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Hey Kathryn, that is an EXCELLENT idea! I didn't think about that, but if/when we get another complaint from management that is exactly what I'll suggest! I mean, I could see if I was being noisy in the middle of the night but during the middle of the day, it's pretty unreasonable.
QUOTE(SpiritAlight @ Apr 29 2008, 12:20 PM) 
QUOTE(liz_legend @ Apr 29 2008, 11:26 AM)
SOMEBODY HIRE ME!!!
Congrats (again) Liz!
My card is in the mail, too.
Hey, but, I will NOT be workin' for someone....bleh! Unless they are as fun and casual as me. Ha!
Besides, work is the last thing I am concerned with these days.
(here goes....my venting)
Here's my truth at the moment (no need to respond):
My partner's dad is in more and more pain. Bleh.
Hence we are all in more and more pain.
My sweetie and I "fight" all the time.
As much as I can be "wise" enough to not engage and to soften (bring it back to love and understanding) and all that, occasionally I will finish it by dropping a bomb.
For example, yesterday, I stated matter of factly that I would leave and go back "home" (Canada) tomorrow (which is today).
There is only so much disharmony I can live with (in).
And it is tomorrow today, and I am not leaving.
Obviously.
And yet, it may be time to go visit a spiritual friend in Cali.
Regenerate.
Clear my head. (Those voices!)
Come back and see where we are at.
You know, as my trip is to be in harmonious relationships with people, the fact that the person closest to me and I have zero harmony is basically killing me.
I wonder why I am creating that? (What the Bleep....?)
I guess this is all to be expected what with me being uprooted for over a year, over and over (through no real choice of my own, just circumstances; the tough part being I was finally ready to "settle" somewhat), and then the two of us uprooting plus the big dog and coming down here to assist and just be here (well it that is not easy, especially since my partner has never taken time off from working, imagine that!!)
Oh I could go and on...
And yet, I know that my (our) ego(s) is (are) at play, and what with the incredibly tough start to our relationship right from the get-go, right through the immigration process, to his father's illness, to a record-breaking cold winter, to a decrepid house, to a stinky, drooly dog, to coming here and having no real time alone (guests, visits, his sis is now staying with us in the house we have been out in), and me and my not agreeing to live in a relationship without full-on brutally honest communication, and him, well, he has not learnt to express himself...etc etc...
I know that life is messy and I will try to get out of this as unscathed as possible...even if at the moment I wish I was anywhere but in this (my) life.
I am a fish out of water....longing to be still living on a boat in the Pacific.
Tic toc tic toc.
Things will get better...
...or I will kill someone!
Breathe in....life is challening.
Breathe out...life is good.
It is what it is.
There are no mistakes, only experiences.
How in the Hell did I miss this? I am so incredibly sorry Spirit. Usually when someone feels like crap, you step in a give them some sage advice and here you are in a very difficult situation and I drop the ball. In any relationship there can only be one raging yang and one sober yin, but that doesn't mean that both parties can't express both at the same time albeit in different areas. Men tend to have more yin aspects when it comes to inner feelings. DH is upset that his father is dying and he has no idea how to express himself. Unfortunately you can't outrun your feelings. They will express themselves in other less healthy ways. As Shakespeare put it, "For murder, though it have no tongue, will speak." Concrete measures you can take are to deal with the dog issue, SIL (WTF???) and hubby's work. He's working to try to kill the pain, been there, done that! It doesn't work too well. You can always get extra sleep (works surprisingly well for healing) and take things one step at a time. Rome wasn't built in a day.
If none of that works out, don't do anything rash. Just remember that some of those old buildings have wallpaper that may have arsenic in the paste.
QUOTE(TheATeam @ Apr 29 2008, 05:44 PM)
Hey Kathryn, that is an EXCELLENT idea! I didn't think about that, but if/when we get another complaint from management that is exactly what I'll suggest! I mean, I could see if I was being noisy in the middle of the night but during the middle of the day, it's pretty unreasonable.
I feel for you Amy, I'm with Kathryn on this.
It sounds like the "lady" downstairs is looney tunes. Let the building management investigate the problem. Amy, STOMP THE YARD!!!! Show her what you think of her. If she has a problem with the pipes that's not your concern. She can go to HELL!!!! 
Well, that's exactly what I felt like. I was pretty ticked cause I know I'm not making a whole bunch of noise. In fact, I'm trying to make as little noise as possible! I love this apartment, but because of her, I can't wait to move out into a house.
I work for WCB and Friday night we had a social event at a bar near our office. Our social club puts these events on every few months. They provide cab vouchers (which say WCB - employee on them), so that people do not drive home drunk. You just give them to the cab driver and once you get home you fill out the total bill. A cab ride home for me is like $50, so I was happy to get one.
So I am quite intoxicated after tying a few on, and get a cab home. The cabbie looks at the voucher and gives me a very strange look.
So we're half way home and the cabbie looks in the rearview mirror and says "So what's your disability?"
Confused and drunk I say "Ummmmmm . . . I'm drunk?"
He continues "No, no, what's wrong with you? What's your disability?"
I am still confused, and I say "I'm just drunk." Thinking to myself what a professional cab driver - what's my disability - what's your disability jacka$$?!
He mumbles something and we continue home.
It occurred to me today that he thought I was ON WCB not working for WCB.
What's my disability?! as if he had 6 hours to hear my limitations.
So I am quite intoxicated after tying a few on, and get a cab home. The cabbie looks at the voucher and gives me a very strange look.
So we're half way home and the cabbie looks in the rearview mirror and says "So what's your disability?"
Confused and drunk I say "Ummmmmm . . . I'm drunk?"
He continues "No, no, what's wrong with you? What's your disability?"
I am still confused, and I say "I'm just drunk." Thinking to myself what a professional cab driver - what's my disability - what's your disability jacka$$?!
He mumbles something and we continue home.
It occurred to me today that he thought I was ON WCB not working for WCB.
What's my disability?! as if he had 6 hours to hear my limitations.
