I know you are upset, and rightfully so, but don't go there. That is really offensive.

Certainly didn't mean to offend anyone...

But in my neck of the woods, there's a major imbalance in the system...

I understand your frustration, but on the other part, why did you guys wait 2 months to apply for the SSN? Don't you think it's cutting it a little short knowing it gives you only 2 weeks for eligibility ?

So you mean people with a surname of Gonzales are getting their Social Security numbers easier/faster than people with your surname?

I want my SSN

I tried calling the office yesterday and I can't get through to talk to someone until I enter in...guess what...my SSN...I DON'T HAVE ONE! HELLO!!!!

Me=super bummed.

There seems to be some really crazy rental practices in Florida trailmix! Gosh, 5 page applications, credit card numbers, bank statements, references, non-refundable deposits. Yikes! The non-refundable application fees and deposits ensure someone is making lots of money for NOT closing on a rental agreement! That's pretty disgusting.

Doesn't surprised me....our apartment complex charged us a 250$ non-refundable fee for each cat + the 25$ pet rent per cat per month. The lady at the office was really nice to use and actually waived 250$ cause they were kittens, so we paid only 250$, but it's still 50$ a month for them.

Pet friendly my a$$

The first apartment building we lived in here in the US charged a $1000.00 (yes I have the right amount of zeros) deposit if you had a pet. I THINK that was refundable if the pet didn't do any damage, but that was on top of the full month's security deposit you had to have to rent the apt.

- you are so spot on with that Mephys!

Oh yessss we are pet friendly, that will just be $300 and we will take $150 for no particular reason

I feel like lately, all I do is whine ... but here is another rant. Hubby finally found a job (temp. 1-3 weeks, but it is work). He is renovating a local grocery store at night. Today was his second day. I just got the baby to sleep, lay down myself, and then hubby called. His vehicle broke down on the way to work. So, I bundled the baby into the carseat, went and got hubby and then gave him my car to use. It is just so frustrating that we now have yet another expense. Ever since Declan's surgery, it feels like we just keep getting hit with things .... hubby being laid off, mucho medical bills, my pneumonia, now this. ARGH!!!

Thats when I press 0 to talk to a person.

Or just press a whole bunch of random numbers.

Yea we pay 25.00 a month for our dog and had to pay 250.00 for our dog to live here with us. I should send her to work so she can help earn her keep.

There are things that go on here that are really odd to me, like the pet fee and stuff. Also I find here you just fill out an application for an apartment and you got it, its not really like you have to wait to see if you got the place. So many places we looked at people were asking us when we wanted to move in, and I would always say: "Well we don't know we're just looking now"

Maybe its just the area I am in.

Gah.. you guys are not getting any breaks....

My husband always say.. "this too shall pass".. not much comfort to me at the time.. but this WILL come to an end my friend.. eventually.. GAH.. why'd the vehicle have to break down

When it rains, it pours!! I often feel like I've got a dark cloud hanging over my head.

As for the apartment costs, Jared and I had to put two full months as a deposit down at first. It was like $2500 just to move in. I'm so glad I don't have to go back to living in an apartment. I lived in one for the past 4 years of my life and I need some space.

This is called the vent thread, that can include anger, or whining. We don't think you're whining. That's what the thread is for. Imagine trying to keep that inside of you? Being afraid to not say anything? We can't take a lot of this away, other than to support you and encourage you when times are rough. We maybe have dealt with the same issues, and can offer helpful advice. Either way, we're here for you!

Yes!... what Carla said! We want you to come on here and whine so you don't bring down the happy threads. Plus, it makes us feel better about our own miserable lives. lol

I was just out on the patio and they are trimming a palm tree across the parking lot, really these kids have no idea what they are doing.

I don't know much about landscaping or palm trees, but I can't see any reason to take off that many branches - nice green branches!

They provide shade, they look pretty, why do they do that.

(((((Autumnchik))))))

Yeah what is the deal with pruning trees sometimes?!!!
Bleh.


Dear Autumnchik, I truly hope you are not alone and have some family and/or friends nearby.
Do you?
I am so sorry to hear of how thing are going for you now.

we are going through struggles right now too.. hubby always knew his job would slow down after the summer but he just thought he would be working fewer hours a day.. but starting last week he has had whole days off...

so he decided last Thursday to apply for his old job at the warehouse... I think we find out today if he has a chance to get it or not.. the sucky thing is, is he is not sure if he will get day shift again ... if he gets swing shift he has to drop out of school...

and today he is turning in his work van.. so we are back to only having one car...

in the meantime he signed up with Labor Ready... which means on the days i have to work I have to drop him off there around 5:30 am...

and I had to call my parents to lend us some money to cover rent.. we were caught off guard with him not working a few days....

ugh, this sucks.. thankfully I have my job or we would have really been sunk...

Tough times for so many.
Sorry *Marylin*.

