Yesterday at work Sharon wasn't feeling well at all (tired to point of collapsing) after being there 2 hour, she waited for a replacement and then went to the hospital emergency to get checked out and was told it would take as much as 3 month to recover from her illness, this is not good as all it does is add more stress in her life and it is stress that she is trying to recover from. Right now she on her way to her doctor since she (doctor) was called by the hospital yesterday and told to see the doctor first thing this morning.

I know everyone well wish well and a speedy recovery, that is what I will tell her on your behalf. Thank you for tolerating my latest post as they are not the most pleasant reading material available.



Always thinking of you and loving you very much even if not said often enough.

Ron

OH MY!
Ron....I'm so sorry to hear of Sharon's illness!!!
I hope she gets the rest and healing she needs!!!!
I'm thinking of you both
Stay strong
~Laura

Oh dear. Don't know what to say Ron. Please please tell that girl that she is much too loved by you and all of us VJ freaks. I always have you both in my prayers. Sweetheart, she should perhaps (pardon my intrusion and unrequested advise) go drop by a psychiatrist office? Perhaps something to help ease the pain (emotional) and stress will help - both therapy and medications. I know this first hand my dear friend, and it kept me alive through the hardest of times.

We love you both. Len and Bren.

Ron i'm truly sorry to hear of these issues that you and Sharon are now dealing with in addition to what you already have to deal with.

I'm wishing you both health and happiness soon!

Thank you Laura, I hope you have a very happy birthday and many more.
Thank you for the kind words I will pass them on to Sharon, She also will appreciate them.

Len and Bren, thank you very much for thinking of us especially Sharon at this time, she is in need of prayers at this time, none are ever too few. Sharon’s doctor is an angel and she is helping Sharon both physically and mentally, but our concern at the moment is her physical well being. What I didn’t say was she has a few weeks ago had a terrible case of Shingle that has drawn every bit of strength she had and this is what the present problem is, no matter what she does it is too much. The shingles are pretty much healed, but the doctor yesterday said it can take up to 3 month before she is herself and well enough to function as she has in the past. She returned to work as her doctor suggested working half days for the first week, but even at that she has not been able to do the half days but 2 to 3 hours only. The advice may have been un-requested but it truly is appreciated and would have been requested if only I weren’t so closely involved, and the intrusion is very welcome from someone as yourself who know what it is we are going through.

Thank you for the comfort of your words and the advice you offer us none is wasted.

Thank you and thank Bren you are always in our hearts and thoughts

Ron

Thank you trailmix,
We have hit a low point and with the proper help we will pull through and carry on. This does not minimize our love for each other it fortifies our resolve to be together regardless of whether it is a stone in our shoes or a rock on the road. We are one of many who have travelled and will travel this path to the where our hearts will have no more longing.
I hope you are well and are enjoying your new life.
Ron

I'm really sorry you guys are going through more than just a "rough patch" at this point..
I hope you both find yourselves together no matter when that is..

Ron, I just read this post and I know how stressful your situation has been for both you and Sharon but I can't think of some palliative cliche or banal pleasantry that will provide succour. My eloquent fellow VJers have posted much of what I am feeling. The only thing that strikes me is the power and depth of your love for each other, as Shakespeare once wrote,
Love is… an ever-fixed mark That looks on tempests and is never shaken.


I don't mean to engage in a course of sophistry or clever wordplay and I hope that you take no offence but in a backhanded way your maladies are the manifestation of your love for each other. This crucible of tragedy is forging an ever stronger bond that few people will ever experience. We are all grateful to have been given the opportunity to observe it first-hand, albeit all of us wish that it had come under more felicitous circumstances. As you have already pointed out, this is the nadir, there is only up and it will get better. You have had your health problems recently and now Sharon has had hers and you are on the cusp of great and joyous changes, you've steeled yourselves to the insults of the fates and nothing more can affect you. The strength of the bonds of your love are not altered by calumnous insult. Your posts are never intolerable, they are the very parable of ineffable affection. We all share your longing in our collective hearts and yours will be in our daily supplications for peace and strength to you and Sharon.

The quality of mercy is not strained, it droppeth as the gentle rain from heaven and the weather forecast calls for rain.

