Mods, please don't move this topic as these Canucks are like family to me.

Hello all,

My wife's brother passed away yesterday afternoon. He was 19. He had been in the hospital and was sick for some time. More than one over the past few years he was at death's door. This last visit to the hospital seemed so simple that it took us all by surprise. When I met my wife three years ago, she said her brother needed a heart transplant and he told the docs no because when it was time, it was his time. He was so weak a transplant might have killed him. When I went for a visit in Dec '05, he was again hospitalized and they asked if his heart stopped if he wanted it revived. He told the doctor to do what they could, but if God was taking him home, then there was nothing they could do. Now this time, he was in for a lung infection/pneumonia(sp). He was always putting others ahead of himself. Just last week, e told my wife that since she was with child, she shouldn't worry about him. And since his legs were weak, her parents wanted to build an extention so he wouldn't have to go up the stairs but her brother was more worried about his dad having to get him around.

Being we're in AOS pending at CSC and we just sent our Medical RFE back yesterday morning we're trying to get emeregency AP. We got the copy of the death cert this morning only to find out at info pass we need a copy of the birth certificate too. We're going to back again tomorrow morning to see if they'll accept his short form, which is missing his parent's names(he took it off). The funeral is Monday and I have to be back to work Tuesday. Hopefully we can get up to Toronto tomorrow. She'll stay a week with her family. They're hurting, and I'm hurting. Yesterday my hurt was for her brother, even though he's "at home". Today my hurt is for my wife because we're down here and there's nothing we can do but pray for things to work out tomorrow. I hurt because she can't be with her family. For those of you that do, keep us and the situation in your prayers.

I miss you already Mark, my little brother.

I am sorry that you lost someone so young and dear to you being your brother in law. I wish you all the strength needed to support youself and your wife right now, I hope you can get the AP very soon so you both can be there with family. You are in our prayers

HI

I am so sorry about your brother inlaw. He seemed to accpet his fate and took it in stride. He is in a wonderful place now and is at peace.

My Heart and prayers go out to your wife,parents and everyone involved with is short life that was taken.

God Bless you all

I'm so sorry for your loss. 19 is too young. My sincere condolences to you, your wife and your in-laws. I hope you are able to get the emergency AP organized in time.

My deepest sympathies!! Sounded like an amazing guy!!

I am so sorry jg_am. I hope you receive the emergency AP in time. My thoughts are with you.

I'm sorry to hear that. If there's anything we can do to help, please let us know. Hopefully your wife will get her emergency AP without any problems.

Praying for you guys during this time.. such loss.. know you are in our thoughts right now.

Always so heartbreaking to hear of someone so young passing.... Will keep you, your wife and your families in my thoughts..

sorry hun....

i'm sorry to hear that... you are in my thots and prayers!
take care...

I'm sorry to hear that. I hope your wife has no problems with the AP

thinking of you and your family jg..........know I understand.

Sorry for your loss.

I'm soo sorry for your family loss ... your words made him sound like such a wonderful young man .. wishing you speed on receipt of the AP and *hugs* for your loss ....

I hope things work out with the emergency AP. My thoughts go to you and your wife's family during this sad time. *hugs*

Thanks for everyone's prayers and encouragement. In an hour we're going back for an infopass with all the required documents. I got a little nervouse because I saw in another thread where someone from Canada was denied twice for emergency AP in Philadelphia(something about an ill father and no supporting evidence). If this fails, our plan is to drive 90 minutes south to Dover. If I don't follow up until Tuesday, it means we got it.

I know no words can truly comfort you at this time but I send you my most sincere thoughts and prayers.

Im sorry for your loss

Your brother-in-law seemed to be a very strong and humble mind, I admire the strenght he had through his condition.

I hope you had your AP now.

We got it! We have to go back today at 2pm to pick it up. The lady said she can't officially say we have it, but we do. Now comes the fun of travel arrangements.

Very sorry for your loss. Our prayers and thoughts are with you and your family

I'm so very sorry for your loss!

JG_AM.... if you are flying and have to pay higher costs due to the emergency, take the time to write to the airline explaining the circumstances. (This can be done after the fact.) The good ones will usually reimburse you for the extra fees.

All the best.

I am so sorry for your family. My thoughts will be with you and I pray that you will get the emergency AP in time.

I've been away for several days and just read your posting. I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. Know that we are keeping you and your new extended family in our prayers and thoughts.

Carla

Oh man - I am bad at giving condolences. Just know that you and your family are thought of. I have no answer for why things like this one happen to good people, so I'll shut up before saying something stupid. {{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{HUGHZZZZZ}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}

Peace, L.

Hi all, I just got back this morning. Thanks again for everyone's prayers and sypathies. The funeral was really nice and there were a lot of tears, but also a lot of peace because we know where my wife's brother is.

Just wanted to follow up on the AP application. When we went to our infopass on Friday morning, the lady said the birth certificate we had wasn't good enough. Long story short, her brother took the perferated part of his birth certificate off and it didn't have his parents names on it. I was showing the lady it had his name on it, and the death certificate had her dad's name on it. Now we needed the birth to show she was her brother's sister(sorry if this is redundant). Anyway, logic would say his name is on both, her father's name is on his death and her birth certificates. Therefore, you can prove they are related. The lady said we had to get a different birth certificate for her brother....hello??? He's dead! The lady also wondered why people don't just file for AP. She hadn't a clue. Anyway, there was a superviser there, and she looked at our stuff and I explained to her what we were trying to prove. She said she'd take the paperwork to the officer. When the super came down, she said we could come back at 2pm to get it, but she couldn't offically say we had it. My wife didn't want to get her hopes up. We booked our tickets and went back to get the AP. When we went back at 2pm, the officer came out, gave us the AP sheets and offered her condolences and said it's always difficult to have to take care of these things at times like this. When we applied for AP, we only asked for one visit and a two-week stay. The paper said multiple visits and gave us a year's AP!!!!!! Now it doesn't matter when the greencard comes.

On a side note, I had four Timmies, and an choco-mint iced cappie, as per Flames' recommendation.

I've only been away for 8 months and they have a choco-mint ice cap????

Carla