QUOTE(cattattude @ Apr 29 2008, 09:30 PM)
I work for WCB and Friday night we had a social event at a bar near our office. Our social club puts these events on every few months. They provide cab vouchers (which say WCB - employee on them), so that people do not drive home drunk. You just give them to the cab driver and once you get home you fill out the total bill. A cab ride home for me is like $50, so I was happy to get one.
So I am quite intoxicated after tying a few on, and get a cab home. The cabbie looks at the voucher and gives me a very strange look.
So we're half way home and the cabbie looks in the rearview mirror and says "So what's your disability?"
Confused and drunk I say "Ummmmmm . . . I'm drunk?"
He continues "No, no, what's wrong with you? What's your disability?"
I am still confused, and I say "I'm just drunk." Thinking to myself what a professional cab driver - what's my disability - what's your disability jacka$$?!
He mumbles something and we continue home.
It occurred to me today that he thought I was ON WCB not working for WCB.
What's my disability?! as if he had 6 hours to hear my limitations.
So I am quite intoxicated after tying a few on, and get a cab home. The cabbie looks at the voucher and gives me a very strange look.
So we're half way home and the cabbie looks in the rearview mirror and says "So what's your disability?"
Confused and drunk I say "Ummmmmm . . . I'm drunk?"
He continues "No, no, what's wrong with you? What's your disability?"
I am still confused, and I say "I'm just drunk." Thinking to myself what a professional cab driver - what's my disability - what's your disability jacka$$?!
He mumbles something and we continue home.
It occurred to me today that he thought I was ON WCB not working for WCB.
What's my disability?! as if he had 6 hours to hear my limitations.
That's funny. Goof!
QUOTE(trailmix @ Apr 29 2008, 05:01 PM)
QUOTE(liz_legend @ Apr 29 2008, 04:55 PM)
I haven't even been to OT in about 2 months (I think..)
I haven't been there for a while either, but had to go see where Cassie posted!!
Ugh. I'm sorry I went and looked. That's why I've got to stay out of there. Too many idiots in that forum.
QUOTE(TheATeam @ Apr 29 2008, 06:31 PM)
Okay, so I've been here in Boise for two days now and I've already had a run in with the crazy lady downstairs. Why is she crazy you ask? WELL....soon to be hubby has been having a problem with her
Well that sux. I think if it was me I would go down and talk to her and be really really nice and sweet and full of concern and understanding. That usually deflates their animosity. How can you be mad at someone who's really nice and caring and sensitive? Take her cookies and say you're sorry for upsetting her!
Unless, of course, she really is crazy. Then you may as well just stop tippy-toeing around and be a normal person because it obviously won't matter what you do, you'll still get in trouble for it. But I was like Kathryn. The first thing that popped into my head was the pipes.QUOTE(cattattude @ Apr 29 2008, 10:30 PM)
I work for WCB and Friday night we had a social event at a bar near our office. Our social club puts these events on every few months. They provide cab vouchers (which say WCB - employee on them), so that people do not drive home drunk. You just give them to the cab driver and once you get home you fill out the total bill. A cab ride home for me is like $50, so I was happy to get one.
So I am quite intoxicated after tying a few on, and get a cab home. The cabbie looks at the voucher and gives me a very strange look.
So we're half way home and the cabbie looks in the rearview mirror and says "So what's your disability?"
Confused and drunk I say "Ummmmmm . . . I'm drunk?"
He continues "No, no, what's wrong with you? What's your disability?"
I am still confused, and I say "I'm just drunk." Thinking to myself what a professional cab driver - what's my disability - what's your disability jacka$$?!
He mumbles something and we continue home.
It occurred to me today that he thought I was ON WCB not working for WCB.
What's my disability?! as if he had 6 hours to hear my limitations.
So I am quite intoxicated after tying a few on, and get a cab home. The cabbie looks at the voucher and gives me a very strange look.
So we're half way home and the cabbie looks in the rearview mirror and says "So what's your disability?"
Confused and drunk I say "Ummmmmm . . . I'm drunk?"
He continues "No, no, what's wrong with you? What's your disability?"
I am still confused, and I say "I'm just drunk." Thinking to myself what a professional cab driver - what's my disability - what's your disability jacka$$?!
He mumbles something and we continue home.
It occurred to me today that he thought I was ON WCB not working for WCB.
What's my disability?! as if he had 6 hours to hear my limitations.
Don't feel bad. I couldn't figure out why he kept asking you what your disability was either. And I'm not even drunk!
QUOTE(cattattude @ Apr 29 2008, 10:30 PM)
I work for WCB and Friday night we had a social event at a bar near our office. Our social club puts these events on every few months. They provide cab vouchers (which say WCB - employee on them), so that people do not drive home drunk. You just give them to the cab driver and once you get home you fill out the total bill. A cab ride home for me is like $50, so I was happy to get one.
So I am quite intoxicated after tying a few on, and get a cab home. The cabbie looks at the voucher and gives me a very strange look.
So we're half way home and the cabbie looks in the rearview mirror and says "So what's your disability?"
Confused and drunk I say "Ummmmmm . . . I'm drunk?"
He continues "No, no, what's wrong with you? What's your disability?"
I am still confused, and I say "I'm just drunk." Thinking to myself what a professional cab driver - what's my disability - what's your disability jacka$$?!
He mumbles something and we continue home.
It occurred to me today that he thought I was ON WCB not working for WCB.
What's my disability?! as if he had 6 hours to hear my limitations.
So I am quite intoxicated after tying a few on, and get a cab home. The cabbie looks at the voucher and gives me a very strange look.
So we're half way home and the cabbie looks in the rearview mirror and says "So what's your disability?"
Confused and drunk I say "Ummmmmm . . . I'm drunk?"
He continues "No, no, what's wrong with you? What's your disability?"
I am still confused, and I say "I'm just drunk." Thinking to myself what a professional cab driver - what's my disability - what's your disability jacka$$?!
He mumbles something and we continue home.
It occurred to me today that he thought I was ON WCB not working for WCB.
What's my disability?! as if he had 6 hours to hear my limitations.
That is too funny.
