sorry hun

I hope it comes soon!!

So i'm in the office and there are 3 ladies standing by the photocopier and blocking the hallway. I'm trying (obviously) to go by and one lady looks at me with distain and intentionally turns and puts her back to me so I can't see what she is trying to say!!

WHAT A RUDE PIECE OF WORK!!!!

I wasn't trying to eaves drop - i was SIMPLY trying to get past them blocking the hallway..

I went the opposite direction and took the long way around..

GAH

U know..why do some ppl act as if everything is perfect in their world...for what..SHOW ? the sun will shed light soon....

It's not show sister, it's self-centeredness .... show me someone that says for more than X months that "life is always fine" and I'll show you a liar liar!

Can I say Amen !..it's ok to live in truth

Our lives always sux until we see someone worse off than we are. We are the centre of the universe for someone, but not for everyone, keep smiling everything will fall into place (eventually).

Don't know about truth.... I only know that life throws you curves all the time: sometimes you're up, sometimes you're down. Comes with the job of being human and fallible I guess. Or maybe I'm just stupid; but my stupidity tells me that the good times are to be enjoyed, and that the bad times eventually pass

Peace, L.

Right ..eventually

WHAT??? I am NOT the centre of the universe????????
You are MEAN Ron

L.

[starting emotional vent]

I can;t live here anymore in Jersey. 3 weeks ago I finally got a job after getting my green card at the beginning of October. I have lived in New Jersey for almost a year now and the truth has finally gotten to me-I am just not happy here. I love my husband and his family, but I can't live here anymore. I am 23 years old and I miss Ottawa, Ontario more than ANYTHING. I miss so much about it, it is cheaper to live there, and as a very artistic person I just miss having live music, poetry, etc. at my finger tips. Suburban New Jersey is not cutting it for me.

I'm 23 years old and I just go to work and come home like my husband does and eat, go to sleep, etc. We don't live close enough to a city (NYC is close but I can't just go there all the time, it takes forever and its expensive and I can't just go by myself at night)

I just have a huge void in my heart and I know it can't be filled here right now. My only feeling right now is to move back and have my husband come join me when ever he gets HIS residency. It is such a HUGE decision to make though and I hope I am making the right one....

[/ending rant]

I'm tired of going to the mall and being stared at like I'm an alien. I've been trying really hard to push it to the back of my mind, because I don't want to get into that self-conscious mindframe and think that everyone is doing it. I'm just lucky it hasn't been worse than looks.

Bee and I went into J.Crew today and we went our separate ways. Everywhere I go the clothes are too big for me so I always look for the midget sizes, hehe. Anyway, some lady was literally gaping at me in the corner with half-crossed eyes... when I walked in another direction she was still staring. I felt like I'd been caught shoplifting!

We don't live in the middle of nowhere, and I've seen other Asian people around so it's not like I'm an anomaly... but jeez if it isn't starting to make me feel like I don't want to leave the house.

Oh, and *hugs* to Amanda. Because I completely understand how you feel, hun.

So this morning I was getting ready for work when I noticed a dead leaf on one of our houseplants. Went over to grab it and of course the cat had to investigate what I was doing. I told him no, but when do cats listen?!, and long story short, the cat ends up wearing the pot on its head. Dirt and leaves everywhere and of course I am already running late as usual. So I tell Calvin what a very bad cat he is, and run to get the vacuum. Well that bloody cat won't let me clean up in peace so I am getting even more frustrated and I grab him and throw him into the bathroom. Derek calls it the "penalty box" and it makes a great place for Calvin to calm down when he gets neurotic. Anyway, I am in such a rush to close the bathroom door so I can finish cleaning up, that I forget to remove my foot from the door jamb and literally slam the door on my foot! So now, I have dirt and leaves on my beige carpet, a crying cat in the bathroom, a bleeding and throbbing foot and obscenities are pouring out of my mouth. What a start to my day. And my foot still hurts 8 hours later. Only good news is that I have a decent excuse not to work out tonight.

Awwwww. I'm so sorry, Amanda. I know how you feel. My first husband was in the military and we were posted to armpit, nb from Toronto. Man, was that culture shock. I'm sorry I don't have the time to post a longer reply, but I'm wondering if you could move somewhere closer to cultural activities in your area? That way you could stick it out here until you naturalize, and then have the freedom to live in either country. A few years is not much time in the grand scheme of things.

People tend to stare at beautiful women. They can't help it. Just smile and make their day.

That's funny. Sounds like my life.... without the cat. Just be thankful you're not these people. That made me laugh too. Hope your foot's feeling better soon.

"I'm just glad to be alive. It's raining cows out here, man!"

I didn't see that earlier, but that's halarious!

Oh honey, please do not rush into leaving the U.S. after all that time, $, and effort to get there.
Yes, do wait as someone else here suggested (to get a permanent green card and/or naturalize) to at least be able to come back if you decide to.
The best thing to do is simply leave where you are living and go somewhere where your lifestyles can improve (which sounds like anywhere would be better than where you are).
By being pro-active and seeking work and home in another city before you get there...see what is available and then Just Do It!

