Anyone wanna come to my pity party?






I have tons of kleenex, apple crisp, Fresca, Coke Zero, baklava and Lindt's dark chocolate truffles.

Sounds like just what I need, but unfortunately I have to get some sleep (work at 6 am)

definetly ....

Have you had the same kind of day I have? I am so depressed today. I just feel like the visa is never coming. Just got off the phone with my hubby and he is feeling the same way today. And today is his birthday or at least there it is already his birthday!!

i wanna join too...can my pity party be coz i hate it in Texas if so, count me in

Where are you in Texas? I am right in between Dallas/Fort Worth.

Houston
and it sucks

My ex was in texas for the weekend at a drag race and he said it's hot as hell there!!!!


I'm sad because:

1) I miss my husband
2) Ramadan is such that we haven't even been able to webchat more than once in the past two weeks
3) I miss my husband


I just want to call in sick tomorrow and stay in bed and cry hysterically all day to get it all out. Seriously I don't think I've been this depressed in a LONG time. I'm starting to think he'll never get here. Heck maybe next summer if we're lucky right? No one tells us anything just get the same canned response....case is in Cairo blah blah freakin' blah. They don't care that I love him so very much and that my heart is whithering away to a small pulp of an organ. They don't care that we'd like to have a baby before I'm 44 (I turn 42 tomorrow). They don't care that he misses weekend after weekend of possible fun times walking the beach or sitting on the porch, etc. They just don't care.

I'm sick of feeling like a number. I'm a human being dammit!!!!

I wouldn't want to live in Houston either. Not a great place to live IMO. Some areas around Houston aren't too bad.

Doodle,
My favorite is coke zero and pibb zero. I have no sweets in my house right now. I have been so stressed and depressed over this whole thing I really, really, really want a cigarette!!!

For a pity party i think you need the hard stuff....classic coke

and real homemade triple chocolate brownies.
but tomorrow we will havve a different kind of party

I sang h-bday to hubby on the phone, but I am wondering how many more b-days will we be apart?

I WOULD JOIN THE PITY PARTY BUT I DONT THINK I HAVE ANY TEARS LEFT. I MISS MY HUSBAND SO BAD AND IT SEEMS TIME IS DRAGING TILL NOVEMBER GETS HERE SO I CAN LEAVE TO SEE HIM. I THINK CAIRO FORGOT ALL US WHO HAD INTERVIEWS 10 AND 7 MONTHS AGO.

ok i wanna join and i can bring some home made apple pie - and then i think i need some sleep - day 102 since NOA1 and I am hoping for a NOA2 one of these days ----- so I can look forward to AP/AR one day - woohoo - - hahaha ok I have to use my humor.....guys hang in there - i hope to see some more good news soon for us all!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Why does this have to be so hard? Why does my husband have to be from one of the hardest countries to immigrate from???? Why couldn't he have been from Canada or England or some place that doesn't do AR/AP or at least a consulate that freakin' gives you a straight answer about what the heck is going on???

I feel like dragging all of us outside the embassy and grabbing big huge signs saying BRING OUR HUSBAND'S HOME!!!!!!! And marching back and forth screaming until they listen to us and see our tears and feel our pain and perhaps gain some compassion.

IM IN FOR THAT DOODLE I JUST TOLD MY HUSBAND THE SAME THING LAST WEEK. I WANT TO PICKET THE EMBASEY!!!

I want some molten chocolate cake from Chili's!!!

Do you have any idea what the average is for your embassy? 57 days does seem a bit long

yallah doodle, I've got my sign ready.



This will pass. It doesnt help to say that now, but it will.

I have these same feelings . Just talking to Samy and he is asking me why? why? what is the reason that they are taking so long and give us no answers? I don't have any frigging idea, but they have no compassion or care that we are waiting for so long with feelings that are struggling to survive this long distance wait. I wanna go picket too!!! JUST FINISH THE CASE AND TELL US THE ANSWER!!! NO MORE DIFFICULT TO PREDICT TIME LINE IN THESE CASES!!!

It's nothing. 57 days is nothing to Cairo. There are some that had their interview back in February and even last November. That's what is so sad and depressing.




Thanks. He looks how I feel too.

I guess they are trying to "give the americans ample time" to do background checks of their own on their SO's to make sure its a legit thing due to all of the fraud cases . I know that doesn't help... sorry. (just trying to see any possible speck of light in the embassies stupidity)...I seriously hope they get on it and get u all some answers soon. I never understood why they couldn't at least give an honest answer.