Krikit- My soon to be hubby has tried doing that with her, before I got here. He offered her his phone number and everything so she could call him when he was making too much noise rather than bang on the ceiling. She didn't want it though. He went down to the office last night to speak with management. Apparently she's had a maintenance man in her apartment listening and he told her that it was just normal apartment noise and not excessive in the least. The lady mentioned something about possibly moving that couple to an open 3rd floor apartment where they're not below anybody. I dunno, but personally I think it's really unreasonable to expect no noise at all when living in an apartment complex. That's just me!
cattatude- That is a funny story! People can be so silly sometimes!
cattatude- That is a funny story! People can be so silly sometimes!
QUOTE(TheATeam @ Apr 30 2008, 08:08 AM)
Krikit- My soon to be hubby has tried doing that with her, before I got here. He offered her his phone number and everything so she could call him when he was making too much noise rather than bang on the ceiling. She didn't want it though. He went down to the office last night to speak with management. Apparently she's had a maintenance man in her apartment listening and he told her that it was just normal apartment noise and not excessive in the least. The lady mentioned something about possibly moving that couple to an open 3rd floor apartment where they're not below anybody. I dunno, but personally I think it's really unreasonable to expect no noise at all when living in an apartment complex. That's just me!
Yeah, they definitely need to be moved to a top floor then. See if you can arrange it where they're in the apartment above yours, then randomly bang on the ceiling with your broom.
Does this mean I shouldn't refer to the lady upstairs as 'walks like horse'?
Anyway, she probably doesn't really, but since I am somewhat sane and have lived in an apartment before, it's just the way it is.
You're upstairs neighbour probably moved from a house and doesn't get the whole apartment thing. whatever!
cattattude - at the very least you gave the cab driver a good story for his friends - blah blah blah, drunk as a skunk, no 'disability' that I could see and when I asked her she said 'that i'm drunk' blah blah blah
Anyway, she probably doesn't really, but since I am somewhat sane and have lived in an apartment before, it's just the way it is.
You're upstairs neighbour probably moved from a house and doesn't get the whole apartment thing. whatever!
cattattude - at the very least you gave the cab driver a good story for his friends - blah blah blah, drunk as a skunk, no 'disability' that I could see and when I asked her she said 'that i'm drunk' blah blah blah
QUOTE(trailmix @ Apr 30 2008, 10:05 AM)
cattattude - at the very least you gave the cab driver a good story for his friends - blah blah blah, drunk as a skunk, no 'disability' that I could see and when I asked her she said 'that i'm drunk' blah blah blah
TOTALLY!
And then they'll post on an immigration OT forum that they absolutely know that drunk people can get workman's comp and that's why the world is falling apart and Obama shouldn't be President. So. While I'm in the vent thread, I'd like to vent.
Stupid freaking Comcast. Stupid service went down again as soon as I made my last post about 1-2 hours ago. I see I still remained logged in to VJ though.
QUOTE(Krikit @ Apr 30 2008, 08:26 AM)
QUOTE(trailmix @ Apr 30 2008, 10:05 AM)
cattattude - at the very least you gave the cab driver a good story for his friends - blah blah blah, drunk as a skunk, no 'disability' that I could see and when I asked her she said 'that i'm drunk' blah blah blah
TOTALLY!
And then they'll post on an immigration OT forum that they absolutely know that drunk people can get workman's comp and that's why the world is falling apart and Obama shouldn't be President. So. While I'm in the vent thread, I'd like to vent.
Stupid freaking Comcast. Stupid service went down again as soon as I made my last post about 1-2 hours ago. I see I still remained logged in to VJ though.
Hahahahaha - yes I can see the OT topic right now - the downfall of society blah blah blah
We're on a top floor so no worries for us! YAY! I've lived in a basement or basement suite practically my whole life though, and I've put up with a LOT. Maybe she's never lived in an apartment before but still, she's being unreasonable. Trailmix- I've lived with a lot of people who are 'walk like horse' or elephant or some other creature that stomps a lot. I've been walking on my tippy toes so there's no way you can call me that! ~giggles~ 
QUOTE(cattattude @ Apr 30 2008, 08:34 AM)
QUOTE(Krikit @ Apr 30 2008, 08:26 AM)
QUOTE(trailmix @ Apr 30 2008, 10:05 AM)
cattattude - at the very least you gave the cab driver a good story for his friends - blah blah blah, drunk as a skunk, no 'disability' that I could see and when I asked her she said 'that i'm drunk' blah blah blah
TOTALLY!
And then they'll post on an immigration OT forum that they absolutely know that drunk people can get workman's comp and that's why the world is falling apart and Obama shouldn't be President. So. While I'm in the vent thread, I'd like to vent.
Stupid freaking Comcast. Stupid service went down again as soon as I made my last post about 1-2 hours ago. I see I still remained logged in to VJ though.
Hahahahaha - yes I can see the OT topic right now - the downfall of society blah blah blah
Oh my, this is too funny
And don't forget to add that it is those darn Mexicans illegals who are ALWAYS drunk, ALWAYS on welfare that will vote for Obama and make this country go to the cr@pper.
QUOTE(Len_and_Bren @ Apr 30 2008, 01:50 PM)
QUOTE(cattattude @ Apr 30 2008, 08:34 AM)
QUOTE(Krikit @ Apr 30 2008, 08:26 AM)
QUOTE(trailmix @ Apr 30 2008, 10:05 AM)
cattattude - at the very least you gave the cab driver a good story for his friends - blah blah blah, drunk as a skunk, no 'disability' that I could see and when I asked her she said 'that i'm drunk' blah blah blah
TOTALLY!
And then they'll post on an immigration OT forum that they absolutely know that drunk people can get workman's comp and that's why the world is falling apart and Obama shouldn't be President. So. While I'm in the vent thread, I'd like to vent.
Stupid freaking Comcast. Stupid service went down again as soon as I made my last post about 1-2 hours ago. I see I still remained logged in to VJ though.
Hahahahaha - yes I can see the OT topic right now - the downfall of society blah blah blah
Oh my, this is too funny
And don't forget to add that it is those darn Mexicans illegals who are ALWAYS drunk, ALWAYS on welfare that will vote for Obama and make this country go to the cr@pper.
You know... I was trying to find a way to work in the Mexican illegals but I couldn't. Thanks Len.
