I f-ing hate my teeth.

I have been waiting for a root canal since November. Needed an endodontist, and took 4 months to see someone. A few weeks before my root canal, I get a call saying that the doctor fell and broke her wrist, root canal would have to be rescheduled for end of April. Ok fine. . . .

So yesterday was supposed to be my root canal. And wouldn't you know it - 1/4 of that tooth busts off. Call the endodontist office. They say she's still out of commission and cannot look at my tooth whether the root canal is still viable. Need to see my dentist and see if he can fix it and then call them back and let them know what he thinks.

So back to the dentist on Monday. Food is getting all stuck in the new hole in my tooth. My breath was AWEFUL yesteday, since the infected tooth could finally vent some of the pus out of it.

I am actually hoping that the tooth can't be fixed and it gets pulled. Just seems so much easier at this point.

Oh, good God! Kinda makes my dentist-appointment-that-the-office-scheduled-three-months-ago-then-called-to-cancel-the-week-before-the-appointment-saying-they-have-no-idea-why-they-did-that-because-the-dentist-doesn't-even-work-on-Fridays pale in comparison. Hope you get fixed soon, Cat.

that's pretty freaking bad too! I'd actually be more pissed about that one, since you can't prevent a fall and broken wrist. You can prevent a wrong booking on Fridays . . . since I mean you'd remember if you NEVER work Fridays. That must be a person on the hiring list for USCIS . . . comfortable making mistakes and aggravating people.

I know!!!!!

I'm still semi-aggravated about last night but I'm trying to shrug it off and look at the beautiful weather outside. Spring is heeeeeeeeeeere

edit: !!!!!!!!

Why? what happened last night? Do tell !!!!!!!!!!!!!

That's terrible Nini, very poor judgement on their part(s). <shakes head>

Yucky McYuckerson! Ugh, I would have vomited with rage. . . . 28 Weeks Later style!

Nini, they're beyond rude . Oh man, they should not only be happy that they have YOU, but even happier they don't have ME as a daughter in law, because believe me, there would have been no effing dinner - or at least not with me at the table.
If homicide is the answer, you have our number

*GULP*I can think of at least one. Nepotism only goes so far.....

was the dinner awful??

or did she realize she best shut her pie hole or else silverware might jump

As in the menu, preparation, and presentation?

Nini, if it happens again let us know. We will gladly provide helpful suggestions. I, personally, would use the opportunity to be as sweet as pie while making veiled evil digs that will keep them guessing. Just remember.... chuckling out loud is forbidden. Well, okay. Maybe one or two. Just enough to startle them.

Hey! No fair! You added that second bit while I was typing, Liz.

Nini, I don't mean to meddle (who me? ) but I'm with my Sister (for once ) and Liz and Crikey! and Cattattude and just about evryone else in the known universe. Umbrage? Sh*t, how else is a wife to take it when they invite a former girlfriend/fiancee over for dinner. Sending a message methinks. I'm sure you handled the situation with class and dignity (not stabbing someone in the eye like my Sister might do). When you get out to the Pacific it will get better, hang in there. Of course, maybe the in-laws are so proud of their DIL that they can't help but show her off. Yeah, that's the ticket, they're showing off their China Doll of a DIL.*looks outside the window to see if the Easter bunny has come*
BTW, if this should happen again, the delicacy for the evening will be oleander pie. A Southern delicacy that is best served (very) cold.

Oh, where do I even start. I'm sorry, I just have to tell the entire story now

So my MIL invited Julia (the aforementioned ex) over so that they could visit and talk about her stay in the "foreign country". She was in England on exchange with the LSE for the year. If that wasn't intimidating enough, my in-laws think the sun falls and rises with her. It wouldn't have been as bad as it was if they'd also invited the rest of her family over (with whom they're extremely close with), but... yeah, it was just her. Oh, and Bee's brother and his wife and daughter also came over. Bee's bro went upstairs to play at my FIL's new computer, so I was stuck downstairs with the girls trying not to look or feel out of place.

Dinner was Chinese take-out, and if you know me, I cringe at the Chinese takeout that my in-laws like to order. My gastronomical senses were severely offended by the butchering of my country's food So I sat there pretending to be completely fascinated by my food, trying not to feel awkward about the whole situation (which I very much did).

I really did try to give it a chance, but... there really was nothing I could talk about during the entire conversation. At one point my whole immigration situation was brought up, and my in-laws were like, "Well Nini can't really work right now" and I was like "...well actually I'm getting my work card soon," and everyone was like "Oh, that's great." Then went back to discussing how the lifts in England were very annoying.