Ron, don't listen to Mumsie, we all know he is, well, special....




Kidding. Mumsie has given me very very good advise and has been a real brother. So I second his thoughts (except the ones that involve running around nekkid with a food processor )

Thank you for those kind words Len , keep it up and people will start to think that you actually like me. It will forever change the face of sibling dynamics and we can't have that. Now can you please give me back the Cuisinart.

Liz, Everything has a price, this may be ours for a better future together. Once we have everything out of the way " rough patch" we definitely will have a smooth as silk future. I figure that soon our paperwork falls on someone's desk who will as the last CBP agent I met say "WTF" and not be afraid to re-act and to act in our favour.
Love and Hugs
Ron

So sorry that Sharon is having health issues now. I know that during our process Gene had a case of shingles as well. Very painful! The Dr. said it was of course the virus, however was probably brought on by stress. Don't we know about THAT eh? Tell Sharon that we send our love and best wishes for a full recovery. We're thinking of her, and you...not being down here for her, and hoping and praying that this damn process is over soon!!!! Love and hugs Ron for you both.

Ron very sorry to hear about Sharon's plight and her bout with Shingles. I fell bad for her as my hubby get them as well and in fact is thinking he is about to have a bout with them in the next week or so and I just feel so bad for him when he does since there is nothing I can do but watch him be in pain (he of course is a man, no offense, but he won't go to the doctor anymore) he just likes to suffer through it. Luckily it only seems to last a few weeks usually but terrible to watch. I hope Sharon gets to feeling better soon, best to you both.

Yeah. What he said. ↑

Shut up. I will never again let you borrow my kitchen appliances. Never, ever, ever. THIRTEEN food processors. THIRTEEN.

Oh! and now that BooYah decided I am an American Boy, I might change my screen name to "Len, Gender Confused" what an idiot.

I've tasted your cooking, it was no great loss. Just kidding...maybe. Actually my sister is a great cook, I can say that in all honesty and I'd say that even if she wasn't holding a large butcher knife in her hand right now.

"Len, Gender Confused" seems a bit too verbose, too cacophonous; I think your new screen name should be more melodious, more succinct. Len is now "The Gender Bender."

BTW, here's her new avatar:

Dear Mumsie, How does one do justice to what you have written? I have tried but am not able to say anything but a heart felt thank you.
Ron andSharon

Thank you Carla, Sharon will get through this but it will take time. What she is now suffering are the side effects and they are what is causing weakness

Ron

OH MY GOD!!! THAT'S HILARIOUS!!!!
You just made my day bro

Thank you very much, Sharon is new suffering the side effects and hopefully they won't last too long. Tell your husband if caught at the right time they don't need to last more than a week with the proper medication. I two years ago felt something wrong and it was the beginning of shingles and I took 7 pills and they were gone. If he want to spend $300.00 there is a pill that will cure he in one day. I opted for the lesser expensive meds at 170.00 for the 7 pills.
Ron

Today the doctor said I have to go to the heart institute for testing, she has no idea what happened and is sure that it wasn't the medication, but does think it was a stroke, everyone at work is now worried and the boss is thinking of getting other to keep an eye on me and call me at work since I send the last 2 hours alone, damn there goes my nap time.

aww that means people love you at work too!

Ron and Sharon,

Just saw your posts now. Everyone else has said things much more eloquently than I can right now, so just wanted to add that much love is going out to you!!!

Speaking as someone who has had a stroke -- go get testing done! This may have been a TIA or a small stroke -- usually these go undiagnosed and untreated, and you may suffer a bigger one later on. I don't want to scare you, but just want to gently nudge you in the direction of getting checked out and starting preventative treatment if needed. Oh and familiarize yourself and your co-workers with the warning signs of stroke so that you can be prepared. I hope something else is causing your symptoms, but obey your doctor just to make sure.

I agree with Cassie, please check it out Ron. You are blessed that so many people love and care about you!

They are good people except they for the past year claim they are the reason our petition hasn't gone through they just won't let me go quietly.

