How many people on here have now applied for the SECOND time for a SO??

especially from the MENA.......

AND if things go sour.. Would you ever do it again??

*i think I'll make a poll about it*

Do you mean who have applied for the same person twice or who applied for one person and that didn't work out so they applied for a second different person?

NOOOO wayyyy I would never want to go through this again....

Oh hell to the NOOOOO!!!!! I would NEVER do this again with anyone from any other country in the world.

If this marriage doesn't work out I think I'm swearing off marriage all together. Either that or I'll stick to men I can meet here.

We do have to admit going thru all of this immigration process has been...has been...

AN ADVENTURE!!!

Not the kind of adventure I'd like to repeat though. Unless I was out of my damn mind!

This is my first and LAST time to ever do this.

Nope, I would *probably* go out of my way to avoid this kind of situation.

Don't we have some MENA members on the second petition now?

At first, I said 'HELL TO THE NO" ,,,but one thing I have learned in life is, to never say never.

Jackie

Different man...


yup.. big lesson in life for me.. Never say never......

it was worth every bit of the wait but there is NO WAY i could go through another journey to be reunited with my loved one. This was the first for me and the LAST!

Nope. In order for that to happen, I'd have to go looking for it deliberately, and I don't see why I would do that.

Exactly.

I'd keep myself away from any opportunity of this happening again.

i would like to say i would never do it again. *shudders at the thought!

What if you WERE single again, and a good friend introduced you to someone...........? Not their fault where they were born. I certainly am not going to discount someone because of where they are from.

I had a full 2 year nightmare with USCIS, but they are just a government office, here to serve us, they don't scare me.

Jackie

If I lived in a vermont servicing district... if CSC oh HELL NO

Well, dating a foreigner who was already here would be one thing, but the assumption would be that they would already have all the necessary documentation for being here. It's not like you could get introduced to someone on the internet and then poof let's get a visa, right? You just don't go down that path if you don't want to face the possible challenges.

Are you talking about dating/marrying another man from MENA? That I wouldn't necessarily have a problem with but having to petition for one I would have a problem with. Anyone who is a good friend to me wouldn't want to put me through more of this kind of hell.

Great topic Dee

J

well I thought a few people have actually have gone their second round with the visa thing... maybe not.. just curious..

I know once people "get in good" with a certain culture they like to stick around... Me? I'm partial to arabs.. for some strange reason...

Now I cant fathom ever doing this again.. but the never say never hits me.. BUT i know every single person in my life would STAB ME if i go down that route again.....


but then again i seem to be a glutton for punishment

The only MENA VJ member that springs to mind who has done this is lion_lioness.

Well, I haven't gotten my husband here YET. If something were to happen to the marriage, I can't say that I woudn't. IMO the hardest thing about going thru this process in the first place is the not knowing what is going to happen next, or when it will happen. So, being forwarned and forarmed and knowing about the wait times, RFE's, AP and all that could happen, well, I would at least know what to expect as far as the actual legalites of immigration. So I would have to say that I would highly be likely to do this over again, if the right man came along. Hopefully, I won't ever have to find out.

I believe in never saying never as well,but I just could not go through the whole immigration process again. I am not even done with this one and this is just the first round. Now we've just entered the second round and then we have naturalization to look forward to down the road .


No Thanks

I told myself when I was young I would never marry an Arab and certainly not a Muslim so I've learned never to say never.

It depends on the situation but I don't think I could say flat out no I wouldn't ever do it again.

My first husband was an immigrant, but I didnt have to peition for a visa - he got here on his own. I did have to do the whole aos stuff before. Much easier this time around (aos anyway).

I said the SAME THING TOO... and look what happened

No way!

Yep M, you're right, this is my second romance with the whole Visa Journey.

Would I set out to do it again no. What God would have in store for me I don't know. I would do everything in my power to avoid however. I'm at work and rushing to get home before break fast - I'll post more later.

no frikkin way!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


IF I EVER saw myself in a situation where I was dating again, (and if I ever even DATED again btw I would hope that someone I know would commit me for good to a mental institutaion)............there are requirements that I would need:

1) US CITIZENSHIP
2) GOOD INCOME (mom was right...you can LEARN to love them )


there are others but this is a family board.

PLEASE DONOT SAY NEVER NO ONE KNOW WHAT HAPPEN TOMMOROW
BUT (SAY MA SHA' ALLAH KAN WA MA LAM YASHA' LAM YAKON)

there is also shon

I said I'd NEVER to it again but a year+ later I did. Now I'll say it again!!!