Sweetheart never forget that you are the centre of a universe, Bren's universe.

I have never been called MEAN before or maybe I just didn't hear it being said. As they say call me anything you like but late for lunch.

i am not very happy here either because i really miss my family but I love my hubby very much and I am willing to stick it out...

hubby is working on a new career that should get us out if the slump we are in financially and then I will be able to visit my family more often...

Couldn't have said it better myself... and I AM so much very much so much more smarterrrr than Krikit
In all seriousness, I understand how you feel Nini; happens to me every darn day... people are just stupid. Luvyah my Asian gurrrrl.


I hear you babeee. Starting a new life, a new career.... change, change, change. It will be ok, eventually ---hugsss----

Sweetie, first it's great to hear from you. Second, sorry to hear things aren't as peachy as you would like.... I understand more than you want to know. I have no wise advise (since when am I wise anyways????? ); but take it one day at a time. Make the decision when you have tried all avenues for feeling better. If you still want to go back home, do so.
We're here for you girl!!!

Ron, you're late for lunch.


There's goes the whole Lenina-centric model of the universe.

I hate packing!!

Is it bad that I haven't really started yet aside from a heap of clothes I have "sorted" on the floor?

lol

Packing is bad, actually moving the stuff is bad. I have a rule that I don't actually 'move' anything, I will pack, I will clean, just don't ask me to pick up a box.

Our case hasn't cleared NVC yet but I have already been thinking about the move for months. So I am watching the shopping channel a few weeks ago and wooo hooo the showstopper is space bags! So I pick up a big set.

Well they have been sitting in the spare room in their box for weeks so the day before yesterday I decide to try them. I put some curtains, pillows etc etc in the X-Large bag. Get out the vacuum, voila'! it is squished in to a nice pile.

I put a quilt in another, but by then the novelty factor has worn off, so the quilt hasn't been deflated yet, just sitting on the bed in the spare room.

Oh and my first bag - went and looked at it that night and the suction didn't hold - probably didn't put the seal on right or something.

Ok that's a ramble, but I do know what you mean. I have even started washing walls.

My dad is so stupid sometimes!

our kitchen sink is clogged and so last night I went and got which specifically says do NOT put more than a tablespoon per application and do a max of two applications in total.
So I did that last night (two applications) cuz it wouldn't budge

well, I go down this morning to see if I can play with it some more and find that my Drano can is EMPTY!!!

My dad put the WHOLE CAN DOWN THE SINK so now, not only is there whatever was clogging it in the first place, there's WHOLE CAN of drano adding to the clog

HAHA. I think I need to start washing walls. Maybe that'll help pass some time. I've been cleaning and finding anything to do to pass the time, but I'm done with everything and I'm bored. Anyone got any suggestions?

Mary

Ok I have this problem too Liz. My sink has been clogged for months in the bathroom. I have even taken an old toothbrush of my son's(cause its tiny) and triedshoving it down there to get whatever it is out. Well it dont work, so don't ever anyone try this. I didnt get it stuck there. I haven tried all kinda of drain cleaners and nothing works. Anyone know of anything else? I bought 1 of those toilet snake thingys, but its a bathroom sink thats clogged and the snake doesnt fit down there.

Mary

Last time this happened to us I used a wire coat hanger, stuck it down there a few times - worked like a charm.

Oh and I just thought of something else, I was watching this cleaning show once and she poured a whole bunch of baking soda down the drain then doused it with vinegar, cleared the sink! I do this now sometimes just to make sure they don't get clogged (but I clean sinks etc with baking soda and vinegar anyway so it's not a huge stretch).

Aren't you guys all so excited to be moving so soon?!!!! I am jelous, I would wash walls to be able to go now. Lol.

Well I am happy about it, but since we don't have the visa yet I'm cautiousss . We don't even know where we are moving TO yet. We had planned on moving to Nebraska, as that is where my Sister etc live, however now we are thinking of warmer climes and North or South Carolina. However Husband doesn't want to move to a State with 'South' in the name haha

You're probably best just taking the drain apart and clearing it out that way. You might want to try a plunger, first, to see if that will clear it.

Liz, be careful of adding baking soda or vinegar to the bottle of Drano that's already in there. You may end up with a bad chemical reaction. Try to plunge it down, first, now that it's had time to sit a bit.

Sometimes you can find stores which will sell industrial strength products. They're far more effective than the off-the-shelf stuff that you get in Can Tire and such. Good luck with your clogs!!