Thank you very much, it is true that many wonderful things has been said by many supportive members. It does the heart good to come here empty and leave filled with the warmth of all the love sent my way for Sharon and myself.
Ron

Thank you for caring enough to nudge me in the right direction. It is still hard to know what happened, 2 doctors and nurse practioner are confused by the symptoms, I have had 2 of the TIA symptom and the symptoms for a drug mismatch wouldn't have lasted 8 days.
I have every intension of of the tests done as soon as an appointment can be set up, which should be in the next fe days. I think is has something to do with the operation I had the day before the the symptoms and my new diet, maybe it the pizza and pepsi that my body is missing and craving.
My co-workers are well aware of my possible condition and are checking on my frequently during the day and call me when I am alone and they have gove home. My neighbours have been advised and make sure they talk to me when we meet. I am well taken care of.
Ron

Thanks, I will be doing everything I am told, the hardest part will be to stop smoking since they took the Zyban away and will not issue any other Sessation aides.

I can see that! Hopefully the tests will reveal the cause and you can be back on track soon.

I wish you well too Ron.

I have come to vent.

So here goes:


Firstly I need a PA to assist me in reading all that has been going on in VJ with all of you and give me a synopsis.
My A.D.D. does not allow for too much reading nor too much writing in one sitting. Hee, hee.
(like I said I self diagnosed)

Second, I knew my first impression would stick. Now it is my second impression...Chicago made a huge mistake allowing that highway to be built right by the beautiful Lake. It cuts off access from people living and working downtown. Not to mention the noise of zooming cars when you are on the bicycle/walking paths. What were they thinking?! (NOT.) I propose they rip it up immediately and allow the water, plants, sand, whatever reclaim that land. Allow access to all to stroll or sit with some peace of mind.
(Oh my empress tendencies are showing.)
The city planners should have a google earth look at Vancouver's downtown and how the beaches are integrated. You can grab a coffee/food/ice cream and saunter over to enjoy it.

Third: we arrived home late Friday night after driving two cars back from FLA to find the house a wreck. The crew that replaced the bathroom (the entire thing, yes) had allowed dry wall dust and other unmentionables to fly through the entire place! I just lay down up in the empty attic (I got home an hour before my sweetie; story later) on the floor and tried to breathe and not get an ulcer. I am sick of cleaning. I said I wouldn't do it in anger and we went to a hotel to stay for the weekend. (Bathroom was not quite finished.) Of course I did, and still am trying to clean it all up.
Oh well, there must be a lesson in all of this somewhere.
So tired of cleaning this house.
I felt so much fear when my honey told me that we should go "home" at some point...that was a week before we left Santa Rosa.
I knew something had gone awry....not to mention my history with it.

BTW the bathroom (all white, tiles, everything) was so stark, I went and bought some super bright coloured thingies and now it looks like a playroom. I love it. (photo later)

Fourth: Apartment prices have not fallen in Chicago. What is it with people. Don;t they know there is a housing meltdown going on? Hee, hee. I so want to sublet someone;s place and live downtown for the next 6 months until we figure out whet we are going to do next. I am planning on giving away all my winter gear/wear and not being here next Winter. Ha!

Oh and I have been known to change my mind.....

Ron, there's only one way, for you and Sharon to get well.

Oliver and I are getting weird bites..
how do I figure out what it is?
Spiders??

and any bite I get always swells SO BIG anyway even if it's mosquitos!

I need a bug killer that kills EVERYTHING ..

OUCH!!
IT'S SO ITCHY!

And baxter is on Advantage Multi, so it's not fleas!

Oh, and she never gives out and she never gives in,
She just changes her mind.

A brief synopsis. The sound was off but I think that I got the gist of it . Let's see...some people are waiting, some are approved and some have just filed. Poor Ron and Sharon are now sick and waiting, there's is an imbroglio that I have grown to fear will outlive them both but I worry too much.

I hate when cities put up impediments to viewing the waterfront. Unfortunately after the Big Dig fiasco in Boston, I seriously doubt anyone is going to broach the idea in the current budgetary zeitgeist (dammit ,I hate that word, I meant to say milieu).

