I feel unloved in the Canada forum

awwww. Why is that? come on, sit down and lets have a Venti Starbucks coffee of the day and discuss your unloved feeling.

Now, I am so feeling unloved that I would actually drink that thing....

Alright Len, you can have this one

touchy touchy.. can we help it if we are more beautiful than all the rest of the provinces?? Beauty comes with a price my friend.

ok, I will make an exception, Second Cup it is, if ur feeling that bad!!!

Thank you... I can feel my mending now....

That reminds me.

My friend and I were at the local Second Cup one day. While we were standing there waiting for our drinks there was a basket of biscotti with a sign which said "Take One". So she said "Don't mind if I do," and bit into one. I started howling and pointed to the small print "$1.25 Each". They let her have it.

Ok, house update....I told the guy to forget it.

He called me back, decided what he need now was the phone number of my Husband's previous employer in Calgary (silly as we would have been happy to give THAT info to him sight unseen).

Well I went on a long spiel about how I felt this was really too much information - and I then asked him - are you worried that we won't take care of your house or are you worried that we won't pay the rent.

He said he is worried we won't pay the rent. So I said ok - have you run the 'worst case scenario' - we are going to sign a 6 month lease - you have asked us for a 2 month deposit, plus a month in advance - so that is 3 months rent that you will have - I said, I don't know what the eviction laws are here in the U.S. - but - well in a nutshell I explained to him that it shouldn't really be a concern.

THEN - he said - after we talked about evictions - something about how American's are so soft hearted and tend to help people out that they really shouldn't (he wasn't referring to us, just telling me how soft hearted they are in general - and then I guess they get burnt - hence the asking for so much info).

Yeah.

So I finally said, you know, I think it would be better if we just didn't go ahead with this, you are obviously uncomfortable, I am VERY uncomfortable.

He said ok, I said, please do me a favor and burn all the info we gave you - or shred it - he said he would shred it and wished us well and I said the same to him.

It was like he was trying to take away our power or something - in fact in thinking about this I have come to a few conclusions about this country - about the way this country is structured or runs in general.

But I have rambled on enough for now!

Sooooooooooooooo - the retard I am . . . . . .

Remember yesterday when I said I wouldn't give out my credit card, I'd rather live in a box. I'm my own worst enemy - I don't need someone to steal my identity.

So I tried to book my car at Matson online to ship to Hawaii. Or at least arrange a shipping date - drop off on the 23rd. Well I'm breezing through the online application - enter my credit card info. The website says it doesn't charge your card until you finalize everything. So I enter my address, credit card # etc - and it doesn't go through. So I click okay again - nothing. I could call the 1-800 # for help, but whatever, I'll just click ok again. Nothing. I do this 5 times and finally think - hmmmmmm - maybe I should just call.

Well I start booking, explain the problem to the very nice lady on the phone and she's like - just so you know - Matson may have charged your credit card each time you click ok. I'm thinking - yeah whatever - that's for your help - let's get the show on the road. Thank her for booking my car and her helpfulness.

Curious, I decide to check my credit card online. Sure enough $5,500 to Matson has just went through on my account. I am sweating profusely at my desk at this point. . . . . yikes!

So I called Mastercard - explained the situation. Dude is like - well I'll leave a note in the system - hopefully they will just delete the transactions - but you never know - call us back next month if they're still there and we'll try to get the funds recouped.

And today was going so well . . . . .sigh.

Oh so sorry about that

I hope they credit that for you!


On a light note, maybe it would have been cheaper to buy another car in Hawaii

Wow. $5,500 to ship a car to Hawaii. That's outrageous! I'm with Mephys. You should just buy a new car when you get there.



I'm glad you didn't take that house, Trailmix. That guy sounds like a micro-managing control freak. And if he lives next door he'd probably drive you batty. Hope he shreds your info. Nutbar.

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Why is it OK for US companies to hire Canadians and have them move to the US RIGHT AWAY on a TN visa, and the same privileges aren't extended to Canadian fiances? Canadians are good enough as employees, but God forbid you want to marry one. Then you have to wait in line with everyone else. Are Canadians decent workers but nothing else???????? Too bad the F in NAFTA doesn't mean FIANCE.