QUOTE(Len_and_Bren @ Apr 30 2008, 12:50 PM)
QUOTE(cattattude @ Apr 30 2008, 08:34 AM)
QUOTE(Krikit @ Apr 30 2008, 08:26 AM)
QUOTE(trailmix @ Apr 30 2008, 10:05 AM)
cattattude - at the very least you gave the cab driver a good story for his friends - blah blah blah, drunk as a skunk, no 'disability' that I could see and when I asked her she said 'that i'm drunk' blah blah blah
TOTALLY!
And then they'll post on an immigration OT forum that they absolutely know that drunk people can get workman's comp and that's why the world is falling apart and Obama shouldn't be President. So. While I'm in the vent thread, I'd like to vent.
Stupid freaking Comcast. Stupid service went down again as soon as I made my last post about 1-2 hours ago. I see I still remained logged in to VJ though.
Hahahahaha - yes I can see the OT topic right now - the downfall of society blah blah blah
Oh my, this is too funny
And don't forget to add that it is those darn Mexicans illegals who are ALWAYS drunk, ALWAYS on welfare that will vote for Obama and make this country go to the cr@pper.
Sis, those weren't Mexicans, they were sunburned Canadians.
Vacance aux Etats Unis indeed.
I have my own view on illegal aliens, Mexican or otherwise, that I shall not recount here. However, I do have a story revolving around Obama and the other presidential candidates.
One time when I visited Canada I needed to take a taxi from the airport to my wife's apartment (she was my fiancee then) and when the cab driver found out I was American, he started chatting me up about U.S. politics. Normally, I'm very talkative, especially when it comes to political issues. However, I'd just flown from Texas up to Canada (went through security twice since I took Air Canada and WestJet and customs once) so I was a little tired.
I didn't really feel like discussing a topic that I was already bombarded with in the U.S., not to mention the cab driver had a very poor grasp of American politics, but he didn't realize this and believed he was some sort of scholar in "international relations." I'm sure he's driven lots of people from all different places, but that doesn't make him an expert on American politics anymore than my marrying a Canadian makes me an expert on Canadian politics. Needless to say, that was a very long cab ride...
One time when I visited Canada I needed to take a taxi from the airport to my wife's apartment (she was my fiancee then) and when the cab driver found out I was American, he started chatting me up about U.S. politics. Normally, I'm very talkative, especially when it comes to political issues. However, I'd just flown from Texas up to Canada (went through security twice since I took Air Canada and WestJet and customs once) so I was a little tired.
I didn't really feel like discussing a topic that I was already bombarded with in the U.S., not to mention the cab driver had a very poor grasp of American politics, but he didn't realize this and believed he was some sort of scholar in "international relations." I'm sure he's driven lots of people from all different places, but that doesn't make him an expert on American politics anymore than my marrying a Canadian makes me an expert on Canadian politics. Needless to say, that was a very long cab ride...
QUOTE(DeadPoolX @ Apr 30 2008, 01:22 PM)
I have my own view on illegal aliens, Mexican or otherwise, that I shall not recount here. However, I do have a story revolving around Obama and the other presidential candidates.
One time when I visited Canada I needed to take a taxi from the airport to my wife's apartment (she was my fiancee then) and when the cab driver found out I was American, he started chatting me up about U.S. politics. Normally, I'm very talkative, especially when it comes to political issues. However, I'd just flown from Texas up to Canada (went through security twice since I took Air Canada and WestJet and customs once) so I was a little tired.
I didn't really feel like discussing a topic that I was already bombarded with in the U.S., not to mention the cab driver had a very poor grasp of American politics, but he didn't realize this and believed he was some sort of scholar in "international relations." I'm sure he's driven lots of people from all different places, but that doesn't make him an expert on American politics anymore than my marrying a Canadian makes me an expert on Canadian politics. Needless to say, that was a very long cab ride...
One time when I visited Canada I needed to take a taxi from the airport to my wife's apartment (she was my fiancee then) and when the cab driver found out I was American, he started chatting me up about U.S. politics. Normally, I'm very talkative, especially when it comes to political issues. However, I'd just flown from Texas up to Canada (went through security twice since I took Air Canada and WestJet and customs once) so I was a little tired.
I didn't really feel like discussing a topic that I was already bombarded with in the U.S., not to mention the cab driver had a very poor grasp of American politics, but he didn't realize this and believed he was some sort of scholar in "international relations." I'm sure he's driven lots of people from all different places, but that doesn't make him an expert on American politics anymore than my marrying a Canadian makes me an expert on Canadian politics. Needless to say, that was a very long cab ride...
Hehehehe, well my cabbie was no expert on disability studies thats for sure. Maybe it was the same one?!
So I was lent a really good book yesterday: What Got You Here, Won't Get You There.
Basically it is a book on business execs (etc) and how to become even more successful by becoming aware of your shortcomings and how to "fix" them.
And it is deeper than that if you are accustomed to reading spiritual-type books and self-development shtuff.
My point (yes I do digress...):
The author wrote this: "...the most realistic people in our society are the chronically depressed."
A smack across the head, I tell ya!
Thanks again for being there, all of you most darling VJers!!
Basically it is a book on business execs (etc) and how to become even more successful by becoming aware of your shortcomings and how to "fix" them.
And it is deeper than that if you are accustomed to reading spiritual-type books and self-development shtuff.
My point (yes I do digress...):
The author wrote this: "...the most realistic people in our society are the chronically depressed."
A smack across the head, I tell ya!
Thanks again for being there, all of you most darling VJers!!
QUOTE(SpiritAlight @ May 1 2008, 01:03 PM)
So I was lent a really good book yesterday: What Got You Here, Won't Get You There.
Basically it is a book on business execs (etc) and how to become even more successful by becoming aware of your shortcomings and how to "fix" them.
And it is deeper than that if you are accustomed to reading spiritual-type books and self-development shtuff.
My point (yes I do digress...):
The author wrote this: "...the most realistic people in our society are the chronically depressed."
A smack across the head, I tell ya!
Thanks again for being there, all of you most darling VJers!!
Basically it is a book on business execs (etc) and how to become even more successful by becoming aware of your shortcomings and how to "fix" them.
