Ok someone tell me with this hanging with the boyz is about. It is driving me crazy. I hear hey baby I love you i am hanging with the boyz playing dominos or i am listening to music with the boyz. What is that about. I mean ya we talk everyday several times a day but y cant he drop everything when i call why does he have to hang with the boyz.

Sorry for gripping but i think if i here hanging with the boyz again i am going to scream. Why cant he drop everything to talk when i call. I stop what i am doing to talk with him GRRRRRRRRRRrrrrrr!

Guess its a guy thing

insensitive jerk! there, feel better?

It's a Jamaican thing, girl. It usually involves a whole lot of smoking and drinking. And, they can do it nearly daily. Usually during the day or rare nights they aren't going out. Don't take it too personally. I've been the only girl in on some of those times and I can tell you they are pretty innocent (picture a bunch of US guys sitting around watching a football game!).

However, my then-fiance always dropped everything for my calls. So, that may be more of a personal thing.

It is a Life style thing for most Jamaicans...My hubby knew he better get his a@@ up when i called no matter what he was doing..and his friends always just knew when the phone rings he gotta go..and he gets teased cause at the end of the call he always give me a kiss...

but, you have to demand what you want or else u'll never get it until it gets out of hand....

just my 2cents

I have to agree. Javon comes home from work and hang out w/ his boys all the time.

next time you call, tell him you're naked. that should work.

I think you are making a big deal out of it. He could be doing a whole lot of other things besides hanging with the boys. I don't agree that he should be required to drop everything to talk IF you are talking several times a day anyway. Now, if he is always busy with the boys when you call, and rushes off the phone then that's a different matter because you are really not talking...just speaking and hearing each other's voices for a couple of seconds.

You should tell him that you woud like him to step away to speak to you...and then resume his boys time when you get off the phone.

My sweetie will play dominoes and sometimes puts me on speaker phone because I like hearing the rude boy banter...and it makes me feel that I am home for just a little while. He lets me hear him walking through town because I can hear the car horns, the tree frogs and the handcart whistles. I love the commotion in downtown Ochi. He will stand just outside of a party so I can hear the music...it's almost like I'm right there with him. Those are our little date nights. LOL.

Jawi...that is too cute

now you know one of the many reasons I love my man. He will even lyrics mi while riding in a full up taxi...music gwaan...nuff chatting...den de taxi quiet when him say mi love yuh beautiful. When mi reach yaad mi call yuh back.

I'm happy when my man is with his friends...cuz mi nuh have fe fret bout im being next tuh wan nex ooman.

I always put my wife on speaker phone because she likes to say hi to everyone and she always makes them laugh.

Jawi, that's so me too! I love all the sounds in the background, especially the music around town and the tree frogs and crickets at night.

But I would be mad if I called and he was always busy with his boys. I had a boyfriend like that in the military and it did not change when he came home. It got to the point where he was so used to not having a "focused" conversation that I really drifted away from him. So just tell him how its important to you to speak without distraction. But also understand his need to bond with the boys every once in awhile.

exactly my point. Women tend to overanalyze things and see wrong when there is no wrong. No it should not be the norm for him to bond with his boys, or make them a priority over you. But, you don't want him to feel like he is doing something wrong to have outside interests either. You are spot on Marlita!