It was a night where pretty much every insecurity I had about myself was magnified... I don't know if that makes sense or not And I felt like I should've sucked it up because Bee's family is very close to Julia's and we will see them again and again and again. I don't think it's a lack of tact on my in-laws' part, it's just the nature of their longstanding and close relationship with her family's. Compared to other things, this is really something very little to complain about, but... *sigh* Certainly made me feel pretty icky.

At the end of the night when Bee came home from work, we went out to the local bar with Bee's best friend who was in town from NYC. Having known the situation I'd been in (and him not caring for the ex at all), Bee's BFF kindly offered comfort food, then let me vent for a bit, and then kept me entertained for the rest of the night. Now that's friendship

LSE eh??? Pop's alma mater? Sounds like the standards have really dropped or there's bound to be a loser in every class. Does this Juila still have feelings for Bee? Is she one of those, I did this and I did that types? I hate those scumbags, makes me feel sad that I invented the human circulatory system in the first place. I think the BIL may have had adverse feeling towards you (or more likely Julia) so he bailed. The BFF sounds like a real mensch though. Vent all you want here, Julia can't beat you when it comes to shiksappeal.

Awwwwww. ((((((hugs Nini)))))) It's time for karaoke Kat, isn't it?

I love his off-key caterwalling.

i am tired of dealing with stupid a$$ doctor's offices and insurance agencies...

Oh, i am sorry Marilyn. Insurance companies in the US do suck!!! They are blood sucking vampires.
I hope things get better for you. Don't give up! Don't let them suck your blood!!!

well, it isn't actually the insurance company I am upset with it this this doctor's office who keeps billing me for stuff that is already paid for...

Ugh, that is frustrating. I had a similar situation recently where I received a $4500 bill for PT I had back in August. Turned out the PT office did not bill the insurance company in time (their contract apparently read that they had to bill within 180 days and they didn't) so the insurance co. denied payment. I got it straightened out, but it took the hassle of having to contact various people.

i am just tired of dealing with this..... it is like a constant reminder of what happened...

((((((((((((((((Marilyn))))))))))))))))) I can certainly understand. Been there, done that too....it took a while to get things all sorted out when....well....suffice to say I know what you're dealing with.

the last time it was so much easier because our insurance covered 100 percent of hospital stays etc we only had to pay the copays.. but that policy changed last year and now they only cover 90% of hospital stays etc. which is still good but now I have a lot more bills and stuff coming in and a lot more confusion

what one pays for at the hopsital can be confusing. During last semesters Rotation at one hospital, one checked out supplies with a "price" scanner gun, the same kind hand held scanner l you see at target! And ya had to scan the item you were getting for ur patient, ie bandages, ice pack, tooth brush, etc etc. Some items the client got charged for, some they did not. But ya didnt want to be picking up needless supplies, as they may be getting charged for them!!

If you need to vent, have a beef or just want to make your opinion known....check out our new website (link is below). There is a specific section for Immigration related posts.

Happy Easter, to all!
Annie & Tim

*sigh* My vent for the day...links that won't work on websites. Links to information that I really need.

VENT AHEAD.

Okiedokie... so off I go yesterday to work. Got there super early -still trying bus routes- and the place was ok. The owner, and 2 other women. One is circa 20 something and the other one is 40. The organization is a mess. The owner has no instruction sheets for the food ("hey, how much chicken in the panini?" "Uh-oh, calculate... do your best guess" ). Two times I saw lattes (smelled more like) that went out with burnt espresso (yes, it smells and tastes like sh1t). Then voila: "Lenina, it's your turn to go out in the playground!"

WTF?!?!?!?

I'm a barista people, not a nanny. I have no children, and I do not know WTF to do with children in a FFF playground. In any case, I am not thinking of staying there for too long; unless this becomes a more organized joint. The women have no clue as to how to calibrate shots, measure grounds, they REBOIL the milk (eeeewwww), etc. Sheesh. Oh, and of course they spent half the time talking about guess what? yup, got it... children. I was the only one who bothered showering and primping a bit, and was wearing my apron. Arghhhh

I felt so out of place it's not funny. For the time being I'll stick around, but still look for a more adult like cafe where being a barista is an art, not a hap hazard "uh oh, just hold the pitcher until it's hot that's when it's ready". Bleh.... go ahead girls and when you burn your hands please let me know . I was not impressed.

END OF VENT.

I'll come to your rescue: http://www.starbucks.com/aboutus/jobcenter.asp

You owe me big time!!!

I'm not going to say that I told you so. That would be judgemental and you certainly don't need any criticism at this time, only support. Entropy may be the natural order of the universe but this is ridiculous. This is not A Supermarket in California. Your brother has been in sh*t situations like this. It doesn't get any better and invariably you get burned. Believe me Sis, it will destroy you. I only hope that you gain employment at an enterprise more suitable to your talents and educational background and not at another kiddie flophouse. You have all my love and every ounce of aloha spirit that I can muster.