And it is deeper than that if you are accustomed to reading spiritual-type books and self-development shtuff.
My point (yes I do digress...):
The author wrote this: "...the most realistic people in our society are the chronically depressed."
A smack across the head, I tell ya!
Thanks again for being there, all of you most darling VJers!!
Hi SA,
The most interesting books about depression that caught my eye was ,"The irritable male syndrome"by Jed diamond.
http://www.buzzle.com/editorials/9-23-2004-59641.asp
Its amazing to know how much of population doesn't even know about depression.
QUOTE(SpiritAlight @ May 1 2008, 12:03 PM)
So I was lent a really good book yesterday: What Got You Here, Won't Get You There.
Basically it is a book on business execs (etc) and how to become even more successful by becoming aware of your shortcomings and how to "fix" them.
And it is deeper than that if you are accustomed to reading spiritual-type books and self-development shtuff.
My point (yes I do digress...):
The author wrote this: "...the most realistic people in our society are the chronically depressed."
A smack across the head, I tell ya!
Thanks again for being there, all of you most darling VJers!!
Basically it is a book on business execs (etc) and how to become even more successful by becoming aware of your shortcomings and how to "fix" them.
And it is deeper than that if you are accustomed to reading spiritual-type books and self-development shtuff.
My point (yes I do digress...):
The author wrote this: "...the most realistic people in our society are the chronically depressed."
A smack across the head, I tell ya!
Thanks again for being there, all of you most darling VJers!!
We'll always be here for you.
I think that people who see things for what they are get depressed because they understand "what might have been" in concrete terms and they mourn the time and opportunities lost not just in their own existence but in those of others. Sometimes thinking about it gets in the way of living it. It doesn't necessarily mean that heeding the clarion call of reality is necessarily a bad thing, it's just that realism frequently becomes a euphemism for negativity. "I can't do it," is the seed of all great failures.
QUOTE(DESIGAL @ May 1 2008, 10:19 AM)
QUOTE(SpiritAlight @ May 1 2008, 01:03 PM)
So I was lent a really good book yesterday: What Got You Here, Won't Get You There.
Basically it is a book on business execs (etc) and how to become even more successful by becoming aware of your shortcomings and how to "fix" them.
And it is deeper than that if you are accustomed to reading spiritual-type books and self-development shtuff.
My point (yes I do digress...):
The author wrote this: "...the most realistic people in our society are the chronically depressed."
A smack across the head, I tell ya!
Thanks again for being there, all of you most darling VJers!!
Basically it is a book on business execs (etc) and how to become even more successful by becoming aware of your shortcomings and how to "fix" them.
And it is deeper than that if you are accustomed to reading spiritual-type books and self-development shtuff.
My point (yes I do digress...):
The author wrote this: "...the most realistic people in our society are the chronically depressed."
A smack across the head, I tell ya!
Thanks again for being there, all of you most darling VJers!!
Hi SA,
The most interesting books about depression that caught my eye was ,"The irritable male syndrome"by Jed diamond.
http://www.buzzle.com/editorials/9-23-2004-59641.asp
Its amazing to know how much of population doesn't even know about depression.
Indeed people would much rather not know about depression. "Think happy thoughts" alongisde the "oh man, why don't you just cheer up?" are my favorite stupid lines.. as if that was going to make illness go away...
I usually tell them: "well, next time you have diarrhea, think non-poopy thoughts and see how it just goes away" or tell a cancer patient "well, if you were REALLY a positive thinker and prayed real real hard, cancer would just go away". Not likely.End of vent.
QUOTE(Len_and_Bren @ May 1 2008, 03:19 PM)
QUOTE(DESIGAL @ May 1 2008, 10:19 AM)
QUOTE(SpiritAlight @ May 1 2008, 01:03 PM)
So I was lent a really good book yesterday: What Got You Here, Won't Get You There.
Basically it is a book on business execs (etc) and how to become even more successful by becoming aware of your shortcomings and how to "fix" them.
And it is deeper than that if you are accustomed to reading spiritual-type books and self-development shtuff.
My point (yes I do digress...):
The author wrote this: "...the most realistic people in our society are the chronically depressed."
A smack across the head, I tell ya!
Thanks again for being there, all of you most darling VJers!!
Basically it is a book on business execs (etc) and how to become even more successful by becoming aware of your shortcomings and how to "fix" them.
And it is deeper than that if you are accustomed to reading spiritual-type books and self-development shtuff.
My point (yes I do digress...):
The author wrote this: "...the most realistic people in our society are the chronically depressed."
A smack across the head, I tell ya!
Thanks again for being there, all of you most darling VJers!!
Hi SA,
The most interesting books about depression that caught my eye was ,"The irritable male syndrome"by Jed diamond.
http://www.buzzle.com/editorials/9-23-2004-59641.asp
Its amazing to know how much of population doesn't even know about depression.
Indeed people would much rather not know about depression. "Think happy thoughts" alongisde the "oh man, why don't you just cheer up?" are my favorite stupid lines.. as if that was going to make illness go away...
I usually tell them: "well, next time you have diarrhea, think non-poopy thoughts and see how it just goes away" or tell a cancer patient "well, if you were REALLY a positive thinker and prayed real real hard, cancer would just go away". Not likely.End of vent.
People are afraid of what they don't understand. Clinical Depression (not just feeling lousy from time to time) is a very serious medical condition. Unfortunately there isn't some procedure or surgery that will make it go away. Modern medicine may have all manner of panaceas but there isn't a universal cure-all for depression. People, even many medicos, see the broken leg, they don't see the thought processes or the nightmarish world of clinical depression. My heart goes out to those individuals who are so afflicted.
Wow, I had to do A LOT of reading to catch up here 
Spirit - hope things get better for you, sending love across the Internet.
Cattatude - I was about to pee my pants from laughing so hard (although that is really easy for me to do now that the baby lives on my bladder).
Amy - Sounds like your neighbor is nuts ... hopefully the management also recognizes that and can help you deal with her.
Cassie - OT is EVIL, EVIL I say!!! We all get spoiled here with the sweet Canadians and then when we venture outside of this forum, it is scary! I really only go to OT to post in Baby Corner. There, everyone is nice and understanding.