Oh Marilyn... i was in your position almost a year ago when both hubby & i lost our jobs very suddenly.. it sucks so bad, so sorry to hear about it. We were blessed by the generosity of my grandmother during that time and it really caused us to reflect about the love of our families and how that is so important.. Little did we know she would pass away a few short months later. I hope that the love that is there between hubby & you just grows even more during this hard bit and that you can both be a good support for each other. It's so tough for me in those moments to remember love.. and to cling to good things..

yeah we still love each other a lot.. that is one of the only things that has been keeping us going through these last few years...

to be honest I was expecting more of a struggle to get money from my parents... but my mom basically said sure right off the bat and when I tried to say we would pay them back she pu her foot down and said no.. of course we will still pay them back somehow...

When I was working for a General Contractor we used Labour Ready on almost all of our job sites. One of our site supervisors said he felt sorry for the workers because they literally get paid peanuts.

I went to get blood drawn this morning and they couldn't find an effing vein. Ive had this problem all my life and it SUCKS SO BAD. They couldn't do it after 20 minutes of poking so now I have to go to this medical place to have it done.

well, he did get the job back.. he is going in right now to fill out the forms and probably do the drug test... he will most likely start within the next week or two...

but he didn't get the day shift which means he has to drop out of school and it is too late to get a refund for the money we paid for the classes..

his shift kind of sucks to Thursday to Monday.. he would start at 12 or 3 (not sure yet) on Thursday, Friday and Monday and at 11 on Saturday and Sunday... which means is weekend is Tuesday and Wednesday and I work on Wednesdays oh well, hopefully it is only for a few months til we get back on our feet...

I really don't want hubby to give up on the AC thing because I know he doesn't want to work in warehouses for the rest of his life... possibly he can go to school during the day next semester, those classes are everyday in the mornings for like 2 or 3 weeks...

it is a relief that he has got his job back.... he will be making the same what he made before plus 8% for working the swing shift..

and another bonus is that the health insurance starts right a ways... which is good because I want to get off the Birth control I am on now... Walmart only offers Avaine( generic brand of Aleese) and I think it is messing with me... I want to go back to Lutera (another generic form of Aleese, they have that at Walgreens....

Is it possible he can go to student services and explain his situation? There may be a way to hold his tuition for a later semester. Failing that, have him call or send an email to the VP, Academic, and/or the President of the institution. There is almost always something that can be done to alleviate the situation.

maybe.. I will ask hubby to check into that... this is just a comuunity college so we are not losing a whole lot of money (@$200) but still..

hubby says he will make that back in no time but that isn't the point

they make it very clear on the papers you get that if you want to drop out of your class and get a refund you have to do it within the first week ...

A little bit of a vent here. It's 11 days before our "church" wedding, which everyone is flying in for, and I am not feeling so hot. I'm actually beginning to think it might be strep throat. I can't afford to be sick right now, literally. ~sighs~ What a kick in the butt! I'll just have to try and rest as much as possible, drink plenty of fluids and gargle with salt water. Hopefully that will help!

I love my Canuck buddies!!! Thanks for the support.
Spirit, I do have some support here, but not a lot. We have lived here for 2 years, but it is a difficult place to make friends ... people tend to be insolar and not welcoming of newcomers. We are slowly starting to make friends, but not as close to anyone here as I am to my friends in Georgia. My family is about 5 hours away. Hopefully, my mom will be able to visit at the end of the month.
Marilyn, hugs to you Hope things are better now that hubby has the new job.
A Team - poor you! If you think it is strep, go to the doctor ASAP so you can begin an antibiotic and feel better before the wedding.

ATeam, get to the Doctor! You don't want to be sick for your wedding. I truly hope you don't have strep throat!

autumnchik big Hugs for you. We're here for you. Glad your family might be coming up soon.

Marilyn, hang in there! Things will work out for you guys soon...it will come together. I'm sorry you're in financial straits, but happy that your family came through for you. Brighter days ahead!

I was a College Administrator for 20 years. Trust me.... they can bend the rules.

Go to Walmart or the dollar store and pick up some generic allergy tabs and try one of those. It may just be allergies. Repeat after me:

I do not have strep throat.
I do not have strep throat.

Feeling better yet? lol


Drink lots of fluids before you go, Treble. That'll help bring out the veins.

Really!!?? Those mother effers told me to fast which I thought meant not to drink anything either. I'm a dummy. I will be drinking plenty of water tomorrow before I go for another try. My arm is all bruised now though

Also Mar, I agree with Krikit. As someone who went to university and now works at one, if he contacts a higher up like a VP or a dean of students, he might be able to get the rules bent in his situation.

Wait wait!

Repeat positive thingies like:

I am strong and healthy.
I feel good.
I am loved.

etc etc

Please be careful with anything negative when affirming something.


I know nothing of strep throat; what a thing to think you have if you are feeling "under the weather".
Perhaps you are run down from trying to do too much.
Slow down.
Allow others to help you.
Eat well.
Rest.
Know that all is well and all is good.

Read up on strep throat using alternative health ideas too if you need to.

Do rest as much as possible.

As someone who suffers from Strep conically, eating and resting well often does not make the bacterial infection go away.

I know you are all about alternative forums of medicine, Spirit, but it's not a virus it's an infection that can actually get much worse without medicine. While I admire your fight for all things natural, some things can't be treated with natural remedies.

