Hugs Karen

Its just seems that more and more ppl in charge of our kids just dont give a dam, its sad. We shouldn't have to fight tooth and nail to get help for our kids.

Agreed big time. Welcome to the Land of the Free, have a nice day. OH WAIT! No health insurance? Give me back the nice and have a so-so day

I tell you sister....IF we could afford it, I would quit and homeschool for a bit...til I could either get a job in a more congenial school system or could afford other educational avenues. I'm not a homeschool forever advocate, but I do think it has its place for a temporary solution to a problem such as this.

Gawd, this is soooo dam ridiculous!

I would hire you...

And yes, it is beyond absurd. Now, if you don't like it, get on the boat and come back where you came from.

lol...I am so friggin' worked up about that other thread I would have a snappy comment!

Gawd, it hurts to laugh...

I thought about it Karen, but nowadays I opt for high class irony... which of course 85% of people don't get.

hmm i guess i need to go find that thread cause i dont get it hehe

Here:

http://www.visajourney.com/forums/index.php?showtopic=140052

holy hannah - my jaw is still on the floor.

thats just nuts

Holy Toledo.. i was JUST thinking I had not seen a thread closed in a while but i think I spoke too soon!

WOWZERS is all I can say..

So.. here's my vent for today..

I have an "absent" landlord.. by that I mean he doesn't live in the US, he has a real estate agent take care of the place and arrange for work to be done. the problem with her is that she never returns our phone calls, never does what she says she is going to do and last week we called because there was water seeping through the ceiling in our bathroom, and she JUST called hubby back last night (a week and a couple of days later) and said she was "away" in New Jersey. Excuse me? NJ doesn't have telephone reception there? I don't think it's an excuse at ALL to be on vacation and not be able to answer a telephone!! *sigh.. so now we've got an ugly ceiling that is moist and red (me thinks from the pipes perhaps), and no answers.. UGH Her plan of action? she's going to call the neighbors upstairs and see if they over filled the bathtub.. that was last week gal, they probably don't even remember!!!!!

I'd be marching myself into her office for a face to face! You know, since her phone obviously doesn't seem to work on a consistent basis and all....

Seriously, have you checked into your rights as a tenant? What does your agreement say about repairs and such? Methinks I'd be checking this out and presenting this to her in person, or even make copies of the agreement with this information highlighted in bright yellow...you know, just in case she's "lost your file" or if her copier doesn't work either...

I sure hope you and your hubby get this situation resolved.

i have to get this off my chest...

I am really peeved at my parents... back in December when I lost my 2nd baby, my mom wanted to come down here but they couldn't make it because of my dad's job but my mom said they would come during the summer sometime... then has the months went by my mom hinted that they would probably not be able to come because of money issues... but then she is always telling me things, like how she let my dad buy himself a motorbike with the last of his mom's money... and then recently she told me that they bought a another car and that they are probably gong to rent a cabin for a week later in the summer or something... It makes me feel very unimportant to them...

I really needed to see my parents... I can't afford to go up to Canada right now ...

I just feel all alone most of the time here.....

I love you though.....
Sorry about this sister Marilyn

by here I mean IRL, not VJ...

Love you IRL too

Like Spirit would say:

This too
Shall pass.

yeah, I know.. i just wish it would hurry up

DUDE - I thought your siggy cat was eating human flesh

Awwwwww Marilyn. I'm sorry you're feeling so alone. Have you talked to your Mom about this? I mean...saying on the phone...Mom, I miss you guys so much...I would really, really love to see you. I feel so alone sometimes. Or how about saying...you know, I thought about you guys renting a cabin this summer, is there anyway you could drive down here instead? I miss you and love you and want to see you.

Could your Mom come on her own? Less expensive than both of them coming down. I think it's a good idea Marilyn to say what you feel to your parents. Don't keep it bottled up. Having a good cry is a good idea as well.

We love you!

I don't think my mom would even consider coming by herself.... not sure why but that is just how my mom is.. but then come to think of it I am probably like that too.. I wouldn't want to go if my hubby couldn't go...

yeah my therapist said I should let her know how I feel... I did ask her once if they were coming and she said she didn't think so because of lack of money...

So the agent representing our Landlord showed up last night, apparently the toilet upstairs wasn't sealed with a wax ring, so the toilet from the upstairs unit was leaking through the ceiling.. DISGUSTING.....

Anyway, they fixed the toilet upstairs last night and asked us to keep our windows open for a few days so the ceiling could dry I most certainly hope they are going to repair the drywall..

That just sucks Marilyn, I hear the same things from my parents and then they turn around and buy some big expensive stuff. I know my mom wouldn't come down either withought my dad, but could it be that your mom isn't telling your father just how much you need them now. My mother tends to down play things to my father and not tell him all so woundering if you spoke to your dad if it would help.