Mumsie and others - nicely said about the clinical depression issue. Some of my clients have such a hard time accepting it is a medical condition and may need medication (medication combined with talk therapy can be extremely beneficial) ... because there are people around who tell them, "oh it is all in your head". Yes, it IS in your head, that is, brain chemistry and serotonin levels and such, making it a PHYSICAL medical problem.
BTW, the Blazer is fixed. It is a '96. We REALLY can't afford to buy a new vehicle, so cross fingers that it stays fixed.
Spirit - hope things get better for you, sending love across the Internet.
Cattatude - I was about to pee my pants from laughing so hard (although that is really easy for me to do now that the baby lives on my bladder).
Amy - Sounds like your neighbor is nuts ... hopefully the management also recognizes that and can help you deal with her.
Cassie - OT is EVIL, EVIL I say!!! We all get spoiled here with the sweet Canadians and then when we venture outside of this forum, it is scary! I really only go to OT to post in Baby Corner. There, everyone is nice and understanding.
Mumsie and others - nicely said about the clinical depression issue. Some of my clients have such a hard time accepting it is a medical condition and may need medication (medication combined with talk therapy can be extremely beneficial) ... because there are people around who tell them, "oh it is all in your head". Yes, it IS in your head, that is, brain chemistry and serotonin levels and such, making it a PHYSICAL medical problem.
BTW, the Blazer is fixed. It is a '96. We REALLY can't afford to buy a new vehicle, so cross fingers that it stays fixed.
well, finally got back here to the US, finally got my luggage that AA managed to misplace, and I am kinda sad. every time I go home to Canada, so many things change. I don't feel totally at home here, but I am starting to not feel at home there either.......I hate this kind of limbo.
QUOTE(Cassie @ May 1 2008, 04:26 PM)
well, finally got back here to the US, finally got my luggage that AA managed to misplace, and I am kinda sad. every time I go home to Canada, so many things change. I don't feel totally at home here, but I am starting to not feel at home there either.......I hate this kind of limbo.
It's just sentimentality and nostalgia. I feel that way whenever I go away.
QUOTE(IR5FORMUMSIE @ May 1 2008, 01:58 PM)
QUOTE(Len_and_Bren @ May 1 2008, 03:19 PM)
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Indeed people would much rather not know about depression. "Think happy thoughts" alongisde the "oh man, why don't you just cheer up?" are my favorite stupid lines.. as if that was going to make illness go away... I usually tell them: "well, next time you have diarrhea, think non-poopy thoughts and see how it just goes away" or tell a cancer patient "well, if you were REALLY a positive thinker and prayed real real hard, cancer would just go away". Not likely.
End of vent.
Indeed people would much rather not know about depression. "Think happy thoughts" alongisde the "oh man, why don't you just cheer up?" are my favorite stupid lines.. as if that was going to make illness go away...
I usually tell them: "well, next time you have diarrhea, think non-poopy thoughts and see how it just goes away" or tell a cancer patient "well, if you were REALLY a positive thinker and prayed real real hard, cancer would just go away". Not likely.End of vent.
People are afraid of what they don't understand. Clinical Depression (not just feeling lousy from time to time) is a very serious medical condition. Unfortunately there isn't some procedure or surgery that will make it go away. Modern medicine may have all manner of panaceas but there isn't a universal cure-all for depression. People, even many medicos, see the broken leg, they don't see the thought processes or the nightmarish world of clinical depression. My heart goes out to those individuals who are so afflicted.
I know that bro, and it counts millions in our Len and Bren hall of fame. We
you.Sh1t... did I just admit in public that I love my brother???? WTF IS WRONG WITH ME GOD?????????
QUOTE(Len_and_Bren @ May 1 2008, 05:20 PM)
QUOTE(IR5FORMUMSIE @ May 1 2008, 01:58 PM)
QUOTE(Len_and_Bren @ May 1 2008, 03:19 PM)
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Indeed people would much rather not know about depression. "Think happy thoughts" alongisde the "oh man, why don't you just cheer up?" are my favorite stupid lines.. as if that was going to make illness go away... I usually tell them: "well, next time you have diarrhea, think non-poopy thoughts and see how it just goes away" or tell a cancer patient "well, if you were REALLY a positive thinker and prayed real real hard, cancer would just go away". Not likely.
End of vent.
Indeed people would much rather not know about depression. "Think happy thoughts" alongisde the "oh man, why don't you just cheer up?" are my favorite stupid lines.. as if that was going to make illness go away...
I usually tell them: "well, next time you have diarrhea, think non-poopy thoughts and see how it just goes away" or tell a cancer patient "well, if you were REALLY a positive thinker and prayed real real hard, cancer would just go away". Not likely.End of vent.
People are afraid of what they don't understand. Clinical Depression (not just feeling lousy from time to time) is a very serious medical condition. Unfortunately there isn't some procedure or surgery that will make it go away. Modern medicine may have all manner of panaceas but there isn't a universal cure-all for depression. People, even many medicos, see the broken leg, they don't see the thought processes or the nightmarish world of clinical depression. My heart goes out to those individuals who are so afflicted.
I know that bro, and it counts millions in our Len and Bren hall of fame. We
you.Sh1t... did I just admit in public that I love my brother???? WTF IS WRONG WITH ME GOD?????????
You read too many Judy Blume novels as a kid?
Seriously I'm very fond of you too Sis
, now knock it off you're embarrassing me in front of the guys.
health insurance and doctors suck monkey butts....
QUOTE(Cassie @ May 1 2008, 04:26 PM)
well, finally got back here to the US, finally got my luggage that AA managed to misplace, and I am kinda sad. every time I go home to Canada, so many things change. I don't feel totally at home here, but I am starting to not feel at home there either.......I hate this kind of limbo.
Oh boy...do I HEAR you!! I was visiting my parents last week in Toronto, and while it was so nice to see them, I couldn't say the same for the city. My biggest concern and disapppointment was all the trash that is now strewn around. I'm someone who recycles and reuses, and I never thrown things away except in a garbage. Well, the streets were strewn with garbage when I was there. Garbage is overflowing everywhere it seems. I might write a letter to the editor of the local paper about this because I was embarrassed, particularly with Gene there.
