is good for the goose isn't good for the gander.

Thank you all so much. This venting place really does make you feel a whole lot better.

I feel like I am in one of those kleenix commercials with the therapist and the couch in the middle of the street.

Naaaaa.... better the chocolate milk commercial... NOBODY LOVES ME CUZ' THEY THINK I'M UNHEALTHY.... Man that cracks me up!!!!

I just broke one of my molars in half. Fortunately, it doesn't hurt (yet), but the piece that is left is sharp enough to do major damage to my tongue. I have insurance but no $$ until payday one week from now to do anything about it.

My husband is being a jerk. My inlaws are the biggest and oldest children on this planet. I can't even begin to communicate the drama they present in my life.

ouch.

I can't imagine what breaking a tooth feels like.



Sometimes my husband is a jerk...but you know what helps? Singing Cyndi Lauper in the bathtub. No for real.

I come home in the morning light
My mother yells, "when you gonna live your life right?!"
Oh mother dear we're not the fortunate ones
But girls just wanna have fun
Oh girls just wanna have fuuuuun!

Ok, my tooth still hurts.

Sorry about your tooth. I don't know if you have ever heard of this temporary filling stuff called temparin - my Sister got some at walmart - http://www.drugstore.com/qxp44432_333181_s...ng_material.htm

They seem to have a few products in this line: http://www.dentekoralcare.com/browse_by_ca...tal_repair.html

Anyway hope it gets to feeling better!

Ouch! I'm so sorry to hear about your tooth! Do you have a regular dentist? My dentist would take me now, and just have me pay her on payday or something. Doesn't hurt to ask!

Carla

Ouch, I know how you feel when it comes to breaking a tooth. I had the same problem about 6 months ago. It was a rotting molar that split in 1/2 and I had to wait about 3 weeks to get it fixed. Advil was my best friend back then lol.

While I'm in the venting forum, I might as well express my frustration towards my mother. Now see, I still live at home with her with my son. She's known about this whole visa process for a long time now. Hell, shes known about my fiancee ever since we started dating. So shes had a good 4 years to let all this sink in. Well, shes expressed her "feelings" towards me leaving. She wants me to leave after Christmas, that way we can have 1 last Christmas together. I understand all that BUT, I wanted to move before Thanksgiving. That way I can get my son into school the start of the new year. He'll have to take a school bus, so that will take some time getting a spot on the bus. I also want to be able to get a job before all the highschool and college kids get out for the summer. Granted I get my EAD before then. I've let her know all this, but she still doesn't understand it. She tried saying to me that we didn't spend last Christmas together, but shes forgot that we did, we just had it 2 weeks early. Theres no reason why she can't come down to see us for the holidays, or afterwards. I'd like for her to be at our wedding, but I don't see it happening. My mom is married to this awful guy who doesn't help her with the bills at all, even though he has a pretty good paying job. He just drinks his pay checks away. When I talked to my MIL about all this, she thinks that my mom is just being selfish and wants me to stay, that way she doesnt have to deal with my stepdad about the money issue. They've been married for 16 years and I don't ever see my mother putting her foot down with my stepdad after all this time. My mom has tried to make me out to be the bad guy with all this and make me look like the selfish one.

Why should I put my life on hold because she has a deadbeat husband? It just frustrates me that shes acting like this. Shes known for so long I was eventually going to leave, but she just can't grasp the concept that we'll be gone in 2 weeks.

Has anyone else had to go through this with their family?

Mary

I posted this is off topic but I am going to post it again here

arrrgghh, I am so mad....

I want to start off by saying that we have car insurance through this company in Arizona but we go through a underwriter that is local here....

earlier last month, we got a letter from our insurance company saying that our insurance was coming up due and that we needed to pay them $90 to renew our insurance which I was going to do towards the end of the month after hubby got paid...