I am so sorry, it must be terrible. I can't even fathom how you feel.
I guess the positive side is that you do have insurance. Being without is even worse.
Oh and make sure they are not charging for stuff they shouldn't be charging you. Hospitals love to do that.

*gigantic hugs*

flames, that's just mean.
NEVER, NEVER, NEVER.



I know. It sucks. Alohaaaaaa

Shame on you Flames 9 , still I'm glad you typed what I was thinking.

Like Chicka Latte?

BTW, what, pray tell, did your apron read?

i hate when hubby has cash in his wallet.. I can't tell if he has bought cigs or not then

I wanted to smack hubby's brother yesterday.... we were sitting around the table and he asks my hubby if he wants to go for a smoke... hubby did shake his head no and so did i and then his brother says something like, "oh, I asked you at the wrong time" and laughed... and also said something like "oh, you are quiting".. wink wink kind of thing... grrrr I said it is a work in progress and they all just laughed at me

Ah, yes, addictions.
We all have something don't we.

I have been busily studying myself.
The Ego, that thinks it needs this and that and then "we" will be happy (my, myself and I).
Then you get "there" and The Ego needs something more.

Oh more more more...the human condition.

Hmmm...very introspective these days...again.

Come on Spring and get me outside damn it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


Ah yes, and there is no great outdoors here in this big city.
I must go exploring and find some quiet place by the Lake where I can summon/inspire the serendipity goddesses & gods to come out and play.

Good news, bad news.
What is the difference except what your mind makes it to be?

Chew on that for a bit sweeties.

yeah I know my hubby smokes and it bothers me but what really bothered me yesterday was the fact that his brother was laughing at me about it...

Well, meanwhile back at the bank.

- Went to see RBC and Marco 10 days ago.


- Still don't have Canadian bank account debit cards (just some ones he wrote on in felt pen that rubs off - I guess they work but sheesh.

- Asked him to have the U.S. bank courier our cards to us for the Centura account, he calls this morning, leaves voice mail and states that in their experience the cards get held up in customs so even if they courier them now they probably won't get here before we leave for the U.S.

- Now we have to go to our 'real' bank (TD) and get access to our American account on our cards - instead of just withdrawing the money and putting it in the RBC.

But it's all messy. We just wanted to basically deal with one bank. Anyway, I think I will just tell Marco that they should hold the cards in Florida and we will pick them up personally. Has no one else in Canada ever opened one of these accounts??

I have to call him back to tell him what to do with the cards......he says it's urgent!!

Crazy!
Madness!

I believe chicka latte (which is waaaaay closer to our place than Spawn-Cafe) would not hire me. Yup, contrary to popular opinion, I am only Lady Heather and wear cute pervy outfits @ home. Besides, I'm too old

The apron didn't say anything.... the one at Spawn Cafe I mean ....

Zen and the art of Snow Blower Maintenance? I've read quite enough of that this winter. It's not your ego that is going crazy but the monsters from your id, why quibble over details. The hoary blanket of winter has become a straitjacket. Sun of York be damned we want the sun of Florida or Texas or California. Come home Persephone, we miss ya!

You're not too old Grandmama; perversion has no age limit. I know what your apron should say, "free hot chocolate for the kids." On second thought...

Your malice has no limits.... anyone tricked you with hot chocolate in your toddler years maybe??

Hey guess what. Marco doesn't want to talk to me anymore either. I called him back, he called me back...blah blah blah, we will send your Centura cards to your Sister's house in Nebraska, I will call you when your account is opened and give you the number and leave you voice mail etc etc.

He was very short.

You always hurt the ones you love? Any incidents concerning my childhood and a cup of hot chocolate are between me, the almighty and the perpetrator, whoever he or SHE might be.

and his breath smelled.

BTW, I hate terse orifii.

Sheesh. Confusion, annoyance, bleh-blah-ness.
The waltzing secretary is not in today.... OR tomorrow . He is, "sick", and got his dates for physical therapy "confused" - douchebag. And then he wonders why the boss wants him outta here. I am not pleased to cover for his sorry azz (i.e. answer phones) while he is "sick", more often than not. I do not like people with poor work ethics
Or maybe I'm just b1tchy because I went decaf. Is headache and irritability signs of caffeine withdrawal?
Ok, smoking time now.

Like your brother?
Caffeine withdrawal is always fun as you are now discovering. Hang in there Sis, only a few more days to go.
Smoking time? Arson's not the answer. Then again...

Sign that made me laugh most in public...it was stuck in back of a huge espresso/cappuccino machine in a café in Granville Island Market:

"Unattended children will be sold as sandwiches."

I just about died.

Once again, you delight, you bring joy.
Thank you.