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Two different things. Employers first have to show that they can't find a US citizen or PR to do the work before they're allowed to sponsor someone. Imagine if fiancés/fiancées had to do that? Plus, those are non-immigrant visas. Meaning the employees cannot adjust status and remain in the US or apply for citizenship. Seriously, WaitForever. You need to find something to do to expel all that frustration.

- hubby is wondering what he married into

I'm sure they'll refund the charges - just not much room on the credit card for other things - probably a good way to solve my shopping habit.

It's true. There's no use in even thinking about a TN Visa. People always tell me all the time, why don't you just get a TN Visa? Umm maybe because my job is not listed and second because I want to move there permamently and get a greencard.

I love when people just suggest it like they've found the perfect solution to my problem. Like, wow why didn't I just think of that!!

Yes and also they aren't that easy to get and they aren't that fast - I think it took my brother in law 6-7 months and the company hired a lawyer to do it.

Plus, it's not an all 'fun in the sun' visa either. Each year they had to drive up to the Canadian border and resubmit everything and see if the CO would let them back in - no fun there.

Tell me about it! Like my girlfriends in Vancouver who have all the answers for themselves (and me). One thought that if she married her American bf (who has lived in Canada for many years) she would automatically get dual Citizenship. And the other who thought she could sneak across the border to stay with her bf for a "long visit" and then just not come back!

As soon as I start telling them the real deal of what the process is like their eyes glaze over as if they don't believe me! Sheesh!

brown_eyes, not to be a total freak, but every time I see your profile pic, I wanna ran my fingers through you hair and snuggle.


Ok I just read that and it is real Creepy McCreeperson.

I hope you know what I mean.

Oh and I should prob have said Border Patrol person not CO up there in my last post

I know what you mean cause I wanna do the same thing! :lol;

Whoa folks, sorry for taking so long to respond. Thanks everyone for your advice and warm wishes. Our situation really gets me down sometimes so it was wonderful to have the support of everyone here. Hubby has applied for other jobs too not just carpentry jobs (good suggestion Mephys). He went for an interview at Lowe's a couple weeks ago, heard nothing, called back and the woman who interviewed him told him that they had anticipated several college students leaving, however none of them decided to leave, hence no job openings. This is so frustrating because hubby had a great job in BC and there was no scarcity of work. Here, unemployment runs rampant. If we lived closer to a city, I don't think it would be so bad. Oh well. Here's hoping he gets a job soon.

Mephys - I am so glad that kitty is on the mend. Broke my heart to read what you wrote.

Trailmix - What a wingnut that landlord is. Good decision to pass on the house.

Necrotica, Spirit and lovely Miss Stacey - I hope you all are able to resolve any relationship problems you are having very soon.

Emancipation - Your friend sounds like she is the kind of person who needs to learn on her own, she won't listen to any advice from anyone else. I'm sorry it is so frustrating .... hugs to ya!

No duh. This is the vent forum after all. I'm just saying that Canadians get special treatment on employment visas but not on other kinds. Why not?

Did you not read the comments following mine regarding the difficulty in obtaining a TN visa? Where do Canadians get special treatment, and why should they?

Aww... cats and bears can cuddle can't they?

Hey, there is lots of this bear to go around!

My sweetie actually found that pic of the bear cub... don't you just love this little guy?

Uhhhh..... he's a little less cuddly up close.

Mr. Cuddles!!!!

He kinda looks like my husband when he sleeps up close - no drool though.

He is Mr. Cuddles!

That's what I was thinking - he looks like he might drool on his pillow there.

AWWWWWWW.

I feel bad that my vent is going to follow all those cute pictures. At least they made me feel better.

I'm venting about our stupid mortgage company. They keep jerking us around. It's making me crazy. We're buying a house and our deal is that I can provide some equity because I sold my place and my hubby can get the loan part (because he can). First they told us that we have to have significantly more cash on hand than the cash needed for the house purchase. And they want proof of it and the proof we provide isn't good enough. Now they have required that I have to "gift" my money to him in order for them to give him the mortgage. Doesn't being married count for anything? (Yes, I need to update my timeline) I don't mind the money being "our" money, but it bugs me that it has to be his and not mine.