Anywho, a week or so later I got a call from the underwriter saying that we needed to come in and pay $180 to renew our insurance... I told her that we got this letter from the insurance company saying we only needed to pay $90 but she said that didn't include their underwriting fee

So, we went in on the 18th and paid for the renewal and got a receipt and everything... and the transaction cleared our bank etc...

Well, yesterday we get a letter from our insurance company saying that as of October 28th they canceled our policy

so I am guessing the underwriter neglected to send in the necessary stuff to renew our policy I plan on calling them later this morning to see what is going on...


they did something like this when we first got insurance through them... they were supposed to send in pictures of the car and they did take the pictures but then we get a letter from the insurance company that they needed the pictures or the insurance wouldn't go through....

what exactly our we paying for with this stupid underwriting fee??

car insurance etc.. is so much easier to deal with in Canada... you just go to one place and you get insurance , plates etc....

Go with a direct to consumer insurance company like Geico or Progressive. No middle man but then of course more hassles if you need to file a claim.

Wiz

Hi Mary,

No I haven't, but I hear you. You already know you can't be responsible for someone elses behaviour and HOPEFULLY this will get easier when you do move!

Now my little vent for the day. First of all I don't understand why, if you post something, someone has to come back with a rude, patronising (and wrong I might add) answer? Can they not keep their little fingers off the keyboard? I don't think responses always have to be 'nice', however a tad of respect goes a long way and if you don't have anything constructive to answer what is the gain? In my opinion the gain is they get to vent their venom on someone else, nice way to be there!

Also! I called NVC, our file has now been there 4 months. I'm glad they now have everything they could possibly want and things they probably don't want and eventually they will complete it. The inefficiency of the whole thing is mind boggling.

whew

I haven't had to deal with your exact situation, but I lived with my mother too along with my son.
She too had about the same amount of time to let it all sink in. But when it came time for the actual process to really begin she didn't deal with it well. She even went so far as to throw out important mail from the consulate and everything. Which is my process took longer than normal.

It really isn't your problem, this is your new life and you do need to get on with it like you said. They never do grasp it I dont think...until you're actually gone then it sinks in.

I think we will stick with what we got.. it is only $90 a month and that is for full coverage and if we get another car they say it will only be an extra $30


anywho, I got the problem solved ... although it seems like there was no problem after all ..

I called our underwriter and they said our policy was still active I told them about the letter and they said the check and the letter probably crossed paths in the mail... yeah right... we were in on the 18th and the the policy expired on the 28th...

I did call the insurance company to to double check and they confirmed that our policy was still active .. I told them about the letter and the said the policy did expire but it was renewed again...

then it got me to thinking that maybe that letter is just to let us know that our last policy has expired but why scare a person like that...

Sorry you had to go through all that with your mother. I'm glad my mom didn't go that far. To me, it seems like she probably thought this relationship I have was never going to work out because we live so far away from eachother. She needs to get with the times lol. Whoever came up with the whole quote that women fall in love with men who are like their fathers was completely wrong. Also, that we're like our mothers? WAYYY WRONG lol.

Mary

My entire family thought the same thing.

It was almost like i was single with them.

"Oh Nevada, we have this man we'd like you to meet"

'Err guys I am in a relationship.'

"Oh you call that a relationship? You guys live in different countries!"

Its hard for people to grasp it, especially older people who don't understand the power of the internet and communications in general today. They just think its a phase. Until we get that VISA and have one foot out the door, then they decide to hit the panic button.

I totally empathize with that kind of situation. Early in our relationship, my family treated Bee like he was a joke - "Oh, your foreign boyfriend! Hahaha." When they heard that I was applying for a visa to move down to the US, that's when they knew it was serious.

My mother would go so far as to tell me about her friends who were sneering at her - "Everyone asks me why you couldn't find anyone in this city to date!" Sadly her own marriage was horrible enough that she couldn't understand the concept of marrying for love. She got really clingy and everyone said I was "abandoning" the family. It got to the point where I thought that they'd sabotage The Envelope, and I started hiding it under my mattress! Sad I know, but...