Not good E not good I hope they do more then telll you to open a window too.

see the thing is I am way closer with my dad so I am sure he would be the first one to say, "hey, we should go visit Marilyn"... but my mom is good at talking my dad out of things...

Dang sometimes moms just need a kick in the pants.

Women are evil!!!

WOW.
I just read back only a couple of pages.
Forgive my self-diagnosed A.D.D. and remembering who has which problem, and what I wanted to say is this:

Sweet Liz, do not fret.
You are simply going through only what is known as a huge transition and emotional waterfalls. Ha...I just had a visual of that.
What I am trying to say is that it is prefectly normal to be freaking out about everything at this moment in your life.
Remember to take time outs and go somewhere you feel safe (a scenic park or something) and breathe.
Bring bubbles.

For *Marylin*:
You mom is probably struggling with a truck load of issues/problems as well.
We sometimes forget that they are not super heroes.
What I mean by that, is i am certain she would be by your side in a flash if she could park all of her stuff.
You know?
And you, wow, you have been through so much.
I hope you have a good girl friend near by....and you also have us. (big hug)

Emancipation: that just sux big time. grrrrrrr...I hate this kinda crap.

KarenCee and the school system crapola....hmmmmm...yes home schooling is the only way to really bring up children.
Too bad not everyone can afford and/or have the skills and will to do this.
Public school systems are set up to domesticate the human spirit and prep them to be a cog in corporations.
The try and are mostly successful in curbing/killing any human creativity and and and....aaarrrr.
I had to stop as my blood started to boil.
Oops.

Hmmm who else...oh yeah about the medical system:
Dear Kathryn,
I recently saw the movie Sicko.And i hear stories from people here all the time.
Enough said.

And ATeam....I hope you keep fighting them.
They are whacked.

And Len, I love the way you approach things.
Very healthy.



As for yours truly:

Well after losing my FIL to cancer in early May (and having been by his death bed for 6 weeks in FLA), my honey's 12 year-old golden retriever has been diagnosed with cancer and is fading.
There is too much sadness and troubling news in our world....mostly for him, and also for me as I am an HSP (Highly Sensitive Person).
It seems each week brings some news that brings him down and I believe he has not had a lot of trouble/problems in his life and this kind of stuff, the magnitude of it is too much for one person to bear in such a short time.

We may be going out to the farm where "puppy wuppy" is being doggie sat to put him to rest this weekend.
We were supposed to be picking him back up.

At least he has had great fun swimming and playing with other doggies last week.

sigh....

that's my problem.. I don't have any good girlfriends near by

I felt like I had to handle a lot of this stuff on my own.. I had no one to call up and say hey can you come over? ..

back in December I was in the hospital for a week and no one really came to visit me.. I would spend all day by myself.. and the stupid TV only had a few channels.. I was bored out of my mind... hubby would come after work but he would be so tired so he wasn't much company.... if I was back in Canada, I know someone would have been there every day ....


waaah, ignore me I am having a pity party

Nah....we all have them - pity parties that is. In fact, I'm having my own at the moment.

I do know that feeling. When I was in the hospital for a week (really bad asthma attack) no one but hubby and our daughter came to see me. Not even the girls I work with called or visited. It stinks having NO family here and the closest family 2600 miles away AND in Canada to boot!

I haven't any close by friends either...which is prolly why I hang out here so darn much... There are days when I wish we all lived really close by (a Canadian VJ Commune ) so we could be there for each other, yanno? But as long as I have you guys...

I was wishing I had a laptop that week... I didn't even have you guys to keep me company

see his family all lives fairly close... his one brother and GF and the boys came one day but it was the same day i was admitted and I wasn't a happy camper or in a visiting mood...

but the whole rest of the week none of his family came...

It would be nice to have a few heck I'd be happy with one friend near by, I know I havent been here long at all and I havent had the chance to meet ppl really but I can't even talk to ppl out on the street that walk by cause well nobody walks by. People just arent as chatty in the stores or where ever and I like to talk about anything and everything works for me.

HUGS FOR ALL

it has always been hard for me to make friends.. I am a very shy person at first but once I warm up to people you can't shut me up

I have one of those days coming up tomorrow. I have to make some waves at work and I've been avoiding it for two weeks. The longer I wait the more anxious I am becoming. But the more anxious I get the more I am putting it off. So I decided this weekend, that that was it, I have to make a stink about one of our departments and just take the hatred/glares/snide remarks/coffee un-invites that's going to go along with it. I realize at times like this, that I am young and haven't developed that business aspect yet. When I think I've got things down at work, I realize I've still got so much to learn and grow into.