And this is supposed to settle/close tomorrow. Shouldn't they have thought of these things earlier? I'm waaaaaaay too stressed about it.

What's really bugging me is that gut-wrenching feeling of being in great shape financially in Canada, but then being no one here. Wah.

I totally hear you on this one.... on all counts. I had to "gift" the money to my husband also. Same deal.... purchasing a house. I thought my head would explode.

Thanks Krikit. That actually makes me feel a bit better (not the head exploding part- though that's exactly how I feel) in that it's part of the process. I keep expecting Suze Orman to pop out from behind the bushes saying, "Girl, you are ruining your finances. Just stop it!"

Yup.

VENT: Montreal Consulate: What the hell is going on over there? Appointment letters are going missing. People are missing their appointments. Some people get email notices 3 days before their interviews, and have to scramble to get to Montreal. Those of you who went through them last year says that they were fine - what the heck happened?? There's a bunch of us here now wondering if our letters may have been lost. There's no interviews scheduled yet for September, at least among VJers. What gives??????

"If there's a way for me to stay somewhere and work, yet get to spend time with "loverboy", I would choose it, but obviously this is not easy,"

What would you say this?

GAHHHHHHHHHHH marrying someone just to "stay" in a Country and for anything less than love is NOT COOL... NOT COOL AT ALL

Who the helll said that???? Do tell. And no, it's not cool.

I'm waiting for Krikit to answer.. she's the one with the super cool prize lol.....

I want a prize too!!!! Can I play?

Hmmmm ..... is this the chickie from Japan again?

DING DING DING DING!!!!!!! WAHOO.. you are too smart for skool my friend....


Flames... tell the girl what amazing prize she has won today!!!

WOW!!! Another lucky contestant!! You have won a trip (which u have to pay for) to PEI, get picked up at the airport by no one other than PEI own Loverboy!! He may be a bit late to the airport, as he has to borrow his moms 1986 Dodge Horizon hatchback car, and he has to stop at the seamstress to get a patch put on his sweat pants!! Accommodations are at his parents place AND he will devote all his attention to you, as he does not have a job!! Thanks to VJ members, we do have $$$$ in the budget for aerosol body spray. CONGRATS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

oh man... you nailed it flames.. you nailed it

WHY DOES EVERYONE CALL ME "THE AMERICAN" now????

"think you'll be an American for life" is the most recent addition to the dumb questions i've been asked.. c'moffit?

oh that reminds me.. it really bugs me when people say you are in America now you should spell the words correctly (you know like flavor instead of flavour) etc I know they are joking around but it bugs me still

I saw a bumper sticker last night that read "You now live in America - NOW SPEAK ENGLISH"... I sighed...

I was just talking about that bumper sticker last week!!

and flames

I get asked by my fellow students when i wil become an American. I simply state NEVER, I'm Canadian.

Ants!!!!!!! Grrrr! I woke up this morning at 6 am to make Joe's lunch and there were hoardes of ants all over the kitchen counters! I made his lunch on the kitchen table and got him on his way and then broke out the Bug Shot. After moving everything away I found they were streaming in through the edge of the kitchen window. So I blasted those little suckers where ever I saw them moving, then wiped off the counter of insecticide and dead ant bodies. Then I sprayed bleach cleaner all over the counters and wiped off that. Then I had to wash everything off with water to remove the bleach and any residual insecticide because the cats have been known to jump up there and I don't want them touching any left over insecticide (nor us either). Then of course I had to wash down all of the items that we keep on the counter and wash the cutting boards and everything else. I put down ant traps and then, figuring it won't hurt and might help, lined the window ledge with dryer sheets. Then I went outside and sprayed the outside of the window sill , the siding and the cement base of the house to try and stop any further intrusions. I hate ants inside! So far so good. They haven't returned - but I'm telling you, if they do I'm ready. I bought more BugShot today. Boy am I ever glad it works.

Flames you are hilarious!


Poor Japanese girl...Anne of Green Gables legacy got another one.