I decided today that I hate my job and the way I'm treated. They still haven't gotten my insurance coverage str8ened out and I know I sure could use it after my fall down the stairs the other day. I have really screwed up my back and can't see the doc to get any pain meds or anything to relax the muscles. I'm sooooooo mad. And then the manager comes in today and gets all pissy that I didn't get 1 set of papers filed. Heck, I'm doing the work of 3 in her stupid pharmacy now. I had other more important things to do than file that stupid paper!!! Get me some more help and I'll be happy to file ur crap where it belongs!!!... I almost quit today...*sigh* I wanna go home

Hello All,

It must just be the day or something, cause I am feeling down about the visa today as well. I told Ahmed tonight I just want to be able to hold his hand sooooooooo bad. Now if THAT isn't a wish list for Santa.......lol

Sue

"Here Without You" - 3 Doors Down

A hundred days have made me older
Since the last time that I saw your pretty face
A thousand lies have made me colder
And I don't think I can look at this the same
But all the miles that separate
Disappear now when I'm dreaming of your face

I'm here without you baby
But you're still on my lonely mind
I think about you baby
And I dream about you all the time
I'm here without you baby
But you're still with me in my dreams
And tonight it's only you and me

The miles just keep rollin'
As the people leave their way to say hello
I've heard this life is overrated
But I hope that it gets better as we go

I'm here without you baby
But you're still on my lonely mind
I think about you baby
And I dream about you all the time
I'm here without you baby
But you're still with me in my dreams
And tonight girl its only you and me

Everything I know, and anywhere I go
It gets hard but it wont take away my love
And when the last one falls
When it's all said and done
It gets hard but it wont take away my love

I'm here without you baby
But you're still on my lonely mind
I think about you baby
And I dream about you all the time
I'm here without you baby
But you're still with me in my dreams
And tonight girl its only you and me

i wanna get in on this!!!!!

today i dropped my husband off at the airport to go home for one month . the whole time leading up today i thought it would be fine for us to spend some time apart - we've both been really stressed lately with the move (we just moved and have a lot of work to do on the house) and with it being Ramadan and him working days AND nights it hasn't been easy. Then today i started feeling sad and LOST IT at the airport like i used to do when i'd have to leave Paris when we were doing long distance... it was horribly embarrasing, but i was past the point of caring.

i came home, got into bed and fell asleep. then i woke up and huge chunk of a tiramisu. well like half - i ate half a tiramisu.

That's just fine honey tiramisu is so light and fully you need to eat half of it to get any good sugar high goin' on. You done good kid!!!

well my cat's asleep, kids are asleep, husband's asleep...i should go to bed since I have to wake up at 4:45 to eat and take my meds. Did I mention my hair has started to fall out????? Like 30 strands came out two days ago in the bathtub and tonight I was just fluffing my hair and same thing happened. Can you say STRESS??????

What is it with this week??? I to feel down...and Im not eve in AP yet. No noa2 yet as a matter of fact... Just soo hard to be apart....Why can't these people understand...why can't the government make it a smoother system? What is so hard about running a name check? Why go do home visits then let people wait months to hear anything else?? Just WHAT is it that needs investigated sooo much that it takes 4,5,7,10 months??? I'll join this pity party....

Ah Doodle, every time I hear that song it makes me cry.........Hopefully this will be over soon for all of us and we can use our wisdom to help someone else on this journey...

Count me in.

Today sucked big time.

I called DOS today.....don't know why, but I did.. For 3 and 1/2 months they've been saying that checks are cleared and that there's no reason why Cairo can't issue the visa..........today the "visa specialist" asks me......"did he ever show up to his interview?"



I'm gonna lose it pretty soon.

Ok...I have an idea...we all leave our jobs..sell our homes/belongings...gather any kids...pack...buy ONE LARGE FLAT in Egypt....pool together our resources...and start a communal life in Egypt....hmm...how many of us can fit in a large flat??? At least we'd be with our SO's. I see it now...working our gardens...doodle..you milk the cow...ummm..goat...camal...(where do they get the milk from there again??) And Becky you gather the eggs. Who wants to sew the clothes for us?? Im no good with a needle.... Anyone good with crafts?? I can sell them....

Seriously...Im praying for each of you that have been waiting sooooooooooo long....and to think...Im still a "visa baby". Scares me to see how much longer we may have....

I wanna be in the pity party , too!!! Do I have to contribute a complaint of my own? Or can I just help Doodle to let all her frustrations out?

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=il9Uvvp-A9w

Hmmmmmmmmm.
Well, my complaint would be that I want to take my husband's whole family (more than 100 people that I have met so far) and ship them all to America. Because I love this whole family and everyone in it, but I hate living in this country. I miss my nieces and my mom. I miss being able to wear shorts in my own home. I hate not being able to pick up my keys and go somewhere when I want. I hate not having my own money and expenses. I hate the fact that I saw a dollar bill the other day and I got all excited because I haven't touched money in forever! I hate all the rules and rigamarole that women have to put up with here. I hate sitting on my tail and getting fatter because there is no such thing as a walk for recreation/exercise. And, I hate that most of my crap has to get poured out into my husband's lap because there is no one else for me to talk to in English. I feel lonely and bored sometimes, and misunderstood and stircrazy the rest of the time. Some days are better than others, but every day I try to wish myself off of this continent. The only reason I don't leave is because of my husband. There is no way I put up with all of this waiting by his side just so that we could be separated again!!!!!!!!!!!