Luckily she's gotten a lot better since then. But jeez, my family is a little crazy when I think about it.

New one:

Comment: "Uh-oh.... if you have kids, they might have cinnamon skin like yours but red hair like Bren's..... aaaawwww, that would be so 'funny' "
L: "and why exactly would it be funny?"
X: "well.... err.... I was trying to be nice"
L: "... don't." (note to reader: this from woman whose kid looks like the lovechild of Mr. Spock and Steven Tyler)


ARGHHHHH. Please make it stop God, before I kill someone.

I'm starting to believe that people DO NOT think before they say something. Jeez, what a dumb thing to say.

....and then they actually ask me why we want to leave Mercer Island....

some people just don't think at all. I get "geesh it must be awful having twins"....yes twice the hugs, kisses, love, etc seems to be really awful!!!! Love my girls!!!

Ok, so I started the 1st half of the getting a crown on one of my molars today. I had a root canal done some years ago and that was a cake walk compared to this. OW! I want to eat and drink again someday. I like food. I miss food. I like cold drinks. I miss cold drinks.

Good news is, my out of pocket is going to be $300 or so. Yep, that is good news considering the whole price is almost $700.

I can't stand Sales & Marketing people.. they seem to be all the same.. demanding, self centered and VERY disorganized when it comes to logistics. It's 4:45pm.. i've waited ALLLLL day to get the flipping package contents and the addresses to ship the marketing materials out for this week's meetings.. WHY do they leave it this late in the day? Why do they change their minds when I get the boxes packed, and the weigh bills on? What part of PLAN AHEAD do these guys not understand?

I'm not sure whether it's only throughout the state, but we've been getting those recorded automated "VOTE 4 MEEEEEEEE!" calls all day at the house, and it's driving me cruckingfazy. Seriously, I don't remember getting this level of political harassment back in Vancouver.

Because there's not a lot of swinging in Vancouver. Not to mention most Canadians don't care about politics.

- Frustrated former poli sci major

So, what exactly does wife swapping party-goers have to do with politics?

AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAARRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!

This sh!t doesn't end..... AR-11 and change of address, let Canada Revenue know you're gone, STILL WAITING for the effing green card, answering idiotic "well intentioned" questions from prejudiced people.... when can I just live a freaking normal life??????????????????????

The End. (of the vent)

What? This isn't normal?

Krikit ---- but good one

Just do what I do. Stop paying CDN taxes.

Okay I am going to use this because I'm really having one of those days and need to vent. It is that time of year in Vancouver and the thought of having to spend another BLEAK, DARK and RAINY winter here alone is just killing me. I am trying to keep myself busy to pass the time until I get to move home with Zach but I am hitting a little freak out point I think. My job is boring the hell out of me and I would quit but it seems useless to do that and find a new job for just a couple months. I could move home to Ontario and stay with my parents for the winter but that might drive me crazy too and I'm just going to have to have to come back out here for my K3 interview in the spring anyway. He is in school and can't come and visit me and I have no more time off work and our $$ ain't that great anyway. I feel like this whole process is hindering our ability to plan ANYTHING and it seems like an open ended struggle. I know everyone else is frustrated too and now I can understand all the other rants I read. Just getting on the crowded bus to rainy Vancouver this morning and knowing I'll be riding that mo fo back home tonight in the dark to sit on my butt in my apartment and miss Zach AGAIN is really annoying me today.

Thanks for listening, I feel better. lol.

This is a great topic thread

Vent away my friend!!! Sending good vibes your way!

Thank you! I needed those good vibes!!!

Whether or not we have an answer to anything, we'll always have an open ear here, so let your frustrations go.

Mary

And once more..... WHERE THE FKKKK IS MY GREEN CARD??????????????????????
I read elsewhere that I can be marked as non-delivered???? the address is my cosponsor's..... ARGHH