And to make things worse, having my interview date makes me want to just lose my mind and go totally insane and say exactly what I'm thinking. Go ahead and fire me ~ I'm leaving anyways (as I'm flipping the bird). And, I asked for my letter of reference weeks ago, so I'm not shot in the foot there either.

Ugh.

ok not really a vent but i'm bored as hell. Hubby is gone to work, and none of my friends will ever answer the phone. It would be nice to be able to chat with someone about everything and anything ya know. So I sit here trying to avoid eating outta boredom, yawning like theres no tomorow and still cant keep myself busy. Most ppl look at me when I say i'm bored like i'm off my rocker cause how can i be bored with 4 kids. Its not hard really. Anyways I'm here surfing through the vj forums to fill in some time.

Do you live in a city or a rural area? Are you familiar with where you live now? Do you have a car or bike? I'm sorry your so bored! If it's as hot there as here, it's best to stay in A/C unless you're used to this heat.

I hear you Carla (our patio door is steamed up too!).

Yesterday we went to look at that yukky house at 2:00. I normally will not go out during the daytime here, right now, as it is too too hot - I made an exception though because there was rain forcast

Well it didn't rain until 3! So there we were, standing in an un-airconditioned house (the thermostat in the car said it was like 95 - which means it was probably 100), speaking to these very nice but untidy people and I finally got so hot I interrupted them mid sentence and said welllll we have to fly - we have a duplex to look at at.....and i look at my watch and can't see the time (no i'm not blind but it's a fashion watch and hard to see in dim light lol) - 'at something 30

I then proceeded to head for the door - out in to the bright sunshine - the guy is still talking at the door and all i'm thinking about it the aircon in the car.

Mike is on his way to the DMV right now to get a FL driver's license, he chose Daytona Beach branch as he may as well see the beach while getting his DL! I didn't go because, although it's raining - the sun will prob be out shortly....come on 'winter' or fall even!

MATILDA, the folkloric secretary we all love to hate, didn't show up for work.... AGAIN.

This @$$%%!! shows up 75% of the time; 30% of which is spent in chatting with people and students, 20% is spent outside his desk somewhere he shouldn't be, and the otehr 50% he is usually stoned out of his mind with his prescription du jour. Right now, I hate unions. I do, I do, I do.

HOW hard can it be to find a PCP.. I mean REALLY? Everyone in this blessed city is not taking patients or the info on the CIGNA website is incorrect and they are not a PCP. I've tried at least 8-9 offices and frankly I'm TIRED of trying.. GEEPERS.. i just need a Dr. on file to call if I get sick.. it's NOT rocket science people!!!!!!!!

Yeah who does he think he is, a professor with tenure.

So- how did it go?

THAT'S MY BRO!!!!

So we moved, but his mother is still calling every day sometimes twice a day.

I understand we all have a wedding to go to on friday for my husbands cousin (all they do is talk smack about these guys) and she feels the need to organize everything, or should I say control but there is no need to call us up so much. We're going, we'll see you there. How hard is that to understand??

But anyways she called up my husband tonight yelling because we wanted to drive ourselves to Erie rather then with his uncle. She also was insulted that we didn't want to eat over at her house tomorrow. Honey, I have been eating dinner with you people for a year. NO I don't want to come over for dinner now. I need space, we need some space. Let us have some goddamned space.

If this continues on next week I told my husband he's going to have to talk to her and I hate to say this, its going to come down to choosing eventually because I can't stand being in the kitchen and hearing her yelling at him while he's on the phone with him in the living room. Don't yell at MY husband. He's 30 not 4.

^I feel for you! I honestly don't know how you deal with it... a mother like that would drive me bonkers. That's so unfortunate it may have to come down to choosing - what is her big anyway with all the yelling?

I have no idea but she basically treats my husband like crap. Even he would agree.

Oy Sprailenes! Sounds like she just needs to butt-the-f-out!

Make sure you don't sit across from her at the wedding, otherwise you'll be catching her nasty glare all night. Also, don't sit right next to her either, otherwise you'll be listening to her all night. Its a careful seating position when dealing with the MIL from hell.

My mother in law was just here last month for over 2 weeks. Now she is already planning to come back on the 19th of this month.

I chickened out for 4 days - then finally did it. I got an out of office reply from everyone Anxiety for nothing.

Then Monday morning - stink hit the fan. At least my small team still likes me. And seriously, bad attitude Cattattude was just dying to say - So fire me you bunch of numbskulls - I outta here anyways

So now its just a bunch of glares this week in the cafeteria. So high school. 6 weeks left. sigh.

BAH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Feel better now?

tee hee much better now lol!!