I didn't feel at home their either, and was glad to be back home. Kind of like..." a nice place to visit, but don't know that I'd want to live there...". Now next week I'm back in Saskatoon, where I lived for 26 years before coming down to the US, my kids are there, my friends, my ex-co-workers...that might be a LOT more difficult to leave. I guess I'm going to have to see how much it's changed in a year and five months.
Sorry for your limboness!
Hugs
*****VENT*****
Okiedokie. So I come back from Spawn Cafe on Saturday, quite happy after making a couple of friends from India who recommended a good eyebrow threader, to find a notice from Canada Revenue along the lines of:
YOU OWE US $XXXXX IN GST BECAUSE YOU ARE NOT A RESIDENT.
WTF?!?!?
First, I voided and returned the last check I got. Second, I let them know in freaking FEBRUARY I did not live there anymore. So of course I phoned today. Lady was a Mmme. Quebecoise and not very nice.
Q: "So, are you sure you didn't receive the check"
L: Uh, no. I live in Seattle and our mail forward ended in March.
Q: "And are you sure you didn't cash the check?"
L: Uh... how could I if I never received it????
Q: "Let me see what I can do"
blah blah blah.
Long story short i told her I was not paying them sh1t. If they sent a check AFTER I told them I am no longer a resident and some azzhole cashed it, it's not my effing problem. then I asked her about my tax return: "uh oh, not in the system yet --- takes 16-20 weeks"... jerks. So it takes them 2 minutes to charge you with a bogus GST scam, but more than 3 months to give you back your money. I am not pleased.
****END OF VENT***
Okiedokie. So I come back from Spawn Cafe on Saturday, quite happy after making a couple of friends from India who recommended a good eyebrow threader, to find a notice from Canada Revenue along the lines of:
YOU OWE US $XXXXX IN GST BECAUSE YOU ARE NOT A RESIDENT.
WTF?!?!? First, I voided and returned the last check I got. Second, I let them know in freaking FEBRUARY I did not live there anymore. So of course I phoned today. Lady was a Mmme. Quebecoise and not very nice.
Q: "So, are you sure you didn't receive the check"
L: Uh, no. I live in Seattle and our mail forward ended in March.
Q: "And are you sure you didn't cash the check?"
L: Uh... how could I if I never received it????
Q: "Let me see what I can do"
blah blah blah.
Long story short i told her I was not paying them sh1t. If they sent a check AFTER I told them I am no longer a resident and some azzhole cashed it, it's not my effing problem. then I asked her about my tax return: "uh oh, not in the system yet --- takes 16-20 weeks"... jerks. So it takes them 2 minutes to charge you with a bogus GST scam, but more than 3 months to give you back your money. I am not pleased.
****END OF VENT***
what a bunch of crap!
why can't one decent person ask me for an interview!!!!!!!!!!
why can't one decent person ask me for an interview!!!!!!!!!!
And why can't one decent person give me for an interview!!!!!!!!!!
Damn !
Damn !
QUOTE(liz_legend @ May 5 2008, 10:22 AM)
what a bunch of crap!
why can't one decent person ask me for an interview!!!!!!!!!!
why can't one decent person ask me for an interview!!!!!!!!!!
PM me. - I'll interview you.
QUOTE(Len_and_Bren @ May 5 2008, 12:47 PM)
QUOTE(liz_legend @ May 5 2008, 10:22 AM)
what a bunch of crap!
why can't one decent person ask me for an interview!!!!!!!!!!
why can't one decent person ask me for an interview!!!!!!!!!!
PM me. - I'll interview you.
I believe she asked for a decent person and you're...my sister.
Hang in there Liz!!!!
QUOTE(IR5FORMUMSIE @ May 5 2008, 10:58 AM)
QUOTE(Len_and_Bren @ May 5 2008, 12:47 PM)
QUOTE(liz_legend @ May 5 2008, 10:22 AM)
what a bunch of crap!
why can't one decent person ask me for an interview!!!!!!!!!!
why can't one decent person ask me for an interview!!!!!!!!!!
PM me. - I'll interview you.
I believe she asked for a decent person and you're...my sister.
Hang in there Liz!!!! Cocoa Mumsie?????
QUOTE(Len_and_Bren @ May 5 2008, 12:58 PM)
QUOTE(IR5FORMUMSIE @ May 5 2008, 10:58 AM)
QUOTE(Len_and_Bren @ May 5 2008, 12:47 PM)
QUOTE(liz_legend @ May 5 2008, 10:22 AM)
what a bunch of crap!
why can't one decent person ask me for an interview!!!!!!!!!!
why can't one decent person ask me for an interview!!!!!!!!!!
PM me. - I'll interview you.
I believe she asked for a decent person and you're...my sister.
Hang in there Liz!!!! Cocoa Mumsie?????
Why, thank you. BTW, did you get the shampoo that I sent to you?
QUOTE(IR5FORMUMSIE @ May 5 2008, 11:05 AM)
QUOTE(Len_and_Bren @ May 5 2008, 12:58 PM)
QUOTE(IR5FORMUMSIE @ May 5 2008, 10:58 AM)
QUOTE(Len_and_Bren @ May 5 2008, 12:47 PM)
QUOTE(liz_legend @ May 5 2008, 10:22 AM)
what a bunch of crap!
why can't one decent person ask me for an interview!!!!!!!!!!
why can't one decent person ask me for an interview!!!!!!!!!!
PM me. - I'll interview you.
I believe she asked for a decent person and you're...my sister.
Hang in there Liz!!!! Cocoa Mumsie?????
Why, thank you. Did you get the shampoo that I sent to you?
Shut up or the karma I am sending to Canada Revenue will befall upon thee....