Nope I wouldnt do this again for anything Even if it was love again! God would have to heap a whole bunch of patience on my body for me to even think about it......even then it wont happen

I'm not from the MENA group, but this is my second time. Same fiancée though! We had to cancel her first K-1 at the embassy interview stage, over two years ago, for personal reasons. So, here we both sit waiting and waiting again!

I know there have been several but not necessarily from MENA

My first husband was an import, but I only went through the AOS and citizenship parts with him.

The visa journey waiting and immigration process was extremely stressful to say the least (gained more grey hair than I wish to count). I don't think I would want to go through this process again, and I'm hoping that our marriage will last a lifetime inshallah. I'm 59 and my husband 54 so because of our level of seniority and being in second marriages, I'm hoping for the best......

yep yep, never ever EVER say never. Nobody knows what God has in store....

For myself though, I would love to say that I'd never do it again but it would totally depend on the circumstances.... I don't think I'd allow myself to go meet some dude in a foreign country again ..BUT if the foreign dude were in the USA and I could meet him here, get to know him HERE....Maybe I would consider it...

amal

edited to add: lol hubster and I had a discussion about the meaning of the word dude in Arabic. No, I did not mean to call any foreigner a "bugger" or anything that has to do with "nose yuckies" hehehehe

I would also like to say never, but again Never say Never

I also didn't meet my SO online or in the US, met him in France while living there so I guess I can safely assume I wouldn't do that again but if God forbid anything happened with this relationship I would only be up for relationships with US citizens or at least residents

Me. This is my 2nd time around.

It's a long story - however - the first time around, I picked out (somewhat in a daze, somewhat misinformed ... ) the most dispicable, ugly, stupid, moronic, ignorant, uncivilized, ... well, you get the point.

Well - this time around ... different. I don't like discussing *current* peronal things much - but I'll just say I've made a point to not even compare my wife to that other person. It's insulting to my wife - to even consider using her name in a sentence about that "person".

Needless to say - I was very discouraged after the fact. I didn't even consider stepping *foot* in Jordan again for a looong time.

I guess I learned a few thousand lessons c/o the first-time-around. Two things I picked up in my folly:

- What a great person is.
- What pure trash is.

So - I keep in mind the old saying: "Good things come to those who wait." I just hope we don't need to wait too long ... ... although I can tolerate it, doesn't mean it doesn't hurt.



LoL! Means something like worm or grub (and snot ), yea? Arabic equivalent of english "dude" - maybe - would be "ya-zilim" ( Literally, "man" - as in the phrase "Hey man!"/"Sup man?"/etc )

yep ur right! he just laughed when he first got here and my son and I would be joking around saying hey dude ... now I know why , I noticed my hubster saying "ya zilima" alllllllllllllllll the time. SO Much actually that it is a normal part of every day speech to me. My co-workers look at me funny as I use a lot of the arabic expressions when I'm frustrated lol!!!

I can't imagine starting the whole visa process all over again. I wouldn't seek it out. Especially not if AP/AR was a routine part of the process. *shudders* We didn't have AP in India and still I didn't like it. I wouldn't say I would never marry someone from another country, but I only would if they were already in the US for some reason. I wouldn't purposely look for someone from a specific country. All I know is I really hated being apart from Sujeet and feel like it's enough to have gone through that only once in life.

Its hard enough just trying to get through one. I cant even begin to imagine why on earth Id go through this again. Its truely a nightmare experince.

doodle - this cracked me up and i do have the in re:what u need to be committed to a mental institution...of course I came across this info professionally..lol.....oh us social workers, the things we know.....anywho..

Which was why I wanted to make a general poll.. but at this point I am WAyyy to lazy

if it means to reapply for the 1st man ,, yes definitely i would do it all over again ,, hes worth it . yes i sometimes get aggravatted with the lonely depressing wait , but i love my fiance with all my heart. i would definitely apply for him a second or third time ,,,,

melinda you come up with some of the funniest replies ive seen ,, keep your head up ....and have fun on your visit ,,,

I would.

First let me say that my husband and I have no issues and have had two wonderful kids together.... So hopefully we will never break up.

If I were in that situation I could see it happening though. I am jewish and would only marry another jew. I am attracted to dark middle eastern looking men. Most dark middle eastern looking men are israelis. If he was not a US citizen I would probably go thru the process again.

Then again the process wasnt difficult for me. He was here on an overextended work visa and never had to leave the country. We just couldnt go to israel to visit (and have our religious wedding) until we had his visa.

EDITED: "Most dark middle eastern looking men are israelis" That was a stupid statement. Most JEWISH dark middle eastern looking men are israelis.