Thanks guys. While I'm not entirely sure that strep throat is what it is, I've tried allergy medicine, because at first that's what I thought this was. When the allergy medicine didn't make the headache, etc go away I realized that it definitely wasn't allergies.

My throat was very sore yesterday, but I tried to rest, drink plenty of fluids, say my positive affirmations, and gargle with salt water. My throat's less sore this morning, so that's good! I'll keep resting and drinking lots of water.

Spirit...I also believe in positive affirmations. I've been telling myself that I'm 100% healthy and whole! I love your last one though. That one will help alot.

I'm feeling extremely stressed lately. My family will be here in 8 days. They stress me out, not to mention the wedding period. I'm trying to just breathe and tell myself that it will be just fine.

yeah this is my husband though.. he doesn't like doing things that put him out of his comfort zone

I totally agree.
I would not want anyone to die because they only tried affirmations.
Eeek!

I hope you find out what it is soon ATeam.

Oh yes, and ATeam, do be completely direct and brutally honest with your people.
Tell them that you are feeling fragile or whatever you want to say to them. and tell them to back right off!
You need space and love.
And help.
And that is all.

Go get 'em girrrrl!
Roar!!
Hee, hee.

Ateam, make sure that if your throat keeps on getting worse to see a doctor. Usually with Strep the fever and the not being able to swallow are the two main symptoms. If it is just a sore throat, nurse it! The gurgling with salt will definitely help. Also try sleeping with your windows closed if you currently sleep with them open.

Stress is def. a factor in making the human body sick. Try to look forward to your wedding and family, instead of thinking that it is going to be stressful! I know how you feel because I was in the exact same situation this time last year. I over stressed WAY too much about how I was going to take care of my family and friends I had here for the wedding..where they were going to stay..where to eat, etc. I'm mad at myself that I stressed too much.

A Team What I did on the day of my 1st wedding to keep my sanity I repeated over and over "My job is to be beautiful today.. anything else is the groom's job & responsibility!" Tee hee.. worked wonders Perhaps you could inact that rule a little early??

I just looked up throat problems in Louse Hay's darling little book.

Throat: Avenue of expression. Channel of creativity.
The inability to speak of for one's self. Swallowed anger. Stifled creativity. Refusal to change.

Believe me I know this one all too well.

This is just to help on a metaphysical level.
Do with it what you'd like.

That's awesome.

Oops!

And here are the affirmations:

I open my heart and sing the joys of love.

It's okay to make noise. I express myself freely and joyously.
I speak for myself with ease. I express my creativity.
I am willing to change.

Brutally honest is hard for me Spirit, but I'm trying. I've been exercising like crazy lately and I finally threw in the towel yesterday, realizing that if I really pushed myself that hard I was only going to get worse. ~sighs~ I feel like a blob though.

treble- I had a bit of a fever yesterday and a sore throat. Today it's much better though, feels like it's moved into my head...what a headache! I'll keep an eye on it though, making sure that if it gets worse to take care of it. I'd much rather not go to the doctor, but if I absolutely have to, I will manage to get my butt there! I'm really trying hard not to stress about the whole thing.

E- I love your mantra. I'll try it, although, hubby doesn't want much of anything to do with the wedding! He just can't wait for it to be over, and I must say, I'm beginning to feel that way too right about now.

Spirit- I've been meaning to buy that book. Hopefully someday soon. Those all sound like me. Right now, because it's pretty much a DIY wedding, it's all about creativity. I've stifled it for so long that I'm not doing so well when it comes to being creative. I feel like I'm terrible at everything! Thanks for those affirmations! I'll try them.

Okay, so I guess this sickness might be a direct reflection about how I'm feeling about myself. ~sighs~ It's time to get back on the positivity train and tell myself that I love myself!

Oh as well as E's mantra, add this one too:

Be gentle with yourself.

(I do wish I could take my own advice...hee hee.)

Ugh I just got into a argument with a parent about my son. I literally get out of my car and this huuuge lady with like 3 teeth in her mouth comes running at me cursing and telling me she's tired of my son hurting her son. Yet every witness says her son tripped over a stick and fell down.

I am not one of those parents who thinks my son sh1ts rainbows. I know where he goes wrong and I know when he's lying and he honestly wouldn't just push someone, he's not violent at all. He wouldn't push a 4 year old child.

So she walks away before I can even say anything and I get the other side of the story from everyone else. Including the fact that she told my son she was going to kick his ###.

So I have to walk over to her place and I tell her that threatening him isn't going to make the situation better, that if she has a problem to come to me. I tried to tell her to calm down and she wouldn't and I went on to tell her what my son said and she looks at my son and says: "LIAR LIAR PANTS ON FIRE!"

I just looked at her and said: "Okay this conversation isn't going anywhere, you're far too immature to even discuss the situation."

OMG, Sprailenes. Where the hell do you live?

We live in Mount Laurel, its a nice neighborhood. I don't know, you always get these problems with other kids parents no matter where you live.

I reckon this lady is a Piney though from Pine Barrens.