QUOTE(Len_and_Bren @ May 5 2008, 01:06 PM)
QUOTE(IR5FORMUMSIE @ May 5 2008, 11:05 AM)
QUOTE(Len_and_Bren @ May 5 2008, 12:58 PM)
QUOTE(IR5FORMUMSIE @ May 5 2008, 10:58 AM)
QUOTE(Len_and_Bren @ May 5 2008, 12:47 PM)
QUOTE(liz_legend @ May 5 2008, 10:22 AM)
what a bunch of crap!
why can't one decent person ask me for an interview!!!!!!!!!!
why can't one decent person ask me for an interview!!!!!!!!!!
PM me. - I'll interview you.
I believe she asked for a decent person and you're...my sister.
Hang in there Liz!!!! Cocoa Mumsie?????
Why, thank you. Did you get the shampoo that I sent to you?
Shut up or the karma I am sending to Canada Revenue will befall upon thee....
Without that cattle prod, you don't scare me anymore.
Some people are just plain irritating. Can't decide what do I dislike the most: stupidity or condescension.
Maybe I should do as many of our sisters have done and take off for a while.- and come back when I'm about to remove conditions.
Maybe I should do as many of our sisters have done and take off for a while.- and come back when I'm about to remove conditions.
QUOTE(Len_and_Bren @ May 5 2008, 02:55 PM)
Some people are just plain irritating. Can't decide what do I dislike the most: stupidity or condescension.
Maybe I should do as many of our sisters have done and take off for a while.- and come back when I'm about to remove conditions.
Maybe I should do as many of our sisters have done and take off for a while.- and come back when I'm about to remove conditions.
My ears are burning.
I think I prefer stupidity, no wait condescension...OK...I got it now, arrogance, especially my own.
QUOTE(Len_and_Bren @ May 5 2008, 02:55 PM)
Some people are just plain irritating. Can't decide what do I dislike the most: stupidity or condescension.
Maybe I should do as many of our sisters have done and take off for a while.- and come back when I'm about to remove conditions.
Maybe I should do as many of our sisters have done and take off for a while.- and come back when I'm about to remove conditions.
Oh don't go into the removing conditions forum right now, we've a world class pontificator in there driving me crazy.
QUOTE(Cassie @ May 5 2008, 11:16 PM)
QUOTE(Len_and_Bren @ May 5 2008, 02:55 PM)
Some people are just plain irritating. Can't decide what do I dislike the most: stupidity or condescension.
Maybe I should do as many of our sisters have done and take off for a while.- and come back when I'm about to remove conditions.
Maybe I should do as many of our sisters have done and take off for a while.- and come back when I'm about to remove conditions.
Oh don't go into the removing conditions forum right now, we've a world class pontificator in there driving me crazy.
You and me both! Yipes, what an idiot!
QUOTE(Kathryn41 @ May 5 2008, 10:33 PM)
QUOTE(Cassie @ May 5 2008, 11:16 PM)
QUOTE(Len_and_Bren @ May 5 2008, 02:55 PM)
Some people are just plain irritating. Can't decide what do I dislike the most: stupidity or condescension.
Maybe I should do as many of our sisters have done and take off for a while.- and come back when I'm about to remove conditions.
Maybe I should do as many of our sisters have done and take off for a while.- and come back when I'm about to remove conditions.
Oh don't go into the removing conditions forum right now, we've a world class pontificator in there driving me crazy.
You and me both! Yipes, what an idiot!
Seriously.
QUOTE(Len_and_Bren @ May 5 2008, 03:55 PM)
Some people are just plain irritating. Can't decide what do I dislike the most: stupidity or condescension.
Maybe I should do as many of our sisters have done and take off for a while.- and come back when I'm about to remove conditions.
Maybe I should do as many of our sisters have done and take off for a while.- and come back when I'm about to remove conditions.
You know, before I left for NC last week I was thinking the same thing. I had had enough. At the moment, I am back for the time being. We'll see how long it lasts.
QUOTE(Cassie @ May 6 2008, 12:35 AM)
QUOTE(Kathryn41 @ May 5 2008, 10:33 PM)
QUOTE(Cassie @ May 5 2008, 11:16 PM)
QUOTE(Len_and_Bren @ May 5 2008, 02:55 PM)
Some people are just plain irritating. Can't decide what do I dislike the most: stupidity or condescension.
Maybe I should do as many of our sisters have done and take off for a while.- and come back when I'm about to remove conditions.
Maybe I should do as many of our sisters have done and take off for a while.- and come back when I'm about to remove conditions.
Oh don't go into the removing conditions forum right now, we've a world class pontificator in there driving me crazy.
You and me both! Yipes, what an idiot!
Seriously.
Okay, come on now. You can't just comment and not provide a link.
QUOTE(Krikit @ May 6 2008, 09:08 AM)
Okay, come on now. You can't just comment and not provide a link.
The one I am talking about (and assuming Kathryn is talking about) is here:
http://www.visajourney.com/forums/index.ph...764&st=1020
starting on page 69. post 1031. and it goes on.
Ya know, sometimes it seems like the safest place on VJ is here in the Canuck forum!!!
QUOTE(Cassie @ May 6 2008, 11:10 AM)
QUOTE(Krikit @ May 6 2008, 09:08 AM)
Okay, come on now. You can't just comment and not provide a link.
The one I am talking about (and assuming Kathryn is talking about) is here:
http://www.visajourney.com/forums/index.ph...764&st=1020
starting on page 69. post 1031. and it goes on.
Yep, that's the one I meant too. Idiot.
QUOTE(Kathryn41 @ May 6 2008, 10:49 AM)
QUOTE(Cassie @ May 6 2008, 11:10 AM)
QUOTE(Krikit @ May 6 2008, 09:08 AM)
Okay, come on now. You can't just comment and not provide a link.
The one I am talking about (and assuming Kathryn is talking about) is here:
http://www.visajourney.com/forums/index.ph...764&st=1020
starting on page 69. post 1031. and it goes on.
Yep, that's the one I meant too. Idiot.
I just finished booking my INFOPASS appointment to get the I551 stamp to extend my freaking extension letter--"acting like I expected my case to be adjudicated in 3 months', my arse. No clue, he has NO freaking clue.
Meanwhile, my husband just got laid off this morning and I will probably have to go looking for work again and I am freaking out that the stamp won't be sufficient for potential employers, based on recent accounts in the forum. He has NO FREAKING CLUE!!!!!!!
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