Yes. Sign up for Online Services with Custom House. You'll need it for taking care of any banking transactions between Canada and the US. Unless you plan on closing your Canadian account, then never mind. lol

Now I was looking at that last night and went to the site and tried to find some info on there. Do I actually have to go into their store, or whatever it is in my city to do all this? Also, how does it even work, cause if you need a credit card, then forget it, I don't own one lol. I'm keeping my Canadian bank account open for at least the next year or so. I was just going to deposit some money into my account, then transfer that money to my Palpal account, then transfer it again to Brian's Paypal account, that way he can put the money in his account. Ok, that might sound confusing, but it really isn't lol. It also saves me a lot of money doing it that way, instead of doing a wire transfer from my bank account to his. I need to figure something out at least by Tuesday or Wednesday.

Mary

No, you don't need a credit card to open an account. You do everything online so there is no "store". You can call the toll free number 1.866.494.2423 if you need help at any point. They'll walk you through every step of the process. The Paypal method sounds a bit cumbersome. Custom House isn't, once you've set it up. Just one straight transfer from your Canadian account to your US account.

i have been here for over 2 years and I still have my account open in Canada... I did close down my checking account though because it took a fee out every month regardless if I used it or not but the savings only takes out a fee if I take money out of it....

I just use my ATM card to get money out of the account...

I added my mom to my account so she can deal with stuff if there is a need for it...

she likes that I kept it open because it is an easy way for her to send me money

Ok, so my turn to vent (although I'm reluctant as my issue seems petty compared to others, but here goes!)

I was MOH at my BFF's wedding last October; not keeping score, but spent aLOT of time & money (dress, gift, threw her a shower) and was at her beck & call.

Well, we're going away for our weddingmoon; she and hubby can't go (no vacation time), ok, no biggie, totally understand. We helped them move TWICE into their new house; when we ask them to help Doug move for his POE; they can't...painting their basement, ok, no biggie.

My dress came in today; we agreed she would go with me when it came for fitting....um no, can't, has to help hubby with a spreadsheet he needs for work..and has the nerve to say "set the appointment for Saturday & I SHOULD be able to go then"?!@#! NOW it's a biggie! Now I'm pissy.....spreadsheet....my wedding.....hmmmm? Set the appointment around her schedule? No.....so I'm going tonite alone and it's fine with me. The whole reason we are going away was to avoid drama...even my own family doesn't know we're going.....

Doug & I BOTH agreed next time they ask us to help them, it's a No. Sheez.....whatever happened to friendship?

Hate to say it but that's not the best BFF. We have a great friend who is always around to help, and we help back. We are very close with him and he's a great guy. However EVERY other person or time in my life has burned me because I am too nice and generous.

Friendships no longer exist. People use us when it is convenient for them and ditch us when it is convenient for them.

I have one word.... BIATCH. Dump her azz like liz did with hers.... that's just being a mean one.

I totally agree. A BBF is supposed to be there no matter what. Other things can wait. Don't ever start letting people walk all over you(so to speak) cause they'll continue to do it. I learned the hard way with that one.

Mary

Try filling the sink and then using the plunger on the drain hole. Sometimes the back pressure is enough to loosen whatever is there

Fair weather friends are all around....even family can disappoint and annoy at times. Just remember that in crazy land there are no rules......

Speaking of BFF's.... I miss mine. Just talked to Sarah (Edmonton) and Brenda (Regina) and Carla (Mexico City) on the phone about my bro's baby and I kid you not, I miss those incoherent irreverent b!tches....

I think I started two or three months in advance... sold all the stuff I didn't want to lug across the continent and anything that Bee already had here, got rid of my old clothes, etc. Everything else I left until the very last minute when I realised that I needed to take the time to pack and wrap all my fragiles and ensure it was safe for transporting!

Funny that my computer was the only thing that the UPS guy packed and that was the only thing that got wrecked in the move.

My friend posted a picture on his Flickr site today, showing the falling leaves in Vancouver... damn I am so wretchedly homesick right now.

At least Vancouver stays green all year round...and the flowers! Wow, mind-blowing.
Here in Wintery Montreal, everything is turning a brownish grey.
I "moved" back a few months ago from 13 years in BC...homesick is not the word.
Part of my heart stayed there.
Oh the ocean...the mountains...mmmm...

Hang in there...and then go for a long visit.

I have tones of photos from there as recent as August.
Would you like some more?

I HATE DELL!!!

HATE THEM HATE THEM HATE THEM!!!!!!

Or rather should i say incompetent workers who cannot get their SHIET together..

I AM SO MAD I COULD SPIT RIGHT NOW

Yes, dear one, Dell sucks.
Do yourself a huge favour and join us newly reformed PC users:

BUY A SEXY MAC.

End of problems.
I promise.

I built my PC, but I'd give my left arm for a MacBook Pro. My in-laws have three between both of them and their little daughter.

Sara has a Macbook, it's great. My friend has a Macbook pro, loves it.

I dunno I am so used to PCs I am afraid to go Mac. Don't think I ever will.

My Husband built this one, I like our PCs. I don't think I want a Mac. I think they are nice though, from what little I know of them.

I was never a big Dell fan, but got a Desktop for xmas last yr and so far soo good. My inlaws all swear by Dell.