Welcome to Applebee's Miss Nicky. How many of you will be dining with us tonight? 500 of the world's most ticked off MENA wives?? Wow. The waiting time for a party of that size is difficult to predict.


As far as doodle's complaint.......I hate the embassy, too. And I practically cried at the window for American Services and raised my voice and bitched and moaned to that poor lady, and it got me ABSOLUTELY NOWHERE! We need a revolution.....something big! We need some crazy !@#!$ to go down. Suggestions??

I'm late to this party, but our divorce starts in 9 1/2 hours.

Jackie

Awww......JJ, that was a hard step to take.

im in for this pity party too... i love parties but this one is wayyy different and nothing that I love to deal with... it started Sunday for me ... just feeling so down and moody and crying .... then I tried to sleep but I couldnt sleep... just sat up, then layed down and back and forth just thinking about my husband sleeping and I wasnt there with him... very sad and a lonely feeling...
the best nights of sleep I had was when I was next to my husband... I even loved the snoring and talking in his sleep even though it really makes me crazyy... but I rather have that at night by my side than to not hear his voice at all ... around 2 am last night I had enough and I had to wake him up and cried my eyes and breath out to him...
AND YES it helped ... even If he was sleep talking... JK... he really listened

-Tam

Awe shucks. I am even in on the pity party today! I finally got to talk to him and whined about how much I miss him. How much I need him here with me. I need to feel him. I think it's the change of weather or Mercury in retrograde or something. I am having many times of reflection where I go internally and have regrets and feel out what my souls need deeply. I am feeling lonely and sorely missing him like this hollow feeling that it's been too long without him. I know how you all are feeling.

it seams i missed the pity party. my husband spent 4.5 hours in the emergency room last night with his hyrnia. yes, its true doctors make the worst patients. at one point he was jumping out of the bed IV and all demanding more pain medication and to see the doctor. he sent me out 3 times to find the doctor and i dont think he beleived that i went and asked so he did it himself. not only once but twice.

well we all know the emergency room system. wait wait and wait more. kinda like the visa process.

finally after 3 useless shot of demoral they gave him something thats even stronger then morfine and knocked his butt down so the mussle could relax and the hyrnia went back in. he was fighting against himself the whole time. i know its hard to relax when ur in pain but if he would have just relaxed things would have worked out better for him.

i will call the surgon today and get this nightmare past us. he has been suffering at least a year but this was the first time he couldnt get the hyrnia back in.

Stay strong, y'all. Egypt and Pakistan have some of the most grueling waits for AR -- just unbelievable.

But you WILL get through this insha'allah and you and your husbands WILL be together, and it WILL all be worth every second of this torture.

Sending out lots of prayers for you all, positive vibes and MAJOR ME/NA MOJO to light a serious fire under the consulates.



-MK

I need a pity party today, it's another one of those depressing days being away from my husband.

um....why do *I* have to milk the freakin' cow????

This is such a beautiful song by a Jamaican singer called Sanchez -- he has such an incredible voice. The song says it all -- reggae style. I listened to it over and over every time I was feeling down. Wish I had a link for the actual song -- if you are a member of one of those music services, they might have it -- give it a listen. But here are the lyrics:

I'm Missing You
by Sanchez

yeah i'ma missing you
missing you

talk to you but it's not the same
as touching you
and every time you whisper my name
i wanna run to you

we'll be together
and it won't be long
it won't be long
but it seems like forever
and it's out of my arms
baby cuz i'm missing you now
and it's driving me crazy
cuz i'm needing my baby
i'm missing you now

can't wait another moment
baby cuz i'm missing you now
needing you right here by my side
is all that i can do
arms around my pillow at night
they should be holding you

i was much stronger
how could i know?
how could i know?

but it seems like forever
and it's hard to be strong
baby cuz i'm missing you now
and it's driving me crazy
i'm needing my baby
i'm missing you now

can't wait another moment
baby cuz i'm missing you now
said i'ma missing you now
and it's driving crazy
i'm needing my baby
i'm missing you now
can't wait another moment

Haha I see how she dealt that job out to you What I'm wondering is -- where do you keep a cow in a flat ?

Well it is one LARGE flat!!!

on the roof, of course silly!

"When one door is closed, many more are open"



-MK

It'll be hell on the laundry drying up there.... and who gets to haul the manure down the stairs ?

I guess Doodle can do it since she's already up there milking anyway....

thinking back to my first wife, i'd have to say in the kitchen

Well pity party daty two my baby dog lucy is deathly ill. The vet has been no help We think its meningitis but without a 2000 dollar spinal tap we can't confirm. She has been on massive antibiotics for 3 days and is only getting worse. I swear I feel I will come home from lunch to mu horror. I really care about her so much she has kept me sane during this long hellish process. Anoyone have experience with menigitis in humans or animals?

What a pity to see a pity party created when "Sparrow" got her good news. Coincidence?