White bathrooms, I hate white bathrooms, the only colour worse is ecru. Ecru is the only colour I know that looks like somebody had an accident on the way to the toilet, EWWWWWW. There's only one colour for bathrooms, Seafoam Green, no Aubergine, no Coral Pink, no Canary Yellow, only Seafoam Green. I'd love to see your pics of the bathroom but photoshop them first so everything looks Seafoam Green. I once went to an open house and the whole bathroom was tiled in soapstone, it looked fantastic and the because the floor was soapstone your feet never got cold. The house was selling for $6.5 million which was crazy. We'd never pay $6.5 million for a house, we draw the line at $5 million.

Some markets have seen big corrections but most of the older ones have not. Chicago will not correct that much but if things keep progressing, you might get that condo in Marina City. Stay away from John Hancock though, who wants Jerry Springer as a neighbour. Frisco's housing market still hasn't corrected much but San Diego has apparently, they're both just a bit warmer than The Windy City, just a bit.

he got 4 on his back, 3 on his neck and I got 3 on my arm

ahhhhh

marriage is incredibly hard work and i just needed somewhere to say that out loud that didn't come with a bunch of judgement and criticism

vent away honey!

We've all vented here about marriage in the Canadian Vent thread!

Your bathroom sounds lovely, Spirit. And I hate cleaning up renovation dust too.

Mumsie... Oh, and my bathroom is seafoam green!



Weird. My guess is that it's spiders too.

how do you kill spiders?!!!!!!!!!!!

i can't find a freaking cobweb in our apartment!

thank you so much...it's nice to know i'm not the only one.

so don't forget to post your actual vent about marriage here when you get a chance

who knows, maybe someone here will have some ideas for you too

OMG I WANT TO SCRATCH MY ARM OFF

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I WANT MY BABY TO START BREASTFEEDING!!!!!!!!

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I have NEVER experienced anything so difficult. I really want to do this, but it is so frustrating when he doesn't latch or falls asleep right away (pretty much every time). I am so tired of crying about it too, but can't seem to stop doing that. I've read a lot about how challenging breastfeeding can be and know I am experiencing the "baby blues", but knowing all that still doesn't make it feel better.

It could still be fleas . . . . they spend the majority of their time off the pet and in the woodwork or the carpet. Even though you use the Advantage, go over your pet with a flea comb and see if you get any fleas or flea dirt. If you do, that is the problem and you will need to use a premise spray on all the floor and fabric surfaces as well as wash all the bedding and such. The Advantage will keep the fleas off of the animal - it doesn't kill them so if there were any there previously or at any time, they could still be there.

If it isn't fleas, it could be spiders -although it is strange that you would be getting recurrent bites and not see any insect or signs of it. Sad to say, it could also be bed bugs. There is apparently an increase in their presence around the country and could be brought into the house a number of ways. Here is what wikipedia says about their bites:


Bites
In most observed cases a small, hard, swollen, white welt may develop at the site of each bedbug bite. This may be accompanied by severe itching that lasts for several hours to days. Welts do not have a red spot in the center such as is characteristic of flea bites. Some individuals respond to bed bug infestations with anxiety, stress, and insomnia. ^[11] Individuals may also get skin infections and scars from scratching the bedbug bites.

Most patients that are placed on systemic corticosteroids to treat the itching and burning often associated with bed bug bites find that the lesions are poorly responsive to this method of treatment. Antihistamines have been found to reduce itching in some cases, but they do not affect the appearance and duration of the lesions. Topical corticosteroids, such as hydrocortisone, have been reported to expediently resolve the lesions and decrease the associated itching.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bedbug

More information here: http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/bedbugs/DS00663

Good luck - try antihistimine topical cream or benedryl to calm the itch.

THAT'S GREAT
guess either way I have a ton of laundry to do

guess now's as good a time as any

i WROTE A STRONGLY WORDED EMAIL TO MY LANDLORD =)

so any products you guys you in terms of sprays and such that I should get?

I really don't think it's fleas because we haven't seen a single flea and there isn't any flea dirt on bax.

and as far as bed bugs go, I'm assuming we'd see something, right?

but regardless, I bought a whole bunch of stuff today. premise sprays, insect killer powder..

cost me at least $40 online in total